i am 22, i love helping people. I have been through alot even though i am still young. I know alot about friend problems, dating, meeting people online, seriouse realtionships, sex, computers, and even parenting. i dont know anything about music that would be one thing i am not good at. I am more than happy to help any one who needs it.
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Occupation: at home mom kind of
Age: 22
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My boyfriend of 3 years and I have been having some problems before but it has gone way too far. I don't know what to do anymore because I love him but I found out that our whole relationship has been based on a lie. I was suspicious of him one day and checked him one email and found pictures of girls in their bra and panties and bathing suits that he had been talking to. He had a wouldyouhitthis.com account when we first started dating and promised to close it. All this time I thought it was closed and I tried to get over the whole email thing. But today I just found that he has had his account open since at least July 24,2008 and has been flirting, looking at, and talking to these girls on the sex site. I don't know what to do anymore. He lied to me this whole time and told me his account was closed except he randomly opened it before christmas but then closed it. He lied, he didn't open it around christmas, he had it open since at least July 24,2008. Two days before my birthday... what a great present and I didn't even know it. He has been talking to girls still too. He said he was done after that sex site thing but then started talking to a 14 year old girl. He's 25 years old. Am I wrong for thinking that's disgusting and wrong? He was calling her hot and asking her if she would date him regardless of his age and asked her what panties she was wearing. What should I do? Nothing will change will it? Should I just move on? (link)
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move on you sound like a very smart girl.. get some time to have fun and do waht you want. he sounds like he has major problems and you dont need any part of him hitting on girls that young. just know that you deserve better and dont leave the relationship depressed leave it as starting a new life a better one. good luck
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Okay, my brother just went to jail 2 days ago for being charged with Stachatory rape. Here's the story. My brother was believed to be 20 or 19 when he had sex with this girl (who was 15 at the time) they were at a party where an adult served minors with alcohol. My brother does not remember ever touching this girl. Well she got pregnant and had the baby Dec 16 2009. when the baby was 4 months old, they sued my brother for custody. but he said it wasn't his, so they did a DNA test, and it was. now the baby is 5 months pregnant and now they arrested my brother for stachatory rape. Now with the girl who is 16 now, wanted my brother in the baby's life, but the parents want him arrested, what's the consquense for my brother?? We live in Pennsylvania. (link)
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most likely jail time. even if the girl agrees and totaly goes with it she is under age the parents are her garidain and have complete ruling over her life untill she is 18 so thus for if they want to press charges there is nothing the girl can do about it.
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does fingering hurt if your a virgin? (link)
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just dont do to many and you will be fine. it shouldnt hurt but may not feel good cause your not comfrotable with it. always trying it your self can let you know what it feels like
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Okay so I recently just got a job at a gym. I have front desk experience at a gym, so that's not an issue. But the gym I am currently employed at requires all personnel to work the kid's room for a certain amount of time before being moved to front desk. This is fine with me, but I'm a little nervous/scared. I've never really worked with small children before. I'm sure I would be able to handle it, but I'm just scared that something might happen that I wouldn't be able to handle. To add more to the nerves, there's a camera feed from the kid's room to the main office (no big), and a television in a common area of the gym, so other staff and parents can monitor what's going on. What if some parent freaks out about something? lafjfapuihf. I guess I'm just a little nervous. Is there anyone with daycare/childcare experience that could give me some advice? (link)
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just relax if any thing happens you cant handle you can always ask some one for help. and as long as you dont beat a child you should be fine. just do your best and use your best judgment. dont let the little things they do stess you out good luck
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My bf and I have been going out 7 months and things have been great overall. However, on our last date, I just wasn't turned on. I hardly even wanted to cuddle. I have only been on the pill for a month, so maybe this could be a side effect? and I definitely overate at dinner, but I don't know whether that could have had any effect either. Was this just a one-time thing or could it be a symptom of a deeper problem? (link)
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i live with my bf and every time him i see him i dont get turned on. its just growing up and getting used to being with some one. but do you still feel butterflys and love him? if all spark is gone then maybe its a sign but if you still care about him i wouldnt worry about it. dont rush into worring go out a few more time and see if it changes. if it doesnt then maybe worry alittle bit or see if he feels any diffrent.
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I really like this guy and he really likes me. The problem is, he lives about 3 hours away. So if we did go out I wouldn't be able to see him very often. I talk to him on the phone and online everyday. I'm thinking about just asking him out. Do you think our relationship could last? (link)
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if you are a confidnet and strong person it will. you have to be very indepeneted but if you need alot of attention i wouldnt recomend it. i would could never handle it i would go crazy. maybe just make a list of postive and negatives and check and see if you could handle not having the pyschical thing. not saying sex but holding hands kissing and maybe what ever else you may need
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17 f. Hey guys so. Me and my best friend we go to a different high school and every since we were in the 6th grade we vowed to go together to prom. So I had this BF who I really cared about and he happens to go to her school. He said he was going to take me. We had everything set when we got into this huge fight and he said a lot of hurt things to me. Like Ex. "I was always embarrased to be seen by you" "you're a who*re " and a lot of other things. So basically he also told me that he wasn't going to take me to prom he was going to take another girl. And he said "I bet you're going to look ridiculous that day" so now I don't know if I should go to their prom. My friend already got me someone to take me and everything. I kind of want to go to show him what he lost. And that day I'm planning on looking gorgeous. He knew how important it was for me and my bff to go together. I even offerd to buy a ticket from him but he said he doesn't wanna help me out and doesn't care. I wanna go to show him that I didn't need him to take me to prom I went without his help. But at the same time I also don't want to becuase I'm thinking he's not worth it. But I feel like I NEED to go becuase then he will be thinking that it was becuase of him that I didn't go. Plus I need to show him how well I can clean up. Haha. So advice? Should I go or not? Wat would you have done? I'm so lost. -michelle , MN (link)
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go and have fun but dont go to show him up go for your bff. Its not worth your time to worry about him forget all about that. just go and have dont make the night about him or he will win. make it about you haveing your self looking hot and having fun. nothing to do with him. go for YOU
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lately i've been thinking about suicide. I cry every night and im always sad. i keep trying to find things to make me happy. But nothing works anymore. i feel like theirs nothing really to live for. nobody loves me. and I don't think anyone ever will. im just unlovable. I want to be happy so bad. please just tell me what could make me happyy. or why I should live. i just need something, anything. I don't want to die but I don't want to feel this pain anymore. i just can't do it (link)
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you should feel happy to be alive everyone has rough patchs some longer then othere. but there is a future and no telling what will be in it. there is a chance you just need to go to a pychratirst and talk about things. medicine can help and do wonders i know first hand. good luck and life is great and there is always mysterys in the future so dont look down on now cause things will get better.
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I'm a 16-year-old girl, and I can't seem to stay in any relationship. Every time I like someone and end up going out with them, I just suddenly don't like them anymore, and break up with them. What's my problem? It's not just that I like the chase, because I don't. I honestly don't do much chasing (I'm a big flirt, with everyone, whether I like them or not, but that's it). It's not likely that I like attractive people but realize I don't like their personality. Personality is one of the major reasons I would have a crush on someone. Is it just that I'm not ready for a relationship but not willing to admit that? (It's not a great thing for a 16-year-old girl to admit today). I feel so confused, because I legitamately like guys, but can't stand being in a relationship with them. Can anyone explain this? (link)
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i was the same way and i figured out it was just the feeling of being needed and liked that made me happy. you can have friends and guy friends and as long as you know your are wanted and needed then you are happy. thats how i perseve it i was the same way. plus i didnt become happy in a realtionship untill i started dating older guys.
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k so there's this guy that i've liked since 8th grade(i'm going into 10th).He's been going out with one of my good friends for about 11 months. She went out of town for 2 weeks and the other night, i snuck out to meet this guy at his house and we got drunk. One thing led to another and we ended up having sex.He and his girlfriend havent even had sex yet. We haven't mentioned it to each other since. Do you think he was using me for pussy? because we've been like bestfriends for awhile now. should i feel guilty? because i feel bad for what HE did to her not for what I did to her...please answer this-i really need advice (link)
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the guy does deserve to feel bad but you should to. its not fair to do that to your friend. if one of your friends did that to your i know you would be pissed. you should be ashamed of your self. and most likely a guy that would cheat isnt up to any good so he probley was just looking for a good time. not trying to sound rude or anything but you really need to grow up and learn that friends are hard to find and very hard to be a good one and you need alot of work.
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My mom is very controlling and easily jealous. My freshman year of highschool I did very bad in school. Ever since then I have worked very hard. My cummalitive gps is now a 3.6 I worked really hard and pretty much gave up a big portion of my social life. I've always wanted to go to college away and live there. I'm a junior now and I was talking to my mom about colleges I'd like to attend. Her response was "what you can't leave me, if you go away I'm not giving
you any money for college" so I later said to her "me and Hillary are going to get an aparment and go to a college close by and it will be cheaper anyway." my mom says "what no I don't think so, your not living with her. If you two want to live at our house then that's fine and you should just go to the college down the street." it's literally right down the street, I could walk there. That was how the conversation was
pretty left. But then one time we were talking about where i'd like to live after college and I move out. I was like "when I'm older and married I'd like to move to south Carolina, or somewhere like that" my mom had a very similar response
to the one about college. I can't tell her when I have boyfriends or anything because she gets crazy jealous. She also tells me way too much and wants too much from me. This one time my friend and I were going to this concert we were excited about for months. The day before my mom goes "I don't really want you going there I'll buy you a new coach purse and matching wallet if you don't"..how could I pass an offer like that up? She does this all the time and I just don't
know what to say or do anymore...help!? (link)
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this is a hard one. she loves you very much and wants to be close. maybe when you answer her questions or make statements about your future you should always add something about her into them. like when i get married i want to move to where ever and i will come see you all the time. or if you have plans to go out go and then tell her that you want to hang out with her later or the next day. and when you have a bf ask her opioin and try to always make her feel like you to will have that connection. the college one is hard some times you have to decided if you can afford and want to live on your own if you can do it all by yourself go ahead and then work slowly on building a new realtionship with her but just not as close.
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how can i be happy for someone who i can't stop loving? he's one of my good friends (joe) - ive known him for 5yrs now. i've always had the biggest crush on him because we have so much fun together and he's always been there for me to talk to when i need it. the problem is .. he's been on and off dating this girl for 3 and a half yrs. she absolutely gorgeous, shes the nicest girl, shes smart, shes everything any guy could want. she makes me so jealous, because i could never be who she is. she plays 3 sports, has a 4.1 GPA, volunteers, is getting a scholarship for softball and hockey. i'm happy for joe because he deserves a good girl but it's hard being so close with him as a friend and looking at them two together. they're perfect for each other and i go out and meet new guys but it always brings me back to him. i can never be as comfortable with any other guy as i am with him. i have to move on from him, i can't try and be with him when he's always on and off with this girl. how can i find a guy i know i deserve that will give me his full attention when joes always in the back of my mind.. (link)
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maybe you dont need a guy right now. i always worried about having a bf and being in a relationship it was so stupid of me becuase i was just as happy just hanging out and partying with my friends. so maybe dont worry about a guy right now and some day the right one will come along.
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what do i do if i by all the clothing i think is really cool...but when i were 'em at school they dont look so cool..... (link)
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it depends if you dont like them when you get to school or if some one else doesnt. if its you not liking them from now on try them on at the store. thats my problem i never try anything on and end up with things i hate. if its othere people not liking them then to bad for them its your style and they have no taste.
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I recently started the pill(almost two months ago), so I'm still spotting.
However, last night I had sex with my boyfriend without a condom (we're both clean when it comes to STDs and so on; both been tested) and I'm slightly worried whether the pill is still effective, even if you're spotting?
Thanks! (link)
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if you take it at the same time each day and dont miss one your fine. but if you are really worried in the future use a condom.
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I did not know what category to put this under...
Ok it seems that I'm always at least half way depressed. I just stay stressed out. School, friends, family...and mainly this guy. But also, little things happen. I spill my drinks all the time...cut myself shaving all the time...trip and fall...stuff like that. What are some things I can do to take my mind off this guy? B/c he's what makes me so stressed out. So what can I do just not to worry so much and to be in a better mood? And not let little things get to me? (link)
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find a hobby. reading music art even get on here and answer questions. little things can temporarly get your mind off things. long term maybe set goals in your life and work toward them. maybe even set up plans each week you would want to do and look foward to all week. always have something to look foward to or work for allows you to have alittle something good in your life. if it is as small as going to get ice cream with a friend on a friday night. or movie nights by your self but make sure its your favorite movie
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hey my mom said whenever i want to become sexually active she would give be birth control pills does that mean she cares or not? (link)
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she cares alot more about you then most moms i would say. she respects you being an adult and wants to help you make good choices. your future is so improtant and she loves you enough to help you make it there without trouble of a child at a young age.
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I've been waiting for the summer to come for a while now and it's coming closer and closer. I've been also expecting to spend a lot of time with my girlfriend this summer. I was thinking that this summer would be great; she and i on the beach watching the sunset together. I already knew that for three weeks of the summer, she will be studying at college because where she is going, it is required. Then last night I find out that she will be spending another two weeks with her cousin up north. Her mom just bought her ticket. So that leaves time for she and I at about 2-3 weeks or not even that because we will be getting ready for college. There's barely any time for us this summer and while she's studying or having a blast with her cousin, I'm going to be all alone at home missing her. That just ruins everything I hoped for and on top of that, her mother would probably make it worse by not letting her go places with me or by not letting her spend much time with me by making excuses for her daughter that she has work that needs to be done. I can already picture her doing this. We are both eighteen now so I think her daughter can make her own decisions. [By the way, I'm also a girl]. I can see that my summer will be very depressing. Also we are both going to different colleges. Maybe this is a sign that it's the end of the road for us; we're not going anywhere together. Even now, we don't have much time for eachother. Because she's in school and after she's working while I'm at home all alone or trying to get a job ehich has been very hard for me. I've been rejected for employment over 50 times. There's barely any us time and this summer when I thought the majority we would be spending together, it will just be only me. I'm not happy with this arrangement and I feel in the future, history will just repeat itself. Maybe it's time for me to find someone to love that can share time with me. I don't really know what to do but feel upset about this. (link)
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if you really love some one the time you have together all that matters. you dont worry about what wont happen you are just happy when you are together. i live with my boyfriend he works all the time and some time i go a few days without seeing him us both being busy. Buy i just look forward to the time we have togther and occupy myself with othere things when he isnt around. so maybe the spark isnt there any more or its to hard to make arrangments to be happy. so if you dont see it as cherrishing the time together instead of dreading the time apart its time to move on.
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ok as the title says, im like positive my boyfriend is in love with his ex. i cant prove it and i dont want to mention it cause i know he'll get mad at me because im always hassling him about other girls. but the thing is she lives like far away, he moved. they went out for a while and i know he still has feelings for her but the long distance thing wasnt working out for them. we are dating now but sometimes i think he wishes he was still with her, or that he wants her more than he does me. we're still in high school but i havent had a relationship in a while and i just want this to work...what in the world do i do? (link)
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if you are worried now that he loves her still you must be miserable, if you dont feel like you can talk to him about it then either you must deal with it and be worried of end the relationship. i would just talk to him and tell him to be truthful, if he says he still loves her maybe then this relastionship wont work. some times wanting some thing doesnt mean you need it. you desrve to be happy and come 1st if he cant allow you to feel that way find it some where else.
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how do i get a girl friend (link)
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depends on your age. if your still in high school join a club or go to parties. if you are in college local coffee houses bars or just through friends. if you are older then maybe dating sites. but looking isnt really a good plan just let it happen if you try to hard it seems to take longer.
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Is it normal for internet friends to last for as long as 6 years or longer? Do they usually end up meeting after a while? I have a friend who met this girl on Runescape when he was like 11 and they're still friends; he's 17 right now. I remember my internet friends only lasted a few months at the most...I just ended up changing my address and forgot to tell them... (link)
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that is unusaual but not in bad way. maybe they have a real connection. some times they meet and some times they dont. if all he is looking for is a good convo then thats great if he wants more then meeting will need. people used to have pin pals for ever.
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