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Summer Love
I've been waiting for the summer to come for a while now and it's coming closer and closer. I've been also expecting to spend a lot of time with my girlfriend this summer. I was thinking that this summer would be great; she and i on the beach watching the sunset together. I already knew that for three weeks of the summer, she will be studying at college because where she is going, it is required. Then last night I find out that she will be spending another two weeks with her cousin up north. Her mom just bought her ticket. So that leaves time for she and I at about 2-3 weeks or not even that because we will be getting ready for college. There's barely any time for us this summer and while she's studying or having a blast with her cousin, I'm going to be all alone at home missing her. That just ruins everything I hoped for and on top of that, her mother would probably make it worse by not letting her go places with me or by not letting her spend much time with me by making excuses for her daughter that she has work that needs to be done. I can already picture her doing this. We are both eighteen now so I think her daughter can make her own decisions. [By the way, I'm also a girl]. I can see that my summer will be very depressing. Also we are both going to different colleges. Maybe this is a sign that it's the end of the road for us; we're not going anywhere together. Even now, we don't have much time for eachother. Because she's in school and after she's working while I'm at home all alone or trying to get a job ehich has been very hard for me. I've been rejected for employment over 50 times. There's barely any us time and this summer when I thought the majority we would be spending together, it will just be only me. I'm not happy with this arrangement and I feel in the future, history will just repeat itself. Maybe it's time for me to find someone to love that can share time with me. I don't really know what to do but feel upset about this.
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if you really love some one the time you have together all that matters. you dont worry about what wont happen you are just happy when you are together. i live with my boyfriend he works all the time and some time i go a few days without seeing him us both being busy. Buy i just look forward to the time we have togther and occupy myself with othere things when he isnt around. so maybe the spark isnt there any more or its to hard to make arrangments to be happy. so if you dont see it as cherrishing the time together instead of dreading the time apart its time to move on.
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My best friend lives more than 2000 miles from me. I moved and we go to different colleges. Yet we have stayed the best of friends for over 3 years since I moved. How do we make it work? We constantly keep in touch. We text each other ALL the time. We facebook chat, MSN, and gmail chat. We share links and also email. There are times when we'll both be super busy and can't talk. When this happens we simply write long emails to each other keeping each other up to date on what's going on.
So maybe you should try that. It's hard, I know, because there will be times you guys will be super busy or one of you will be super busy while the other is doing nothing. You have to have patience. Just remember to let her know about things that are happening, like new friends or new problems.
I couldn't hang out with my best friend the summer before I had to move. It was sad at the time, but what we did was watch some of the same shows and movies and then talked about them. SO maybe you can try that.
Also try not to get too sad. Go out and have fun! Take the time to visit new places around your neighborhood and try to get close to your other friends. It's life and things like this will happen all the time. If you can learn to deal with this, then it's just another obsticle in life you've passed :)
I hope that helps! Best of luck! :)
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It's up to you honestly on what you want to do.
I understand that there is a lot going on, but if you two are together still, then there is obviously something still there.
She is 18, so her mom can't tell her what to really do, as in she can't spend time with you. If she wants to, she can.
Talk it over with her, see how she feels. You never know, she might be going away for college, but in the same time, you two might be able to make it work. Long distant relationships take A LOT of work, and they are VERY hard, but if you both love eachother and have the will power to do it, I'm sure you both will be fine.
I wish you luck with all this!
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