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I like a guy but i dont know if he likes me he and me sneak glances at each other and he smelled me when i had perfume on. Also when I was outside sitting alone he came by and asked me do u want to hang out.So does he like me?????????? (link)
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I think he might like you. I don't know his feelings so I don't know how he feels but it does seem like he's into you.
You should hang out with him and eventually you'll find out how he feels.
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My boyfriend is awesome. I love him sooo much. He says he loves me2 and he tells the world that he loves me, but sometimes he drops hints like, "So my friends was like 'so when are you & Brianna gunna start f******.' & I couldn't think of an answer."
I couldn't think of an answer either. I sort of want to wait til I'm married because it'll be more special 2kno that I saved myself for the best, but since I am teenager & the hormones are retarted, I usually get sorta kinky around him I really want him!!! I don't kno wat 2do. Should I let him bust the cherry now or after the I do's? I do kno thoe that he doesn't just want me for that because I just kno him when I look in his eyes that he wouldn;t do that.
I'm 13 & female (link)
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It's normal to feel that way about your boyfriend but I wouldn't do it. It's just you don't want to do something you'll regret right? Losing it at the age of 13 wouldn't be something fun to remember.
Plus you still want to wait till marriage and you're right, it would be more special. Just tell him you want to wait. If he really does love you like he says he does, he wouldn't mind waiting and wouldn't try to push it.
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So... I have known this guy for about three years. I have always had a crush on him, but was too shy to tell him. I hadn't seen him in a few months, and I basically stopped having a crush on him. But he is my friend on Facebook. Today, He posted on my wall 'You look like Kate Hudson.' I replied back, 'thanks, she is beautiful' then he posted, 'I know beautiful like you.' Of course I smiled and I kind of started to crush on him again. So he began sending me private messages. He was calling me sweetheart, saying he was going to see me, and also said he has always liked me. I told him that I used to have a crush on him too. He said, 'Why didn't you tell me? I would of asked you out.' Well, a little later while we were talking, he kept bringing us up. Saying stuff like, 'When we are both single we should go out' or 'I wish we was together.' Here is the problem... : He has a girlfriend. I feel bad because he has a GF and he is talking to me like this. I'm the type of person who believes you can cheat with words. I want to tell her, but it isn't my business and I don't even know her. Even though what he says makes me smile and feel warm inside, I wouldn't want to be with someone who would possibly talk to other girls in that way behind my back. So what I need is someones opinion. Do you think I should tell the GF and if they do break up, do you think it would be smart to go with him? By The Way, he is about to turn 17. (link)
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I'm really not sure if you should tell the girlfriend. I mean it is wrong but I'm not sure if it is your place to tell her.
If they do end up breaking up eventually, I don't think it would be a smart idea to go out with him. You might not trust him completely. You might end up having the feeling that he might be talking to other girls while he is with you right?
Even if he doesn't, you'll probably be thinking about it when something goes wrong.
Flirting is fine but he does have a girlfriend. It just wouldn't be smart to date him. I'm sure there are better guys out there.
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Everyday I dress pretty but my crush stays quiet!! help!! = (link)
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Of course guys like it when you dress pretty. He might be shy or just doesn't feel the need to compliment you. I'm sure he thinks you look pretty. Just be more than pretty though, as in personality. Be sure to be nice and sweet and just a good person overall. He'll be more attracted to you if you try to be a better person. Looks aren't everything :)
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I love my crush and I know he likes me,but somehow he doesn't want to hang with me.Is there something wrong with my looks/attitude or is it just because Im a girl and we're both in the 5th grade ( both 11 years old)? Or is it were just kind of breaking off each other? I really have a big like for tthe boy but what can I do? SOS!! :( (link)
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Don't stress out about how you look because I'm sure you look fine, especially if you know he likes you.
The only thing that would be wrong about your attitude is if you were some jerk and wasn't a very nice person but I doubt you are so I think you are fine.
Just take your time with him, he might be shy. Try talking to him more.
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My mum and dad are so controlling.
I'm fifteen years old and they wont let me out on my own. When I went on dates with me ex, they only let me go out for two hours.
How can i make them less controlling? (link)
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There are a lot of parents like that. You just need to earn their trust. You can't blame them though, you know about a lot of things that happen in this world. Two hours isn't too bad for a date anyway. There are some parents who won't even let that.
Anyway, I think you should try talking to them or just find ways to earn their trust. Good luck!
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I am going to the beach soon with my mom and her friend. my gf seems to be upset because if i dont call her text her she gets mad. i am not doing nothing wrong but cant keep my phone on me non stop. how can i get her to be ok with this? (link)
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Yeah, I'd just let her know you wouldn't be able to talk to her very much since you're going to the beach but you'll talk to her when you can.
Like the other person said, I think she just misses you. So just tell her you'll talk to her when you can.
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Hi im a 15 year old female and sometimes I feel like I want to be in a relationship. Then, days later I want to just be single. I'm currently still single but sometimes I want to be in a relationship but I do not want to get in a relationship then want to be a single again and vice-versa . so what should I do? (link)
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I totally get how you feel.
It's like you want the feeling of having someone there and all that cute stuff that comes with a relationship but there's also a lot of stressful things.
I broke up with my last boyfriend for somewhat of this reason. I liked having the boyfriend but I decided to just wait until I'm really ready for one.
Anyway, I'd just enjoy being single and if you meet a guy you just really like then you could go with him. Plus your point about getting into a relationship and then wanting to be single, you don't want to hurt the guy and regret dating him right? So it'd be a better idea to just wait.
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I really love my crush, but Im not sure to invite him or not should I or not? SOS 1 ZILLION TIMES!! (link)
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You should invite him. It doesn't matter if he does show up or not but at least you tried. It's better than thinking "what if".
So I say you should take the chance.
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I broke up with my boyfriend yesterday. I just didn't feel happy anymore. He barely made time for me like he did when we first started dating. He ignored all my calls and texts, and I just felt so doubtful that he liked me. I couldn't take it anymore. He just changed. He was so sweet and caring and loving and funny, everything to me. I kept pushing my doubts aside, fighting with myself not to break it off. And finally, I did. He didn't make any attempts to talk about what was the problem, because he's lazy. He had the time to, he just wouldn't pick up the phone. He always made up excuses as to why we couldn't hang out. His bike tire was broken. He had to do yard work. He didn't feel good. All those excuses. And when I could give him a ride somewhere, he still made excuses. I really fell for him pretty fast. I thought he did too. But I guess it was all just a lie.
so now I regret my decision. Mainly because I didn't give him another chance to try and fix things. I miss him like crazy. But he won't get back with me. He has this thing where he has rules for relationships. And getting back with someone isn't one of those rules. He's rejecting me when I promised him I'd fix whatever was breaking us apart. He said he had feelings for me but they just dwindled over time. I'm so crushed he didn't tell me. He says he's sorry and when I tell him to prove it, he's like: bye. I don't even think he ever did like me. I thought we had an amazing thing going. I shouldn't be so depressed. Yesterday was my sixteenth birthday, and even though I had so much fun, that feeling of emptiness was there. And now it's Easter. I've slept the pain away but I know it will return. He's just turned into a jerk. He's turned into a selfish arrogant jerk that thinks he's too good for me. If he really liked me, he'd give me another chance. I just want him back. I miss him so much. And I know he won't take me back. But I still long for him... (link)
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It's ok to miss him. I regretted it after I broke up with my last boyfriend. But don't try to get back with him anymore. Soon you'll be over him and you'll be liking someone else, hopefully someway way better who would treat you right.
You don't want to be with a guy who can't even make time for you. You just weren't happy, remember that.
You might miss the old times and how great it was in the beginning but people change and there isn't really anything you can do about it.
Show him you that you are too good for him. He isn't too good for you but you know you're better.
Just give it time and you'll be fine.
Good luck!
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Im 13 and all of my friends have boyfriends, EXCEPT ME. Some guys come up to me and they say "i like you" and i dont know what to say. Then weeks go by and i dont hear from them again.
I think im pretty but not like the populars pretty. So is something wrong with me? why cant i get a boyfriend? (link)
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It's fine that you don't have a boyfriend. You really don't need to have one, you're 13 and as you get older you'll get a boyfriend. At 13 it's actually kinda pointless to have.
I got my first boyfriend when I was 14. Even now I think it was kinda stupid. We only sat by each other and talked. Didn't hold hands or anything. The most he did was give me his jacket.
Anyway, don't think anything is wrong with you because you can't get a boyfriend. Sometimes it's a lot of drama and when you're young some things might happen that you don't want to happen.
If you really want a boyfriend, don't try to rush it because he probably won't be the best guy for you. Be friends with him first and see if you really like him instead of the idea of having a boyfriend. Good luck!
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I like this guy i'm not sure if he likes me he's 3years older than me everytime he's going to his friends house that lives beside me he wants to hang out he's always pokeing me of bothering me somehow he will be nice to me but to the other girl that likes him... Do y'all think he likes me??? (link)
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It's a possibility that he does like you or he could be a friendly guy. Anyway, I'd try hanging out with him more and become closer friends. Eventually you'll find out how he feels from there. Good luck!
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i am a 13 yr old female and right now guys are very complicated for me. one guy that i like likes me too but i've got a bf nd the guy that i like kind of a player. i like him A LOT! but im not sure what to do. he has hurt me(not physically) so many times that im scared to give him a chance but i really want to. and my boyfriend is huggin up on some other chick all the time and it bothers me but i don't know what to do about him. it seems like the guy that i like is the only person i can kind of trust. me and him are a like in so many ways it's not even funny. im just not sure who to go with. :( (link)
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Well I wouldn't be with either of the guys. You're not happy with your boyfriend and he's all over another girl so forget him and on top of that, you are thinking about another guy that you like more. Don't stay with your boyfriend.
Now this other guy you like, he's a player and you already know he's bad news. He's probably pretty good as a friend but anything more than that, you are probably gonna get hurt like before.
Plus you're 13 and trust me, as you get older you will have plenty other guys like you in your life. Don't stick with these guys. They aren't worth it. Good luck!
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I met a guy a short time ago and we ended up making out and exchanging numbers. I found out later that he is my friends ex and that she still likes him.
He came to my house for a party and tried to hook up with me again but I said no because my friend would be angry with me. We ended up hugging/cuddling the whole night.
My friend saw us hugging and got angry. I talked to her later and she told me that I should go for it and that she didn't want to get in the way of anything. I could tell she was still angry though. She was not acting angry and our conversation was normal. She did add in that she wouldn't hang out with me and the guy together ever again though. She would with just me or just him only not together.
She also told me that he likes me and that I shouldn't hurt him or break his heart. I am undecided if I like him as a person or just the idea of having him as a boyfriend.
Should I go for it? (link)
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If I were in your position, I wouldn't. Obviously, it's up to you though.
I think your friend still likes him and is trying to be a good friend to you by saying you should go for him.
I always put my friendships first regardless of what my friends say because at some point, it'd mess things up. Maybe not now, but it might in the future.
If you really think that you're friend does not mind at all that you two will be dating then go ahead but I'm sure you could find another guy who won't get in the way of a friend.
Also, if you do decide that you might want to give him a chance, wait until you know your feelings. You're still not sure if you if you like him as a person or just the idea of having him as a boyfriend. Figure all that stuff out before you get into something and end up regretting it.
Good luck!
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ok so i have this cousin and everytime i ask him to hang out with me he says no w/o even considering it but when my other cousin asks him to hang out with her he says yes right away. im not jealous but it bothers me in a way. should i tell him this or keep it to myself and avoid conflict? also is it ok for me feel this way or am i overreacting? please help=) (link)
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I think it's fine to feel that way. I don't know how close you guys are but I'd just talk to him about it. It's either he just doesn't want to hang out with you or some other reason. I really wouldn't know why but my advice is to just talk to him and see what happens. Good luck!
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My boyfriend chats with this other girl while we are talking and I'm not stupid I can see they are talking but he doesn't tell me. It feels like a knife in my stomach and I start shaking so I end up telling him good night and going to bed where I lay awake for hours crying. Now I know that is probably pathetic crying over a guy and all. But this is stupid. Why can't he just be honest with me and TELL me that he is talking to this girl or something. I hate her already. I've already talked to him about it last time when he said I was over reacting and I asked him to PLEASE tell me if he talking to her instead of letting me FIGURE IT OUT. Idk what to say to him today, I'm .... in a very bad mood.... should I avoid him or not... this is so messed up. He loves to say that "well I can be friends with whomever I want" I KNOW THAT OKAY GOD I KNOW!!!! But what if that girl is KILLING ME ON THE INSIDE... geez
ADVICE PEOPLE PLEASE!!!! (link)
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It's fine for him to talk to whoever he wants. I think it's fine as long as it's not like 24/7 and he's not flirting with her and stuff like that.
I guess I don't blame you on the way you feel though. Whenever I feel this way, it's mainly because I'm jealous and over thinking it all. I'm sometimes afraid that he's talking to her in a flirty kind of way.
I usually over react to that stuff because I did catch my ex talking to another girl about stuff they wanted to do with each other, if you get what I mean.
Anyway, not trying to make you paranoid but I just get how you feel.
If you bring it up to him alot, he'll probably get annoyed and you don't want to lose him right?
Let him talk to her and keep yourself calm about it. You have to trust him.
Don't be that over protecting girlfriend. Just keep calm and don't think about it so much. It'll be fine. Good luck!
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so i'm going out with this boy and he has a stalker ex girlfriend that doesn't stop calling him baby and babe she is doing whatever it takes to break us up even get my best friend into it. what do i do? (link)
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Well there is nothing you can do about it. Just ignore her. If your boyfriend hasn't talked to her already about this, make sure he does.
She's obviously jealous.
I had this problem with my boyfriend awhile ago. She would always call him and call him honey and stuff. It bugged me. He eventually cut her out of his life.
Well that is about all you can do about his ex. Good luck!
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So i have dated this boy for 3 months, until he went to Florida, and texted me breaking up with me. When he got back he got another girlfriend right away. He started texting me "i love you, i miss you" and songs, and quotes, anything sweet. But i didnt want any of that, i was trying to get over him. But then one day he texted me telling me to f off, and to stop texting him, when i never did. I showed his new girlfriend the texts, and she started crying. This has been a pattern with him, he's done this to basically all of his girlfriends. I feel cheated, and unloved. And i honestly have no idea what to do with myself, im in desperate need of help :( (link)
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Wow, what a jerk.
It's ok to feel the way you do because you clearly don't deserve what he did, neither do the other girlfriends he had.
So you need to get over him and find someone so much better. Do things to get your mind off him and hang out with friends or something. Make sure you ignore any texts he sends you or block his number.
There are way better guys out there who won't hurt you like that.
Good luck!
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My boyfriend and I haven't been going out for a long time, but I really like him.
He's very funny, cuddly, sweet, and smart. He and I share a lot of interests and I feel like we have a good chemistry. I spend a lot of time with him, almost every other day, and when we're not together we talk a lot.
But I'll admit that sometimes I get sketchy about our relationship. For one, he is very...clingy. He always wants to be all over me. Always handsy and groping me and at first it was very passionate touching but now it's getting sexual. He usually stops when I say no but starts a while later again. I sometimes think he just wants me for sex. He claims he doesn't, but I don't know. I feel weird sometimes.
Another thing is that he's always distracted. Everything is too important for him to be on the phone with me. The tv is always on as well as the videogames. He barely says a word. I express my concern and he doesn't do much about it. It's like clockwork. I just stopped calling for a day but if I don't call him we don't talk all day because he's grounded from his yahoo and Facebook.
I really really like him. I still want to be with him without being weird and naggy and trying to change him. What do I do? (link)
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So I know the feeling about thinking a guy wants you for sex. So you need to talk to him about it. If you have, do it one more time and tell him just to stop touching you like that altogether, not just during the time you tell him no.
If he doesn't listen to this and keeps it up, don't stay with him because you can't stay in a relationship hoping it will get better. For the most part, it won't change.
He probably is a sweet guy but if you don't fix this part of the relationship now, then you won't be happy.
So the video game problem. Ask him to at least talk to you for like 30 min to an hour without playing his games. Haha, my ex did that all the time. Geez, guys and video games.
Don't stress out about him because you really can't change a guy. Good luck!
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I'm 15 and I love the emo style a lot of people say I look Emo. Anyways I have never cut myself before and suddenly I got really mad at my mom for something stupid and suddenly felt like cutting, why? (link)
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Ok so one thing, cutting doesn't make you emo.
Anyway, usually people cut because it releases anger or their sadness. Like the other person said, it's like punishing themselves.
I think you should talk to someone about it. Cutting can become a habit. I've done it since I was 12 and still struggling, I'm 16 right now. It completely switched my life around. Trust me, don't start and talk to someone.
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