Hello, my name is Jamie, I enjoy giving people advice even though I am young. I not only enjoy giving advice, I also enjoy writing. When I graduate high school I either want to go to college to be a doctor, something in the astronomy field, to be an advice columnist, an author or psychologist. I am a christian. Feel free to ask me for advice! :) Have a great day!
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Age: 15
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Well my ex bf broke up with me about a month ago. Before we started going out we knew each other and he liked me once b4 (which was about a year ago). We went out this year for 44 days. I fugured out the real reason he dumped me is cause he wanted me to do it with him and I'm not like that at all and he knew that. Well and now I have a bf who i have been rele good friends with since the begining of the school year. Well i went walking on the beach and i went there with my ex and all the memories with him came back to me and i think i might still love him but i dont want to go back to him and having him try raping me but he can b rele sweet and just a great guy and i dont want to ruin the great friendship i have with my bf i have right now. Please help!!! (link)
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I disagree with the previous comment. i dont know how old you are but from what i got out of it, you're pretty young. Too young to be thinking about sex (This coming from a 16 year old which is still to young in my oppinion.). You have your whole life to have sex. I really think you should forget about your ex. If he is trying to make you do things that is something you don't wanna do and he knows it, he doesn't really care about you and is just using you. However you current bf i can imagine is a better person. Just wait and stay with your current bf and see how things goes.
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So me and my boyfriend were together for almost 2 years and through most of our relationship he was addicted to pills. I didnt know this for like 6 months so I was already in love with him and thought me being there would help him get through things. when he was doing pills hed cry and say I deserve better, I would get frustrated that he was dumpimg me and leave him alone and he would come back 3 days later cryimg and sayimg he missed me and made a mistake. Hes been about a month clean but a week and a half ago I broke up with him because hed say he wanted a relationship but never really acted like it. Like hed just go on these random sprees where hed ignore me. I really love him and I know he hasnt relapsed but I feel sad because he seems perfectly fine from what I hear. Like im barely making it through the day, I dont do anything because we have a lor of mutual friends so I feel embarrassed and pathetic hanging out with them while im so sad and hes fine. Hes been going out a lot and it is just so hard to think the guy that always talked about marriage and how I was the perfect girl from him is never gonna come back and has moved on fine. Any help, advice or words of wisdom would be greatly appreciated. Ive never been so heartbroken. (link)
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Well, I think you should sit him down and talk to him about it all. If he really loves you, he will come back to you... and if not then you might need to move on. I'm sorryy.
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There will be a talent show this Friday at our school. Me and my friend want to do something interesting and unique for it. But of course, as always, we are at a loss of what to do. Any ideas? (link)
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Comedy Act
•Doing a comedy act is a great way to be original with your material, and not too many people are willing to attempt it. If you write jokes about your city or state, you'll be sure to captivate your audience as they will be able to relate to the subject matter. If your talent show is at a church or a school, talk about that, or the frustrating drive there, or the music on the radio you're forced to listen to, or really anything you think is funny. You can also replicate jokes from "Saturday Night Live" or some other comedy program. Write your jokes on 3-by-5 cards so you don't forget them.
Dance Contest
•Have a fake dance contest with a friend or teacher. Dress ridiculously, dance ridiculously, and have a judge or the audience declare a winner.
Numa Numa
•Lip sync to the Numa Numa song. The song is actually called "Dragostea Din Tei," by Ozone, but you'll probably remember it from the Internet video sensation Numa Numa, with the Drew Carey-looking fellow dancing to it on webcam. When the song breaks out at about a minute in, have all of your friends run onstage and begin dancing with you. The song pretty much does all the hard work for you.
non‐traditional talents:
– Double‐dutch jump‐roping
– Extreme hula‐hooping
– Gymnastics or yoga
– Basketball tricks
– Original monologues or poetry
– Pet tricks
– Hand claps
Just a couple of ideas i found on the internet. Goodluck!
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my boyfriend wont let me near his phone. he gets paranoid if i ask to see it and watches my every move. he sleeps with it in his pocket or under his pillow. should i be worried? (link)
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Honestly if it were me, i'd be worried, but i'm a verrrryy jealous person and worry about everything. I'd be worried he's hidding something. But it could be that he's just protective over his phone or doesnt want you getting any of his friends numbers and talking to them. Maybe you should ask him why hes so protective over his phone, if it takes him a while to answer you or looks around at something else, fiddles with his hands, or covers up his mouth when he talks then more than likely the reason he says, is a lie. Goodluck!
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how to show sum body you truly love them (link)
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Tell them how much they mean to you and how much you love them. And Commit to them.
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Well im 13 years old and im pretty overweight. Im starting 8th grade the end of august and i wanna show everyone that i can lose weight. How can i lose weight before school starts? Thanks (: (link)
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Me too! lol except im 15. Maybe go running/walking everyday for 30 or so minutes. Cut down on the sodas and drink lots of water. Eat lots of veggies and fruits. Try not to eat as much pizza, greasy foods, and stuff like that. Just a little advice. Let me know how it goes! :) Goodluck!
Oh, and also, here are some websites the might help.
www.shine.yahoo.com (click on Healthy Living)
www.sparkpeople.com
www.sparkteens.com
http://phifoundation.org/ (teaches you all about how foods affect your body making it easier to be thin. It teaches how to develop new, good habits so staying thin will not take hardly any any effort.)
www.caloriesperhour.com
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hey so im 15 f
~well me and this guy in my classs during school would always flirt and like touch and constantly just flirt.... well...recently we started texting ALOT like all day! and he has recently started to talk sexually.... like he wants us to do stuff.... so now he wants us to hang out and you know ... do stuff.... well i have never done anything before.... like not even kissed.... welll not like actuallly..... so like i reallly wanna have fun with him ! but like i wouldnt go past oral .... well maybey not even that I DONT KNOW YET! like idk what to do ..... do it ... or not do it... so like basically what i am asking is..... what are the positives and negatives to taking him up on his offer? and please dont give negatives i want positives to! :) THANKS :) (link)
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Please don't do it! I'm the same age as you, and i don't think you should do it. You'll regret it later. I know you will. You aint even dating? Later on when you find you a real bf and you commit to him, then you'll regret what you did if you do it. And some other guys don't want to date a girl thats done stuff with another.
But i guess it's your choice, so do what you think is right. I mean doing that wouldn't be all bad i guess. Well, Goodluck. If you need anymore advice, i'd be glad to help though
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I have a friend who likes to do everything that I do. She always wants us to go shopping and buy the same shirt, or wear the same color shoes, etc. It just feels like she's always around. It's not that I don't enjoy her company. I just want to be my own person. Also, because she's always with me, my other friends are feeling left out. What should I do so that my friend will give me some space? Please don't say "Just drop her" because I'm not that mean. Thank you. (link)
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Well if she's buying the same shirt and wears the same color shoes and stuff then that just means she looks up to you. She likes your style and wants to be like you cause she thinks you're cool. Just make some plans to do stuff with your other friends. If your friend that wont give you space asks if you wanna go do something with her, just say you have other plans. I know with her doing the same stuff you do and wearing the same stuff you do probably annoys you, but It's not a bad thing. She'll get over it sometime, because people change.
Just make more plans with your other friends than your friend that wont give you space. Goodluck
-J
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soo a couple a days ago i got high for the first time. i had smoked two previous times but i didnt get high. however, when i got high i colapsed to the floor, and my whole body was throbbing with pain. it was terrible, and i thought that it would go on forever but it did stop. i am just wondering why that happend, and if it will happen if i smoke again. (link)
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My advice: PLEASE DON'T SMOKE! I know i'm a stranger to you and only 15 but still, i do care, Smoking causes cancer and crap. My parents smoke and i wished they'd stop cause it not only puts them in risk of getting cancer, it also puts me and everyone else around them at risk. I recently lost my grandma from cancer. And my grandpa died from cancer too when i was little. People die everyday from cancer and smoking is one of the dumbest things to do. It's like you have a death wish or something. It is not a good thing.
"Only about 13 percent of those diagnosed with lung cancer will be alive in five years. About six out of ten people with lung cancer die in the first year after being diagnosed. Between seven and eight in ten die within 2 years. Contrast this to the survival rates of other cancers: about 80 percent of women with breast cancer, and 80 percent of men diagnosed with prostate cancer, are alive five years later. Overall, about 64 percent of people have survived cancer five years after diagnosis.
This high death rate accounts for why lung cancer wins the top-killer spot among cancers. There are more lung cancer deaths in the United Stats than there are breast, prostate, colon, or rectal cancer deaths combined. They account for almost a third of all cancer deaths – 31 percent for men, and 27 percent for women. On the other hand, breast cancer and prostate cancer for women and men, respectively, are the leaders in new cases. They account for about a third of all cases of cancer."
-J
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ok my question envolves 4 people. i was with my ex bf for 2 years. about a year in the realtionship i slept with a ex co worker of his which was our friend. and stayed sleepin with him through the rest of the relationship. to this day i still am. so for a year i cheated, but hey i enjoyed it. after a month of cheating i began to gain feelings for this guy. this guy also has a girlfriend that he has had for 6 years. so for 14 months we both cheated with eachother. i had my bf and he had his gf. neigther one of our partners kno whats goin on. i feel that i now have loved him for a while, he tells me he loves me also. he says he gets jealous when i talk to another guy. i kno i want to be with him but his gf is blockin that from happening. oh by the way i am 22 and the guy is 37. i believe he really cares about me but i cant seem to win him over. he is only with the gf because she has insurance for his 2 kids. like i said i love him and i kno i do and i cant just give up on him. not after a year of this has been goin on. my question is do you think i should give up when i kno there is a chance of winnin him over or should i keep up with my heart? he is all i think about, i have been singel for 6 months now (other than him) and everyone i talk to.. its not the same and when he finds out it hurts him. i cant really get involve with anyone because when i talk to someone or hold someone i see him not the new person. but like i asked what should i do? stay with him or give up? (link)
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Well, i'd just like to point somethin out to ya, If he is with his gf now, and is cheating on her with you, then if you two ever got together, what would stop him from cheating on you with another girl too??? I'm not saying he will do that, im just saying he could. I say give up. I know it'd be hard since you have true feelings about this man. But i think the best choice would be to give up. More than likely if he is still with his girlfriend now, he will continue to stay with her. But it's your choice to make on what to do. I wish you best of luck!
-J
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Im 20 and so is my boyfriend, we have been going out for a year and 5 months. Well in the beginning everything was great but about 5 months into the relationship he would say things about girls in the street like "Oh id fuck her" or "Id do her" infront of me, like seriously you can think it but dont say it infront of your girlfriend. So from then on I was self concious about not being good enough for him and thought he was with me because maybe he thought he couldnt get anyone else.
Well time went on and we argued about the things that he said (and he doesnt say things as much anymore) but things still play on my mind, like he would say he would fuck a girl infront of me so what would he do behind my back....
When he says he is going out for a lads night out I feel sick like he would cheat on me, although he has said he wouldnt and gets moody when I suggest that he might. I mean I hear things about lads cheating on 'lads nights out' and when they are drunk. It just frightens me.
Also he added my old best friend on facebook and refuses to delete her although he doesnt know her and has seen her twice but didnt speak to her, I dont talk to her anymore so I dont see why he has her on facebook but we get in arguments because I want him to delete her as I think he fancies her and he says he doesnt but if it causes arguments then why wont he delete her? ALSO he had her number in his phone!! I have her number and he either copied it from my phone (which is probably the case) or he got it from her (I looked through his contacts to ring my sister and saw her name so i deleted it but didnt mention anything to him). It really bugs me as he fancied my other friend from college and actually told me about it and it took arguments and breaking up for him to delete her from facebook. He adds girls he doesnt know just because he thinks they are good looking. I dont do that if I think a guy is good looking!! I just dont know what to do because I do love him but he is sometimes distant towards me, I try and kiss him and he pulls away, I have to ask for cuddles, I have to text and ring him first, he picks on me for being fat and says things about my ginger hair and it hurts although its a joke to him it hurts me and I tell him but he doesnt listen and carries on.
What do I do, I want to stop feeling jealous when he looks at other girls and stop feeling this way. (link)
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Gooooood grief! Ok, so im only 15 and i've been with my bf for about as long as you have, a bit longer though, and he is the exact opposite of your bf. Mine is commited. Yours however... is not, no offense. I don't think your relationship is that great. I wouldn't put up with that at all. It'd hurt me too much and idk how you can handle it. You have every right to be jealous and upset. That is not right for him to do that. I think you deserve better. I know it would be hard to end your relationship considering how long you been dating, but i think it would be best to do it. It might take a while to get over him but in the long run it'd be worth it. Find someone that will treat you right and loves you no matter what. I wish you luck!
-J
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i have this friend who might have used me to get to another ex friend they did go out at one point but after me and her stopped hanging out we werent that close so i decided to stay away from him well that and being friends with him just got me into problems it was working but then i noticed he kept getting closer to me like always saying high sitting with me and i would ignore him untill one day he was with my brother drinking i was in my room i dont think he was that drunk laying down seeing a move he came over to my room and asked for a hug i gave it to him but then i moved he followed and layed next to me he asked to give me a kiss i said what and he just gave it to me on the cheek i kept looking on the tv then i told him my head hurt and he asked would it feel better if he gave me a kiss on the lips i stayed quite he asked again next thing i know where kissing i pushed him away then we were just laying there my brother came for him the rest of the night he kept comeing back kissig me on the cheek and calling me sweet cheeks the next day its like it never happened he didnt talk to till the following day i have no idea if he likes me or not oh yeah he has a girl friend i dont know what to do sholud i stay away (link)
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Yes i say stay away. Wait till he is single before you do anything. Which honestly i dont think you should date him or anything, cause think about this, If he was kissing you while he was drinking and all this stuff, then what will stop him from doing it to another girl behind your back if you ever date him? Just sayin. And plus in my oppinion, a person drinkin leads to bad things. Not all the time, but most of the time. Just dont want you to get hurt or anything. Well i wish you best of luck! If you have any other questions, just mail me.
-J
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how do you put music on my yearbook.com (link)
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Try going to my playlist.com and make you a playlist of songs you like and somewhere there should be a place to click to get the code. once you get the to code copy and paste it in the box labeled music when you edit ur profile
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She has problem itghing her scalp she has tried medicine from doctors does not help (link)
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Hot water can dry your scalp out. try using dandruff shampoo and colder showers. Hope this helps!
-J
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i think I may have had a panic attack. how do you know if you have had one. what happens? are you really tired afterwards. any details you can give me would be appreciated. Thanks. (link)
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The main symptom of a Panic Anxiety Disorder is the panic attack itself. Panic Anxiety Disorder is a medical disorder characterized by severe and sudden episodes.
It is important to mention that sudden episodes of the symptoms listed above caused by another reasonable cause are not panic attacks. Two such reasonable causes would be (1) a certain medical ailment that might mimic a panic attack, or (2) a life threatening experience immediately preceding the attack. If these reasonable causes are found not be the cause of the problem then there is the possibility of a Panic Disorder.
Panic attacks reach maximum intensity within a minute or two once they begin. They diminish slowly over the next 30 minutes or the next several hours. It is common for the first attack to cause a person to go to an emergency medical facility. Subsequent attacks occur several times a month and are often as severe as the initial attack.
Symptoms of a Panic Attack-
raging heartbeat
difficulty breathing, feeling as though you 'can't get enough air
terror that is almost paralyzing
nervous, shaking, stress
heart palpitation, feeling of dread
dizziness, lightheadedness or nausea
trembling, sweating, shaking
choking, chest pains, distress
fear, fright, afraid, anxious
hot flashes, or sudden chills
tingling in fingers or toes ('pins and needles')
fearful that you're going to go crazy or are about to die
(I hope you're ok)
-J
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Since april, my best friend has been grounded for his grades. He's not allowed out, he's not allowed on the phone, or to use the computer. He became my boyfriend in June, while he's still grounded. It's been tough going out every weekend with my friends watching them hook up with guys, but never have I considered cheating or breaking up w/ him.
he's my best friend and i really don't want that, i just need to get through this. school's ending, which means that i won't see him every day anymore. He's still grounded (he was even grounded on his 16th birthday) and i don't think things are gonna get better this summer. (He was grounded cause he wasn't 'doing as well as he could' in school, grade-wise.)
He was on a computer today and we talked for less than an hour. I felt as if important conversation had to be forced, like there was no time to joke around, we had to talk about something interesting otherwise the time wouldve been wasted. He began tellnig me something personal about his past involving the cops, but it didnt hit me the way it SHOULD hit a best friend/girlfriend. I was thinking.. "okay, it feels like a kid i barely talk to is telling me his life story and i don't care."
I hate feeling this way. his parents don't care about his social life, obviously. I hate the distance, and i hate what they're doing. They're ruining us and i don't know how to cope much longer without going insane, without losing him as my best friend.. we're not as close anymore.. we barely just TALK.. it's just really depressing. and he's the first person i've felt so intensely about since i broke up with my boyfriend of a year, so i know he's important. i can't let him leave, but we're being fucking torn apart. how do i cope?
(oh & he just turned 16 and i'm about to turn 16.) (link)
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Luckygirl7 is totally right in my oppinion. Sometimes in a realationship you just gotta do some waiting. Like my realationship.... and im 15. I can kinda relate to how you feel cause when my boyfriend and i started dating over a year ago, and i told my parents, they didnt totally like the idea of us and forbid me to talk to him or see him. And he doesnt quite go to my school so i never seen him much anyway, and they end up taking my phone away and stuff. So i couldnt see him or talk to him for a month or two... It was hard but we got through it. I hope i kinda helped some. I'm sorry, and goodluck
-J
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I've been best friends with my friend for now 3 yrs.. & we're not your average type of bff's we do everything together , get into trouble together, talk about everything we're basiclly like sisters but lately I've been noticing her act diffrent.. she barely picks up my phone calls anymore and never calls back..takes a long time to respond to my text messages & I haven't seen her in over a week..I've asked her several times if somethings wrong or if I've done something to upset her but she responds with the same thing everytime I ask her which is no everythings fine. But its not like her to act like this..I don't want to believe in the fact that maybe our closeness has gottn to her and maybe she's annoyed? I don't want to lose the friendship.. please help? (link)
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The poster above me is right of course. If your friend has a boyfriend, then that could be the reaason? I know my best friend and i have been friends since before i started school, and i'm 15 now. I've been dating my current boyfriend for over a year and its been a serious relationship. And since we started dating me and my best friend hasn't hung out like we used to. I used to call her all the time and talk to her on facebook, but now i dont call anyone or even get on facebook. If your friend has a bf then maybe shes too busy with him. But if thats not the case then maybe you two are just getting older and she has found new friends? I've been through alot of friends, either they've moved or they just found new friends. Maybe invite her over and you two can go out and have fun? maybe movies or bowling or something? I hope i helped some! Goodluck!
-J
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Im 13 and have had discharge for over a year and armpit and pubic hair for almost 2 years. No period.. whats the hold-up Mother N? (link)
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Lol trust me, you don't wanna rush mother nature, because after it hits, you'll be wishing you didn't. You're fine, just gotta be patient. No problem
-J
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Hey :) well I'm 13 and I need help me and my bf have been going out for 8 months were still virgins but we had conversations about havinq sex together should I ? I realy think he is the one ... Oh and sory another question I have gotten fingerd befor but I'm not sure if I still am a virgin am I?? I did not feel much niether did I bleed. My bestfriend told me that mabey it ddnt go all the way in to make my chery pop is sh right?? I need help I need answers please help :)
With love, gata :) (link)
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Whoah. Sex at 13?? Ok... I'm 15 right now, and when i was 13, i didnt wanna have sex! Idk what the world is coming to. And you wanna know something else, i still dont wanna have sex today. I see everywhere around me at my school pregnant girls. Even at my age!!!! I hear people talking about how they had sex and stuff, and it disgusts that someone that young is having sex already. I have a boyfriend too, been dating for over 1 year, and i dont plan on having sex till im married. and even if you did have sex, what if you became pregnant??? What do you think your parents would say??? Instead of having sex, focus on school. Education is more important at 13. Wait till you're married, or atleast mature enough, please. I'm sorry.
-J
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So, to make this short there is this boy who my friend dated while ago, prolly over 5 months ago. She got over him, and she now has a boyfriend. Well, her ex, "Paul" and I have been talking quite a bit, and have been harassing each other for a long time. We both decided that we didn't want eachother, and that we were just friends because ALL of our friends said that we acted like we were dating. So, I went over to his house, and he and I kissed, and it was like a fire was lite in my stomach! I was in a state of euphoria for about 2 days after we kissed, and it was just amazing. He agreed and said that it was equally as amazing. Now here is the hard part, he keeps going all weird. Like, not talking to me and acts like he wants nothing to do with me. We dated for a day, and he said he couldn't do it becuase he was still in love with my friend, his recent ex. So I said, fine I respect that, and then he said he really likes me, so we are "complicated". He keeps wanting sexual things, to which I say NO, and he is persistant! Its annoying, but I like him SO much I dunno what to do. Do I just wait and go with the flow? Or do I assume he just wants me for sex? If you need anymore info, just comment and I will fill in any holes! Thanks! (link)
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In my oppinion Lilz is right. He claims to be in love with your friend still so he doesn't want to date you but he wants to do sexual stuff with you? That doesn't make no sense. If he still loves your friend he shouldn't want to do that stuff with you. So Basically i'm sayin he's just trying to use you. I understand that you really like him but it might be best to stay away from him. It's good to know that you're saying no to the sexual stuff. Good job! Goodluck on everything
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