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what are some other great pop punk bands? i like the academy is, matchbook romance, cute is what we aim for, taking back sunday, something corporate, motion city soundtrack, hellogoodbye and all that stuff. if you give me at least 5 good bands then ill rate!

the higher. the audition. the city drive. cartel. the city drive. death cab for cutie. motion city soundtrack. october fall. ultimate fakebook. yellowcard. the hush sound. the postal service. the starting line.
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Ok, so I've liked this girl for a long time, and during the beggining of the school year she also liked me (I didn't know it back then). Now, she's going out with one of my friends, but we still talk a lot. She also keeps on asking me who I like (A lot!) Every time she says that though, I just ward it off by saying something else. So my question is...should I tell her that I like her, or keep that secret safe with me?

Go ahead and tell her you like her. Maybe things aren't that serious between her and your friend. I don't think it would hurt, go for it.
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does anyone know a good site to get icons with quotes or just quotes.

i need good quotes to say goodbye. by friend is moving to another country this year and im making this thing for her but i need goodbye quotes for it.

thanks

http://www.xanga.com/x3_quotes_and_icons_x

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okay so here's the deal. I'm 16/f and my best friend is a guy. He's attractive but i've never really like thought about doing anything sexual with him. He used to date one of my other friends, and now he's asking me to do stuff with him. I'm sure if I should. I'd feel bad because of my friend, but I want to at the same time because I haven't been with anyone in along time. Considering i've only been with 2 other guys. What should I do? Am i bad person for even considering it?

I wouldn't do it. It could ruin your friendship with your girl-friend and your guy-friend.

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Ok I always use the term "i like him" because it seems at my age i can't really love someone (i'm 15 and a girl) but i've 'liked' this guy for almost a year and a half. Everytime i see him i feel lots of butterflies in my stomach, i find myself stareing at him and when he looks at me i look away. i also find him looking at me. but i also find myself constantly talking about him and when i talk about him muy friends are always like wow you smile a lot when you talk about him, and when i'm not talking about him i'm thinking about him. i feel a little over liking him for my age. I don't go out with him but i've turned down dates because i can't imagine going out with anyone else. I either need some serious help or could i be in 'love'?!?!
kinda scary to think about.

Its scary on how much I was just like you at 15. I also don't like to say "I love him" because that is a young age to know about love. There was a guy who I had a huge crush on (( he was a grade older )). I liked him pretty much all throughout high school. I got butterflies and got incredibly nervous when I saw him & when he looked I'd look away, just like you. I was always thinking about him but the thing is, is that I NEVER talked about him. None of my friends knew and the only person who knew was him, I'm pretty sure. I was never really interested in anyone else and kind of avoided the guys who had an interest in me because I couldn't see myself with anyone else.

But I kind of blew it. I never talked to him. He graduated last year and I graduated this past thursday so I guess its kind of time to move on. I couldn't really help you with the whole love & like thing but I pretty much know exactly how you feel. I would say you probably just have a realllllly big crush on him.

But please, please, please do this: talk to him. If you've never talked to him, find someway to introduce yourself to him. Ask him if he wants to hang out. You'll regret it if you never do. And I would also know how that feels.
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My family is all going to go to Wisconsin next Thursday-Sunday. I do not want to go and neither does my mom. We would both go if my dad let us stay in a hotel, but he said that it is too much money. My grandfather (My grandfather is who we are going there to see.) keep his house at 95 degrees and I'm not joking. There aren't even enough beds in his house! He can't hear a word that I say and I'm have strep right now so, I'm not going to talk any louder than I normally do. I really do not want to go up to Wisconsin (Mom said that she's staying here) so, how do I convince my dad to not make me go?

I rate 5's for anyone who tries

They shouldn't even let you go out of the house right now since you have strep. Honestly, you should stay home and let it heal. && yea, it'll cut into your *lovely* Wisconsin vation, haha. But tell them you feel like its getting worse or it'll get worse if you go.
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im 12 and i dont shave my legs yet and its soo embarassing !! im just too scared and embarassed to ask my mom about it .. over here its been like 90 degrees and i`ve been wearing jeans! i can`t wear capris or shorts or anything because of my legs. and i just can`t talk to her it`s too embarassing. she doesn`t talk to me about this stuff so i don`t think that she`ll be bringing up the subject all of a sudden. i also dont want 2 shave behind her back. help?!

I was just like you @ that age and when I wanted to start shaving my legs. Ever since I started the 6th grade I wanted to shave but I didn't actually build up enough guts to ask until towards the end of 6th grade and it was pretty embarrassing.

I finally asked one night when we were planning on going to the beach the next day. I said "Since we're going to the beach tomorrow, can I shave my legs?" and she said "Yea." I also waited until she was actually distracted and I quickly got her attention, then she went back to doing whatever she was doing. My mom thought I was ready, I guess && I did it when I was 11-12 and thats usually when girls start shaving.

What helps me, is to be casual about it. I was always soooo embarrassed about that kind of stuff. When we went bra shopping, when I got my period, shaving my legs, etc. I'm not one to be like "Can we sit down and talk? Okay... I want to shave my legs." and I guess being casual about it, helped me. See if that helps you. Get ready to take a shower one morning/night and before you jump in just say "Hey mom, is it okay if I shave my legs? They're super hairy and I wanna wear shorts today." Hope I helped. Tell me what happens.
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All the popular girls in my school (yeah this is kinda mean but its true lol) they're all pretty ugly. yeahh some of them are pretty at times, they have nice clothes. but they're not like extremely gorgeous. some of them are even a little overweight. (not a lot, just like kinda chubby) even so, the boys are always all over them. and i really don't understand why. yeah, they're outgoing and flirty.. but still. i know i'm not the prettiest girl out there, but i'm not bad. i have nice clothes.. but the boys in my school hardly even notice me. the only thing is, is that i'm REALLY shy. but around my friends, family, and people i've known for a long time, i'm really talkative and outgoing. the people in my school don't seem to realize that however. so i'm known as some girl who never talks practically. and it pisses me off because i know i do talk, they just don't know anything about me. but like, the boy i like is popular, and is always flirting with and around those girls.. what they see in them, i don't know.. how can i get boys to notice me.. especially since i'm going to high school in september and there's gonna be new people. i've never had a real boyfriend before either =[ 14/f thnx.

I'm seventeen and I've never had a boyfriend before so don't sweat it.

You said it though... they're outgoing and flirty. Guys DO like personality, not just looks. The prettiest girl can be such a bitch and they'll think she's hott but most likely they won't talk with her as much as they talk to the friendly girls. I'm kind of like that. I've DEFINATELY have had my moments where I feel ugly, no good, whatever. But for half or even the majority of the time, I know I'm not the ugliest girl out there. But I have a hard time just randomly talking to new people, especially if its one on one. I can be totally outgoing in front of someone new if I have a friend there, but when its just me and someone I don't really know, I can be quiet (( which ALWAYS results in them thinking I'm a bitch or stuck up @ first )).

So you should do what I do--I'm definately working on that quality. I try to ask more questions and make conversation with people I don't really know. Try to talk about what ever is around you guys. If you're in a classroom, talk about what grade they got on the paper the teacher just passed back. Or what they did during their weekend. If they tell you, ask questions. "Was that fun?" "Omg, I'm jealous! I've never done that before, was it fun?" stuff like that. Its hard at first but you just have to work on it.
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Okay well first of all I am 14/f and I have never had a boyfried. I have never even kissed a guy before. Well my question is why? I mean I'm not the prettiest but I have a great personality and I am fun to be around. Do guys only go for looks? What are some things that attract guys or what should I change to get a boyfriend?

At 14 guys can sometimes be shallow. Thats a big plus that you have a great personality, don't change that. I would know, but I'm sure you're definately not ugly. If you want, you can always do a mini makeover. Get a hair cut, maybe color your hair, etc. If you don't wear makeup, maybe go and get some and start wearing it. But don't do it JUST to get a boyfriend. If YOU'RE not happy with they way you look then you should change FOR YOU, not just for guys. But yea, I'd try that. And also, are you confident? Having some confidence is a good quality to have.
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What is the age that guys usually bring their girlfriends to their house to like, meet their parents and have dinner and stuff?

Theres really no age. But its usually when the relationship is kind of serious or he really likes her a lot and intends for it to get serious. Keep in mind though, all guys are different. But usually thats how it is.
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I have to write a report on Anorexia for my health class final. The thing is, I don't understand how people go for so long without food? How do they resist temptation? And does being anorexic mean you don't eat AT ALL, or do you still eat, but just a little bit? And what are some "side effects" or problems that may occur from being anorexic. ( I've already looked at ALOT of sites I've googled, but they just all say not to go anorexic, I need more info then that!) Thanks so much guys!

Someone said that when you're anorexic you eat a little and then throw it up. Thats not really anorexia, thats bulimia. When you're anorexic, you still eat but don't eat much. People have to eat or they'll die, lol. Anorexic is extremely dangerous because people don't eat very much which is close to eating nothing.

How do they go so long without food? How do they resist temptation? Well even though they might be extremely skinny and bony already, they still think they're fat. From their eyes, they see a "fat body". They want to reach their "goal weight" and not eating + exercising will help them achieve that. Its worth it to them, I guess. And sometimes I guess they'll purge if they gave in.

Some things anorexics do are, count calories and set how many calories they can have a day. They start out with an amount one week and knock off like 100 calories the next week and it gets smaller and smaller. I've seen them set their goal for 300 calories a day which is not much @ all. Its scary in fact. And if they eat more, they'll try to exercise it off.

A lot of people don't eat and skip meals. But a lot of people do this because they don't have time and are too busy or they may be a picky eater. Anorexia is all in your mind. Why are you not eating? Because they feel fat or overweight. Theres also other reasons people become anorexic. Maybe other issues they deal with and don't have control over. Them choosing what, when and how much to eat gives them a sense of control.

I don't like the shape of my body, I feel fat. I've gone awhile without eating, I've counted and set calorie goals for my days. But I also binge a lot too because of stress. I'm very unhappy with my eating habits and my weight. I believe that I think I'm bigger than I really am according to others. However I don't think I have the title of being anorexic. I've came in contact with quite a few of them before and have watched videos in psychology about eating disorders.
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sorry if its long but...there is this kid in my class that i really really like...I sorta think he likes me back becuase sometimes when we talk, my friend said he flirts with me(I dont have a lot of experience with guys so i didnt realize it). I guess i sorta flirt with him too, becuase I take his pencil away from him sometimes on purpose becuase I know he will hold my hand to get his pencil back..plus when he does he holds it for a few seconds instead of just letting go as soon as our hands touch. Does it seem like he likes me? Becuase if im going to make a move, I have to make it soon becuase we graduate in a month and a half and we are both going to different highschools...So basically im asking, should I make a move before its too late? I dont want to not do anything and regret it later on, but i also dont want to embarrass myself by asking him out. Please help!
I rate high.
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Yea, you should definately make a move. Whats the worst thing that can happen? And it sounds like he likes you back.

Trust me, you want to ask him out, you don't want to be like me and wait for so long to where its too late. I only have 2 regrets and that is number 1. I've been in the same situation you're in (except he was graduating from high school) and believe me, it sucks to know that you blew it and you didn't do anything. So go ahead and make your move.
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I know we all have insecurities, but I'm pretty sure no one is as paranoid as I am. I'm not fat, but I'm not really skinny either. All the girls in my school seriously look like they are anorexic and the guys are all over them. I thought guys like curvy girls. Anyway, my best friend is a freakin' twig, and she has all these guys all over her. Seriously. It doesn't stop. Two of them even came to her house when she was sick because they're like obsessed with her because she's so beautiful. And I know I'm not ugly, but something inside of me keeps telling me that I am, and I need to get skinnier and more slutty and wear more make-up or stop wearing my hear a certain way. I used to be a really confident girl, but it's all changed now. I know like 2 guys think I'm hot, but that's TWO guys out of the whole school. Everyone likes my best friend. I mean everyone. It makes me sick.

So, my question is, how do I make that little voice inside my head stop saying "you're so fat, you need to be more like Danielle" or "don't do your makeup like that, that looks gross"?

I go through the same thing you do. I know that really, I'm not as fat as I think I am. I am not a stick, but I'm not a blimp either... I'm fine. But sometimes it feels like its not good enough, right? When I get to the point where I can't really handle it anymore I start thinking differently. Yeah, it might be nice to have all these guys like you and want you but deep down I'm better than that. Is it possible that you're not as outgoing as your friend? If thats the case, then you should start being more outgoing and start talking to more people & guys. It can also give you a boost of confidence. I know it does for me when I'm interacting with someone or even a cute boy, it makes me feel a little better. And all guys are different. Yeah, they may be all over your friend but I'll bet that half of them are just typical high school boys. They don't see her as a girl who they would actually have a relationship with... they just see her as more of an object. Honestly, I would rather have 2 great guys like me for me and they see me as girlfriend-material rather than a whole school full of boys that just want to get in my pants.

I'm taking your word for it. You're not fat but you're not skinny either. I don't know if this is considered good advice--but what I do when I start feeling like I'm fat because of the way everyone around me looks, I walk on my treadmill. I've had bad eating habits in the past and that isn't necessarily a good way to go. For me, eating healthy & just walking can really make me feel really good about myself. And don't worry about your friend. Be yourself, seriously. Don't change just to be on the same level as your friend and don't change for guys. It will not make you happy. And certainly don't become more slutty because in the end you won't be happy.

Just concentrate on being you, your interaction with others and eat healthy. I know the eating healthy sounds a little off topic but for me, it has a lot to do with how I feel and my self-esteem so I'm just sharing that with you. Hope I helped.
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A boy is going to ask me to a school dance. I dont want to go with him. what should i tell him to let him down gently?

I'll rate 5's.

Tell him you were really planning on just going with your friends.
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15/f, i like this guy whos in 11th grade and hes on the track team with me. we're friends, and he always calls me his "bestest bud" and always hugs me when he sees me, and teases me, and well when im near him he always puts his arms around me, around my waist or shoulders. and when we are out like, eating at a restaurant with the team (team dinners) he always has me sit next to him, or just pays attention to me. well its obvious to you readers that i like him a little, it may just be a crush but hes sweet and hes nice and cares, we just talk and well i feel good when im with him. soo do you think he likes me, what should i do around him, because track season is almost over (this wed.) and we wont see eachother as much, maybe like 1 time a day for like 1 minute! soo i dont know what to do, hes just someone i want to stay in my life, even if its just as a friend! help, any advice??? I WILL RATE 5'S!!!!!!

Aw thats really cute. Yea its obvious that you like him and by the way you describe his actions he may also like you. You know what you should do? Tell him exactly how you feel. Tell him that the season is almost over and you've realized that you guys only see eachother every so often and that he's someone that you want staying in your life. Seriously though, DON'T be afraid to say that. Its obvious he really enjoys your company and I highly doubt he would just tell you... no. Maybe the two of you can hang out after school and go eat. Or maybe go to the movies, etc. Good luck with everything

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On weekends, and such, I go out with my mother and grandmother. I'm very close to them, and they're really cool. We relate a lot even though we're all different generations. I guess I'm a lot closer to my family than most people my age.
I look at other seventeen year olds though, and they're always out with their friends, partying and stuff. I very rarely go out with my friends, because a lot of them annoy me and I have a lot more fun with my family.
But I'm starting to think I'm the only teenager who goes out with both my mother and grandmother, and I should be going out with people my age doing more "teenagery" things, as I don't want to look back on my youth and think of all the things I missed out on.
Firstly, is this pathetic? Should I be doing things with people my own age? If so, how do I meet some new people?

Be honest! I can take it. And thank you.

Wow, you sound JUST like me. I hardly go out with my friends because they annoy me sometimes as well. I don't hang out with my mother or grandmother but I hang out with a few of my cousins. I love hanging out with them, even though they can annoy me sometimes, I can't live without them. On weekends I'm either with my cousin or I'm home alone while all my friends are out at parties or spending the night @ eachother's houses.

Back in January and took a look at my life and I realized the type of thing you're realizing now. Will I look back and regret not going out with my friends? So I did a little turn around and I started hanging out with my friends a little bit more, but not to where everything was totally different. The past 3-4 weekends I haven't gone out at all and I'm a senior in high school.

I don't think its pathetic at all. You said you enjoy hanging out with them, so why would it be? But I also agree that you should set some time aside to hang out with people your own age. You might be like me, sit there and think "ohhh I don't want to go out. I don't want to plan anything either... its too much." but once you do, you'll be glad you did it because hanging out with your friends is a lot of fun outside of school. I'm assuming you go to a regular school and not homeschooled. If so, just get to know some of the other people in your class and start hanging out with them. Another thing is, if you don't have one get a myspace. IN NO WAY am I encouraging you to meet people through it, meet them in person and hang out. What I suggest, is adding kids from your school. Fill in all your interests, etc. and then go around and look @ everyone else's. Start leaving people comments & stuff and ask if they want to hang out.

Also, if you're not really into the high school party scene theres always college. I've been told that the best memories of your life come from college, not so much high school. So that'll give you something to look foreward to. As for me I've joined the Navy and even though I haven't had an extremely memorable 4 years in high school, I'll always remember the places I've gone and the many people I've met in the military.

I hope I helped some.
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how long does someones period usually last? i got mine like 2 days ago and i was just wondering how long it lasts for people. and how long it is between them. thank you

The average is like 5 days. Sometimes though, it can be 3 days and other times it can be like 7. It just all depends.
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okay, so i found this site and thouhgt it would be fun to try. i got a couple people hooked on it. but now people are doing it just for like popularity. it really bugs me. and now no one comes to me for advice anymore - and i used to have alot. is there anything i can do about this? please any ideas.

Don't worry about other people. You can give pick questions from the pool. Eventually people will realize you're good at giving advice and more people will start leaving you questions in your inbox. Just be patient because this won't happen overnight.
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13/f this boy in my class slways flirts w/ me. Like thursday we went on a field trip and on the way home we were hitting ea/ other with our brochures. by the way, I had to write 100 sentences for that!!!! But he is always like that, if we're on different teams he tries to get me or get me our, first. I catch him looking at me all the time, or he'll do something funny and make sure I'm watching, he also seems happy when I laugh at his jokes and stuff. He also seems jealous when I mention My ex. Who is still my friend.he knows all about me some how and he got here after Christmas break, not long enough to find out all my "hidden" facts. He knows where I go and stuff like that. But when I go by someones house to sleepover its like right next to him. He is NOT a stalker. I've told him about my dad but I think the bays gave him more facts than I gave him, Like he know how old I was when he died, and I did NOT tell him that. DO you think he likes me?

Yea, I totally think this kid likes you.
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On the latest episode of degrassi where emma & manny go on diets Snake made dinner for them and it was a dish called:

Masuki or Mosoke


Can someone tell me what it is please and if so a website that shows you how to make it.. Thank you soo much!

xoxox

Haha I was just watching that episode. Um, I believe is Misaki. Just type in Misaki recipes in google and I'm sure some will come up.
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