Hi, my names Melanie.
I'm fifteen years old.
I love fashion, hanging out with my friends,
and drawing and writing along with a bunch of other stuff.
I used to have an old account here that was quite known for awhile,
but I sort of just lost touch with it,
so I decided to make a new one.
I'll try and help you the best I can,
just hopefully I didn't lose touch with my good advice, haha.
And feel free to IM me with your problem too.
I also put my myspace in a link down below,
if you ever want to add me & talk.
But incase you don't see it or something, it's:
www.myspace.com/themelinat0r
Website: my myspace!
E-mail: melledisko@hotmail.com
Gender: Female
Location: Pittsburgh
Occupation: student.
Age: 15
AIM: mel le disko
Member Since: July 2, 2006
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ok theres a boy and he is really cute.He makes me laugh when he does funny stuff.We are like really close friends.But i cant tell if he likes me or not because everybody thinks me and him are going out but were not.And so what if we hangout everday.so i need to know if he does.
thanks! (link)
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What I would do, is do the old "have a friend ask" trick. But make sure it's a friend he doesn't know you have, or at least don't make it like your best friend or something, cause then he'll suspect it. Just have a friend you can trust to tell you everything he says and have them ask him [ of course whenever you're not around ]. Or the next time you two talk, online or in face-to-face, just let him know how you feel. Just be like,"___, over this time we've been hanging out alot and I've been having a blast and you're really awseome and I just wanted to let you know I like you, and was wondering if you liked me back. And if don't, it's fine, I just hope our friendship wouldn't get ruined over me telling you cause I would rather have you as a friend then nothing at all." Or if you're friends with one of his friends, trying ask them if he'd find out who he likes, but that might not be a good idea cause the friend'll probably tell him. But, you could try having your friend ask his friend to ask him. Hhaha sorry, repeating chain. I hope I helped.
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ok i am in a long distance relationship but he is more experienced then me both of us are virgins but i've never even kissed a guy what can i do to get more experience before i meet him??? please help me (link)
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Well, I don't think it'd be very good to just flock from guy to guy and be like "Lemme pracitce kissing on you!" lol. Just whenever you guys meet, explain to him you've never kissed a guy before. And, that might make him even happier you're not. He'll feel more special because of the fact that he'll get to be your first. And I'm sure he won't mind if it's not like, the most perfect kiss in the world since he'll know you're not experienced. So since he is, he can probably help you out a bit, haha. Oh, and what some girls try and do to be a better kisser is that they practice on their hands. :P I hope I helped.
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i was just wondering. why do wifes give in or obay thier husbands. i know some girls say they don't but iv'e noticed that they do.
i've just noticed that my mom and sister normally give in to their husbands wants or wishes like when my stepdad wants somthing he gets it but when i want somthing i dont or she'll make food for him but not for me or somtimes she excuses his bad behavoirs and dosnt excuse mine. ive also noticed both my mom and sister give in to thier fights and let thier husbands win just so there wont be a big fight even though they know there right and i just wanna know why. what makes them do that? how come they say they wont but then do? could someone please help
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Your mother and sister probably just figure it's easier to end things and just let the husband win, then to constantly bicker for hours onto end and the husband still think he's right. Just think, what would you rather do? Still there and bicker with someone hours until end whenever no point is STILL being made, or just say their right and everythings fine? They're probably just trying to make the household as peaceful as they can. The man has always been looked upon as "the man of the house" "the one in charge" that's just how it's always been portrayed, and it still is that way sometimes. The mother makes the dinner, feeds the children, etc. And men think sometimes they're the ones who are supposed to know everything and be more dominate. I know it sounds sexist, but I'm not sexist. And I'm sure your mother isn't always cooking for you, etc. because she wants you to learn how to do it, and raise you to be independent and well-behaved, and not always have to have food cooked for them, etc.
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okay, well im 14 years old, turning 15 in a month. i've been with my boyfriend now for a little more than 11 months. and me and my friends were in my town the other night, and we saw these 3 really hot kids and we gave them our numbers. and they called us and we hung out that night. then the next day all my girl friends, and all the guys we met went to the movies. im going into 9th grade, and the guys we met are going into 11th. one of the guys likes me, and i think about him alot, and im scared im starting to like him too. he told me he likes me and he asked if he should like stick around. i mean idk what to do. its not fair to my boyfriend. so please please please help me! (link)
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Well, all I know is don't go cheating around on your boyfriend or anything. If you think just thinking of another guy isn't fair, cheating on him isn't definetly not fair at all. But, if you really think you like this guy, wait and see what happens ( not like, kissing happens emotional-wise ). If you find your feelings are developing further, I'd take a look back at your 11-month relationship. That's a really long time, and you've probably had alot of fun, and you KNOW he likes you. Is this new guy really worth it? Can you imagine yourselves having a better relationship then the one you're in now? Do you see something in this guy, your boyfriend doesn't have? If you think there is with all these questions, try and give the guy a chance if you really want to, because it sounds like you're liking him more than your current boyfriend. You just have to think really carefully who you can see yourself being more comfortable with, more fun times, etc. Maybe even try making a pro/con list between the two. But, you're also only 14. You're going to get guys, lose guys, break guys heart, be single for awhile, date forever. You need to experience stuff, live life, have fun. So see how you feel emotionally with this guy, and if you start to like him more and more, then I suggest you break up with your boyfriend. I hope I helped.
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I'm absolutley crazy about my boyfriend (Of one month) So crazy that I can't stop thinking about it, thoughts of him totally make my mind drift off in class. I don't have like ADD or anything, its just when I get bored in class my mind wanders on about thoughts of him, then I fall behind on the lesson. What should I do? (link)
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Well, whenever I had my boyfriend who I was sort of like how you are with yours, I'd just think. "Gah! Focus! You can talk to him in, whatever more hours." And I'd sit there and listen to the lesson, and pretty soon teh class would be over, and then the next, and then the next, and before I knew it I was going over to talk to him and see him. You just kind of have to keep snapping yourself out of it. And plus, I thought,"Pft, I'm sure my boyfriend'll think it's attractive whenever I have no idea about anything." So I paid attention in class and I knew exactly what was going on so I sounded all intelligent, haha. I hope I helped.
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I really like this girl but am to afrain to ask her out or talk to her from fear of rejection. I really like her and want a relationship but i dunno what to do. Any advice? (link)
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Well, if you don't ask her out, nothing happens. If you ask her out and she says no, nothing happens. So there's really nothing to worry about. BUT, if you DO ask her out and she says YES.. then you got yourself a girlfriend there. You can't always be worried of rejection ; there's always those words: "what if?". So talk to her a bit, ask her questions about herself to show you're interested, and try and flirt a little and see what happens. And then after awhile of getting to know her better, ask her to hang out with you at the movies sometime or somewhere. I hope I helped.
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There is this one certain person that gets me really REALLY confused. Everyone says that we should go out and that he keeps on flirting with me...
Anywhos I like him because he's fun and rebelious and just awesome. He's fun to talk and hang with and I get along with him just absolutely fine.
In classes I would catch him staring at me and he would always want to partner up with me (but that may be because I'm smart and he's not too smart..=X) He would always poke me to try and make me laugh and tell jokes and such.
I know that this may be just his personality but idk. I'm hoping he likes me..because I like him. I know that there are about a bazillion questions like this on here but none of them helps.
From what you've seen above, you'd say he likes me but read this part: He usually hugs his [girl] friends and hangs out with one of the girl all the time (like go to movies with patrick and her and skate with her) and he wouldn't answer Katey when she asked if he liked me in front of me
It's sort of my habit to say "ew" when people ask or say "You should go out with/ Do you like (Name of a boy)" so whenever Katey or Jo (girl) says that I kept on saying ew in front of the boy although I like him.
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Well, if he's acting sweet and nice to you, I'd say he probably likes you. Or he could just be a really flirtatious guy. I would try having a friend ask him again, and see what he says. But don't have them ask in front of you again, because of course if he DOES, he's not going to say it in front of you. Or the next time you guys talk or are partnered up, you should ask him to hang out with you guys sometime. And this girl you are talking about, she could just be a really good friend of his that he hangs out with and hugs. My guy best friends and me do that all the time. So try asking him to hang out sometime and flirt a little black, and also don't say "ew" whenever he's near you because if he hears he'll think you don't like him. I hope I helped.
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you're in trouble if you don't stop deleting questions you got rated low for, the other day you weren't top rated columnist some other ppl were and i know for a fact that they don't cheat like that, so stop otherwise i'm going to have to contact DN. the other day i asked a question, you answered and i rated you lower than a 5 .. howcome it says you've only been rated 5's when that's not what i rated you .. that's what i thought.
love always,
kate (link)
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I did that a couple of times, but every now and then even questions I've been rated 5's on have been deleted, and I didn't touch them. Obviously, I wouldn't. But I'll stop.
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does anyone know what that white dress brittany murphy is wearing in uptown girls? the cost, who made it, where to buy it
http://www.impawards.com/2003/posters/uptown_girls.jpg (link)
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I've tried searching on the internet for it, but I couldn't find it anywhere. All I could figure out was that Jessica T. Sinoway is the assistant costume desginer for the outfits the actors wore while filming, I could find the main costume designer's name. I don't think there's a store or anything where you can buy them. If you know how to sew, or you have a friend who knows how to sew, maybe ask them if they can sew it for you. I'm sorry I couldn't find it, but I hope I helped.
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i eat constantly. i'll eat to the point that i feel like i'm gonna pop. seriously. and i get hungry really easily. i eat healthy food pretty much, and i dont throw up or anything. i guess when i;m sad i eat a lot more. so is there a name for this? its like i'm a compulsive eater. i havent gained or lost any weight, but is it still bad for me? i'm 5'3 and 104 lbs. and i'm overall happy with my body. (link)
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Yeah, you're at a good weight for your height and everything. But, it could still be an eating disorder. Compulsive Eating Disorder. It's whenever people, instead of expressing their emotions and letting them out, or if they're under alot of stress, start to eat more than they normally would. Sometimes, whenever I am really angry or sad about something, I start to pig out alot on ice cream instead of crying or something.
Look at this site:
http://www.something-fishy.org/whatarethey/coe.php
Read it, and see if there's anything on there you can relate to, and you just might have it. To be sure, I would maybe try asking your doctor and see if he knows what is the matter. I just checked two weight charts on google for people who're 5'3" and if you DO have this, or some type of over-eating disorder, then you should be really lucky because most people with one tend to be overweight. But then again, you said you're eating healthy foods. So at least you're not chowing down on lots and lots of junk food. I hope I helped.
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ok so about 4 months ago i saw this guy, that worked in this shopping mall ... i had never seen him before... the point is was staring at me all the time i was there( in a really nice way..) and i did the same :) I kept going back for weeks... Till I plucked up the courage to give him my phone number and email address we spoke twice on messenger.. and sent each other a few emails.. the point is he continued staring every time i went there even though his friends have been there with him sometimes and I get the feeling he has told them about me.. but we havent exacly spoken face to face.. he has given me mixed signals cause i am usually the one who has sends him the emails and he doesnt answer for weeks . But a guy who stares at you for such a long time every time you see him... should mean something.. right? He has told me he is kind of shy… and he has a boring life.. Could he be hinting me indirectly that he is single.. Or something? He is working when i see him but that doesnt mean we cant speak...
I am really confused!! And any sort of help would do.. Ohh by the way im 17 going on eighteen and he is 21
Thanx!!
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Well, it sounds to me like he likes you. Sometimes guys are slow whenever it comes to responding. I always feel the need to respond right away whenever I recieve messages from people, and then my guy friends'll sit there for like, 20 minutes and THEN decide to respond. He just might be doing something on the computer that's distracting and he also might not go on the computer as much as you do, or like you said, he works so he might be out working and then he doesn't get the message till alot later. And also, sometimes emails can be slow, so that could be it too. OR.. he could be thinking about what to say back to you so he doesn't want to sound dorky or something. :] But it DOES sound to me like he likes you. Usually whenever guys stare that means they like you, or they're freaked out by you or something, lol, and I doubt it's that if you guys exchange emails and etc. Next time you go to the mall and you see him working, go buy something and talk to him while he's scanning the item and stuff. Just ask him the casual "whats up? hows work?" and just talk to him. And then maybe you could even ask him to hang out with you sometime at the movies or something. Just be like,"Hey, so, whenever you're not working sometime, we should go see a movie or something. There's that new movie, ______ coming out and it looks really good." I hope I helped.
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I'm going to a new school this year she I don't have a lot of friends. There's a guy that talks to me, whose name is Alex. He has been nice to me unlike anyone else and he's fun. I think he's wanting to take things past friendship, but i'm not sure if he's a good person to get involved with. He's (from what he's said) probably not a virgin and he cusses a lot. I'm a Christian. Is he just going to drag me down? Should I even continue our frienship? I'm afraid of being all alone again without any friends. I'm not good at starting conversations or getting to know people. (link)
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Well, I'm not sure if you should stop being friends with him, but let him know you're a Christian, and ask him if he could please try his best not to use cuss words around you and stuff. [ unless you don't mind, idk. ] But at one point in eigth grade, I had a best friend and that's the only person I hung out with, and pretty soon, I started to mimick his actions I guess you'd say. No, I didn't do anything bad or anything, but I started to wear the same brand names as they did and talked like them, etc. They probably would've dragged me down more if I hadn't controlled myself after awhile and realized. But like I said, I would try and continue the friendship, you just need to ask him to control his language and actions whenever he hangs out around you. And if he starts trying to get you to do/say stuff you're not comfortable with, then I suggest ending the friendship, cause it could just go downhill from there. Also, for more friends, try joining a club or event and participating in it. So then you can meet alot of people who have the same interest in you in SOMETHING so there's already a conversation starter right from the beginning. You could also try joining the areas church youth-group if they have any and try meeting people there. Whenever I went to my friend's with her, I met alot of nice people there because they have you go in groups right away and talk and ask you questions. I hope I helped.
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13/f I dated one of my best friends for like five days about 2 months ago. When I broke up with him, he took it really hard, he wasnt himself for weeks and I felt awful. About three weeks ago, I started liking him again and I told him and we started going out again. I now really don't like him like that, but I just can't brake up with him. I can't bear to hurt him again, plus all my friends would hate me. When we first started going out they all were like you better not hurt him again. I don't know what to do. The guy is like so in love with me it's not even funny. What should I do? (link)
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Even though you don't want to hurt his feelings or anything, it's best not to keep dating him cause then the longer you're staying with him, the longer it's just going to be out of pity. And I know you're friends are concerned with his feelings and everything, but if they're going to stop being your friend because you don't want to date a guy anymore, they're not really acting like your friends. This is your choice, your decision, not theirs. And I'm sure he'll take it hard, but just try and sound sincere. Just be like,"Look, the last thing I want to do is hurt your feelings or anything, but I got to be honest. I just.. don't like you more than a best friend. It just gets really hard to tell which are best friend feelings or if they're crush feelings or what, but I've realized they're just best friend feelings. And I know you're probably upset with me right now, who wouldn't be, but I'd really like to remain best friends because I don't want this to ruin what we have, and if we did go out and break up, that would probably ruin our friendship anyway and that's the one thing I don't want to lose. My best friend." [ or something like that ] And if he doesn't respond to you right away, just let him alone for a little while, let him cool off, and try talking to him after awhile. But if you ever get feelings for this kid again, I highly suggest not going out with him again, since this has already repeated twice. Like the other's said, you're thirteen. Guys will come and go for you, and girls will come and go for him. But if he forgives you, you always got your friends. I hope I helped.
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okay im 14 years old and im having sex with my boyfriend i dont want ne lecture about im too young i have been with this guy for 6 years and i wanna hint to my mom that i need put on birth control...she has said shes gonna take me but she never does what can i say to hint her to take me...nothing involving the sex thing..i mean could i say my period is jumping around the month or sumthing like that plzzz help me lotsa love
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Hahah, wow. You've been together with this guy since you were 8? I didn't even know about boyfriends probably whenever I was 8, lol. But anyways. Do exactly what you mentioned about your period. Just let your mother you have really heavy period flow and your cramps are really bad, and if you could start taking birth control pills cause you can't take it anymore. She'll probably go take you to go see a doctor, and just ask them for birth control pills. Now, they'll probably ask your mother to leave the room, and ask you if you've been sexually active at all, and they'll tell you before they ask if the informations going to remain confidental or not. Usually, it does. I hope I helped.
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Well, I recently got a boyfriend, and my mom doesnt know. She is kindof uneasy about that kind of stuff, and I dont know how to tell her, in a nice manner. any ideas?? (link)
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Just mention to her casually sometime whenever you're sitting around or if she asks if there's anything new going on, and let her know you meet this nice guy in school and he's alot of fun, and tell her about him. And then the next time you go to hang out somewhere with him, bring a few other friends along so your mother doesn't suspect like you two are alone together somewhere doing something. And whenever she drops you off, just be like,"Oh yeah mom! This is that nice guy I told you I met, _____." And just have him introduce himself and such. [ Also let him know that your mom doesn't know yet, so he doesn't let anything slip out ]. And then later whenever you get home, ask her what she thought of him, and be like,"Well, he asked me out awhile ago, and I told him yeah." I hope I helped.
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My boyfriend and I have been going out for about 4 months now. Are relationship is normally awesome. But lately he has been accusing me of cheating on him with my best friend who is a guy (who is really hott) His looks has nothin to do with our friendship. But I am completely dedicated to my boyfriend and only him. I tell him that time and time again. But the only way our relationship is going to last is if he accepts the fact that my best friend is going to always be a big part of my life. So if anyone had any suggestions on how to get my boyfriend to understand it would be really appreciated. (link)
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I would have a serious talk with your boyfriend. Just ask him if he wants this relationship to work, he can't be accusing you of cheating on him with your bestfriend. And he should know you'd never do that. You only think of him as a friend, and nothing more. And tell him that he means alot to you and you really like him and don't want anybody else. And also be like," I wouldn't date you for four months if I didn't really want to date you. And only you. Why would I want to ruin four awsome months by cheating on you with my BEST FRIEND?" Guys are always getting jealous over this kind of stuff. You also should mention about the girls he's friends with. Just be like,"Well, you talk to girls and I don't get jealous of them at all. [ And if he has a girl best friend too. ] I don't accuse you two of getting together or anything, because I don't think you would. I trust you, just like you should trust me. I know you care about me, like you should know I care about you." I hope I helped.
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hey my crush an i e-mail a lot, and he never sent me an email on my birthday yesterday..
so i dont wanna seem like a dominant chick, but i still wanna remind him that he forgot it!
so is there a kinda funny way to let him know..that will make it less like im yelling at him or what not.. like anyway of saying in a humorous way that "duude you forgot my birthday!!"
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Hahah yeah, some people forgot my birthday this year too, so I just IMed them and I was like,"Hey! Thanks for wishing me a happy birthday yesterday, I loved it!" And then they'd be like "OMG IT WAS YESTERDAY IM SO SORRY I FORGOT!" and I'm just like "Hahaha, it's ok. :P" And since he's your crush, this could even be an opportunity to ask him to hang out. You could be like,"You should make it up to me by going to the movies with me." or something. :] I hope I helped.
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Heres the deal, I'm obbsessed with britney spears. i have all of her posters, 2 pepsi lifesize cardboard cutout things, shirts a ton of picturs. every magazine shes ever been on, even when she was really young. i also have 33 of her cds( including remixes and stuff off of ebay). I even have something of hers that she was selling off of ebay to raise money for Katrina victims. well here is the problem. only about 5 people know. i never have friends over because i like briney so much cause everyone thinks she is fake and sluty and stuff. i want to tell people but i know that they would make fun of me and stuff. i'm not lesbiean or anything, i just like britney a lot. i'm in middle school so you know that people would make fun of me cause thats how middle school is. i don't care about what people think but i don't want everyone talking about me and my obbsessian about her. just think about what rumors could start. help me please!!! what should i do???!!!thanks guys. (link)
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If they're you're friends, they shouldn't care if you like her, I mean, they might not, but that's their opinion and they should keep it to themselves. I don't think it'll spread all around school and you'll get totally made fun of for it. I'm sure people'll just find it a little strange, and if it DID spread, just go around whenever people come up to it, and be like,"So what? I like Britney Spears. You don't, that's your opinion." And plus, have you ever seen then show "I Want My Own ____"? They take you inside their rooms and they're rooms are covered wall to wall with posters of their favorite celebrity, they know everything about them, they have a pillow with their picture on it, they're just as obsessed too. So it's not like you're alone. And plus, you're a teenager. It's perfectly normal to have posters of celebrities and stuff all over your walls. But maybe try having a way to put some of the stuff away whenever you have friends over. Like the cardboard pepsi things. Maybe you could put them inside your closet and whatever it is you got on ebay, maybe just set it somewhere on a table or something. For the CD's, if they're not on a stack, just put them in a box and keep them under you bed or somehwere. And plus, I'm sure your friends aren't going to be staring at your CD's or anything. But like I said, nobody should care and if they make a big deal of it, they're weird. I hope I helped.
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Yo..Hey..Hola... I am babysitting a party 2morrow for this 1 family ther will be 7 or 8 kids aged 1-8...what can i do to entertain all of them
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Haha, yo, hey, hola there.
Well, since they're really young kids it shouldn't be too hard to keep them entertained. As long as you have alot to entertain them with. Rent a couple of disney movies and let them choose [ unless nobody can decide ] what to pick and have them watch it. And while they're watching it, just pass out some snacks for them to eat. Some movies you can get that kids seem to love are Cars, Madagascar, Shrek, Shrek2, Spongebob: The Movie.
There's also a bunch of games you can have them play like Candyland, bring some action figures over and barbies and have them sit around and play together.
Maybe even have a little craft time. There's this little thing where you can make butterflies. All you need it markers, coffee filters, and clothespins and maybe even pipe cleaners. Then just have them take the markers and draw all over the coffee filters. And whenever they are done, dip the one end of the coffee filter into a bowl of water, and then do the other end if it didn't soak all the way to that end. And then lay them out to dry [ just remember whose it is ] and then whenever they're finished drying, you just take them and stick it inbetween the clothespin and make it look like butterfly wings. [ if you want them to have one pair of wings, you use one coffee filter, if you want them to have a top pair and a bottom, the kid'll have to make another ] and then draw a little face on it. And if you want to, take a hot glue gun, or tape or something, and make little antennas or feelers [ whatever they're called ] out of pipe cleaner and put them on the top of the butterflys head. Also, some people even glue magnets on the back so they can hang them on the refridgerator.
There is also a game called Doggy Doggy, where one kid is the dog and sits in a chair with his back to all the other kids and his eyes closed. Now, you take an object and put it under the chair, and one of the kids are supposed to sneak up behind him and steal the bone and hide it somewhere on themselves so the "dog" can't see it. Or, they can leave it under the chair. Then the kids sing "Doggy doggy, where's your bone? Someone's stolen it from your home!" and then the "dog" kid must turn around and he/she has three chances to guess who stole their bone. And if they guess who got it, or if it's under the chair, he gets to be the dog again. But if he guesses wrong, the person who DID have the bone got to have a turn at being the dog.
I hope I helped.
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well my one friend is having like a party and she invited me to go tommorrow night and sleep over afterwards. i asked my mom and she said yes as long as the parents are home. well today i found out no parents will be there and itll be like an open house. I really really want to go. but now the guilt is coming to me. What should i do? I mean i don't always wanna be such a goody good. please help i really wanna go?! whats your advice. thanks (link)
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I wouldn't go. Like the other person said, be glad you have parents who care enough to ask about wether or not there's going to be parents there, even though it can be annoying, some parents are just like "sure whatever" and then god knows what happens to their kid. Open house parties could be really dangerous, and that's where all the drugs get put in drinks and everything happens. I know you don't want to be a goody good, but I don't think you want to possibly get in trouble, either. I mean, if you're parents ever found out, you're trust will be gone. But. If you really really want to go. Maybe go for like, an hour or two right whenever the party starts, and it's not as wild yet. But whenever you notice people starting to get a little crazier [which is probably whenever the bad stuff could happen], just tell your friend you have to go and go back to your house. But, like I said, I suggest you just not go at all. I hope I helped.
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