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I'm a mother of 2 boys who are 13 months apart. Talk about a handful. I'm a wife to the best husband I could have ever dreamed of.I'm one of the very blessed.
I have Bipolar 1 Disorder. I hate taking all these medications and always going to doctors appointments, but life is too short to let mental illness get the better of me.
Often times life is a challenge, and nobody knows that better than me. I wake up wondering if this is going to be a day my illness overpowers my meds, and either sends me flying like a bat out of hell, or leaves me laying on the couch like a wet dish rag.
Thank all that is good in the world that I have an excellent support system at home.
I'm one of the lucky ones.
I'm honest, and that can either be a perk or s flaw. Depends on how you choose to look at it.
I like to see it as a perk, because it's better to hear the truth than to be told candy coated bullshit.
advice
I'm almost 16/f
I'm not trying to seek attention with this, I'm actually instead trying to not GET any attention...But I think I have a serious mental problem. It could be a variety of things...bipolarity, borderline, depression...etc. I'm always really sad. I always have these sick, low, depressive (if thats a word) suicidal thoughts whenever the SMALLEST things occur! I also think of myself as a masochist, as I sometimes enjoy inflicting pain onto myself ( I cut myself ) and sometimes others (I know. It's pretty bad) I just don't know what to do. My parents say I'm normal. I know I'm not.
What can I do?
Well, you need to be sure you have given your parents enough information about what is really going on inside of your head so they will take you seriously.
Then consider therapy, so you can learn to make your life enjoyable an fulfilling.
ygs-29/f
wat does 187 mean
like on the song curtis 187
or your love is a 187
thanx
187 is a police code for homicide.
ygs-29/f
Where can I contact to see about a job for a local paper route? What are the hours and salary like? And what neighborhoods would I be visiting?
Well, you contact your local paper. They should have a contact number listed somewhere on the paper.
They will answer all of your questions.
ygs-29/f
xmas is fast approaching, im planning to save now for xmas gifts for my closest friends. i like unique gifts for them.. i only have a low budget.. can you suggest some tokens or stuff that's unique yet affordable..
thanks in advance!
-yssa-
Here is a link to Snowman Soup.
It is affordable, and who doesn't like hot chocolate?
http://organizedchristmas.com/snowman-soup
ygs-29/f
ok, so i boughtm y boyfriend something that cost 32 dollars.
he wanted it soo bad.
and now iw ant to give him something else small.
because, i'll feel stupid if i don't, haha!.
ok, so what are some good little gift ideas?
(ps, i can't get another that goes with the gift, there's nothing."
Why should you feel stupid for getting him the one gift you know he really wants?
Make him some cookies. What guy doesn't like cookies?
ygs-29/f
so i was watching some sort of csi show thing
and at the end it was an ad for an online site where you can be an avatar and be a ferensic scientist [sp?] and discover who killed someone or something.
idk; does anyone know what im talking about.
or anything like it?
can you send me links or lead me in the general direction? links would be best.
thanksies!
Well, it would be easier if you knew what channel you watched the show on. From that website you can easily link to the show you were watching.
Was it on NBC, CBS, ABC, Court TV, etc.
If you know what channel it played, go to that network's website, for example, courttv.com, and link to the specific show.
That's pretty much the easiest route to go.
ygs-29/f
What is the difference between having you penis circumcised and uncircumcised? And why is it done?
Here is a link that will be helpful:
http://children.webmd.com/tc/circumcision-topic-overview
ygs-29/f
I just became a member on youtube, and I tried to post a comment... I typed my message in the text box, but when I clicked on "Post Comment", nothing happened. I tried reopening Safari and doing it again, but no result. I am positive that I signed in and that I confirmed my membership. PLEASE HELP!!!
This is something that would be best answered if you contact youtube.
whos mandy moore dating? Is it DJ AM? or who?
http://www.eonline.com/
was marilyn monroe a singer? or just an actress? or what is she famous for and when and why did she die?
It's much easier to use your search engine.
ygs-29/f
does mariah carey and tina aguilera get along? why or why not..
and does tina get along with britney spears too?
You should be able to find the answers to all of your tabloid questions regarding Christina Aguilera with that search.
No offense, but we are an advice site, not The Inside Edition.
ygs-29/f
what does a "stae of mind" Mean?
You will find your answer there.
Ok.
I was dating this guy and i REALLY REALLY liked him. He was 4 years older than me and I liked him more than any other guy ive dated. Well, he entered the army so we broke up because he didnt think it was fair if I dated him because he would never be there for me. But when he left to go to the basic training we continued to write to each other and talked about getting back together. However, one day i check my myspace to see him say that there is a guy friend of his at basics and that he is interested in me. He also said that this guy was inexperienced and was country (which i like). I cant tell if he is just testing me or if he is trying to get me to move on. Please help me out with this!!!
He comes home on December 13th and i need to have my mind made up what im going to do regaurdless of the situation...
thanks so much!!
XOXO
madison
You need to decide if you want to try this new guy out, or if you want to stay with the guy that you REALLY REALLY like.
When he comes home, you should ask him what he meant by that- trying to hook you up with some other guy. It could be that HE wants to move on, but you won't know that unless you ask him to be truthful with you about it.
ygs-29/f
I am 15/male.
Its pretty much exactley what it sounds like. Im sick of disapointing my parents. I fail school. I dress so awkwardley that there embarresed to be seen with me. Im a complete total fuck up. I have anger issues. Im always fighting with my mom. I told her i didnt want to be a part of the family, and the look on her face KILLED me inside. They found out i smoke, and my mom didnt do anything except cry. becuase her mom died at like 30 from cancer. Im always getting in trouble with them. Oh and i like men. and i cant tell them that becuase i cant and i wont deissapoint them more. Im sad to say that the easiest way to get through this, is to kill myself. Im not really looking for advice. Im kind of just venting to anyone who cares. :(
Sincerley,
Me.
***EDIT*** Hey, man, I'm glad I could help. Knowing that I did means more to me than any rating you could ever give. :)
_________________________________________
Well, I care. I'll start at the top and work my way down:
The first step in changing all of this is the fact that you realize you are doing something wrong.
Your grades are bad- try harder to excel. You deserve that education. It is your right to get it.
If you like to dress awkwardly, well, do so when you aren't going to be out and about with your parents. Dress in appropriate attire when you plan to do things with them, or if they plan to have guests over.
The best thing you can do for your mom right now is give her a sincere apology, a hug, a kiss, and explain to her you were just angry, you didn't mean what you said, you never meant to break her heart- you were angry and hurting and reflected that onto her.
I know that you would mean it when you say that, because I can tell you feel like a grade-A heel about it from what you say above.
Try to stop smoking. I smoke, I have since I was a teenager, and the longer you smoke, the harder it is to quit.
Try to get help from a therapist about your anger issues. If you talk to your mom, I'm sure she will understand that you need help with that.
Try to avoid getting into trouble with your parents. It certainly wouldn't hurt to sit them down and discuss with them what you can do to improve your behavior.
I know some parents are touchy about their kids being gay, but if you are truly gay, you need to say so when you sit down to talk with them. They need to know so you no longer feel you have something like that to hide, and they will just have to like it or not.
When it comes down to the whole idea of suicide- BAD IDEA. Think of the look on your mother's face when you told her you didn't want to be a part of the family. Now, imagine how much worse that look will be if you were to commit suicide.
All of your problems are solvable- you just have to STRIVE to find the solution. Committing suicide is a selfish act. NOTHING you can say or do or BE would be more heart breaking than that.
Your mom would rather see you get bad grades, dress awkwardly, smoke, and marry a man ANY DAY over losing her son.
Nothing is THAT bad that your life is no longer worth living. NOTHING.
Talk to your parents and tell them what is going on inside your head. They probably feel so helpless right now, because they know you are having some problem that they can't help you with because you shut them out.
ygs-29/f
Ok we met on the internet and stuff he's really sweet and stuff but he likes 2 have sex WAY 2 much we met up @ this park and we were talking while standing next 2 his car with the door open and we we're talking about how much we love eachother and out of no were he kisses me about 10 times and I just ignore it but then he starts trying 2 get his hand in my pants but I wore a belt so he unbuckels it and starts fingering me 2 tell the truth it felt good but it shocked me and out of nowhere he gets on top of me and starts kissing me again I know he loves me because he writes me poems and stuff that leave me speachless and crys 2 me on the phone about how much he loves me. he's in the army I don't know what's going on I love him so much and I know he loves me I've tested him before and he's true 2 me I pretented 2 be my friend (she's a girl) and told him that I loved him on it and he told me he only loves destiny ( ps: I'm destiny) so I know that he loves me but what do I do about the sex thing
If you aren't ready, you need to tell him so. Let him know he needs to back off about it.
You say he loves you, but if he TRULY DOES love you, he won't pressure you about sex.
Poems, faithfulness, and crying to you about how much he loves you doesn't necessarily PROVE that he does truly love you.
All of the above, PLUS respecting you, your body, your feelings, and your wishes proves that.
ygs-29/f
is there anyway that i can get about $200 in about a month or two..maybe even three? i already have $80 and i get $30 a month, but is there anything else i could do? im 13/f..so i doubt i can work at stores and places like that, and its snowing and winter here so nothing like mowing lawns, theres not enough snow though to have a job of shoveling, but any small jobs , oh yeah and my parents dont give me money for household jobs (sorry theres not much left to choose from..but please try and think of something)
Thankss:)
Well, since you obviously know household chores, ever consider starting a cleaning service?
You know, helping others clean their house and get paid?
I imagine some folks out there wouldn't mind paying a teen girl for help around the house during this busy season.
ygs-29/f
Okay so there is this guy I REALLY LIKKEEE! lets call him "shane" and we are good friends. So i asked my friend "bob" to ask shane if He likes me and if he still likes this girl he has been liking for a while.. My friend sent me the convo so i will re write it ( p.s me, bob and shane where all gonna hang out after this haha )
Bob: Do you like anyone?
Shane: Not really.
Bob: Do you like katie?
Shane: idk.
Bob: Do you still like Dianne?
Shane: no
LIKE WHAT THE HECK IS THAT SUPPOSED TO MEAN?!? lol.
Well i didn't even know about that convo till AFTER we all hung out.. And when we where hanging out he would always come VERY close to me, Squish next to me, Put his elbow on my knee, Lean is head on my shoulder
what was all that?
Im so confused.
I just wanna know what this all means
It means he doesn't really like anyone.
You don't have to read between the lines when a guy says something. They aren't like us chicks, who tend to not say exactly what we mean, dance around what we really mean, beat around the bush about it, and have hidden meanings in what we say about something.
Guys aren't complex creatures like we are.
As for his behavior, maybe he is trying to figure out if he DOES like you or not. But that still means he doesn't really like anyone at this time.
Have patience. He'll get it figured out pretty soon, then there will be no more confusion.
ygs-29/f
say someone got drunk at ten one night and didnt drink anything else after, what time would they be sober at? and like does going to sleep make a difference in how long it takes? and does how much you drink affect it
If you are drunk, especially at 10pm, your best and SAFEST bet is to sleep it off. All night.
Yes, how much you drink, how long it took you to drink it, and your height and weight ALL affect it.
ygs-29/f
How do people actually die from Anorexia? I'm recently in recovery & I think I'm doing okay. Right now I'm approximately 5'7 & 116-118 lbs. I think I'm doing better. I eat breakfast, lunch, a snack, dinner, & another snack before I go to bed. I still avoid fatty foods though, but other than that I eat pretty healthy. I eat fruits, veggies, crackers, carbs, meats, etc. I probably take in approximately anywhere from 1400-1500 calories a day. Is this okay for me?? I'm trying to gain a bit of weight but it just isn't easy. I'm also waiting to get my period back. Its upsetting because a lot of people don't know what they're talking about & think that you can just die. Wouldn't I have to stop eating for that to happen?? I'm following up with doctors also & my family & friends are helping me through this. Any ideas/opinions?? Thanks!!
Well, of course by just not eating you would starve to death. Your body would deplete body fat and muscle mass until nothing is left for it to live on, causing death.
One of the effects is the strain it puts on your heart. Ever heard of Karen Carpenter? She was the singer/drummer of the band The Carpenters. She suffered with anorexia for a long time, recovered, and fell back into eating disorders again. Her heart was too weak- she died of heart failure.
http://atdpweb.soe.berkeley.edu/quest/Mind&Body/Carpenter.html
Good for you for seeking help and fighting this difficult battle with your eating disorder.
Any questions like this you should feel free to ask your doctor. They can give you answers that fit your unique situation.
Be sure to ask their professional opinion about the after effects on your body based on how long you suffered anorexia, so you KNOW exactly what is going on with your body.
Good luck with your recovery, and keep up with the good work!
ygs-29/f
I have had a cat, Pumpkin for about 4 years. I am the only person he likes, and he still rarely lets me hold him. We had already had a Shih-tzu that the cat liked, even though the dog just ignored the cat. Last year, my shih-tzu died. We got an Irish Setter puppy, Shea over the summer and Pumpkin was very scared (Shea didnt even chase him. And Pumpkin running away now causes Shea to chase him). The problem is, its been about 5 months and Pumpkin is still very scared of Shea. Pumpkin stays in the basement or upstairs or outside untill he knows Shea is in his crate or outside. Whenever I try to get them to meet, Pumpkin scratches me and runs in the basement. I need Pumpkin to stop being so scared and stop running away so Shea won't chase him. What should I do?
You can't force them to get along. Naturally, cats fear dogs and dogs chase cats.
Best thing you can do is to train the dog to not chase the cat, or let nature run its course. The former being the first step, the second being the latter.
ygs-29/f