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am i the girl that will make him change?
So there is this adorable/hot/cute/sexy/amazing/nice/funny guy. He's 20 yrs old, I'm 17. He and I met 3 yrs ago this thanksgiving. We were basicully together for 2 yrs unofficially. And for one year I was jus so busy with my life we didn't talk. We jus recently started talking. And we both clearly still hav feelings for eachother. He wants to take me out on a date because he misses me and he says he was in love with me. Wich I'm skeptical about since he had a small thing with 3 of my bestfriends -_- anyways he is a big flirt. He tries to have sex with a lot of girls clearly. Wen we talk I jus let him kno I think he's perfect and he always says "I'm jus perfect for you" and I told him that I jus recently got fucked over and cheated on by my last boyfriend and he got so mad and upset about it. He was saying things like you're wayy to good for that and blahh. He thinks I can get anyone and always compliments me. He's always there for me and he's such a sweet talker. I told him I'm not going to have sex wit him the nite he takes me out and he said wtf I never said we should I want to take you out nothing more nothing less. So he knows he's getting nothing out of me. So am I crazy to think this wild party boy actually wants to commit to me and only me? Or am I a fool? Pleasee helpp!
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You can't change any one. If he wants to change he has to do it himself. If i were you i would be careful since you said he's had a thing with 3 of your best friends which means he's a player. Go on the date with him and see how it goes. If it goes well then continue dating him and see where it goes. i hope i helped
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I was in a similar situation as this, and i'm sure most girls have been or will be. The guy I was with/liked/dated for about 3 years, he was a very big flirt & had a bit of an alcohol and drug problem. I wasn't really into that stuff, and he knew I wasn't. And all my friends told me, how he was a loser and not worth the time, but i was soooo convinced I was the right girl for him, I would change his ways, he would change the way he was for me & everything would just be soooo lovely. Guess what? it didn't turn out that way. he ended up cheating, lieing, and hurting me more then anyone has ever hurt me before, and he is still the same loser i stopped talking to a year ago.
However, that was my relationship, i don't know you or this guy, and maybe you'll get lucky and he won't be a jackass like the guy i liked. In my opinion, it probably isn't worth your time, but just because of my experience.
I would go on the date though. DON'T be easy though. I mean at allll. See if he is really willing to change for you. Make him wait a month or two before you have sex with him or however long you think is right.
He is 20 years old though, I doubt he is ready to settle down. If there is one thing I have learned from relationships is don't be slutty/easy whatever. Once you do that, you become nothing great to them. Most of the guys i've dated have been in high school though, so i don't know. maybe since he is a little older, he is better. But, the way you describe him doesn't make it seem like he has trouble finding girls... so yeah.
I would go on a date with him, and see what happens. If he still continues to party and go with other girls, i'd ditch him.
Oh, and the fact that he has hooked up with some of your friends, doesn't really help his case either. If after the first date, he wants you to have sex with him on the second, even the third, i would forget him.
I hope I helped. :)
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