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"We make war so that we may live in peace." -aristotle"If you judge someone right away, you will not be able to learn to love them."
I'm Hayley, I'll try to help you as best I can. I'm 18, and a senior in high school. I like art, music, and clothing. I'm a vegetarian abd have been consistent with it for four years. I have two dogs a westie named misty and a Maltese/poodle mix named mally. I know a lot about dogs because any time
my dogs get a scratch, I research and call the vet haha.
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i'm 17/f and my bfs 18/m.
to start with, we have known eachother for almost a year now but only recently did we start dating. when we first met we liked eachother but we argued so much so we stayed friends. idk about him but i REALLY liked him, i was so upset when we argued and i always thought about him. now we have stopped arguing and were getting along really well, but it doesnt feel right to me. we havent argued at all since we have started dating, do you think im just used to arguing with him so thats why it feels weird??? i mean i dont think about him most of the day like i used to :/ dont get me wrong, i still really like him but idk..it just doesnt feel right.
I feel like I went through something similar to this. I really liked this one boy, I didn't really know him, but I thought he was beautiful and I thought about him constantly, and then when we started talking, we had a lot in common, but the spark was just gone. I think I liked the chase more then the actual relationship. So, maybe that's all you like too, or maybe you're not ready for a relationship yet. I can't really read your mind, so I don't know. But, if you don't like him that much, then I would just end it, before things get messy.
So that guy told me he liked me so here is the thing we have no problem texting we always have good convos and its hardly boring but im scared in person we wont talk cause his past girlfriend my best friend him and her never talked.?I also wanna go out with him what do i do?
well, your not your best friend are you? so therefore, it will probably be different. they broke up for a reason, didn't they? it will probably be awkward at first, but do something with a group & it will make it less awkward.
the only thing that worries me a bit, is he dated your best friend. when was this? who broke up with who? did you tell her about this? how does she feel about it? if she says she is 100% over him & thinks its great you guys are talking, then go for it, if not.. don't go for this guy, it will ruin your friendship
OK Dogs and Cats are out so please no suggestions to get them:
Ok so i'd like to know how it is having a rabbit as a pet. We are thinking about getting one of the mini bunnies that don't get very big, but how are they with cuddling? Do they like it? See we want something like a dog that we can cuddle but that we can potty train like a cat and our pet store lady said we can potty train rabbits, but I just don't know how much they like to be held and how they are if we are at work or if we are sleeping. Are they ok alone you know like will they get depressed or are they pretty good about independance (ok now obviously i'm not talking about all day every day, just like a few hours). Are they good with birds if anyone knows. Thanks.
i had a bunny & i played with her a lot & she wasn't veryyy cuddly. i mean she was a little bit, but she would squirm and want down. my bunny did not live inside, she had her own room in this shed/barn thing we have & there were birds in the next room over, & i'm pretty sure she didn't mind them. later though, i got a puppy, & i forgot all about my bunny [:(] and she got very depressed and would bite me if i tried to touch her. they are not independent at all, & they like a lot of attention.
i hoped that helped.
15/f
I have a crush on a classmate.I had my friend tell him I like him today,but he made a remark which meant he didn't believe it and laughed it off.Later today,I approached him and asked him why he laughed,and added that I told her to tell him that.He laughed again but I also noticed that he was blushing.He won't tell me if he likes me or not and now he's aware of my feelings for him.I noticed him looking at me before and stuff,but I can't decipher the hints.Does he like me or not? I'm planning to confront him about it next week...
I wouldn't keep confronting him about it. If he likes you, he'll tell you, you made your feelings clear & now its time to let him take over. You don't want to look clingy.
Theres always other fish in the sea!
18/female. I guess you could say i'm not shy at all. i'm a very outgoing girl who loves to have fun and i never feel awkward. it just feels like (and i've been told) that guys are intimidatd by me and thats why they won't approach me or even tell me they like me. i also feel like sometimes people may feel like i'm annoying or something because i'm so outgoing. how can i still be outgoing but maybe less annoying... if i even am??
hmm. my friend is kind of like that. she is very.. bold. she talks loudly, and says whatever she wants, and does whatever she wants, she is very talkative too, is that what you mean by outgoing?
i always tell my friend to just think before she does or says something.
i don't know why guys are intimidated by you, usually guys like outgoing girls, just like anyone likes anyone outgoing, they are easier to talk too.
maybe just bring it down a notch, if you are worried about it.
but if you like the way you are, don't change!
My mom recently stopped buying our usual bread and has picked up some wheat breads to try out. I think they taste totally different but not bad. I asked her why we are changing to this new bread and she told me that wheat bread is healthier than white bread. I, of course, asked her how it is healthier and she didn't really know but told me that I should find out. I looked around but I think the explanations might be a little too confusing because I can't really grasp WHY the bread is considered a healthier choice. Could someone PLEASE explain this to me?
the answers below me are all correct, but to make it really simple, white bread has a lot of sugar in it.
I am 5"1 17 and 113-112 lbs. I want to be 108. By going on the special K diet, however, will I gain weight on it because I am not per say, fat. Is this a diet for heavy people?
Thanks !!
i wouldn't do it. i weigh about the same as you, and i tried it, and i do think its for people who are bigger, my perception of it was its suppose to make you eat smaller meals. well, i already eat pretty small meals, & the breakfast was actually too large for me. so, what i did was just exercise a little more and cut out junk food and drink a lot of water, and you would probably lose that in like a week. ahah. that is only like 5 pounds, so it should be simple for you to do.
im 13 nearly 14 and im 9st im medium boned. i feel fat and overweight i have been called this at school ive tried everything not eating, throwing up after eating doing exercise non stop dieting but i cant loose weight what shall i do? i like this guy but i am too fat to ask him as he goes for pretty skinny small girls with blonde hair???
whoaaa. don't ever force yourself to throw up or not eat. it is very bad for you.
anyway, hmmm. my one friend kind of sounds like you. she would go on these crazy hardcore diets, for like a week. she would hardly eat, exercise constantly, and she'd lose some weight (that's not healthy though) but her results weren't high enough, and so she'd quit, and gain anything she lost, back. do you do that..?
also, it takes time to lose weight. you can't expect to lose 20 pounds in a week or two. that takes around a month or so, i would assume.
if you want to lose weight, you need to do it in steps. cut out all the junk food you eat, don't eat a lot of meat (especially red.), work out daily (but DON'T push yourself too hard.), eat lots of fruits and veggies, do this for a few months. and i guarantee you will lose weight.
good luck!
and not all guys like skinny blonde girls, haha. just be yourself. don't try to be too skinny, just be healthy. you don't have to have blonde hair for a guy to like you, or fit into any category, just do whatever you want.
My boyfriend is a very diverse eater, and yet im a picky eater. He always wants to go out to different types of foods in different cultures and im just used to ordring the mozzerella sticks from friendlys haha. So heres my question: what are good vegetarian foods in different cultures? Im not vegan, i just dont eat fish, poultry, or meat. I DO eat dairy products. The cultures im most intersted in what you eat are...
-Chinese
-Japanese
-Mexican
-Italian
Thank you! :)
Well.. I'm not any of those cultures, but I am vegetarian. And if you want to go out to eat there is a lot of places that have vegetarian menus. You can go on vrg.com or PETA.com. Last time I looked they still showed all the restaurants. And they have recipies too. I just went to borders the other day and got some cookbooks who gave lots of cultural recipies. Also , what I do is for foods I used to like that contain meat or eggs(I'm pretty much a began, but I slip sometimes) I just use morning star or tofu. You could try that too. Hope I helped:)
Ok so i am kinda thin but i would like to look like a VS model (who wouldn't right?) but as much as i work out and stuff i just can't seem to get the body that they have..... so what do they eat?
My cousins friend is a model and they eat very little. They don't lead very healthy lives in my opinion and I don't reccommend it. If you want to lose weight then eat lots of fruits and veggies and exercise regularly.
My friend has a Siberian kitty she needs to give away or she will have to give the kitty to a shelter that kills (all the no-kill shelters are full, we checked already). How can I persuade my mom to let me keep the kitty for two weeks until I can find a home for it, or let me adopt the cat?
Thanks!
How old are you? Pending on your age, you can tell her how responsible you are, and stuff like that.
When I really wanted a puppy, I pretty much followed my mom around for the entire day begging, and eventually she caved in. In my house, begging works quite well.
But, maybe you could try telling her how you'll buy the food, take care of it, and it will be all your responsibility, and I don't know if your mom is an animal lover, but tell her how the pet will have to go to a shelter that kills unwanted pets. That would probably soften my mom up.
Oh, and what I did too when I wanted a puppy, my friend just got a puppy too, so I had her bring over her puppy, and my mom thought it was so cute, so that really helped too. So, maybe you could bring the pet over, so your mom can see it, and how cute it is.
Good luck. :)
Do you like having an i pod touch?
Also any good FREE apps you like?
and can anyone of you explain to me how to get pictures from my laptop 0n to my i pod?
I have had my i pod since febuary 28th.
and i really like it and i wanna get the i phone whats your thoughts on the i phone?
i loveeee my ipod touch, it has got to be the most amazingest thing ever. haha, i use it so much, it dies every day. there aren't really any free apps i'm inlove with..well i like checkers, and air hockey, and solitare, and pac man, and textplus. but if you want really fun good games cheap, wait for them to go on sale. (they always do.) most only cost 99 cents. & all the apps i've paid for are well worth it. they always go on sale, and you just have to check back. they will usually go as high as 80% off, so yeah, they are very affordable.
& i don't know how to get pictures from your laptop to your ipod. but if you mean like how to get pictures onto your ipod touch then all you do is find the picture you want, & then hold it for 3 seconds, and it will pop up 'save image'
if you are saying that you have a regular ipod like nano or something, then i'm really not sure, but if you go to you tube & type in like 'how to put pictures onto my ipod' a tutorial should pop up. or you can go on apple.com & you can probably find it there..
i would of bought the iphone but i have verizon, and i am in a contract, so i just bought the ipod touch. the ipod touch and iphone are exactly the same, the only difference is, is that you can't make calls on the ipod touch. whats cool about the ipod touch, is you can text on it, (as long as you have wifi) so, i actually was able to save myself some money, and get rid of text messages, or lower it, whatever.
the ipod touch, is amazing, i love it. if you want to know anything else, let me know. :)
sooo ok dont judge me because im asking this. im completely normal, i just love my boyfriend so much. weve been dating for 2 years and he suffers from schitzophrenia and he refuses to take medication because he hates the way it makes him feel. i feel so horrible 4 him because he is in so much pain and its just getting so much worse. i know he doesnt want to live anymore. yesterday he asked me to kill him and at first i didnt think he was serious but we talked for a while and he said it was the only way or he would do it himself. i dont want him to go to hell for committing suicide so i told him i would kill him so id go to hell instead. i havnt decided if im going to kill myself yet because my boyfriend says he doesnt want me to do that. but i dont know if i could deal with the fact i killed the boy im in love with. but what happens if a 16 year old kills another 16 year old who asked her to do it? jail? death penalty? psychiatric center forever? im not crazy im just putting the one i love out of his misery because i cant stand him being in pain any longer. id rather be in pain for him. just wanna know what would happen. dont try to do all that talking out of it and stuff either. wont work. thanks
I have the exact same opinion as peeps, so yeah. But, I just thought I'd share with you my personal experience with a friend of mine, who had schizophrenia. When I first met him I could tell he was very different. He just moved to our school, & nobody really talked to him, (because he would talk to himself all the time & did odd random things, like for example, in gym he would randomly start jumping around, & just act very different.) he had no friends, except for me. I had no idea he had schizophrenia until I went over his house one time, & he went to go change & his mother told me he had it, & just how she thought i was nice & stuff. He had such child like behavior, & would laugh at random times, etc. (i'm assuming you're well informed, so you know what i mean.) Anyway, he would tell me, how he would wish his life would end sometimes, because he was confused, and could not tell the difference between reality and his own little world. The medicine that he took, he didn't like to take either, his mother told me all about how he would not swallow it & stuff, because he didn't feel safe & was even more confused. anyway, he eventually started taking it correctly, & just in the past two years i've know him, i've seen a huge difference. he has gotten so so so so so so much better. its unbelievable. with the right treatment and medicine, your boyfriend can get help. do not kill him, or try to convince him to not kill himself. people before me, have already explained the punishment you would face & like i said, i agree with peeps, 100%. you guys are only 16, you have so much more to life. think of your family & his family, think how they would feel. he can get better, help him to get better, don't end his life, help him to live a full healthy happy life. it is possible, it was possible for my friend, and it can be possible for your boyfriend too. just because you cannot see the light at the end of the tunnel right now, doesn't mean its not there. encourage him to take the medicine & maybe you yourself should consider seeing a therapist or something,i know you just want to help him, but don't you think helping him get medicine, and live a full happy life, would be helping him much more?
15/f
There is this guy I started talking to like a couple weeks ago. I knew who he was before but then out of no where he started talking to me. He is one of my friends but I don't like him like that. He's cool to talk to but when he starts flirting with me or something its really awkward. The most he does is just turn around and talk to me during class and will want to arm wrestle or something that has to do with our hands. So he asked me to put my number in my phone but I never did. I didn't like totally reject it in front of his face but my friend took it and was looking at it. So I felt better about that.
I just don't like him like that and even if he was trying to get to me I wouldn't want him to do it so fast. My friend told me she thinks he likes me and it does seem like he's moving fast. I thought he was too. What am I supposed to do about it? Just let it pass by and ignore it? Or talk to him? I wouldn't really want to do that since it's hard enough for me to talk to him in the first place and that I don't want me telling him something when he really doesn't like me. Or should I just wait around and see if I ever end up having feelings for him? Ehh...I don't know...
I would just ignore it, or just talk to him like you would anyone else, he might just be joking around. I have this one guy friend who is sooo touchy, & all these girls always think he likes them & i even thought that, but i didn't really like him & so I just kind of ignored it & acted the way i act with anyone else, & now he is my bestest friend ever, & he is always like, i hate how girls think i like them, i'm just being friendly. & then he gets into this big long explanation about how it bothers him.. haha. so are you sure he isn't just like that? girls do tend to over analyze things. i mean, what are you going to say if he does actually like you.."i think you like me, but i don't feel the same way?" if he does like you, he probably will be like.. i don't like you & lie and cover it up & tell everyone about how silly you were to think that.. would you want thaT? i know guys that have done that before. he could react a lot of different ways, its not worth the drama. just don't lead him on. just talk to him & be nice.
My computer crashed and all my music and photos are gone. But they are still on my iPod and I'm trying to find a free program to transfer my music, videos, and photos to my new computer. Where can I get a program?
Go onto youtube, and just type in how to transfer my music from my ipod to my computer.. i've had computers break on me a few times, and those youtube videos are very helpful. :) they do great step by steps, show you where to go, what to download, etc.
i need some opinions...do you think teenage relationships are pointless? me and my boyfriend are 17 and been together for a year. i'm not the kind of girl and he's not the kind of guy to throw around the "l" word, but we honestly love each other.
he's my other half and i honestly can't remember life before him...we tried breaking up once because we were afraid of getting too attached before college, it didn't work to well since we ended up getting back together....however, this is why i'm worried...
i know its bad to get so attached, especially when college is around the corner...we both don't really know whats happening next year.
so my question is, do teenage relationships actually last? or are they just another thing to get upset about when you have to break up for college :/
If your meant to be, you'll stay together. I'm 17, and I was dating this guy, who my family & friends (friends that are in their 20s) did not like. I'd always be like, whats the big deal? i'm just dating him. & they'd be like, before you know, you will be engaged to the guy. I have friends in their 20s, and they have all married high school boyfriends/girlfriends. I think two met when they just finished high school.. & my parents met in high school, along with a lot of their friends. I think once you find the right person, you just get attached, and stay with that person.
I don't think teenage relationships are stupid or whatever. Things happen fast.
I hope that helped. :)
Hi,
I am a 17f. Theres this guy I met and have known for several months. He is 18 and he is the absolute sweetest guy ever, which is why I like him. We have hung out a few nights and cuddled a little. The problem is, I know he has another girl that he feels strongly for. He told me about her and hes told me he loves me, but its not the same love that he has for this other girl. Then he tells me later that he just loves me. He also said he wants to kiss me to see if theres 'a spark', I didnt think that would be right so I didnt let him. I dont want to get closer to him, expecially knowing he has another girl. Everyone thinks we are dating and I keep telling them NO WE ARE NOT. I think I really like him, Im just unsure. I think hes unsure as well. He makes me feel like I have never felt before, but I can't help but think that he will end up ditching me or I might find someone better.. you know? I told him we should just be friends..deep inside I want it to be more;I am sure he does too but..yeah. I have never dated before, cuz all the other guys I know are losers and just want sex. I want it to be right. I am not the kind of girl that dates just anybody for the hell of it. Please tell me what you think, Just be friends or.. ?
No, he isn't. You don't need to kiss someone, to know if there is a spark. He is just stringing you along, and may also just be in it to get some from you. If he has another girl that he lieks & he isn't dumping her for you, then no he isn't worth it at all. He may be confused about his feelings and is obviously attracted to you. You're in high school, there are plenty of other decent guys, and defintitly ones better then him. It seems like your number 2, and you should find a guy, who wants you as number 1.
I wouldn't even bother being friends with the guy.
So there is this adorable/hot/cute/sexy/amazing/nice/funny guy. He's 20 yrs old, I'm 17. He and I met 3 yrs ago this thanksgiving. We were basicully together for 2 yrs unofficially. And for one year I was jus so busy with my life we didn't talk. We jus recently started talking. And we both clearly still hav feelings for eachother. He wants to take me out on a date because he misses me and he says he was in love with me. Wich I'm skeptical about since he had a small thing with 3 of my bestfriends -_- anyways he is a big flirt. He tries to have sex with a lot of girls clearly. Wen we talk I jus let him kno I think he's perfect and he always says "I'm jus perfect for you" and I told him that I jus recently got fucked over and cheated on by my last boyfriend and he got so mad and upset about it. He was saying things like you're wayy to good for that and blahh. He thinks I can get anyone and always compliments me. He's always there for me and he's such a sweet talker. I told him I'm not going to have sex wit him the nite he takes me out and he said wtf I never said we should I want to take you out nothing more nothing less. So he knows he's getting nothing out of me. So am I crazy to think this wild party boy actually wants to commit to me and only me? Or am I a fool? Pleasee helpp!
I was in a similar situation as this, and i'm sure most girls have been or will be. The guy I was with/liked/dated for about 3 years, he was a very big flirt & had a bit of an alcohol and drug problem. I wasn't really into that stuff, and he knew I wasn't. And all my friends told me, how he was a loser and not worth the time, but i was soooo convinced I was the right girl for him, I would change his ways, he would change the way he was for me & everything would just be soooo lovely. Guess what? it didn't turn out that way. he ended up cheating, lieing, and hurting me more then anyone has ever hurt me before, and he is still the same loser i stopped talking to a year ago.
However, that was my relationship, i don't know you or this guy, and maybe you'll get lucky and he won't be a jackass like the guy i liked. In my opinion, it probably isn't worth your time, but just because of my experience.
I would go on the date though. DON'T be easy though. I mean at allll. See if he is really willing to change for you. Make him wait a month or two before you have sex with him or however long you think is right.
He is 20 years old though, I doubt he is ready to settle down. If there is one thing I have learned from relationships is don't be slutty/easy whatever. Once you do that, you become nothing great to them. Most of the guys i've dated have been in high school though, so i don't know. maybe since he is a little older, he is better. But, the way you describe him doesn't make it seem like he has trouble finding girls... so yeah.
I would go on a date with him, and see what happens. If he still continues to party and go with other girls, i'd ditch him.
Oh, and the fact that he has hooked up with some of your friends, doesn't really help his case either. If after the first date, he wants you to have sex with him on the second, even the third, i would forget him.
I hope I helped. :)
I feel like I have done a significant amount of work in peripheral countries for my age. Peripheral is the correct word for third world just to keep everyone on par. I started at 17 teaching English and Health in rural Argentina and Bolivia. I am now 20 and have spent over a year in these areas. I found out today that one of the kids I worked with starved to death. I am just at a point where I'm wondering whether it's worth it. It costs me over $3000 dollars a year to be able to volunteer. I'm a triple major in Spanish/Political Economics/Latin American Studies with a Portuguese minor. Can one person really change anything? Am I wasting my time? Most of my peers have decided that spending their money on cars and parties is more worthwhile. I'm beginning to think I'm the unrealistic one. Guevara died and South America remains in poverty. Ghandi died and the India remains an impoverished country. Should the privileged just enjoy their wealth? I'm sorry if this seems like a sob story. I'm just looking for evidence that there is some progress being made, and I can't find it..
Wow, you are an inspiration to me. I would love to do that. I think you should make a documentary, like the invisible children thing. it's a good way to show people what is going on. If you do it on you tube, and just teach people about it, you can help change things. help get other people involved & stuff like that.
How do you get other teens involved with and committed to service projects? It seems that the majority of teens today can't be bothered or are simply too busy to apply themselves to any cause that isn't within their scope of interests--and most often service and volunteer work comes last on their list of priorities that include socialization, gaming, and/or studying.
Getting teens to spread the word and bring friends to help volunteer helps somewhat, but even then, this strategy doesn't yield great results. Help?
We have a club at our school, that you can do service hours and it looks good for college. So, a lot of teens do it for that.
If you are still in school or are a teacher, I think a great way to help them get involved is to educate them. Like with morning annoucements put a video up of whatever thing you want to help. a lot of teens/kids don't probably realize what is really going on in the world. i know i didn't until this year. (& i am 17 years old.) i knew countries were poor & don't have a lot but i still thought they all had electricity and stuff. i now realize, they don't. & i've really tried to spread the word and donate now that i know. :) it's not that i didn't care, i just didn't know.