about

Got nothing to say. What I say about me doesn't matter, I didn't come here to talk about myself. My advice is based on what I think of your situation and what I think you should do. Duh. I'm not here to sympathise when you're wrong or sugar coat anything. I'm honest, and yes, I have been an 'asshole' before - I try to wake people up to the best of my ability, thanks. If you really want to know anything about me you can drop one in my inbox.

advice

i am a 13 year old girl and my parents r over protective i cant have a bf until i am in college i cant go to the mall wit my friends and i cant go to the movies unless i am wit my cusion or parents.when ever my friends call and ask me to go places wit them i never can. i have a bf right noe and he wants me to tell my parents about me and him but i cant?what should i do?

Tell your parents to give you your rights. Tell them you want to live your life, and that there is nothing fucking wrong with going to the mall with your friends. Tell them you are not going to start smoking crack if they're not by your side.

[view]

My friend is a suicidal massicist. She cuts her wrists. She was molested when she was younger. She also does drugs and gets drunk a lot and likes it. Her mom is suicidal and her dad is a pot head. She went to a therapist before but stopped because he was annoying and cost too much. I think her life is taking a large turn down into a huge pile of shit, but I don't know how to help her. She is insecure, clingy but outspoken and is willing to fight anyone who makes fun of her, and that is admirable. She is also bisexual which has caused other probs. Can I do anything?

Yeah. Tell her to stay strong, and not lose hope. Her dads being abusive? Call the cops. Get her rights.

She been drinking and potheading?
Tell her not to waste her life smoking her way to a death caused by stupidity.

But where the suicidal part comes in...just tell her not to give up hope. People weren't put on earth to crash and burn...wait, does she want that? Does she want to end up in a rehab center at some point? Does she really want this messed up life?

You know its her life, no one can help her in the end.

Except her. She can only help herself if she really believes that this is not the road she wants to walk and that this is not the life she wants to lead. Try and let her see that there is more to life than that. Like actually not doing illegal things, getting an education, going to college and getting a life for herself no matter what her interests are.

There's hope. There's always hope. My best wishes to you and your friend.

[view]

my mind is always racing so fast . im so stressed i fall asleep at like 2:00 in the morning . is this normal

It means you have things you need to sort out.

[view]

I used to always want to be 'cool', 'hot' 'ghetto'
junk like that. Now I am a 12 yr old punk girl, and I changed in less than a month. I started having home problems, and I started listening to rock. I cut my ankles, and make little pictures on my ankles with a knife. I tell myself it's just play, but somtimes I dont know. Really and truly sometimes I scare myself, I like being strange and literly insane. Is that a problem...

Yeah. Its called following labels, a shout for attention, being a poser, acting innocent, actually labeling yourself like a soup can and believing that listening to rock makes you a punk. Well does listening to techno music make you a fucking robot? No it doesn't. Grow up, don't look for attention, and don't follow labels.

[view]

Alright tp start this off, i`m 14/female. For about a year or so, I`ve been so down and sad/angry all the time. I never smile anymore, or things that used to be a blast too me, is no fun anymore. I don`t like hanging out with any of my firends anymore. I just like being alone all the time. Well, a few months ago my mom and dad took me to a conselour because they were concerned about me and such. They just said I needed too be on anti-depressants. I didn`t start using them right away, just recently. Well, I`m cutting myself now. I know its really bad too do and I know how stupid I am for doing it, but It just feels so right when I do it. I really need too stop or talk to somebody about it. My mom asked me what these marks were on my arm, and i told her is was eraser burns ( because they leave scars ) and she hasn`t realy noticed that more and more keep appearing. What should I tell her? I want too tell her the truth. I know she will probably understand but she`ll get really upset ( sad ) because she hates seeing me like this and i`ll feel really bad. What should I say too her?

You shouldn't be on here trying to get advice on how to hide the scars, love. It seems to me like you believe you've lost all hope. Well don't. That happened to me. I didn't do what you did. If you truly want to find a solution, no not to hide your scars, but to true happiness, you will. I just think that you are too bored with your surroundings, and that maybe you should try and convince your parents to send you off to another town with a cousin or something. Meet a few people there, do a few activitites. If suddenly you find it fun, then its obvious that you have stopped liking your friends back home. And if thats not it, then I'm telling you, and I hope that you think about it hard, for you, not me, that you try more than once to try and be happy. More than once. You don't just try once and go: Oh look it hasn't worked, bully for me.

No. You don't do that. Your parents care about you and I'm sure other people do as well. But still, what you do is for yourself in the end. Do you really want these scars for the rest of your life? Or do you really, truly want to live like this everday?

Think about it. Drop me a line if you need anything. I truly wish you good luck...try and not lose hope, okies? =].

[view]

I have an oppsetion i have to mow the lawn everyday my parents are really worryed about my problem what should i do?????

Some people like to pick their nose.

[view]

im a cutter. i have scars all up and down my arm. only 2 people know about it. but every time i see my boyfriend i have to cover it up, and make sum sort of excuse. i HATE lying to him! i feel like i should tell him, but i dont want him to think im crazy and dump me! but like.. i cant stop cutting. its always been my way of calming myself down...

Continue cutting your way to calmness till you die of razor infections and blood loss.

[view]

i feel like i'm going into depression.. my life seems like its getting worse everyday! i lost my b/f recently n nothing seems right! i will NEVER cut tho! but i dont no.. what should i do?

Put your head in a toilet and flush. Or try and work a solution for everything because if you make enough effort, there's always a solution.

[view]

I just went to the dentist and he gave me some shots, procliaming that the lower left side of my face, upper lip and the upper left jaw would be numb, also numb by the bottom of my nose. I'm really sensitive to numbing crap and the numbness has extended to half my face and has reached my eyelid and blinking feels funny. I HATE this sensation, i can't eat anything either, does anyone know how to make numbness go away any faster? I am about to rip my face off!

Rip your face off. Duh.








Or.


Wait for it to go away.

Tough decision to make eh?

[view]

ok this is gonna sound sort of weird but lately i feel like i cant control anything really i cant control my heart or the way i look or the way i feel or any of that but i can control how much i eat im 5'6 going into 8 grade and i weigh 102 pounds and i just want to weigh 98 idk why but 2 me thats how i feel i should look so i just stopped eating basicially i mean its 2 and i havent had anything to eat today ill probally eat a little bit but not alot and i always feel like im getting fatter and stuff i just dont want to look like me anymore... i hate the way i look but idk why i feel like this i have the best boyfriend i could ever ask for great friends great family i guess i just feel like i have to be perfect for everyone and i think thats how everyone wants me to look so thats what im going to do i guess should i weigh less than 98? how much weight should i loose?

Your going through the 'phase'.

[view]

i used to cut for 2 years but my ex bf told after i went through a lot and he told so now im getting help...well the other day my friend came over and we were talking about cutting but i stopped so she said "well getting high takes it away like cutting does" so i got high, my friends would kill me if they found out...and theyd probably tell and i dont want that to happen...theyd probably all hate me too and i dont want that to happen cauze i love them all sooo much! but the only person who knows is that girl...help me please, what do i do?

Keep on getting high and die of stupidity cause you lost all your brain cells while you were at it. Good girl.

[view]

hey..i am g0in thr0 al0t latley..me and my bf have been fighting n0n st0p..and its scaring me..but ne ways..im almost 16..and i weigh 115..i HATE triple numbers..i want the perfect b0dy..my b0yfriend says im beautifull all the time..but thats kinda what b0yfriends r supp0sed t0 d0..i want to get down to 99..i was belimic way back in the day..but i was 0n the f0ne with my friend and i t0ld her i want t0 bec0me an0rexic..she flipped 0ut and hung up..so0oo i was like fine i w0nt d0 that..and last nite i made myself thr0w up t0 see what its like..i kinda s0rta liked it =\..well my bf said if i ever d0 ne thing "physc0" it w0uld be 0ver f0r g00d..and i was w0nderin w0uld he n0tice if i g0t t0 99..and if ne 0ne else w0uld n0tice..well i neEd helP! =(..MaNdiE x0

Lyk, ohmahgad. YOU FAT ASS, YOU!

[view]

ok im not sure if this subject should be mental illness. but have any of you heard of the tidy-bowl-man?? the guy that lives in the toilet. my mom used to say he swims there and comes to getcha when i was really little. but then someone else i knew said they feared so have any of you heard about him? sry its long and stupid but i was wondering.

He's real, thats all I'm gonna say. DONT MAKE ME!

[view]

I know this is going to be long, so sorry. But I will rate you high even if you answer!!

Well, I have a feeling that I could be a lesbian. And it's really difficult and I know that I'm going to have to wait and see if I actually am. The thing is I feel so much more comfortable around girls, and I actually have my eye on this one girl from my school. But the thought of getting married to a girl and not a guy makes me feel sick. And I just get this feeling when I'm around guys like Wow i'm so embarassed/nervous, But then I get this feeling like ohh YAY i'm so glad im here when I'm with girls. It's just everytime I like a guy, I only like him for like a week. Is there a chance I could be lesbian, or do you think it's just a phase? Please help!!

You might think that you're liking girls more if you feel weird around guys. Most girls do.

[view]

I've had a friend for 6 years now, and we've met these two other girls. She's been REALLY mean to me because she's less popular than me and wants them to hate me or something. I know if I talk to her she'll pretend she doesn't know what I'm talking about. And to top it all off, our moms are best friends!
-Friend or Foe?

Jealous friend.

[view]

School has been going for about a week and things aren't exactly going very fast!
I am usually pretty populiar but now no 1 wants anything to do with me!
I dunno what to do cause i have like 5 friends out of 600!
What can i do to make it easier on me to make friends????

Walk around with lyk, a thong on yer head and a sign on ur bakc tht sez: 'im not popular nymore!!1...omg. Give me a kick up the rear 2 giv me a boost up da social ladder?'

[view]

There is a girl at school who I like its just that I think she has headlice and I want to hang out with her but I dont want headlice. Shes funny and kool I talk to her on the internet all the time its just that I dont want to get headlice. A little help here!

Go on Oprah, and share your devastating story with the world.

[view]

what are some signes that you are stalking people??? seriously i need to know..

Asking questions like that.

[view]

is it wrong to be so in love that you would die for him?

YES IT IS!










Uh, no dear, its not. Unless you're still all raging hormones and such.

[view]

ok i wrote this like b4 but i was wondering..

see i have a bf namd chris.. who i love with everything i can love someone with.. ive been with him for 9 months (i knew him for 3 years prior to that) and im still CRAZY about him. I want to be with him forever. I love him so much. and im 15. i would die for him and theres like 3 other ppl i can say that about. i lost my virginity to him bc i wanted to always remember him no matter where in life we went. i think about marring him and having his kids. (not now of course!) and like when i think of him ever moving away i cry! like it upsets me that much! or like if something bad would ever happen to him like say he dies.. i cry! i mean i hear ppl on here talk about love.. but i kno im in love. and with the things with my mom and how she doesnt want me to be with him cause he is black (im white) well it just makes me want to stay with him more and it makes me fall more in love with him! its like i dont care what ANYONE has to say about me and him.. i love him and i cant help it. i would do anything for him! and for me to be 15 and think like this.. well when i told my cousin about it she thought i was dumb and that i shouldnt be tied down like that. but i tried to tell her i dont want to be with no one else besides him! i want to be with him forever. and dont think im some 15 yr old girl thats talkin outta her a$$ here.. i never said this about no one and probally wont for a long long loooooong time. but im dead serious. is it ok for me to feel this way? i just want ur opinions. its not like gonna change the way i feel for him if u guys say no its not normal. but i just want to hear from you all.

thanks a bunch
Manda

Cry everyone a river,and show them how much u luv him..since you'd do anything for him.

[view]

<<< Previous Advice Column
Next Advice Column >>>
eXTReMe Tracker