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Should I tell him?
I'm 15, female and I have been dating my bf for almost a month now. I am a cutter but none of my friends know about it. My bf and I were talking about one of our friends being a cutter and he asked me if I was. I lied to him and told him I wasn't. Now I feel terrible about lying to him. I afraid of how he will react if I tell him. Do you think I should tell him the truth?
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you should. if your bf really likes you, then you can get through it. but expect him to react a little. id go ahead and tell him because if he finds out somehow later on that you were lying..he wont be very happy.
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YEAH Y0U SH0ULDNT FUCKiN CUT AND THEN Y0U W0NT HAVE ANYTHiNG T0 HAFTA TELL HiM
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i think u should tell him..cus honesty is the best policy...and try not to cut urself...things can get really bad...but its not worth cutting urself...it might seem like a way to solve ur problems..but its not..trust me
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Hmm, cutters are idiots. Your boyfriend will break up with you if you tell him, because, ill say again. Cutters are idiots who are weak and cant deal with small problems. They make them big and cut themselves worsening those problems. CUTTERS ARE IDIOTS! YOU'RE WEAK!
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I think you need to get some help and stop cutting. Then, you won't need to lie about it. I think it's important for you to be truthful in your relationship. Something made him ask you the question so he may already have a feeling that you are anyway. :)
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just tell him you've cut before and tell him WHY. if he understands it he's a keeper!
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if you arent ready to tell him, then you have a right not to until you feel comfortable with him knowing about it. however, if you do tell him maybe he could help you and im sure he will be okay with it. If he isnt than he isnt worth it. the decision is up to you. i hope that helped.
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I don't think he needs to know... because you've only dated him for a month... not to sound negative... but you don't even know if your relationship with him is going to be long-term or not... and if it's not he might try to put ur business out there when y'all break up... u should keep things like that to yourself... ooo and stop cutting... is not healthy... try to talk to a therapist instead of cutting...
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I think that you should see how he feels about the subject. Maybe bring up the girl that you were talking about who is also a cutter. Then, once you see his reaction to her cutting, tell him that you lied. BUT ONLY TELL HIM THIS IF YOU CAN TRUST HIM. It's very important that he doesn't go telling the world about you cutting and I'm sure you would agree. If he is a good boyfriend, once you tell him he will most likely suggest that you get some help, and this would be a good idea. No matter how much is going on in your life, there are other ways to release your pain/anger/fear or whatever is going on. I have never experience cutting, but some of my close friends do. It's difficult to know that they are hurting themselves and I'm sure that anyone close to you (like your boyfriend) is very concerned and wants you to stop hurting yourself. I know that life can be difficult, trust me. I have had a pretty screwed up life too, but I'm alive, and that's all that matters. I have air in my lungs and tomorrow is a new day and only I decide how I deal with what the future brings.
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The good thing to do is to tell the truth. Or you can have him still think you aren't one and have a knot stuck in your stomach.
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Yes you should tell him. I can understand how it might be a little difficult to admit something such as that, but you should definatly tell him and if he loves you or cares about you then he'll understand and do whatever he can to help and if he lashes out and doesn't understand then maybe he's just not the one for you. but yes being honest in a relationship is very important.
hope this helped :)
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yes you should its really the right thing to do...i mean if you really love him dont lie and tell him the truth he needs to hear it...he'll probably understand that you didnt want him to know...well hurry up and tell him b4 you wait too long nd he does get mad because you didnt confess right away....well good luck!
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I do think you should tell him. If you to are close then he can help you stop cutting. Once you tell him the truth you could feel alot better. Just tell him that you didn't know what he would do if you told him about your cutting, and thats why you lied. Most likely he will help you stop cutting. Also even if he doesn't want to help, you need to find some one you trust and tell them. Cutting is bad for you and you need to stop.
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definately tell the truth. He'll understand that you werent comfortable at first..and he will definately respect you for telling him quickly afterwards the truth. Its when you wait a long time and then tell him the truth where he might get mad..
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