Hi, my names Melanie.
I'm fifteen years old.
I love fashion, hanging out with my friends,
and drawing and writing along with a bunch of other stuff.
I used to have an old account here that was quite known for awhile,
but I sort of just lost touch with it,
so I decided to make a new one.
I'll try and help you the best I can,
just hopefully I didn't lose touch with my good advice, haha.
And feel free to IM me with your problem too.
I also put my myspace in a link down below,
if you ever want to add me & talk.
But incase you don't see it or something, it's:
www.myspace.com/themelinat0r
Website: my myspace!
E-mail: melledisko@hotmail.com
Gender: Female
Location: Pittsburgh
Occupation: student.
Age: 15
AIM: mel le disko
Member Since: July 2, 2006
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heyy im not a geek but im not popular at the middle school im at now, because i'm shy and because of the people i hang out with. im iin 8th grade right now, so i want to make a fresh start for highschool next year. andi want to be popular, and i want to be the leader of the group, or the queen b or whatever. but if thats impossible, then i at least just want to be like the 2nd most popular or just in the popular group. any tips?? (link)
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Well, in our school, we have two kinds of popular people. We have the vain ones who won't bother to talk to anybody else and have the need to bring others down to boost themselves up.
And then we have the ones who talk to everybody, aren't vain and they're really cool and they're not even TRYING to be popular, it's just they talk to everybody and fit in with all groups. [ and also even talk to the "vain popular" people ]
I think you should go for the second one. Just starting talking to all sorts of random people and be yourself, be confident, and talk and get to know them. Bring something up about the class and carry the conversation on from there. And then just continue the conversation daily and make some jokes and make them laugh. And just start asking them questions to show you have an interest in them and want to know about them more.
And try and join a social event or a club and meet more people who have similar interests as you, so there's already a conversation starter right there and something you have in common!
But as you enter highschool, it doesn't really matter whose popular and whose not because there's going to be whole new grades of people and there'll be new kids and it's not going to matter to them if you're popular or not. After you get older, the idea of popular people is kind of silly. The only reason people really get popular is whenver school starts, these friends form a group, the group brings other down, and acts like their the head honchos, and after awhile people are afraid to tell them they're not, so then they become the head honchos. It really just depends on who you're friends with, that's all.
I hope I helped.
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The guy I like has a girlfriend and Im friends with her but i really really like him alot and i wanna go out with him but i know there prolly not gonna break up for a LONG time if they even do at all. But heres the thing. HE LIKES ME BACK. I just really dont know what to do. And i like this other guy and hes single but I dont know if he likes me back or not bcuz im scared to ask him and have him say no then ill get embarrassed if he tells all his friends. what should i dooo??
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Well, I wouldn't make any attempts for the guy with the girlfriend until they are broken up. Unless you want to be known as some "boyfriend stealer" by your friend. And I'm not sure if dating him would be such a good idea if they ever DID break up, if he can like other girls behind his girlfriends back and tell them, whose to say he won't tell other girls he likes THEM while he's dating YOU? I'd just be careful of that. And with the guy that's single, I'd take a chance. Maybe try getting a friend to ask around and see if he likes anybody at the moment and who it is. Just try talking to him alot more and mix some flirting into it, and see if he flirts back. Even though you're afraid to ask him, what's the worst that can happen? You NOT ask, and not date him. OR.. you ASK, he says no, and you not date him but you at least know what would've happened. And you never know, he could say yes. I don't know how well you know him, but if you don't talk to him that much, start talking to him more. Show you have interest in him by asking questions about him and what he likes to do and everything. And like I said, mix a little flirting in there. I hope I helped.
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I am a 28/f and very independant. I work and live on my own in an appartment. I have been single for about 5 years. I have a lot of interests and friends and I'm close to my family which keeps me busy. The problem is that some of my friends who are in relationships have been trying to set me up with guys. It bothers me because they say things like "we need to find you a man". One of my friends just started dating her bf and now is trying to set me up with his roomate. I'm not interested because they said he he's yoan me by about 6 years and is unemployed. Another friend of mine tried setting me up with a 22 year old. It was very awkward because he really liked me and I did not. How can I tell my friends in a nice way that I would like to meet a GROWN mature man on my own without them always trying to set me up? And since when is it a crime to be single? I quite enjoy it because my friends who are in relationships are always complaining about them. (link)
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Just tell them what you just said. Just be like,"Look guys, I really appreciate you guys trying to set me up with guys, I really do, but I like being single. And if I ever DO want to find a guy, I sort of would like to be able to find him on my own. I'm not trying to be mean here, but I'm just trying to be honest with you all." And I'm sure they'll understand. I hope I helped.
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What does that saying mean? People always say it I don't understand. I know A-town is atlanta but I just don't get it haha. (link)
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Here, Ubran Dictionary should be able to explain it, haha:
http://www.urbandictionary.com/define.php?term=Peace-up&defid=1391186
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Does anyone have any ideas on how to keep a relationship fresh? Like what activities could be done(expensive and inesxpensive)? I need help because I don't want my realationship to fall apart. (link)
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Well, trying limiting the time you guys spend together, me and my old boyfriend whenever we did this, we'd only spend time together like 2 days or so a week, so then whenevr we would see eachother, we'd have missed eachother and the time we spent together would mean alot more cause we knew we wouldn't see eachother for another 4 or so days.
And whenever you two go to hang out, maybe go to the movies, if there's any fairs or amusment parks go to them, go to the beach if there's one nearby, go swimming at the local pool or your own pool, sometimes what me and people do is we just walk around in giant eagle and we'll run around and play it tag or something and just act like little kids and we'll buy weird stuff at the dollar store and walk around with it all day and run around. You could also go out to dinner somewhere, or go to the mall together, or go play laser tag or go mini-golfing or driving go-karts. And whenever winter rolls around, you can go snowboarding/skiing, make snowmen, sit near the fireplace and just watch a movie with hot chocolate, have snowfights, maybe even go ice skating.
It all depends on the season, really. Like in the fall just act like two silly kids and run around and go trick or treating together, maybe or go to a Halloween Party somebody might be throwing.
And try buying eachother stuff that you both can go to and enjoy. Like, buy tickets to a concert, make a photo album of stuff you guys have done together, etc. Maybe even plan a special dinner for him at home. Like, don't tell him what you're doing, just tell him to come over your house around 8 or something, and then whenever he walks in, you could have a little table with food you made on it. Or even go out and have a picnic while the sun sets if you want to be real romantic. :]
Sometimes you just have to be a little random and have fun. Like I remember one time me and people were just hanging out, and I think we were talking about Hulk Hogan I forget, but then we just all started wrestling and it was so much fun.
I hope I helped.
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school is starting for me tomorrow and i need some advice on how to take on people who make fun of me.the school i go to is 7-12 graders combined in one school.and theres one perticular guy i can't stand.his name is nick and i used to have a crush on him.but then i found out he was a real jerk.now he makes fun of me saying i wouldn't date you in a million years.and when he would pass me he would make a barfing noise.and he makes fun of me and my bf cause we're such an odd couple.people say he's a freak and everything.he makes very rude remarks about us.and i can't just ignore it cause i've done that before and he doesn't stop.and i want to tell him off but i don't know how.my sister has stuck up for me for years but now i can barely see her so i have to face him alone.what do i do?
sorry this is long. (link)
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Well, that's what guys sometimes do whenever they have a crush on you. They make fun of you and tease you and they'd especially do it to your boyfriend, but don't go assuming that just yet. He could also just be a gigantic jerk. The next time he does it, I would just be like,"What's your problem? Am I really that important to you that you feel the need to make all these stupid remarks to me and my boyfriend every single day? If you wouldn't 'date me in a million years' that obviously shows you don't like me, so stop making remarks about me, stop looking at me, just leave me alone." And just walk away. If the remarks still continue, I would suggest taking it up with the principal or guidance counselor or someone and have them talk to Nick. This Nick kid sounds really immature, and I hope it all stops, and I hope I helped.
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well on wendesday school starts and i got my period yesterday and most of the time i have it for 5 days. so i really dont want to have my period on the first day of school. so does anyone have any ideas ..how can i stop my period one day earlier?? please help (link)
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Ha, if only you could control your period to make it stop a day earlier, but sadly, you can't. Just put a paper bag or something inside your bookbag and put some tampons or pads in there to last you throughout the day. What I do is every 3 classes or so, I'll ask to go to the bathroom, and I'll grab the paper bag, and go to the bathroom and check. And if I need a new one, I just change it in the stall and put the bag back in my locker, and continue on to class. Just don't wear white pants, haha. :P I hope I helped.
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im 15 hes 17 were both really shy but im the kinda shy that doesnt get noticed alot but hes popular, my friends think we could be a cute couple but everytime we hang out we never talk, how can i start talking him so that maybe i have a chance with him (link)
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Well, just pretend like he's one of your friends [ don't ACT like he's a friend, just talk to him like you would a friend ] and ask him how his day was, what did he do, did he take that hard test in English, etc. And then start going off into other topics like what kind of music does he listen to? What his favorite band? Ask him what his hobbies are and what he likes to do, and once out, maybe invite him to hang out with you sometime. [Ex: He LOVES going bowling. Just be like,"Well, hey, we should go bowling together sometime. You can teach me!/I'll kick your butt!"] And then the next time you two see eachother after you hang out, you already have a starter conversation like,"Bowling was so much fun on Saturday! Hahaha, I totally beat you./You totally beat me. But don't worry, my game'll improve, and I'll beat you someday. :P" Which'll sort of initiating another hang out possibly. Another thing to talk about is maybe favorite movies, books, etc. Then, after awhile the conversation should just start flowing and you'll be able to talk about whatevers on your mind. I hope I helped.
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my friend keeps telling me im a fuck buddy with this guy, and i kno he doesnt use me for fooling around... its me who usually begins everything and i kno he couldent jus resit, ya kno.. and he calls me to hang out and times we dont do ne thing.. and everytime im with him its like we going out but i woldent go out with him. so is this " fuckbuddies"?? (link)
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Well, if you two aren't going out or having a relationship together except a sexual relationship, then yeah, you two are, or as also known "friends with benefits". So yeah, he might not want to do anything everytime, hence, just the "friend" part. And then whenever you two start to do stuff, obviously, the "benefits" part comes in. I hope I helped.
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I was going out with this guy and then i told him i just wanted to b friends for a little while and give it a break .. well then like the next day i talked to him and he said he was goin out with my step sister.. what should i do???because it really makes me mad she done that and i dont think she really likes him she just dont like me very well and she wants too make me mad
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Hm, it sounds to me like he's probably just trying to make you mad, like your step-sisters trying to make you mad. I guess you could try to forewarn him, but I would be very careful with your words, because if there was a chance he WASN'T dating her to make you mad, he could get upset which would only make things worse. I would just be like,"____, I just got to tell you, you know my step-sister, right? Well, obviously. But uh, she doesn't like me very much, and I'm just worried she might be trying to date you to get me mad, ha, and trust me, it's working. But, I still like you and everything, and I just don't want her using you or something to get at me." [ or something like that ] And if he doesn't break up with her or anything, then there's nothing else you can really do. Just wait awhile and see what happens, and then maybe try asking him if he REALLY likes her or what's going on with them. [ and if you want to go out with him again & depending on his answer ] Just let him know you really like him again and you'd like to get back together. Boy, your step-sister sounds like a peach. I hope I helped.
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i hate my self because i have hairy arms.. i never wear t-shirts even if it is 90degrees because i just hate it.. i hate my body .. what do i do ???????? (link)
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Everybody has hairy arms, so it's completely fine. It's just that some people's arm hair is more noticeable than others. [ I'm a blonde, so mine barely show ] but if they ever start to, what I do is just shave them. Alot of my friends do it too, so it's not like it's weird or anything. And nobody even mentions anything about it. Like the other advicenators said, if you want to wax, that's an option, but that might hurt. What I do is just use an electric shaver and go over it, and it works fine for me. I hope I helped.
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heyy:)
how do i get my bangs like hers
http://viewmorepics.myspace.com/index.cfm?fuseaction=viewImage&friendID=1334341&imageID=719403156&MyToken=9c335ffb-0586-4133-8e5b-9855582aaeba (link)
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Well, if you want to get your bangs like hers, it depends on where your part is, because hers is a little more over on her left side, so you might have to move it if it's not already there. I'm not totally sure how her bangs curve like that, because I don't know anybody whose had their hair like that, and I don't have it like that either. But I'd suggest printing up that picture and taking it to your hairstylist and showing her the picture saying you want that. And, since you have her myspace, why not just message her and ask? Cause if she even lives in your area, she can tell you which hairstylist she went to so you can go get it done by the same person. I'm sorry I couldn't help you more with how to get that hair, but I hope I helped.
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ok well you know jessica in season 2 well why is she also in season 3 of laguna beach? im really confused lol thankss. (link)
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actually, i was watching the re-run of the first season, and she was in it. i think she was one of the guys girlfriends, and plus, friends with kristin. on season 2, of course, she was a senior and she was kristins friend, and on season 3 her and cameron are friends [possibly more from the way she talks of him] and so she's linked to him and there's the whole kendra/jessica drama happening because of cameron because jessica thinks kendra's jealous whenever cameron gives her no attention. but anyways, i assume jessica either is going to a college or something nearby, or didn't go at all so she's there to hang around. because kristins other friend Alex has shown up a few times too talking to jessica. i hope i helped.
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ok so theres this guy one of his friends keeps asking me if he were to ask me out then would i go out w/ him soo i guess he likes me but he doesnt even talk to me we went out one time nd we barely talked i do like him but i like this other guy too nd i dk what to do i dont want to hurt his feelings but hes so shy we never talk when i really liked him he wasnt interested nd this year all of a sudden i change my look nd got more popular he likes me so i dk....his friend keeps asking me if i like him nd stuff but i never kno what to say we talk online fine but when we're at skool he doesnt talk to me he gets nervous nd quiet nd stuff help! (link)
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Well, if with the first guy, you guys hardly talking is fixable. Just the next time he comes up to you, or you go up to him, just strike up a conversation about school, music, whatever and get to know him better. And just keep talking to him daily and I'm sure he won't mind since likes you.
With this second guy, he doesn't sound that great to me, now I know you like him, but come on. He suddenly starts liking you once you change your look and become more popular? If he didn't like you BEFORE, then your looks and popularity is probably the only thing he likes about you. Cause what if you weren't popular? Would he still like you? He didn't before, so I think not.
So, my advice is to try and go after this first guy and get to know him better and ask him to hang out with you sometime like, at the movies or something. And try and choose a funny one cause if you two are laughing, then you'll probably be feeling more relaxed and less nervous, and then there's lots of funny moments to talk about! I hope I helped.
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my boyfrind an i like to talk on the phone alot lately cuz we're not able to see achother as often as we would like. we would talk for like 3 or 4 hours at night whil we play on the computer or watch tv. we likes to play the MMORPG daiblo 2. he owns a clan, whatever that is. he sometimes has to do something on there that would require both hands so he'd have to put down the phone. i understand that. he says that he'll be right back. but a few times he forgot that he was on the phone with me after he does that. i waited at least an hour last night but he never came back. i fell asleep with the phone on my ear waiting for him. is something wrong that he would just forget about me or am i over reacting? (link)
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Haha, there's no way you're over reacting. If my boyfriend did that to me a few times, I'd get upset too. What I'd do is the next time you guys decide to talk on the phone, just be like,"I know you're not forgetting about me on the phone on person, and it was fine maybe the first time or two, but I really wish you'd stop cause I don't like sitting there waiting for you for an hour, and winding up falling asleep with the phone next to me at night.
Just try and figure out I guess you'd say, a "schedule" with him. Like, he can talk to you on the phone for 3 hours, and then he can play video games for 3 hours and then he can call you back if he wants. Or just tell him that if he's going to start playing video games and needs both hands, to just have him call you back whenever he's finished with doing what he needs to do.
He just needs to learn to balance his time between his girlfriend and his video games, cause obviously trying to do both at once isn't helping.
I hope I helped.
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My boyfriend and I have been together for about 2 years. He's 18, I'm 17. Tonight my parents were supposed to be playing in a band about 2 counties over and we were taking a shower together. (Note, nothing more, I'm sure that my mom fully realized by now that we had probably seen eachother naked before.) Still, my parents forgot something and came back, and found us. Made it very clear that it was unnacceptable and I am not allowed to see my boyfriend again.
Now, I realize that this might seem reasonable on my parents part, but they have to understand that I am almost 18, I am going to college, and *GASP*, I might even see my boyfriend naked...and down the road, I might see other people naked. So they're at the gig right now and my boyfriend left, and I'm not sure what to say when they get home. Help? (link)
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Even though, yes, you're getting older, you're parents will always think of you not doing that stuff, and not allow you to. You know that saying,"While you're living under my roof, it's my rules." So just explain to your parents exactly what you said to us. That you're getting older, and you're going to college, and you're going to be doing and experiencing stuff, but still apologize nonetheless for your actions while under your parents roof, and it won't happen again. [ but you never promised you wouldn't do anything under other people's roofs haha ;x ]. But they have to start learning the decisions you're going to be making as an adult, and what you do. But you just have to respect their house rules to, and just haha start doing that elsewhere unless you want to get caught again. I hope I helped.
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Is lipgloss, lipliner, eyeliner, eyeshadow, mascara, foundation, and concealer too much for a 10th grader?
I haven't seen other girls wear this much makeup.
Is this too much makeup for my age? [15]
It's not caked on or anything... I'm just wanting your opinion. (link)
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Mm, like of the other girls said, lip liner might be a little much, and you don't even really need it since you're wearing lip gloss. I wear foundation, eyeshadow, mascara, and eyeliner, and I think that's fine, and I'm in 10th grade. It all just depends on how much you put on. Don't put any of it on heavily, and you'll look fine, and sometimes if you do it well enough, it barely looks like you're wearing any makeup and it's all just natural. I hope I helped.
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k, so me and the ex. we dated for over 2 years. he broke up with me because he thought we were too serious. it's been about a month now, he's over it. i'm not. what are things i can do to completely get over it, besides hang out with friends (they all work a lot), find another guy (im not interested yet), or write. please help me. (link)
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That happened to me too once, I know it really hurts and it's really hard to get over him and keep your mind off of him. Just, whatever reminds you of him, songs, pictures, whatever. Just put them away for awhile and don't listen to them or look at them. And all else I can really say is just go on and live your life. Do things you've wanted to do lately, go shopping, exercise, draw, pick up a new hobby maybe, read a book, do some community service, buy a new really hard video game, etc. It's not that easy at first, but then after awhile, you'll start to think of him less and less until one day.. gone. I hope I helped.
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I had my boyfriend over one day. We were watching a movie. And I can't stay still during a movie... that's not of my interest.
And besides that, my dad suddenly got into a discussion with him about speakers.
And it seemed like they're rather talk alone... So I left the room for a few minutes to go on the computer.
Later, I found out that offended my boyfriend. He wanted to hold me and when I suddenly left to go on the computer. He somewhat felt the computer was more important than him.
What I did ... was that really rude?
I apologized, but I don't know...
What else could I do?
He means everything to me.
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No, I don't think you were rude, it was just a misunderstanding. Explain to him that whenever he and dad were talking about speakers, you felt they wanted to talk alone, so you decided to leave the room for awhile. And tell him there's noway the computer means more to you than he does, and that he means everything to you. Invite him over again to watch another movie and just spend the whole time together and hold eachother just like he wanted to do, and don't get up or anything again if him and your dad get in conversation, haha. :] I hope I helped.
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how do you put colors on your advise colums? (link)
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Do you mean like the colors I have on mine? What I did is I jsut went to google and typed in "Color Cube" and went to the first link and they'll show you all these colors. And then you go to the column settings on your advice site and then wherever the color codes are, you just enter the color codes from the Color Cube site onto it, and then set it and check it out! :] If I didn't make much sense, message me back again or IM me or something, but I hope I did & I hope I helped.
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