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just wondering
i was just wondering. why do wifes give in or obay thier husbands. i know some girls say they don't but iv'e noticed that they do.
i've just noticed that my mom and sister normally give in to their husbands wants or wishes like when my stepdad wants somthing he gets it but when i want somthing i dont or she'll make food for him but not for me or somtimes she excuses his bad behavoirs and dosnt excuse mine. ive also noticed both my mom and sister give in to thier fights and let thier husbands win just so there wont be a big fight even though they know there right and i just wanna know why. what makes them do that? how come they say they wont but then do? could someone please help
thanks
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Your mother and sister probably just figure it's easier to end things and just let the husband win, then to constantly bicker for hours onto end and the husband still think he's right. Just think, what would you rather do? Still there and bicker with someone hours until end whenever no point is STILL being made, or just say their right and everythings fine? They're probably just trying to make the household as peaceful as they can. The man has always been looked upon as "the man of the house" "the one in charge" that's just how it's always been portrayed, and it still is that way sometimes. The mother makes the dinner, feeds the children, etc. And men think sometimes they're the ones who are supposed to know everything and be more dominate. I know it sounds sexist, but I'm not sexist. And I'm sure your mother isn't always cooking for you, etc. because she wants you to learn how to do it, and raise you to be independent and well-behaved, and not always have to have food cooked for them, etc.
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Ok as an adult married woman I will give you the real story. I by no means give in all the time with my husband BUT there are many times when I give in simply because it is easier then fighting and not worth the hassle. Men can be big babies and it is important in all relationships to pick your battles.
It sounds to me like your mom and sister may be not taking their own advice. If they are married to very domineering men then it might be out of self protection that they are doing this. I don't think though that you should generalize all relationships this way.
Women have the ability more so then men I believe to at times see the bigger picture and let the small issues go. This is not true for all women or all men but generally my experience.
Hope this helps
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Because it's Biblical that the father is the head of the household. God rules over the father and the fater rules over his wife and children. I know it sounds sexist but it's just historically correct, as Eve was made out of Adam's rib. They are equal as people but in a family, the father is in charge.
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It's love that makes you blind,do crazy things,even knowing that you're partner is doing wrong that is what is happening to them,they both have to realize that by backing them up all the time,doing as they command them they're only hurting themselves,don't worry one day they will face the sad truth but hopefully it's not to late,and let them know how this is affecting you they got to care about their family.
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Actions do speak louder than words. You are observing behavior that is contradictory to what they claim. Some traditions promote that women should be submissive. Religious persons often site a couple Biblical passages to justify this belief, despite the fact that other biblical passages suggest equality between men and women and mutual submission by both wife AND HUSBAND.
Equality in marriage is a balancing act sometimes and hard to achieve unless BOTH husband and wife agree on the necessity of mutual shared power. It becomes more complicated when a couple tries to determine fair compromises in the relationship. Your mom and sister both sound like they are trying to please their own husbands and keep the peace. Often women will make more compromises than men in ways that are seemingly submissive, but it is because women value relationships more than power in most cases.
Every woman has a right to equality and power, but part of that power is the right to choose how it will best serve their individual values and needs. Marriage is more complicated than it looks from the outside, and no one really knows what goes on in a marriage, except for the two spouses. Do not judge your sister or mom, but continue to observe and learn what you can. You may choose not to marry, or to marry someone who will respect and agree with your ideas about equal shared power.
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well one i would say it is out of fear. Most men are bigger than woman and could hurt them if given the chance.
Also men are very stuborn. They are like little kids and aren't worth fighting with because they always think they are right and just don't get it.
Also your mother wants you to be better than him. Obviously he grew up thinking that men are kings and should be spoiled and your mom doesn't want you to be a spoiled brat basically.
Its hard to explain and goes back to when men were seen as better than women. Hopefully you will find a man ( i am guessing you are a girl) who is better than that and spoils you
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My mum used to do that with her ex, it's so annoying isn't it.
She used to just give in so they wouldn't fall out and so he wouldn't leave her.
I think your mum and sister are just trying to keep the peace. No one likes to argue and fall out with their partners, it sounds as though they are just trying to prevent huge arguments.
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