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i can't break up with my boyfriend
13/f I dated one of my best friends for like five days about 2 months ago. When I broke up with him, he took it really hard, he wasnt himself for weeks and I felt awful. About three weeks ago, I started liking him again and I told him and we started going out again. I now really don't like him like that, but I just can't brake up with him. I can't bear to hurt him again, plus all my friends would hate me. When we first started going out they all were like you better not hurt him again. I don't know what to do. The guy is like so in love with me it's not even funny. What should I do?
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see this is why i tell people not to date their exes. hey you can alway try waiting till you like him again... or you can try making him not like you anymore by acting stupid and gross and stuff. but seriously, breaking up with him now would cause less pain than breaking up with him later.
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Even though you don't want to hurt his feelings or anything, it's best not to keep dating him cause then the longer you're staying with him, the longer it's just going to be out of pity. And I know you're friends are concerned with his feelings and everything, but if they're going to stop being your friend because you don't want to date a guy anymore, they're not really acting like your friends. This is your choice, your decision, not theirs. And I'm sure he'll take it hard, but just try and sound sincere. Just be like,"Look, the last thing I want to do is hurt your feelings or anything, but I got to be honest. I just.. don't like you more than a best friend. It just gets really hard to tell which are best friend feelings or if they're crush feelings or what, but I've realized they're just best friend feelings. And I know you're probably upset with me right now, who wouldn't be, but I'd really like to remain best friends because I don't want this to ruin what we have, and if we did go out and break up, that would probably ruin our friendship anyway and that's the one thing I don't want to lose. My best friend." [ or something like that ] And if he doesn't respond to you right away, just let him alone for a little while, let him cool off, and try talking to him after awhile. But if you ever get feelings for this kid again, I highly suggest not going out with him again, since this has already repeated twice. Like the other's said, you're thirteen. Guys will come and go for you, and girls will come and go for him. But if he forgives you, you always got your friends. I hope I helped. <3
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Forget your friends being mad at you. If they get mad at you for something like that, then guess what - they aren't really your friends.
You owe it to him to let him know that you don't want to be with him and want to call things off. You should sit him down and tell him how you feel. Be honest. That is essential in any friendship or relationship. Really, if it was the other way around and you really loved the guy and he didn't even like you at all, would you want him going out with you just so you don't feel bad?
Think things through and settle things with him. If you are going to end things, better sooner than later. Don't let what others say get to you - they aren't the ones involved with this. Also, if he gets upset then so what? He'll be fine in a few days or weeks. Hope that helped and good luck.
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its like what the others said, if you guys aren't happy, you probably shouldn't stay together. but what i think you should do to help you guys, is sit down and talk to him. tell him what you like and dislike about him. and if there are certain things that you don't like and he changes them, you guys might last and no body will get hurt.
good luck!
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ok babes, if your not happy in the relationship then the best thing for both of you is to end it. He may be in love with you but if you can't return the affection then your only going to make yourself miserable and he will suffer for it. As you said he is one of your best friends and he will pull through. Your friends won't be hate you, just let him down easy and be honest. Darling your 13 and you don't need to pinned down in a relationship your not happy with. Don't leave it too long and good luck babes. love jem xxxxxx
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Well, if you arent happy, you shouldnt be with him.
He may take it really hard but he will get over it eventually..
Just try to let him down as easily as possible, but dont beat around the bush too much.
Just say how you feel.
As for your friends, they should'nt get mad at you for your descion. They arent the ones in this relationship.. if they get mad at you for hurting him, then they dont sound like good friends.
Basically, your 13 years old, sorry to say but guys will come and go, and your heart will be broken many times in your highschool life, but broken hearts heal..and your boyfriends will too.
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