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i dont kno what to do
well here it goes. might be long.. well me and my boyfriend have been goin out for a year.. and i hve noticed now that i am losing alot of my friends over him :-/ bc it seems like he is all i ever have time for and the only person i am ever with. i miss all my friends alot and i dont kno what to do.. i love him alot and we hve been goin out alot.. but sometimes friends r more important but, i never get to spend any time with them... or as much as i would like.. seems like im not invited many places as i used to be and my friends jus dont hve much interest in me bc im jus the girl with a boyfriend thats no longer fun. i dont kno what to do bc i kno it would be hard to break it off.. but jus sometimes with him is jus not the best and it seems like everything i do makes him mad but i cant get mad at him. dont get me wrong we do hve some great times together but i think we might jus need to go our seperate ways but every other time i hve tried breakin up i ended up wantin him back soo bad! and i jus dont kno what to do.. please give me some help and maybe leave a sn so i can contact you
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well if he really luvs u he will understand just tell him
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If you are wanting to be with your friends more than the boyfriend, you need a break. Usually a girl wants to be with the boyfriend 24/7. I think you are ready for a break. :)
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Your boyfriend is being controlling. Thats why you've lost everything, because hes trapped you in this relationship. Thats what happens, you need to stay broken up with him, I know you love him a lot, but you've got to let go. If he cared about you, he would want you to spend time with your friends and let you be happy wherever else you are. Not making you feel guilty for having a little fun.
I'm leaving you my screen name, and I really want you to contact me so we can talk more about this, my AIM screen name is Evanescence0o01, please talk to me about this so I can help you.
-TheTeenGirl
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this happened to me to, and i learned the hard way, my b/f ended up being very controlling, whether me goin out with him over the weekends over my friends, or who i can talk to...one thing led to another and he ended up being abusive...it was reely scary...im not saying your boyfriend is like that or going to be like that but, if he is telling you that you cant go out with your friends then thats not a good sign...be careful ok? and as for not wanting to lose your friends i understand that, because i thought i lost all my friends but then when they found out how my guy really wuz they let me back into there life...what i think you should do is talk to your guy and say that you love him very much and you cant stand to be withouth him but you need some of your own time so you can miss him once in a while, tell him with him being away it makes you realize how much you really truly love him...if he asks why you cant just spend time with him if you can, tell him and explain to him that you really need to have friend time...if he doesnt understand and refuses to let you guys have your space then he's not right for you!!!i hope all goes well! hope i helped...
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well you kno you could always try to tell him how feel! or you could like go to movies w/ him and invite other ppl! maybe set a side some time for your friends and explain to him about how your feeling!because maybe he feels the same way but doesnt kno what to say! well i hope i could help if u wanna IM me my s/n is dancergir0611 ~Kaitlyn
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dear lover or friend,
the best advice i can hive you is to invite your friend to hang out with you and your boyfriend. that way you can be a great girlfriend while being a great friend at the same time.
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ok my best friend is exactly like you.. and me and my friends get upset alot because she is ALWAYS with him.. you have to make time for your friends.. boyfriends come and go but best friends last forever.. tell your boyfriend you want to spend some time with your friends.. have a girls night and have your boyfriend over in the day or something.. you dont have to break up with him just to make time for your friends.. hopefully he will understand you.. hope it helps
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okay, about the friend issue: try inviting him AND your friends to hang out sometime. do something that involves everyone (bad ex: a movie where you 2 makeout and leave your friends wondering why they came) or just leave the boyfriend behind this time and have your friends come over for a girl's night. if they can see your still the fun-loving you, they'll definantly want to hang out more!
about the boyfriend issue: im not trying to scare you.. but this could turn into an abusive relationship. ive read many stories on which the bf is harsh on his gf and he seems to make it up so she cant let him go. well now might be the time to. get back together with your friends so you dont think about him, and then get them in on helping you find a new crush to think about.
but then again, you dont have to listen to me. my best advice is, follow your heart.
hope this helps- my sn is on my advice column
MiiCHELLE..*
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lover or friends -
Well, just because you're in a relationship doesn't mean that you have to limit yourself to just you and your boyfriend. Make time with your friends, schedule hangouts and getogethers to catch up on old times.
As for the boyfriend, I'd discuss this anger problem with him. Don't go accusing, insulting, or pointing fingers though, just lay out the facts. Tell him how you feel and that his temperment is hurting the relationship and you really want it to work out and that the whole point of you talking with him about it is to improve the bf/gf bond.
I went through the same thing, but I chose my boyfriend over my friends. It sounds wrong, but my friends turned into assholes, simply put haha and my boyfriend is my best friend. No I'm not exaggerating because all my friends were the ones who always had a guy around, where I was the bachelorette. But when I finally found a guy, they kinda ignored me instead of being happy for me. Don't let this influence your decision though. My advice would be try to manage both.
Here's my sn if you'd like to contact me via AIM: mylinh3o3
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Hi!! It looks like your in some serious trouble! Balancing friends and a boyfriend can be rly hard. Just try to spend some time with your friends and some time with your boyfriend...keep it evely balanced. If you find you and your boyfriend drifting apart more than maybe the best thing you can do is just break it off. You may feel like you want him back but if you rly feel that you strongly need to go your separate ways just explain to him that you need to take a little time being single. Do a lot of the girls around you have boyfriends?? Maybe that's why you have a hard time breaking up with him, because you want to have a boyfriend. But maybe that's not the case. If you really feel that you love him and he loves you maybe you should try to make it work. Talk to your boyfriend and tell him u think there should be more space between you but you still really love him and want to be with him. That way you get your friends and you boyfriend. Who knows maybe he'll feel the same way that you do.
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Well, try being a lover and a friend. It will be hard, but you can do it. Tell your b/f that you two should take a break for a while, and get used to life without him. Never lose your friends over a guy- it's just not worth it. If you find that you can finally get along without your man, tell him how you feel. Even if you can't, you should still tell him and if he doesn't accept it and can't realize that you need your friends too, then you should DEFINATELY break it off. He can't control your life. You are too good for him. Hope I helped!
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