that's totally normal.. i'm like below the average weight and i still freak out about it. (no i dont have a disorder)... it's just you're getting older and adapting to the world where looks are basically everything.. aka.. being a teen lol. you shouldn't worry about it way too much because you can develop un healthy habits. if you're really concerned about that fat then turn it into muscle. just remember that you are really pretty (everyone is) and you're fine the way you are. oh.. and food=friend lol.

nahhh it's indimate but overall innocent.. as long as there's no belts being undone and fluids goin where they shoudln't be then it's pure innocence.

savage garden - truly madly deeply.. matchbook romance - stay tonight... blink 182 - always... blink 182 - i miss you.. yellowcard- only one. blue october- calling you.. the calling- anything.. lifehouse- hanging by a moment.. blink 182 - first date... umm need more? lol

it'll be hard but you two can manage to keep a relationship even through long distance issues like school. if you really trust him and know he's a loyal person then try dont break up with him because yeah it will just hurt if you break up with him now. and one thing i've learned is that after you break up with someone when you're not really over them then the feelings will linger strongly.. but if you two break up then your heart can actually heal a little easier.. b/c when you break up with the feelings still strongly there then your head and heart are always just going to think about how things could have been or could be.

but anyways.. the short story is stay with him if you think that you can trust him enough next year.. im just saying that it'll be really hard though so get ready for rough bumps.

people are waiting a while now a days.. i'd give 2 maybe even 3 years before marriage.. a few months may be kinda crazy b/c after like 2 years of dating you're really familiar with the person and you'll really know if you're ready to be with them "for life". but when you're ready you should know. =]

when i was depressed i coudln't tell anyone in my family just because i know my parents and they wouldnt understand... so if you know that your mom is like that then don't tell her yet.. but if you really are clincally depressed then it would be helpful to inform her. it just depends on how well you know your mom.

you could just be going through teen pressure/stress like alot of people are now a days.. just because you're feeling like this now doesn't really mean that you are clincally depreseed (where you're 24/7 depressed). you could just be depressed or overly stressed during this time period and that could be what's causing all these odd feelings and emotions (keep in mind that your body and mind is constantly changing during these ages so anything that happens can affect you in the biggest ways). try talking things out with someone on a hotline or your best friend taht you've informed.. talkign really does help sometimes.. that or try writing it out in a journal or notebook. there's online diaries (if your mom is a sort of snooty type).. it's ok that you feel like this. you're not like abnormal or anything so don't freak out.. umm if this bothers you alot then you can try to take online tests to see if you're depressed.. i think webmd.com/ is one? keep me posted and IM me if you ever wanna talk =]. AIM:vickiooos

freckles aren't that bad =]. my freinds say that a face without freckles is a night without stars lol.. but if you really don't like them then try concealer or make-up. i think it may be with moles.. but i believe that if you go tanning or are outside alot then they form.

well usually bumps indicate cancer but i doubt that.. STILL i'd go check it out with your doctor.. dont' be shy b/c this maybe be a serious matter. there's alot of possibilities.. it could just be like a small skin overlap or stretch or maybe a small infection.. overall go check it out with the gyno.

it happens to me all the time.. after we break up he just suddenly gets to be this like "ugh" person.. give it some time and back it off with him and eventually the phase will pass.. as for the awkwardness.. yeah that's pretty common.. eventually you guys will get over that bump and the weridness won't be so weird. i'm really good friends with all of my x's now. umm as for all the weird history crap.. don't wory about it.. just give it some time and you two will somewhat be freinds or maybe even really good friends.

hmmm... well since it is a long distance relationship it is hard to trust her but that's all you do have... i mean you can't control things that you.. can't control.. .and don't worry.. even IF she's cheating with you things will be ok in the end.. everything always is.. but for the time being don't worry about it.. you're there and she's here. if you think about it too much you'll worry yourself sick about it and maybe even drive her away. i've got alot of male freinds too and we're pretty close too and i'd like kill myself is all of my former b/f's didn't understand and trust me.

maybe if you tell your best friend you like chris she'll step down? sometimes it might have to just get messy and you two might get into a fight but in the end you two will be ok.. so try talking to her and tell her that you do like chris and since she's kinda on someone else maybe she might consider breaking up with chris for you. if she's really your best freind she'd do it.

interior designer gets paid alot better.. teacher's really don't make alot.. usually people who go into teaching only do it becuse they well.. love to teach.

friends with benefits is when the two don't really want to go out or things are too complicated so they call themselves freinds with benefits.. which means they are phsyically like a couple.. (making out/hugging/kissing/sex... etc) but they are just not going out.. most of the time freinds with benefits is more or less only for lust. they just do anything that a couple does.. only when asked they're not a couple. hope i cleared that up

don't be... i'm still very good friends with alot of my friends that are gone (i'm a freshman and our middle school got split up too last year).. it reallllyl sucks but you'll get through it.. keep in touch and contact with each other often and don't worry you'll make more friends that can help you with your pboelsm.. plus you've got advicentors too lol

ok.. i think i can answer some of your questions.. well most of them... here goes. now tampons i wouldn't suggest using right away after your first few periods.. it's a pretty serious thing.. to think about the intoxication thingy and if your parents even allow it. some are losers b/c they think about "popping the cherry" or breaking your hymon (the thing that determines if you're a virgin) which is gay since you can break it in the simplest ways.. but aynays moving on.. if there's nevre any blood on the pad then you're probably not starting your period which wouldnt make it wise to stick a tampon up there (you may be hurting or touching something in there that's causing the blood)... B... i'm pretty sure you can bathe with tampons in.. they're suppose to be made for you to swim and stuff right? so why not bathing?... c.. errr i wouldnt really suggest masterbation during your period just becuase it's gonna get icky down there so i woudlnt wanna put anything else in there lol... d.. i doubt you'll have forgotten to take out a previous one.. but it might hurt a little but after a while you should get use to the feeling.. the first time may hurt just because you may be breaking your hymon.. e.. cramps are when your muscles are over working itself and are too tense so they well basically tense together for a period of time making it hard to use that muscle.. cramps during that time of the month usually occur for girls near the inner thighs or even the stomach. it just means that the inside of your body is getting tight due to i think the dropping of the egg so the body tightens up (making cramps).... f.. well pads do feel like diapers and can be a hassle to dispose of and manuver in (which is why most girls stick to pads for a while before moving onto tampons).. tampons make periods alot easier.. but there's also alot of chances that you might have stuck it in wrong (i've heard stories lol).. it can get caught on muscles or stuff.. you can stick it in too mcuh or too little.. ther's alot of things that cna go wrong with it so alot of people don't reallt trust it until they're really that sure about it or some never even use it period.. umm g.. i'm pretty positive that you can get pregnant while you're on your period.. and h... it'd be very uncomfortable b/c again your period gets you a little dirty down there so i don't know if having sex would be a wise decison.

ok.. you two were freinds so don't worry about it. if she makes a big deal over kissing then she's not worth it.. and how would you feel if she just suddenly outta the blue started going out with guys when she knew you two liked each oher? it would break her! so think beofre you decide to go a party and start making out with someone or go out with the "hotter" chick.. you've got to think about how you'd feel if you found out that she was doing that. the physical part, yes is a big part of a relatinoship but it's not the only part of it. talking and being able to just laugh and feel comfortable with each other and plenty of other things make up a good relationship.

umm you can just invite a small number of friends and have a close gathering at the movies or at home or at some special place that you guys always go to.. or you can go all out and have a nice huge party till like midnight lol.. or you can get a gang of people and go to an entertainment center, like Dave&Busters, or Gillians (s/p?) or.. hehe.. chuck-e- cheeze lol. umm you can also invite a few close friends for a sleep over and pig out and watch movies all night. that's mostly all that i can think of, hope i helped

first off.. you're married. you've made a commiment to someone else and you shouldn't forget that.. atleast if you want to get involved with this women.. break things off for sure with your wife! it's not fair to her or even if you do.. your children. secondly.. 13 years.. that's kind alot.. taht's almost a decade and a half.. it's a little risky because later on the age may make some problems and differences between the two of you..so i'll let you decide if you want to do that.. but first of all... be a man and stop going behind your spouse's back. you owe her that much.

(to figure out if he likes you): first off.. figure otu what kind of person he is.. you kinda gotta group them.. if he's one that kinda is flirtacious with alot of people and is social.. then is he different when he's around you? like with me.. i give everyone hugs and talk to anyone and everything no matter who/wat they are.. so if i did that to a guy then i'm not really sending out a signal.. BUT if i like hung out with a specific guy more than any other and always talked about them and hugged them the most and stuff.. then yeah maybe i'm al il interested in them.. same thing with this guy.. but if he's kinda well kept to himself and always more like the if you talk to them then il'l talk guy.. then does he open up to you more than others? the problem is most girls and guys.. dont stop to think about this and think.. oh yeah they're sending out a signal.. well most of the time the people are just.. being themselves.. so make sure you really think abou this.. does he act different to YOU from everyone else?.... second off.. if he is.. then drop little hints.. like with one of my frineds right now.. this guy thinks he's "so ugly" and of course my frined is like.. aww no you're not. you're cute.. haha that's kinda a big hint... also if you want.. then you can just be blunt and be like.. hey ___.. i we've been hanging out alot lately and i think i'm starting to like you.. do you like me? sometimes being blunt works.. hope i helped.

well are you not happy just in general? or are you just not happy with him? because if you're not happy with yourself and everything around you then your "boyfreidn" may make things either worse or better.. worse by giving you more stress or something else to wory about (making you more miserable).. OR be a joyous thing that turns your life around. if that's the case then it's up to you to decide which would be the end result.. i don't know teh guy and you so i can't really help you pick which outcome would happen.. BUT if you are just not happy with HIM in that sense then it's ok.. you might have some maybe commitment issues or you're just not ready for a boyfreind right now.. wait things out and see how it turns out. if you get happier with him maybe then give it a shot. if not then its best to just stay friends.

this site has been down for a while but i'm starting it up again. i've been really busy with school work and other activities but now you can ask me questions again.


anyways about myself, i've gone through alot in my life and it's all made me stronger so i can relate to nearly any situation. i really love people. when i get older i do plan on doing something in this sort of field, maybe psychiatry. i'm currently a junior in highschool and i devote all of my time to either my friends, theatre, or school. yeah i'm sort of a nerd. if i can't get on here to reply to your questions and its urgent then you can always feel free to IM me on AIM and i'll try to help you on there. i'm basically always on.

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