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Q: Ok, i really like the song "Fall for you." I heard this song on the radio and i was like i really like this song, because i had never heard it before. Do they have a cd? When did they start getting popular and everything? thanks!

Yup,they have two i believe called Awake and A Twist in My Story.They became popular over myspace.They had over a million hit's played so record companys started coming to them and they got discovered.I found them before they became famous,i like finding bands people don't know about but,im happy for them they deserve the success their getting.

♥ danielle

Q: how can i be like Juliet Simms from automatic loveletter? like her clothes i mean.

Aww she's pretty :)

Well i was thinking,maybe you could print out pictures of her and go to a store where her clothing is similar to that stores style,and then ask someone who works there if they have anything similar to the clothing in the picture.You could also look online and see if any of her fansites or websites about her say anything about where she gets her clothes at.You could also do fanmail,and write her a letter/email her where she gets her clothes from,and get a response back.That's all i could think of,hope i could help :)

♥ danielle

Q: would dying my armhair blonde harm my skin?

Try doing a allergy test first to see if your skin has a reaction to the dye.After about 2 weeks if you so no signs of a rash,or infection of some sort then it's perfectly fine to use on your hair.

♥ danielle

Q: hi my inside vagina lips are really big and kind of wrinkled I think its really ugly and gross but what do guys think? I won't let any guy finger me and I haven't had sex because of it do guys find it attractive or not and is there anyway I can make them shorter thank you 17/f

Every girls vagina is different.Some do look wrinkled,and ugly.I mean i never really heard of a girl saying she had "beautiful vagina lips" lol.I actually asked one of my guy friends one tie if he cared what a vagina looked like and he replied "Hell no,as long as it's a vagina i don't care what it looks like" haha which i thought was funny,but yeah in all honesty guys don't care.The only way to "shorten" them is probably by surgery but you deffinately don't want to go under the knife for something as little as that.You should love your body the way it is,and don't be afraid to show it off.Be proud of who you are girl! :D

♥ danielle

Q: Who got babysitting started

http://www.answers.com/topic/baby-sit

i think that website will answer your question :D

♥ danielle

Q: How does a woman knowns when she is having a orgasm or in other words coming.

A womans vaginal muscles start to contract inside the body,and she starts to cum.

♥ danielle

Q: haha, yes. Its another hair questoion.
No, but um... Do you know where I can get any pics of emo-ish looking hair?
Im thinking of cutting it, and I need some ideas. But it cant be long, because I only have shoulder length hair to start with. Unless you also have the URL of a place that sells mirical hair grow. =)
Anna

GAHHH! i love how emo/scene hair looks! i wish i could pull it off :(

Go to google and type in "Scene/Emo hair" and click on "images" and theres a TON of pictures of people with emo/scene hair :D if you need anymore just let me know ;)

♥ danielle

Q: Hi i am 13 years old and (i am a gurl) i cant find a decent guy, every one i dated just wants me to have sex of do stuff like that to/with him, and when i say i am not ready for that they just leave me or get really mad and act like a two year old, so tell me, why is it that all guys want is to getin your pants? cuz it is really pissing me off

Wow,your 13 and guys are already thinking about sex?! times changed since when i was 13 lol

Not ALL guys want to get into your pants.Their truly is alot of caring,respectful,and loving guys out there who will do anything for a girl.Boys at this age are going through puberty,where they think they have to be "better" then the other guys which also includes sex.Like to see how many girls they can have sex with(which is one of the stupidest things ive ever heard).Just don't let guys influence you,because you CAN say no.Since your very young,you have plenty of time to find a guy.I was pretty much discovering boys at your age lol But you will find the one for you..someday.For now,just enjoy being a kid,your time will come soon enough.

♥ danielle

Q: Well , you probably know what discharge is , but , is this normal?

My discharge is a slightly yellowish colour , and i dont know if it smells funny ive never smelt over discharge before!!

ive told my mum and she says its nothing to be worried about , but should i get it checked out or is it normal??

but i dont want a doctor looking at my privates cos i shaved them without telling anyone and it would be embarrassing for him/her to point it out !!

and a flabby thing sticks out my vagina , is this normal , is this ALL normal and im paranoid , or is it something to be worried about.??

im 12 and a female.

Hmm,well if it looks like clumpy cottage cheese and has an odor it could be an infection,that i would get checked out.If it's normal discharge like it's not clumpy,no odor then your fine.Discharge can turn yellow once it hits the air.The "flabby" thing that sticks out of your vagina is nothing to worry about,i think your talking about the labium minora which is supposed to be there! lol so you have nothing to worry about,your normal :)

♥ danielle

Q: well i just got braces and my boyfriend dosent mind kissing but should i??
lucy

Lucy,

You can kiss while having braces.If you want to kiss your boyfriend then do it,nothing bad will happen.But if your not ready to kiss him,then don't.You don't have to do something that you don't want to do.

♥ danielle

Q: i thought that if u have sex on your perioud then you cant get pregnet it just feals nasty what do you think?

Thats not true,you CAN get pregnant while on your period.The chances are lower,but you can still get pregnant.

P.S If you could,next time you ask a question use proper grammar,it would help me understand the question better thank you :)

♥ danielle

Q: so there is a really good party soon and i got invited the only thing is. is that i only know a couple of people. one is the guy i like but the girl he likes is going to be there and i really dont like her alot. so should i go anyway even if he and the host are the only people i know. i asked him if he was going to hang with the girl he liked and he said he would rather than me.
(one of his best friends)
xox thanks xoxo

omg why would he say that to you! that was mean.

If you want to go to the party,then go for it.You could meet alot of new and interesting people there.But if you don't want to go,you don't have to do something that you don't want to do.

♥ danielle

Q:

what would you do to get
rid of access body fat?

use google hun :D

http://www.squidoo.com/how-to-get-rid_of-belly-fat

http://www.articlesbase.com/weight-loss-articles/three-simple-ways-to-get-rid-of-belly-fat-366335.html

http://ph.answers.yahoo.com/question/index?qid=20080619052723AA4IFeg

http://www.how-to-lose-belly-fat.com/

if you need more just let me know.

♥ danielle

Q: I had just got an I-pod nano, but like in a month it did not work, I mean it does work, but one day I charged it and like always it says do not disconnect. I came back 3 hrs later and it did not charge. I unplugged it but it stayed saying do not disconnect. I tried to turn it off but it seems like its frozen cause none of the buttons work. plz help, what should I do....is it broken????

My i-pod nano does the same thing all the time,i guess it's a common problem.I went to these sites and my ipod was back as new :)

http://support.apple.com/kb/HT1320

http://support.apple.com/kb/TS1404

if none of those remedies work,i would suggest going to an apple store,or call 1-800-MY-APPLE and they will figure out what is wrong with your ipod.

♥ danielle

Q: 16/f
im bisexual and i admitt im not a virgin
i have different feelings for guys and girls
Guys: it feels better to do it with a guy than a girl
Girls:im more attracted to a girl than a guy and they turn me on more than a guy does

for the past 3 yrs ive been bi and for the past 1ish years its been getting awkward for me, lately everytime i see a naked guy i have to cough out the gag so i wont affend the guy. AND its been getting harder and harder to be turned on enough for a guy even to get in me in the first place...
the question is am i a future lesbo?

No one can really answer that question,only you can really answer that.If your more attracted to girls and get more turned on then with guys,then i think you answered your own question.It should be easy for a guy to turn you on,if that's what you like.But it seems like it's the other way around for you.Your still young,and your around that age where you start exploring your sexuality and see what you like and don't like.Your still trying to find yourself.But be comfortable in your own skin and love who you are,don't let anyone tell you otherwise :)

♥ danielle

Q: Back in February I started dating a guy whom I had been very close with ever since last summer. We would talk to each other about personal things and such. He was having a rough time with this girl for awhile, and he would talk to me about how he felt and I helped him through it all. It wasn't weird at all though because I had a boyfriend at the time and so we never considered being together in a relationship.

However, when my boyfriend broke up with me in January, things changed. I went to see him one night- just to talk and I needed someone to cheer me up because by that time he had basically become my best friend. To make a long story short, by the end of that night we had made out, and everything seemed comfortable with him. So that's how it started and we went out for a little less than a month when he broke up with me because he confessed that he still had feelings for the girl that was causing him pain before.

At first I was upset but I got over it after awhile, and I even started taking an interest in someone else this summer. But he and I still talked occasionally and when he found out I was dating again, he told me that he wanted me back. I refused him because he had hurt me and I didn't trust him. But then I spent a week at a camp with him and I was happier being there with him than I've been in a long time. I realized that the guy I'm seeing now is nothing compared to what he is. I told him that and the whole week after we started talking about getting back together. But I told him I needed to tell my current guy first because otherwise it wouldn't be right.

So the whole next week I went away and didn't see either of them, but I still talked to them. By the end of the week I made a move and I told my ex-bf that I didn't think we could ever be together again because I was worried he and I would get ourselves into trouble, because he's already told me he's willing to have sex, but I'm not sure and I don't want to be tempted into it. I was afraid that I would fall in love with him and make a stupid mistake, so I just broke everything off with him. But now I feel like I shouldn't have done that because I feel alone without him, even though I have another guy, and my friends. I think I am already in love with him, but he doesn't love me like I love him even though he says it.

Should I tell him I made a mistake and try to make things work out between us again? Or is it better for me to move on and try to forget?

Hun,if he already said he's willing to have sex with you and you arent even together,that a red flag right there.You made a good decision by breaking ties with him.I can pretty much already tell what would happen.You deserve better.Your young(im assuming),there will be PLENTY more men out there trust me ;)

♥ danielle

Q: almost 16 female.

I like more than one guy. 5 to be exact. and if one of them asked me out, i would go out with any of them. but heres the thing, my friends say that im too shy and that i should make the first move. (btw im not even friends with any of these guys) so all of my friends say that i should send them an IM and be like hey whats up. now im really desperate for a boyfriend so i dont know if i should first be friends with all of these guys and see who makes a move first or just go for one guy and play hard to get.

or should i even play hard to get? because im so desperate and i was thinking maybe i should just straight out tell one of the guys that i really like him... what do you all think?? help!

I would be friends with all these guys first,feel them all out until you find one that fits you alot more then the other 4 guys.But too do that,you have to call/text/IM them and say "hey you wanna hang out?".But whatever you do don't play them,because your playing with their hearts.And i would'nt suggest "playing hard to get" most guys don't like that because they think the girl dosent like them if they ignore them,and so they move on.I've seen it happen alot.Just don't choose a guy for the sake of getting a boyfriend,because if you do that,chances are the relationship won't last that long.Get to know them all,be friends before you make a decision to choose what guy you want.

♥ danielle

Q: so i'm on vacation, i have been for 2 weeks. my family is staying with our old neighbors who moved here, and we wanted to visit them. before they moved i had been fooling around with their son, but he only fingered me and we made out. i was pretty much guessing something else was going to happen between us when i slept in his house for two weeks, and it definitely did. he fingered me, ate me out, and i have him a handjob and blowjob. but my real question is that one of my other neighbors that still lives with me, shes one of my really good friends, and in their son's grade, told me he has herpes and gonnerhea and all these other STD's and i have one sore on the inside of my lip and i'm really really nervous that i got an STD from him even though before i gave him oral sex he told me that he gave blood 6 months ago, so theres no way he could have one, right? and to make it worse, he has a girlfriend, so who knows what he's been doing beind her back other than me, right? how do i know if i have an STD? or just any other advice on what to do? i cant drive to a doctor, and im not telling my mom. i'm only 14.

herpes simplex type I,causes sores in the mouth ususally.Look at these pictures:

http://images.google.com/images?um=1&hl=en&q=herpes+in+the+mouth%5D

look through all of the pictures,if any of those cores look like anything in your mouth,i would suggest getting yourself checked out to make sure it's not an STD.So that means you have to tell your parents.Doctors can usually give you prescribed meds like Famvir, Acyclovir, or Valtrex to treat it,which you cant get over the counter.But for now,i would avoid any sexual contact with this boy or anyone else for that matter because herpes CAN be spread,until you get yourself checked out.If you have anymore questions,just leave one in my inbox :)

♥ danielle

Q: how do you straight lace etnies?

i found a website that tells you how to do it.

http://www.fieggen.com/shoelace/straighteasylacing.htm

:D

♥ danielle

Q: how do i lose alot of wieght in like... two weeks?

google works wonders :)

http://www.fitwise.com/lose_15_pounds_in_2_weeks.asp

http://ezinearticles.com/?How-To-Lose-20-Pounds-in-2-Weeks&id=793494

http://ezinearticles.com/?How-To-Lose-Weight-In-2-Weeks---It-Can-Be-Done-And-Heres-How&id=1000098

if you need more let me know :)

♥ danielle