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My boyfriend wants to hook up.
My boyfriend is awesome. I love him sooo much. He says he loves me2 and he tells the world that he loves me, but sometimes he drops hints like, "So my friends was like 'so when are you & Brianna gunna start f******.' & I couldn't think of an answer."
I couldn't think of an answer either. I sort of want to wait til I'm married because it'll be more special 2kno that I saved myself for the best, but since I am teenager & the hormones are retarted, I usually get sorta kinky around him I really want him!!! I don't kno wat 2do. Should I let him bust the cherry now or after the I do's? I do kno thoe that he doesn't just want me for that because I just kno him when I look in his eyes that he wouldn;t do that.
I'm 13 & female
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Your feelings and emotions about this are completely normal.
The main thing to remember is that it is your life you are living alone. Nobody else can live it for you. So you must do what is right for you according to what would make you happiest and not allow others to make that call for you or you will regret it later. If you want to wait until you have sex then wait. Take control of your life.
One other thing: guys use sex as an indicator of their dominance. That is why they want it for social reasons (hormones make them want it due to genetically predisposed lust). And the natural fact is that at your age he is going to really suck at it and it hurts because neither of you are really all that in touch with not just the bodies of the other, but how to communicate with each other.
So your boyfriend wants to get laid in great part to impress his friends. He doesn't know what deeply emotional love is yet. So he looks at this as being like sports. Every batter wants to hit a homer everytime up in baseball and every guy wants to bed as many chicks as he can because he can get the approval of his buddies that way. Thus, right now, you are just the ball he wants to pound over the wall so he can get the high five from his mates and put something up on the board. That makes it all the more reason to wait a few years at least before you get intimate with a guy, one who knows his way around a woman better and can be responsible about it.
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It's normal to feel that way about your boyfriend but I wouldn't do it. It's just you don't want to do something you'll regret right? Losing it at the age of 13 wouldn't be something fun to remember.
Plus you still want to wait till marriage and you're right, it would be more special. Just tell him you want to wait. If he really does love you like he says he does, he wouldn't mind waiting and wouldn't try to push it.
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If he loves you the way you say he does then he wont mind waiting. Whether you choose to wait till marriage or not, you shouldnt give him your v-card at such a young age. Your too young to do something like that. You may be feeling it sexually but someone your age isnt old enough to understand the emotional side of it. What would happen if he got you pregnant? You wouldnt be able to take care of a baby. Srry to go all mom like on you but its the truth. So just wait a couple of more years like till your 16 or so when you can really make that decision. Good luck, and whatever you decide make sure you think it threw and understand what consequences come with it.
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