Hi, my question is a little complicated, but here goes. I've lived with my boyfriend for 7months now. Because of where we live, I cannot let my 6 year old son go outside, and can't walk anywhere, like the corner store or anything like that. I have no driver's license so I can't drive where I need to go. I have to depend solely on him to even take my son to the park. My only other option is to move back to my home state, 1300 miles away. In my hometown, I have unpaid traffic tickets (over $900 worth), and I will more than likely go to jail and risk losing my son when I get there. what do I do? stay here and be miserable in this house 24 hours a day, or go back and risk a few days in jail? I love my boyfriend very much, but he refuses to move out of this place, and I can't keep seeing my son suffer. Please help me decide!!
anonymous -
Get a part time job.
Since your son is 6 years old, he should be in school, and I'm sure they have a day care program or center he can stay if your work schedule differs from his school schedule. But try to opt for something similar so after work you can pick your son up.
There is always public transportation also to get you to and from work, and to and from his school.
By getting a job, you can save money for a car and maybe even pay off those unruly parking tickets.
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My 9 year old cousin is coming up tommorrow. Any ideas on how to amuse her for a few hours? I was thinking maybe giving her a little makeover, or something.
anonymous -
Makeover, fashion show, and a camera to take photos for a "photo shoot". :)
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I've got an interview tomorrow and I need something impressive to wear. Normally I would wear slacks and a long sleeved collar shirt but what should I wear now that it's so hot? Thanks, I rate. :)
anonymous -
Maybe a short sleeved collar shirt with a dressy cami underneath? Also instead of pants, maybe a knee length black skirt will do :)
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OMG- THIS IS A SERIOUS QUESTION. I SWARE IT IS. OK, HERE GOES:
WHENEVER I POST A QUESTION , it always gets deleted. it's not that it's inappropriate or it has been asked a bajillion times. I'm getting really frustrated, and i need advice quick!!
PS-The help link does not answer my question
anonymous -
I think it may be getting deleted because you can find the answer to your own question yourself like on search engines or vice versa, or it has been rated a 1 numerous times by other moderators on the site.
It's happened to me before too, so don't worry. If you want a direct response to your question, my best bet is to ask a columnist directly by dropping a note in their inbox.
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im with this guy and like he is a great boyfriend and stuff but like i always have to go see him and he makes me feel like he doesnt want to see me sometimes but like i know he cares. my 1st question is- so is it okay if let myself keep going on with this?
the other day (friday) i spent the night at his house and on saturday everything seemed fine then when we left to go hang out with our friends something started bothering him and i told me it was about his mom and i couldnt really help so i let it go. but then we got back to his house he was fighting with his parents & i was eating sonic at the table with his bro n he said something funny and jose heard his name when i started laughing so he thought that his brother was taking about him and i was laughing about it. so he got all mad and said that i loved it when people talk about him and i said no and i didnt want to argue with him so i went outside. then he grabbed me and begged me to go back in the house and i did then he said something rude again so again i went outside. then my mom pulled up like right after he came after me n i went inside to get my stuff and he hugged me for what seemed like forever and he whispered in my ear "im sorry, im sorry" and gave me the sweest kiss i have ever expeirienced. so my 2nd question is- is okay if i forigve him just like that?
im a 14 year old girl
anonymous -
I think it's okay to forgive him, but make it clear that he needs to stop jumping to conclusions. Ask him why on earth would you do anything to hurt him? Especially by laughing? Sheesh.
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My parents have officially said that I can have the name as "going out" with someone. There's this guy I've had my eye on for a while, but he has turned me down on several occasions. We're not exactly friends, and I haven't exactly asked him out. He knows I like(d) him and he's kinda weirded out by it. At the next dance should I ask him to dance?
(oh, I'm 13/f)
anonymous -
There's no harm in asking, but after your numerous attempts to get at him, I think it's safe to say he doesn't like you. You wouldn't want to increase that awkwardness, so I'd probably advise for you to move on to someone else who likes you as much as you like him.
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A week months back I was informed my friend gave someone else a hand-job. She's 14. I know, to some people this is normal, but we live in a nice small town where nothing like that ever really happens. Here it's different. I asked her if there was anymore and she 'swore on her music' I told her to never let him back in her house again because she claims he forced her into it. (She's in love with music, anything that has to deal with music). SO, naturally I believed her. Yesterday I found out new information. She had given a hand-job twice, a blow-job one, made out alot and let him feel her up. She never told me. She claims that she's scared, I would be too. I'm so mad about her not telling me. I'm her 'best friend'? Why don't I feel like it?
anonymous -
First off, by you restricting her from this guy gives her the impression that it's wrong. So if it were to continue, she would not tell you. Why? She's afraid of getting into deeper trouble with you and scared that you will criticize her like you already did.
I know you were only trying to look out for her because the jerk forced her into it, but really, telling her not to do it isn't enough to prevent it from happening. If she's a type of person that is a push-over and cannot stand up for herself, I suggest you take action and talk with this guy and tell him to back off. That or even go with her to tell her parents; they should understand because it's not her fault if he forced her. You could even get the police involved to file charges against this guy for making her do something against her will. But if she is capable, let her do it herself. After all, it's her problem and she needs to deal with it.
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I have been wondering if the person you like or you keep thinking who'll end up with you in marriage would usually be the person you'll really get married to. Because in my situation, I've always thought that he'll be the one and don't get it wrong, I have deep feelings for him. But there's this another guy who last time cares for me but now i think not anymore. i just think. But I'm afraid maybe the person i think would be the one for me, wouldn't really be? I know it sounds complicated but it's really giving me a problem. Pls. help me.
anonymous -
It depends on how long you've been with the person, how well you know the person, and how well they know and treat you.
Re-evaluate both guys, ask yourself: what do I want out of a husband? Does this guy fulfill those standards?
If you've only known him for two years or less, it's still too early to be thinking about marriage. Get to each guy better and thoroughly...you will never know if the guy you marry will be the "right" one, but that's a risk all of us have to take.
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whats summer school like? i think i might have to go this year, it'll be my first, no duh. im in 8th grade. and its probably diffrent throughout the country/world, but any one answer please. and if your from georgia and specifically north fulton county then answer my question cause thats where i am.
anonymous -
What is summer school like?
It's just school in the summer, period.
Usually the days are shorter than regular school days, but that's about it.
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I am so Pro-Life and the "N" word hurts me so much when people say it!! and I am like so oppinionated as it is, but i cannot just sit by and let people say abortion is alright, and/or let them say the "N" word around me! it hurts so much! any tips on what to say? or anyone feel the same??
thanks-
Kelsa
Kelsa -
If you want your opinion to be acknowledged and respected, you must do the same for those for the opposing argument. Realize that you learn most and better understand a subject by listening and taking into consideration the perspective of the opposing platform.
As for the N-word, it's used so casually these days. Usually it's not used against African-Americans anymore for the racial bias policies, but I hear it more often used referring to friends or "homies". Like I hear white guys all the time look at each other and say, "Hey nigga, wassup?!?"
But if it bothers you that much, stand up for yourself and say something!
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Whell, I just started going out with a guy, and whell I want to make him feel really special and great..what are some little things I could do that would make him feel wonderful (besides sex and things of that nature heh) Also what are things I can say that wont scare him so early in the relationship but that let him know that I am happy I have him...
thanks
anonymous -
Make him a crafty card that expresses how you feel about him.
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hi...i really need help. i am on a dance team and they told me that i had to lose weight. this was about a year and a half ago. right when they told me that i had to lose weight to stay on the team i started getting ideas that i was too fat. and now i think im fatter than fat. so during that i year i decided to skip a meal to see if that would help but then i started to skip 2 meals and now im not eating at all. my best friend keeps saying that im anorexic but i dont want to believe it and i dont think its true. either way i am really scared because im losing weight really fast and all but i dont want to lose it this way and im scared that im going to die or something. i dont want to tell my parents so i dont scare them so what do i do......PLeASE HELP ASAP!!!!!!!!!!!!
anonymous -
If you are not eating at all, you are definitely anorexic, whether you choose to believe it or not. And of course, if you keep up with this, you will die...of starvation that is.
To put it simply, since you are depriving your body of needed nutrients and calories, your metabolism has plummeted. What does this mean? Once you start eating again, you're going to be gaining pounds as fast as you lost them. You're metabolism has to be fast in order to burn fat, and to make it fast you have to eat and exercise. Where when you starve yourself, your body reacts to food by storing the fats as a defensive mechanism in case you choose to starve yourself again. It's just trying to keep you alive dear.
To be healthy, and lose weight, it's old fashioned and simple...
EAT HEALTHY AND EXERCISE AT LEAST 3-5 TIMES A WEEK.
To boost your metabolism, gradually start eating again and drink green tea.
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I'm a lacrosse player (female) and it is my first year. I just started to become athletic, and since I'm running so much, my toes/feet hurt a lot if I run a lot. Is there anything I can do to get used to running a lot so my feet don't hurt as much? Thanks so much!
anonymous -
It may be the lack of support in the shoes or the shoes may be too big or too small. That's where the problem usually lies.
But if you're certain it's not that, try stretching for at least 10 minutes prior to the game/practice. Since it's focused on your feet, spread them out, wiggle your toes, etc.
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Today in English we were reading some story about something to do with someone having a disability wanting to play golf. He had trouble walking and had to use a cart to get around to the hole while everyone else had to walk (obviously I wasn't paying much attention). But, towards the end of class my teacher brought up a good point about what the word "fair" meant to us.
Her question was, "Is being fair treating everyone equally, or giving lea-way to those with disabilities so they can be like everyone else.
I was wondering what it meant to you guys.
anonymous -
Hey, this kind of resembles an argument on affirmative action where certain social groups are given advantages because of the category they reside in.
I think that being fair is treating everyone equally regardless. But with groups like the disabled, it's obvious that we have to accomodate to their needs, but they should be given equal opportunities and be treated the same as every person out there. However, if the disabled person were mentally disabled, we may have to treat them differently for their sake.
"We hold these truths to be self-evident, that all men are created equal..."
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ok this might be long.. im 14/f.. im best friend who i love so much is going out with this very possesive guy.. hes always with her and always wants to be with her.. hell get mad when shes with me, and if he doesnt see her he will get mad.. they always get mad at eachother for stupid things.. and shes always in a bad mood when im with her because she knows her bf is mad.. i hate it when shes in bad moods because she never was until she went out with this guy.. i mean they dudes a great guy but hes just way too possesive.. so they got into an argument when i was at my best friends house.. my friend ran upstairs crying and i had no idea what to do.. i went up and i heard her crying so hard.. ive never heard anyone cry like that before.. she was taking all the pictures of her and her bf and throwing them everywhere.. slamming picture frames against the door.. i didnt know what to do i just hugged her.. so we went out that night.. her bf apologized and wanted to go back out with her.. and of course she said yes and they were hugging and kissing not even 4 hours later.. they are a real serious couple.. but you dont understand how pissed i was to see them like that.. i have a feeling that he knows he will always get his way.. my friend didnt know if she should go back out with him.. but she did.. i dont know but it makes me angry.. im invisible to her when shes with her bf but when shes mad she always expects me to be there for her.. and i am but she cant be doing this.. i dont know what do you think?
anonymous -
Hey, I've been through the same but I was the girl who ran back to the guy, so maybe you'll gain a new perspective here and understand what she's going through.
Being in a relationship isn't easy, especially if they've grown attached to each other. When they get into fights, sure the guy makes her angry and upset, but deep down inside she's hoping that things will work out and between them...and usually it does. She's just a compulsive person that acts upon her feelings, that's why she was acting irrational by throwing the pictures around. The reason she's acting this way is because she truly believes she loves this guy. Even if he seems like a complete jerk at times, aren't we all? Especially when we get angry, we say things we don't mean, and we do things we don't really intend to do.
As a friend, just be there for her. She's very vulnerable with this guy. One thing I suggest that you DON'T say to her is break up with him, because I guarantee she doesn't want to hear it especially from someone who doesn't understand the love she feels for this guy.
One suggestion I would give to her is to take a break between her man for a little bit. The relationship will still be there, but they need to think things out. If she's not up to that, tell her to sit down and have a talk with her boyfriend and tell them to discuss his possessiveness and temperament. If he's not willing to change for the relationship, she might as well dump him. If a guy truly loves you, he will do all he can to see you happy, even if it's to change for you. She needs to realize that, and you don't need to be stuck in the middle.
As for the guy, my boyfriend is like that in a way, but for a specific reason. Yes, the guy loves me, but he only gets to see me 2 times out of the week driving 30 miles just to see me so he wants to make the best out of it. My boyfriend used to get angry when I was around my friends too, but I talked to him about it, and settled upon a compromise that we sometimes need to live separate lives instead of living as if we were joined at the hip. I'm not sure about your friend's boyfriend, but when he's with her, he just wants to spend time with her is all...and sometimes he feels hurt when you're there because it may seem like your friend favors you over him sometimes. That leads to arguments.
He won't always get his way, and your friend will have to learn to make that clear to him. But as a friend, all you can do is talk to her about it without criticising. Be a pal.
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well ok well i broke up with my bf b/c he two timed me and so i broke up with him of corse but now i still like him and he is going out with one of my bestfriends but i know he dosent like her because he told my other bestfreind and i still like him and my bestfreind said he still loved me but should i trust him if we do get back together?
i rate high!
thanx!
anonymous -
I wouldn't recommend getting back with him so quickly. From the looks of it, the guy doesn't know what he wants; one minute he's with you, the next minute he cheats, and then he likes you again! Just move on, if he really "loves" you, he's going to have to prove it to you.
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Hi. Well, next year I'll be in the 8th grade, and I want to start a new club for females. I want to have leadership and be a good role model fo other people, and I feel that this is the perfect school year and grade to do this and this is the right opportunity to do that. Anyways, do any of you guys have names for this female club and things we should do. I would appreciate it if you guys give me some good ideas so that the club will be fun and a lot of females will want to join. Thanks for your time!
anonymous -
Fashion/Couture Club - a good activity would be to start a fashion show at your school where proceeds will go to a charity.
Key Club - they have this club in high school, but why not start it in middle school? You can do activities like community service, food drives, toy drives, cleaning up a park, have presentational speakers, etc.
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well here it goes. might be long.. well me and my boyfriend have been goin out for a year.. and i hve noticed now that i am losing alot of my friends over him :-/ bc it seems like he is all i ever have time for and the only person i am ever with. i miss all my friends alot and i dont kno what to do.. i love him alot and we hve been goin out alot.. but sometimes friends r more important but, i never get to spend any time with them... or as much as i would like.. seems like im not invited many places as i used to be and my friends jus dont hve much interest in me bc im jus the girl with a boyfriend thats no longer fun. i dont kno what to do bc i kno it would be hard to break it off.. but jus sometimes with him is jus not the best and it seems like everything i do makes him mad but i cant get mad at him. dont get me wrong we do hve some great times together but i think we might jus need to go our seperate ways but every other time i hve tried breakin up i ended up wantin him back soo bad! and i jus dont kno what to do.. please give me some help and maybe leave a sn so i can contact you
signed::
xox lover OR friends?
lover or friends -
Well, just because you're in a relationship doesn't mean that you have to limit yourself to just you and your boyfriend. Make time with your friends, schedule hangouts and getogethers to catch up on old times.
As for the boyfriend, I'd discuss this anger problem with him. Don't go accusing, insulting, or pointing fingers though, just lay out the facts. Tell him how you feel and that his temperment is hurting the relationship and you really want it to work out and that the whole point of you talking with him about it is to improve the bf/gf bond.
I went through the same thing, but I chose my boyfriend over my friends. It sounds wrong, but my friends turned into assholes, simply put haha and my boyfriend is my best friend. No I'm not exaggerating because all my friends were the ones who always had a guy around, where I was the bachelorette. But when I finally found a guy, they kinda ignored me instead of being happy for me. Don't let this influence your decision though. My advice would be try to manage both.
Here's my sn if you'd like to contact me via AIM: mylinh3o3
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Hello all~
Thank you for taking the time to read and answer this. I wanted to know if there are any cool websites that can give me cool poems, away messages, random facts, or anything worthwhile. I am on the computer a lot and would like to find sites that are new to explore. Thank You Very MucH!!! 15/f
anonymous -
http://www.badassbuddy.com (icons, away msgs)
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So I'm sorta about to be going out with this guy. My best friend, hits on everyone, including him. lately i've been trying to hang out more with him (but i haven't like ditched my friends for him) so today, im sitting behind him in math, and my "friend" walks up, and sits on his lap.This made me angry but, he didnt appear to happy about it either but is to nice to say GET OFF ME! So then, she's trying to get her hands either up or down his shirt claiming she's "cold". then. when we are leaving math, i walked out with him. she runs up the hallway, litterally, shoves him off to the side, somehow wiggles between us cutting my totally off from him! i havent told her yet that we r going to go out, cause im afraid of her reaction. how can i tell her to lay off him, without being rude?! ty in advance, i rate high/
anonymous -
Just tell her hey, remember that guy that I walked out with after math yesterday? He asked me out and we're dating now.
I don't think that sounds rude, do you?
If she gets pissed, she has no right to. It's not like you knew that she liked him anyways because she flirts with everybody!
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