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boyfriend jealous because my best friend is a hott guy
My boyfriend and I have been going out for about 4 months now. Are relationship is normally awesome. But lately he has been accusing me of cheating on him with my best friend who is a guy (who is really hott) His looks has nothin to do with our friendship. But I am completely dedicated to my boyfriend and only him. I tell him that time and time again. But the only way our relationship is going to last is if he accepts the fact that my best friend is going to always be a big part of my life. So if anyone had any suggestions on how to get my boyfriend to understand it would be really appreciated.
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you have to ask yourself why your boyfriend is so crazy over this issue. chances are, its because he is thinking something along the lines of "if i had a really hot friend, id probably cheat". friends are part of who you are, a big part even, and he has to accept that. most of my friends are girls, and its never really been an issue in my relationships, im up front about it. you just need to sit down, and have a talk about it with him, explain that youd never cheat, but you are not willing to choose between your best friend and your boyfriend, and he shouldnt be trying to force you to. boyfriends come and go, but bestfriends are for ever.
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I would have a serious talk with your boyfriend. Just ask him if he wants this relationship to work, he can't be accusing you of cheating on him with your bestfriend. And he should know you'd never do that. You only think of him as a friend, and nothing more. And tell him that he means alot to you and you really like him and don't want anybody else. And also be like," I wouldn't date you for four months if I didn't really want to date you. And only you. Why would I want to ruin four awsome months by cheating on you with my BEST FRIEND?" Guys are always getting jealous over this kind of stuff. You also should mention about the girls he's friends with. Just be like,"Well, you talk to girls and I don't get jealous of them at all. [ And if he has a girl best friend too. ] I don't accuse you two of getting together or anything, because I don't think you would. I trust you, just like you should trust me. I know you care about me, like you should know I care about you." I hope I helped. <3
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I think you should tell your boyfreind how much he means to you and that his jealousy is going to ruin your relationsip and that you can never see the other guy as more than a freind.He probably talks to freinds that are girls too and your not jealous because you KNOW he loves you.Tell him it wouldnt be fair if he ruined your freindship with your guy freind and that he wouldnt like it if you did that to him and his freinds.
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well....it sounds like your boyfriend is accusing you of cheating not because he thinks that you are but because you have another man in your life to look out for you and take care of you. Your boyfriend obviously doesn't like that because to be honest no man does, every man who is going out with someone wants to be the only man to protect them and look after them and doesn’t want or need anyone else help to do so, if you get upset your boyfriend wants you to go to him, and not your best friend. It also doesn't help that your best friend is fit, and you probably tell him thing's you don't tell your boyfriend, just imagine his best friend was a really fit girl and think how insecure you would feel. I know you regard both of them highly and spend equal time with them, but if you see yourself being with your boyfriend long term try spend a bit more time with him, your best friend will understand and will still be there for you to fall back on. If thing's don’t change after a while remember that friends are forever and boyfriends come and go. Hope I helped love jem xxxxxxxxxx
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