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Relationship-phobic
I'm a 16-year-old girl, and I can't seem to stay in any relationship. Every time I like someone and end up going out with them, I just suddenly don't like them anymore, and break up with them. What's my problem? It's not just that I like the chase, because I don't. I honestly don't do much chasing (I'm a big flirt, with everyone, whether I like them or not, but that's it). It's not likely that I like attractive people but realize I don't like their personality. Personality is one of the major reasons I would have a crush on someone. Is it just that I'm not ready for a relationship but not willing to admit that? (It's not a great thing for a 16-year-old girl to admit today). I feel so confused, because I legitamately like guys, but can't stand being in a relationship with them. Can anyone explain this?
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This could be because they're just a small crush and after a certain period of time is goes way. Or you liked just a guy for his looks and you're taste in looks changed. Maybe the guys personality wasn't what you were looking for. Try and get to know a guy you like more before you date him. See if he is right for you and you like his personality not just his looks. A good relationship shouldn't be based on looks in my oppinion.
(i'm a year younger than you so if you don't agree with this i'd understand. Goodluck!)
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i was the same way and i figured out it was just the feeling of being needed and liked that made me happy. you can have friends and guy friends and as long as you know your are wanted and needed then you are happy. thats how i perseve it i was the same way. plus i didnt become happy in a realtionship untill i started dating older guys.
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I was the same way back in high school i dated like every one and couldnt make my mind up its just that u love the fact of being in love i regrat when i did that because i hurt many guys stay single for now you said your a flirt so be one love will find you look at me im 18 and married and happy because i waited give it a try it might work!
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You are sixteen.
I worry far more about sixteen year old girls who are still dating someone they were first attracted to when they were 12, than I do about young women who have the sense to figure a person out a bit more before taking any leaps or committing themselves.
It's quite possible you don't feel like you are ready for a relationship. Although it's not a popular thing to admit in today's teen culture, it's still might honest. Even in my adult life, I've had times when I knew I just wasn't in a good place to enter a relationship.
I know its confusing, but if you still find you can't get past a date or two when you are twenty, then you can you start to worry, but for now you've already learned something far more important, and something women five times your age never do:
Don't force it. Don't stick it out with somebody if you don't want too.
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