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tommorrow night? ahh
well my one friend is having like a party and she invited me to go tommorrow night and sleep over afterwards. i asked my mom and she said yes as long as the parents are home. well today i found out no parents will be there and itll be like an open house. I really really want to go. but now the guilt is coming to me. What should i do? I mean i don't always wanna be such a goody good. please help i really wanna go?! whats your advice. thanks
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This is MY opinion - which is never really that good anymore: Just go & do something different. I lived 17 years doing absolutely, living under rules that never needed to be there. Go have fun, but have good judgement & don't screw up..too much. & if you do, learn from your mistakes & don't do it again. I just think you should try everything once & live a little. There's a time where you will need to be honest with your mom & say, "Mom, I'm going to a party tonight & I might get a little trashed. But it'll all be good cause my friends will be there to take care of me. Be home in the morning, peace out.." That's what I did & guess who leaves every weekend because of the amazing honesty they carry? Yeah, that would be me. Just don't try that shit till you turn 18 though. You won't make it very far, lol.
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I wouldn't go. Like the other person said, be glad you have parents who care enough to ask about wether or not there's going to be parents there, even though it can be annoying, some parents are just like "sure whatever" and then god knows what happens to their kid. Open house parties could be really dangerous, and that's where all the drugs get put in drinks and everything happens. I know you don't want to be a goody good, but I don't think you want to possibly get in trouble, either. I mean, if you're parents ever found out, you're trust will be gone. But. If you really really want to go. Maybe go for like, an hour or two right whenever the party starts, and it's not as wild yet. But whenever you notice people starting to get a little crazier [which is probably whenever the bad stuff could happen], just tell your friend you have to go and go back to your house. But, like I said, I suggest you just not go at all. I hope I helped. <3
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Just be grateful your parents care enough to ask about supervision. Don't even think about disobeying them. I'm not a goody-good, but without parents there the chances of something happening that shouldn't really could. Seriously, I don't want to have to list the things that could occur, I think you can figure it out. I'm not trying to be harsh, but these are not plans you should follow through with.
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Hey,
I don't know what time it is wherever you live, so Am I'm answering this on time?
What's your mother like? Is the reason she said that you could go 'as long as the parents are home' because she's worried about your safety? Is she worried about your responsiblity levels, or does she trust you well?
Depending on who's throwing them, open house parties can be dangerous. You didn't mention if you were male or female, but if you're female, you have to be cautious about things like "who knows where you are, when", and mind anything that you drink. Spiking happens, and it's got a purpose, a bad one.
If you do go, without telling your mother, make sure someone you trust very well knows where you are, and tell your mother when you should be back home the next day by.
You know how responsible you can be. If you're under 16, I don't recommend going without asking your mother on the new terms.
I think you probably think your mother wouldn't want you going if she knew what the party was. What you have to decide is whether it will be safe, and you can go without a lot of risk to yourself. If you decide that you can, then you shouldn't be worried about having lied. You can tell her the next day "Well, I went, but when I got there there were heaps of people, and I didn't know where her parents were...". This serves the purpose of enhancing your ability to look after yourself in your mother's perspective. Unless of course you think she would just freak out on you.
Sorry to be long about it :)
-K
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