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I'm almost 35 years old, and I've never had a sexual relation, therefore I'm a virgin.

However, I'm not sure if I might have already ruptured my hymen.

Because when I was 17, I was once exercizing (quite moderatly), and all of a sudden I felt something rupturing.
It didn't hurt AT ALL...
I just felt something going through my vagina...

I can't tell if I bled because of this, since I was in my period.
(But there was a piece of unknown matter to me on the sanitary towel...)

So, I would like to know if this might have corresponded to the rupture of the hymen, and if I might bleed if I ever have sex.
(Furthermore, I've been a victim of some serious calumnies in the past, and I would be glad if I could prove my virginity if I ever have sex with a man...)

Thank you very much for your reply.

OK, it sounds like yes you might have ruptured your hymen. To be sure, the only way to check being that you cant check for bleeding of course, is to feel over there . See if you can feel a piece of skin stretching over the vagina. Its not very big..but if you feel down there and there is nothing, then you definately ruptured it.
As for the second part, if there is no hymen and its gone because its ruptured, there is no way to prove your a virgin. That piece of skin is your proof that your a virgin. But then again, there is no way to tell if a guy has had sex. The guy yyou lose your virginity to will have to believe you when you say your a virgin. IF he doesnt, then he isnt worth giving it up to.
i mean there is always a lie detector test..but if it comes to that point, where is the trust in the relationship?

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how do you say George in spanish? is it jorge or something else??

yes..you pronounce it like this ( hor hay)

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I have to give a speech in fron of the whole class next week, and I'm absolutely terrified. I am really bad at speeches. I start shaking and I can't read my notcards. Does anyone have any suggestions to help me get over my fear?

this is what i say...its all in your head (no i dont mean your crazy) I mean, nobody is there to laugh at you or expect for you to be perfect. They are all in the same boat..and nobody really likes to get up and talk in front of a class. Just present your iunformation, get it over with..u wll be fine

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hey!..i started talking to this guy..and started to like him..but then one night he got into a fight with my best friends brother..and my best friend is colored..(i'm not) well this guy started trippen and calling them the "n" word..and that hurt my friend..well i was talking to the guy i liked about it asking him why he said it and stuff..he said it wasnt him but his brother in law..he said he wouldnt lie to me over something important like that..i dont know what to do..b/c i did at one time like him..but i'm not for sure if he's telling the truth about his brother in law calling my friend the "n" word..what do you think..thanks! :o)

I think you should talk to your friends brother. Ask him to give you a clear description of the guy he was fighting with. If your friends brother knowws the guy, and he says the guy he fought with was the guy you like, i would believe him. The story seems like the guy is getting himself into a dead end..i mean come on his "brother in law"? Are you friends with any of his friends? maybe talk to them about it..who knows maybe the guy you like told his friend the real story. Its not right to assume that the guy you like is guilty, but its all kind of leading back to him isnt it? talk to him again about it and tell him everyone makes mistakes, etc and to just be honest. If hes an overall nice guy, go out with him because we all mess up and slip...he might have said it but not really be racist, maybe he got caught up in the moment. if you go out,and hear of a story like this again, you'll know its time to dump him because your overlooking this incident.

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My friend is sleeping over tonight. What are some fun things to do? P.S. We cant go out OR outside - :)

play spider (if your room is big enough) Its where one person is blindfolded and waits outside the room for a minute while the other hides, or just stays in the open without getting tagged..it has to be dark in order for the game to work
prank phone calls are good..but not too much or you'll get in trouble lol
movie nights are fun
makeovers
going into computer chats and annoying people

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My friend Tiffany always be having sex and I'm worried about her. she might have another kid and have to put it up for adoption. or she might get AIDS. I don't want that to happen. should I let her get hurt? or try to talk to her and help her?

I know you reeally want to help your friend out, but you only have a few options before the rest is up to her.
Gather up statistics,facts,stories from real people from magazines and internet on AIDS,teen sex,pregnency, etc. Put it together and show her everything..tell her all the facts..After this its up to her..i know it hurts and its driving you crazy, but she needs to stop, you cant make her..you can present the facts and reasons why she should really stop..then she needs to take the next step.

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Well, I am going to the club tonight and I am short and my legs and like big, and I am wearing a mini skirt. I love short skirts but i hate my legs. Is there anything I can do to make them look skinny by 8 o'clock tonite?

Black tends to slim your body..heals as well.
Anyone who owns mini skirts and short skirts cant be that fat, so dont worry! Besides, a lot of guys like girls with thick legs..(not huge legs..but legs with meat instead of sticks)
if i were feeling that selfconscious, i would wear pants or something i felt better in because what fun is clubbing when you dont feel good about yourself?
im sure your just fine though, so dont worry

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I don't really understand it, but whenever I meet a guy for the first time now, I always feel like I'm crushing on him. My heart will start beating fast, my stomach will flip, and I'll turn bright red around them. I have some guy friends, but they only became my guy friends when they excluded me from something or got girlfriends themselves. I don't know why I like everyone...Any ideas?

Yes i get this way too. I think its because you see a new opportunity..a new guy..a new chance kind of thing. You want to get to know him and who knows he could be the right guy for you..so i think when you meet a guy you start to think of relationships because you see a new opportunity.

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i really like this girl and i dont kno if she likes me...and i dont kno if i should like anyone right now cus i want to be single for the summer time..but i really liek this gilr and if we went out into the summer time then we would hang out alot and we'd she eachother everyday..but idk..help me out

Ok it sounds like you need to decide if you would rather have this girl or live the single life.

Now, I know you were planning on staying single for the summer, but if someone comes along who you really like, i would change plans. You dont HAVE to change plans, but if you like her enough, i would change plans and ask her out, and stay with her..dont just dump her before summer.

So think about her or being single for the summer..which would you rather have? If you really want to stay solo for the summer, dont ask the girl out..its not fair to her to dump her right before summer.

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okay well i was told the other day by another kid at school that i might have thyroid disease. he told me thats when u cant gain. lose weight. Well i weigh 95 pounds adn i was wondering if there really is a such thing as thyroid disease. and if so could somebody explain that to me??

my little brother has that and hes fine because he takes medicine..hes like any other kid. He was born with it and thankfully it was detected soon after birth, because if not it can lead to retardation. I dont think you would have it..just because your skinny

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I'm 15, female and I have been dating my bf for almost a month now. I am a cutter but none of my friends know about it. My bf and I were talking about one of our friends being a cutter and he asked me if I was. I lied to him and told him I wasn't. Now I feel terrible about lying to him. I afraid of how he will react if I tell him. Do you think I should tell him the truth?

definately tell the truth. He'll understand that you werent comfortable at first..and he will definately respect you for telling him quickly afterwards the truth. Its when you wait a long time and then tell him the truth where he might get mad..

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my mom said i cant have a sweet 16 party with my friends bc my sisters didnt get one..do u think this is fair or no?

no i dont think its fair. talk to your sister..maybe she'll be cool with it and would want you to have fun. If she has no problem with it, have her talk to your mom telling her its ok. This might make your mom change her mind..good luck!

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Hey well im in 8th grade and this kid i like is in 9th grade. He really likes me to and he wants to ask me out. I live in irondequoit and he lives in webster ((NY)) maybe like a 15 20 min ride max. And so we really like eachother and he wants to ask me out. Only problem is i cant go out yet i have no clue why my parents are just dumb @$$es like that and dont want me to, so i wouldnt be able to see him like i would want to. He wants me to talk to my parents about it. But i just cant talk to my parents like that we dont talk much and stuff and they would get really mad i just know it and i just cant trust me. So he wants me to figure out something but i dont know what to do im just so lost can you help PLEASE

--x-tina

OK if i were in your situation, i would definately want the guy. So maybe start off by hanging out with him, maybe go out with him but not tell your parents yet. Maybe go to the movies and meet him..bring a group of friends..hang out like that for awhile..and just go out with him anyway. Then when you and your mom have some one on one time, bring up dating and how you really would like to be allowed to date a guy. Promise they can meet him and everything. If they keep saying no no no..if it were me i wouldnt be able to accept that so i would keep seeing him anyway, when he calls just say hes a friend, etc. I know sneaking behind your parents back isnt the greatest thing, but its not like your having sex/doing drugs..your just going out with a nice guy who you like and likes you back.

-melissa-

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i'm a 13/f and i sometimes make myself throw up..b/c now that basketball is over i'm not in any sports till cheerleading in the summer..well i told a close friend which is a guy..what i do..and he told me to stop..so i did for about 2 days but i did it today..and today was like my 3rd time doing this..but i keep wanting to..do you know anything that will help me stop without going to a doc.?

Ok if it were me..i would go to the doc because I mean this is something the doc can really help you out with the right way. Dont feel like your the only person who does this, because its definately out there along with many other things like cutting, etc...so dont be ashamed to go for help. Going to a doc for help may seem very hard now, but i say its the right move and in the end you will be happy because this is something that will stop, especially with the docs help!
But ok..you want to try to avoid the doc..I would eat like you normally do, then maybe go out somewhere,take a walk, something to occupy you. Then you will have no reason to make yourself throw up because you would have been kept busy right? So try that along with reminding yourself of the harmful risks. Bulumia is serious....here i coppied and pasted the section of bulimia risks from a good website:


Repeated vomiting causes a loss of stomach contents and because this includes the acid secretions that are needed for digestion it leads to changes of body chemistry. Laxative abuse causes similar distortion of chemistry and the two behaviours together are most likely to be dangerous. Major disturbance of the blood chemistry, particularly loss of potassium, and rupture of the stomach are occasional causes of sudden death but fortunately this is rare unless the behaviour is extreme. Acid from the stomach constantly washing over the teeth dissolves the enamel which will cause lasting damage particularly to the four central upper teeth. Irregularity of the menstrual cycle is common and sometimes it stops altogether. There is an association of ovarian cysts with the illness that is likely to reduce fertility but most are able to conceive normally once they are recovered. As with all eating disorders the greatest risks are from suicide or self harm as a result of feelings of depression and hopelessness.


For more, check the website out
http://www.priory-hospital.co.uk/htm/bulimi.htm

sweety, if stopping it on your doesnt work RIGHT AWAY..like within the next 2 days, i would go to the docs. I hope i helped out
-melissa-

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My 9 year old cousin is coming up tommorrow. Any ideas on how to amuse her for a few hours? I was thinking maybe giving her a little makeover, or something.

Yeah the makeover thing definately sounds like a good idea! My little cousin likes going for walks; so maybe try that. If you live near the woods like i do, a nature walk would be cool.
Tell her to bring her barbies or something...i know i was into babrbies at that age. You guys could play with them together. Twister,monopoly, video games, movies, etc are good ideas to try.

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the other day in history we were working on a section for Indians. and i think that we , as americans or whites, owe them so much! like land and money! because of everything that we have done! and they have a high suicide and alcaholism rate too! and they are on little crappy reservations! its horrible!!

if anyone on here is am Indian, i am so sorry! and I feel so bad! anyone agree or know what I could do?

thanks so much!
Kelsa*

I see your view clearly, but think back in history. there are SO many groups o people who were terribly mistreated.

The jews were enslaved (i forgett by who...either the eygyptians or the turks?) thousands of yesars ago...and then look at the holocaust.

There was the blacks being enslaved...that was pretty terrible

communists

terrorists

there must be plenty more i cant think of..but man groups of people have went trhough terrible things in the past.

the important thig is we have resolved them (mostly) and its in the past

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I am so Pro-Life and the "N" word hurts me so much when people say it!! and I am like so oppinionated as it is, but i cannot just sit by and let people say abortion is alright, and/or let them say the "N" word around me! it hurts so much! any tips on what to say? or anyone feel the same??
thanks-
Kelsa

I love that your opinionated and you have a strong view. If someone uses the N word around you, just ask them why they call each other that and how you think its garbage.
As for the abortion topic, when it comes up in convo just state your opinion and back it up with facts, etc. Everyone has their own opinion, so if someone disagrees, i would just agree to disagree..feeling strongly is good, telling people your right and they are wrong , isnt. what im saying is, dont hound the topic, just say your opinion and let them talk, then just agree to disagree on the matter if they are pro abortion.
Me personally? I dont know how i feel on the subject..i go back n forth.
-melissa-

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ok, I'm a little bit over weight, and i'm wondering if anyone has any good exersize routines, or specific diet scheduale that i can follow to lose some weight without useing diet pills or anything like that.

btw, I rate 5's to ANYONE who gives an answer.

OK something im trying to do and im starting to see results with is this:
For breakfast eat a piece of fruit and bring a water bottle with you to school.

Lunch: I eat a salad and some fruit..drink water..tuna is also good

Then i have practice..sometimes i have senior league practice right after softball..so i get home around 8. I might eat a fruit salad,salad, small portion of dinner, etc.

Then on the weekend me and my brother have been going to the track where we walk 9-12 laps..then do a couple laps of jogging.

Ive read somewhere that every 8-11 days your supposed to eat whatever you want because it "tricks" your body's metabolism....i dont know if it works or not..but its a theory.

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I've been thinking alot about my career that i want to pursue, and I happen to love the french language. I was thinking about some jobs i could have by speaking different languages, but i'm just not sure. Does anybody know of any jobs i could possibly have by doing what i love? Thanks!

Janine

Yes..how about a stewardess? You can work on an airplane departing from France..there you will definately use French. Maybe you can work in a french bakery if you like to bake..or a waitress at a french restaurant. There, you will talk french along with other languages to the tourists. Im sorry, im having a mental block but there are many jobs that require the use of other languages..like beign a translator.

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I need help on asking a guy to come and watch a movie with me...i don't know how please help!!
I don't wanna look like a doofus.....lol:)

OK first decide if you want it to be a group thing or just the two of you. I might invite him for a group thing an maybe next time invite him for just the two of you.
Just mention the commercial of the movie,talk about how it looks good and how you and some friends are going to see it..then invite him to go.
YOU: I saw the commerical for (Movie)and it looks pretty good...me and some friends are gonna go see it, wanna come with us?

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