*Cheers*
Go you!
Yes. You did the right thing. He deserved to be beaten up after what he said to you. That's really icky of him. Lol.
But as I said, Go you! *cheers* =)
As for helping with your problem...that's what we're here for. =)
-Siren =)

If you can trust him, and you can trust you, AND you want to stay tied down to someone you can't see everyday, stay with him.
This doesn't really compare, but my boyfriend's in Vegas and not coming back until late August. I'd trust him with my life, and he trusts me, so we're not taking a break or whatever from our relationship.
My mom and dad had just met, fell in love, and dad was in belgium for 2 years. They stayed together.
It's really a trust issue, though. Can you trust him not to cheat on you? Can he trust you to do the same? If so, stay together. Don't see other people; it might weaken your relationship.
The final decision is obviously yours, but I'd vote for staying together.
-Siren =)

Human? I have no idea. I think elephants have the largest ones in general, though. Not sure about that, so don't hold me to it.
-Siren =)

Probably slang for something slightly obscene...I have no idea about the "figgity fat pockets". Chicken salad also probably slang. I dunno what possesses people to create these slang terms...but...*shrug*. Guys get erections when they're sexually aroused. TV is television. Tele...and vision. Unless you mean actually spell "T V". I'm not sure phonetically. Look it up. *Shrug*
Hope I helped...Lol
-Siren =)

Some people have trouble balancing friends with boyfriends. It's a skill people have to develop. Talk to her about it, tell her it's bothering you, and see what she says. She might not realize she's doing it, or that it's bothering you. If something's bothering you, you gotta open your mouth. No one can read minds, so you have to say it aloud.
-Siren =)

Just gently remind her that you're there for her, and that she can tell you anything. You won't judge her.
I have a friend who's really depressed lately, too. I just always tell her "Come on. You know you can tell me anything. I'll always be here for you, and stuff" and she usually, after a little coaxing, spills it all. You just have to stay true to your word and not judge her or anything.
Good luck!
-Siren =)

Let them come to you, don't push them. If they like your advice, they'll ask you directly.
-Siren =)

Heh
Classic...
Alright, firstly, home probably wasn't the best place to "have fun." But you know that. I reccomend going out. ;)
Sneaking out is not a good solution. It only lands you in more trouble. I suggest you talk to her mom. Just go to her house one day, and tell her mom you'd like to speak to her. By "had some fun" I assume you mean had sex. Explain your reasoning for doing so, and prove to her that you love her daughter and the last thing you'd do is hurt her.
No sneaking around! If you do that, the mother will think you're untrustworthy, and that's just bad.
Give that a try and see how it goes. Don't talk on the phone. Do it in person. =)
If you need more help, don't hesitate to ask. =)
-Siren =)

Ouch...
Keep in contact any way you possibly can. My boyfriend is in Vegas until late august, and I told him he has to call me every day.
So Just keep in contact. Write letters, e-mail, phone...etc. You'll be able to deal. It'll be really hard, but you'll be okay.
*Sends hugs in your direction*
-Siren =)

You can't force anyone to like you. Just do a little flirting, talk, and if it's meant to be it'll happen. If not, it won't...All you can do is leave it to fate.
Sorry I can't help you more!
-Siren =)

You will have friends wherever you go. Just be you, be relaxed, and talk to people. strike up conversations and you'll end up with tons of friends.
I mean, I switched schools out of the blue in 10th grade and I just talked to people...and about a quarter of the school knew my name. (2250 kids in the schoool.) This year, I made a few accomplishments, got a boyfriend, and now the entire school knows who I am, and I have tons of friends.
So just chill and be open to people! You'll have friends. =)
-Siren =)

Give good advice and they will come to you. You can't yank them in. If the person decides that they like your advice, they'll talk to you. Until then, keep answering questions in the pool. =)
-Siren =)

No. You're not overweight. I think you have the right height/weight ratio. I have a friend who's 5'8" and weighs 180, and she looks and feels great. So you have nothing to worry about. =)
-Siren =)

Tell him that all the signs are pointing to him actually liking you, but he's refusing to admit that he does, and you want to know why. If he won't admit to the signs pointing to it, give him proof. If that doesn't work, feel free to ask for more help. =)
-Siren =)

Try meditation, reading, listening to music, or anything that relaxes you to force yourself to fall asleep earlier.
If you wanna start with waking up earlier, set your alarm for a half hour earlier each day. Start with noon, then 11:30, etc...
that's easier. The other option is to keep staying up later and later and kind of force your cycle into a weird thing...
like stay up 'til 3, then 3:30, then 4, then 4:30...then keep going until it's the right time you want to go to sleep. That's a really nasty way of having to do it, so I reccomend the alarm. Lol. Good luck =)
-Siren

Ouch.
Yes, you can develop it. I did. I never used to have it until about 9th grade. My bedtime moved from 11pm to 4am.
To help yourself fall asleep, here's what I do. I have a boombox and headphones right next to my bed. I turn off the light, put headphones on and play my evanescence cd. I concentrate on listening to the guitar chords and trying to figure out what chords they are. Concentrating on something other than sleep makes me tired, and by the time the cd is over, I'm falling asleep.
Either that, or try meditating. Lay in your bed with the lights off and get into a comfy position, Breathe in through your nose and out through your mouth, deep. Try concentrating on walking down ten steps, and concentrating only on that fact, letting your consciousness slip away. Each time another thought trickles into your mind, go up one step and start again from there.
THAT one's hard. It takes a lot of concentration and will relax your mind. Give it a shot. =)
Hope I helped!
If you have any other questions, feel free to ask. =)
-Siren

Insomnia is a really annoying sleeping disorder. It prevents the sufferer from falling asleep, and if the person does fall asleep, this disorder wakes them frequently. It also prevents the insomniac from having a "normal" sleep cycle.
I have insomnia. My sleep cycle goes: sleep at 4:30am. wake at 12 or 2pm. Lol.
-Siren =)

Just lay it down for the boy.
Explain to him that he wasn't around, he wasn't that good, and he's really not in the band. To be in the band, you have to participate in the band. Don't be mean, just tell him the truth. He didn't help, so he's out.
Hope I helped!
-Siren =)

If I were you,
I would quit this sneaking around stuff. It's not good for anything aside form hurting people. I mean, if your husband found out you were seeing another couple what would he say? What would he do? If he's the kind of husband that would file for divorce, you'd lose him. Obviously you don't have a problem with guilt, but if I was in your position, the guilt of cheating on my husband would be eating me alive. So, to avoid hurting EVERYONE involved in this situation, stop seeing the couple. Please. The guilt's already hurting the other woman's husband. I would feel pretty bad about that.
I hope I helped!
-Siren =)

If you're not confident, guys don't usually approach you. Guys are generally attracted to confident girls. Sometimes confident can appear as stuck-up or vice versa.
Or, if you're too confident, guys will be afraid of you. Lol. There's a very fine balance. You gotta find it and you'll be fine. Don't worry about guys not liking you. It'll come in time.
-Siren =)

I'm a laid-back 26 year old with a Psychology BA, starting my MA program, and working my way into the field as quickly as I can. It took me an extra Bachelor's degree (in vocal performance and creative writing) to figure it out, but I was put on this Earth to help, to heal, and to love.

I have made the decision to dedicate my life and career to helping others. I am here to do just that.

I've been a member since 2004, and since I signed up, I've gone through quite a lot and learned quite a lot from it. I'm here to give guidance where I had none; no one should have to go through the difficulties I went through alone.

Feel free to visit my website/blog, if you want to read my experience with domestic violence and my thoughts on it.

***While I do tend to answer mental health and other health-related or medicine-related questions, I am by NO MEANS a licensed physician or practitioner of any sort. Any and all advice I give for these questions is from my own experience or studies.***

If you need to get a hold of me quickly, my screen name on AIM is SirenCytherea. Just let me know you found me here.

I'm a strong believer in the idea that there are no stupid questions except the ones left unasked, so, please, keep an open mind, heart, and mouth.

Siren

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