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I like this guy... sorry, I'm so unoriginal, who I see at a club once a week. I was at a party a couple of weeks back, and he was there and heard me having an argument with one of my friends. I self-injure quite a lot and am trying to stop - and he definitely heard references to that.
Today, he pulled my friend aside and asked if I was okay, if there was anything wrong, and my friend told him that I liked him and about my self-injury problem. I don't really have any issues with him knowing, I'm pretty open about it, but I'm worried about him going out with me because he feels sorry for me as he basically made a comment to this effect.
However, he's really making an effort to be friendly to me, but I know this is only because he feels sorry for me and I can't stand it. Do you think I should talk to him about it? Ideas would be much appreciated. Thanks. (link)
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I think you need to be sure of what this guy knows before you talk to him about it. And then i think you should tell him how you feel; perhaps you are just feeling paranoid and he really does like you. But don't go off on one or get angry at him, because you may be loosing a true friend. Good luck x
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I'm 13 years old and I have a 2.5 inch long penis when it gets a boner. If I asked any of you women out there, would you suck it? (link)
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No.
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First of all let me congratulate you on this wonderful online service you are offering people like me. I thank you for giving of your knowledge so freely.
About 1 year ago I suffrered with (D.U.B.) dysfunctional uterine bleeding . My doctor recommended "Climen" for 4 mths and it did indeed work well for 4 mths. My irregular period returned 2 mths ago . It`s now 5 days late . In addition to this I have been experiencing for 2 mths now - menstrual acne. As soon as my menstrual cycle has ended , my skin clears up. This is very annoying though because when teh acne starts , it`s bad.
My question is , do you think that I should start the "climen" again? and will this medicine take care of my acne problem as well?
Anxiously awaiting a response,
Concerned .
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Firstly, how old are you? If you are still in your teenage years, or in your mid-forties plus this will affect the regularity of your period anyway because your hormones are all over the place. This can also be affected by all sorts of things such as stress, anxiety and sexual activity. Acne is also a symptom of the menstrual cycle, particularly in teenagers. I think if you believe the medication will help this problem, then you should go back to your doctor and ask him/her for help.
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ok can someone please help em and tell me what the best classes are to take for highschool iv chosen sign laungauge already i need 1 more and 2 alternet class to pick from someone please help (link)
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pick something that relates to what you enjoy and what you think you'll be good at.
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there is this guy at work we have been talking for a while now. we always laugh and joke around. he says things to me like"you are really funny" "i like this girl" and a whole lot of things that helps me to understand that he likes me. well i guess what im trying to ask is how do i approach the relationship i want to give him my number but i dont know how i dont want to sound to blunt but i want to get this thing going please help me to figure out what to do. Also could you give me someadvice on how to tell if someone is truelly interested in you (link)
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Hey!
It sounds like you guys really like each other! Ask him out for a drink, if he wants to go out for a pizza one night or to a movie, and take it from there. It sounds like you've got a pretty good basis for something more already :) Have fun and good luck!
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I was with my partner for 11 years. We then married and 5 months later he met someone else and left two months later, without discussion. We had a very good relationship, and I believed we were together for life. Our respective faults did not adversersly affect the relationship and we got on very well together. He is a very independant/selfish person, but I belive he was not unfaithful to me before this occasion. He tells me he has not left because he met someone else, but becaused I nagged, and that he no longer loved me. Being a woman, yes I did nag, but far from excessivly.
We have been apart for 5 months, and I would still have him back, as I feel our relationship is worth fighting for. I was unaware that he was unhappy, and he made no indication of this. I have written a couple of letters and tried to talk to him, but he is,and always has been,reluctant, or incapable of talking about his feelings in any detail. The most I have got out of him is that he 'loves me, but not as he should'. He has remained in touch, and when I see him, he treats me like an old friend, and acts as though nothing has happened/that we did not have the past that we had.I do belive we could be happy together, despite this, and am prepared to try and put what has happened behind us. Some advice on how to 'play' all this would be gratefully received - what steps do I take to try and rebuild our relationship?. I am 42, and he is 41.
Regards
Anne Wilson. (link)
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Hello,
Wow, eleven years is a long time. I'm sorry that your partner left you, honey, but I think you need to give each other some space for a while, to sort out your heads and decide if you really want to get back together. I understand that you really care for him, but he HAS to care back in the same way to make it work or there is no relationship. You said that he was 'unfaithful to you' - if you took him back, if he said that he wanted you, would you truly, in your heart of hearts, be able to 100% trust this guy ever again? Perhaps he isn't right for you. I think the first thing to do, as i mentioned, is to give him and you some breathing space to think. Remain friends, and when you're comfortable enough, bring up the relationship. Don't just spring it on him all at once or he'll recoil from you, just take it slow. I really hope that you either find someone who can love you as much as you deserve, or get back with this guy that you obviously love. Good luck x
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I have a great friend named Erin. We've been best friends since 1st grade, but lately she's been deserting me for her new friends. Now, I'd normally be beaming if she made a few new friends, but I'm just so glum about it now. Her new friend, Bridget, is super mean to me! She sits there and makes fun of me for listening to Jessica Simpson, Ja Rule, Ludacris, you get the picture. She even had the nerve to make fun of my uncle's rock band (FYI my uncle's only 23)! Worst of all, Erin sits there and laughs with Bridget!!! I know that Erin isn't being the world's best friend, but she's just such a nice girl when she's away from Bridget. Bridget's also starting to talk to Erin about cutting herself... See, Bridget cuts herself in choir (I sit right next to her) & wipes her blood on a piece of paper in her planner. In fact, she has a whole page full of blood.... Nasty! She's trying to convince Erin to start doing that. Erin's also yelling at me for not going out with this kid who I don't like, but here she is hooking Bridget up with her own best guy friend, and BRIDGET HAS A BOYFRIEND who's practically in love with her! Help!!!!!! (link)
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Ok, I'm going to answer this in sections, so be patient with me..
: If Erin is deserting you for new people, it's time for you to get some new friends too. I don't mean you have to break up with Erin, or stop talking to her, but it's a fact that as we grow up, we grow apart. We start to like different things, want to meet new people. Try making some new friends of your own.
: Have you told Erin how you feel about Bridget? Do NOT take crap from people; you don't deserve to be made fun of. When she makes fun of you, don't shout at her or have a nasty retort (although by the sounds of it, i don't think you would be nasty anyway), just stand up and walk away. Bullies are cowards who are insecure about themselves. Ignore her, don't rise to it, or as I suggested, make some new friends. If Erin is laughing when Bridget is doing these things to you, she's NOT your friend. Trust me, I've been there before, and it all ended in tears.
: You need to tell someone that Bridget is cutting herself, ESPECIALLY if she's just doing it to "be cool", and encouraging Erin to do it too. Cutting is NOT cool, I know from personal experience, and she can really get hurt. She could get blood poisioning or hit an artery or ANYTHING, so please, please tell someone.
: Ok, I don't mean to be harsh here, but Bridget sounds like a cowardly little girl who needs to grow up. Cutting herself? Cheating on her boyfriend? What is that? Look at it this way; who is the better friend, you or Bridget? If Erin can't see that you are genuine and Bridget is just a show off, SHE IS NOT WORTH YOUR TIME! Don't do something just because Erin wants you to! Be yourself, if you don't like someone, don't hook up with them!
: I know this situation well. I had a best friend who left me for a group of "cooler" kids. We'd been best friends for almost five years, and one day she just said "I hate you and I don't wanna hang out with you anymore". Don't let this friendship get to that stage. Please, get yourself out of this friendship; I am worried that they will try and bully you into cutting yourself. Use your common sense, hang out with new people, involve youself in clubs and other activities where you can make new friends.
: If you ever need to talk about this, drop me a note. Good luck x
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My dad threatens to ground me for EVERYTHING these days..... Getting a C, buying a thong, eating 'lots' of junk food, buying food for myself, yelling at him, sleeping in too late, waking up too early.. You name it, my dad threatens to ground me for it! I just got off-grounded for getting a C- in English & buying a bag of candy for a "party" that me & my friends had at lunch last friday. I HATE HIM SO MUCH!!!!!!!! What am I supposed to do?? (link)
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Hey,
Me and my dad aren't the best of friend's either. I'd like to know how old you are, firstly, because if you're 14 or older, its likely that your dad is worried that his "little girl" (assuming you're female) is growing up too fast, and he wants to maintain some of that control over what you do. Me and my dad have NEVER been close; he hardly speaks to me and when he does its to tell me off, so just be assured that you're not alone. Don't get mad, don't get upset, just take a deep breath and say to yourself "i won't rise to it". The angrier you get with him, the angrier he'll get with you. I hope everything works out for you x
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A guy I know asked me out a week ago, and I refused, nicely. I thought it was all over... Until his younger sister came up to me, and asked if it was true that I'm dating her brother. I told her that I wasn't, and I that I like someone else. She said that her brother told a bunch of people that we're dating! I didn't beleive it at first, but by the end of that day, 5 other people asked if it was true! He's spreading all these false lies about me, saying that we went to the movies & made out... Well, here's the scoop: I went to the movies, but not with him. I saw him there, and he sat behind me. I touched his arm when I was walking outta the theater, I never kissed him, let alone make out with him! What should I do? (link)
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This guy sounds a bit scary to me, like he may be infactuated with you just a tad too much. Everyone that asks you if you're going out with this dude, just tell them politely that you aren't. It's none of their business what you do anyway. I think you need to either sit the guy down and ask him why he's doing this, and talk it through with him, or get someone else (like his little sister) to talk to him. This has happened to one of my friends before, and trust me, it'll all die down and the people at school will realise that it's all a farce and find something else to occupy their time. Hope all works out :)
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I'm 22 with 2 kids, my boyfriend of almost a year is 24. He's never been in love and has not developed any strong feelings for me. I don't know what to do, I really care for this guy. Can you give some advice? (link)
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Love HAS to be a two-way thing. I'll assume that this guy isn't the father of your children (as you have 2 kids and you've been going out with him for a year), and my advice to you is to move on. You can still be friends, there's nothing wrong with that, but you can't develop a relationship with someone who hasn't got the same kinds of feelings toward you. Good luck, hope all works out x
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ok im in 8th grade but nxt yeari will be going into highschool and im so scared. the school im going to has over 2,000 kids. im really scared of not finding my class cuz its such a big school and im scared of all the boys that will hit on me
please please please help (link)
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Hey!
Everyone gets nervous of high school, and trust me, pretty much everyone gets lost at some point. But think of it this way; its an adventure. Its a new start, a chance to make new friends. Just relax and enjoy it. You'll be fine, I promise :) Good luck!
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I am almost 13 years old and i havent started my period!! I know that you can get your period until the age of 16 or something like that but (i know this is a little freaky)what if you have hair down there? is that a sign? please help!
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Hey, I would enjoy not having your period yet! It comes with all sorts of wonderful cramps and headaches and such that have already been mentioned. Everyone's different, I began my period when I was 9, as did my best friend, but other friends didn't start till they were 14 and some not till they were 16. Don't fret, it'll come when your body is ready for it :)
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i have 2 or 3 girls that i want to date, but all of them send me mixed signals. i'm looking for a real relationship, not for another peice of a**.
does any 17-18 year old female have advice? that girls are between that age group ( 17-18 ). (link)
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I'm an 18 year old girl, and at this age, most girls who aren't in a long-term relationship already are finding it difficult to figure out who they are themselves, learning to be more independant, dealing with college or work or whatever, and I find that most girls my age are confused enough as it is without throwning a boyfriend into the mixture. However, if you really want a long term relationship with a girl, you should be friends first. A strong friendship is often the basis of a relationship, and will build trust and a better understanding of each other. Then if your feelings develop from there, you have to tell that person, sit them down and tell them how you feel. Sending signals is all well and good when you're just flirting, but when you want something more stable you have to be open and honest.
Don't be too quick to rush into a relationship that neither you or the other person are ready for.
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How do I tell my my really nice friend that she wears WAAAAY too much makeup? She's pretty underneath it all, but I swear she puts on so much makeup nobody knows what her real face actually looks like anymore. I don't want to hurt her feelings, I just want to help her out. (link)
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Some of my friends cake their make up on with a roller some mornings, but the way i see it, if they're comfortable that way then good on them. If your friend likes the way she looks when she wears make up, then what's the harm in it? However, I can see your side of the argument. My friends are usually really blunt and honest when something's wrong (I'll ALWAYS tell my best friend my honest opinion on clothes, if she says "Does this suit me?" and it doesn't I'll say no), so I guess if you really want to say something to her, just tell her that you think she'd be prettier with less make up.
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what does kinky mean (link)
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Kinky is a sexual word. When used in a sexual context it means experimenting different ways to get sexual pleasure, whether it be out of the ordinary or not.
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my son will start secondary school in a year and already he`s been told how the year 11 pupils put the year6 head down the toilet and push them around, hes panicking over this, ive explained that its all just a myth but hes worried, can anyone reassure him that this doesnt happen (link)
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I heard the exact same thing when I was about to go to high school, and never, not once, did I get my head shoved down the toilet. Everyone gets worried about this -- it's a rumour that goes around every single year. I understand how worried your son must be, because high school is a daunting thing. I'm in year thirteen (my last year of sixth form), and even when I was in year eleven none of the people in my year put people's heads in the toilets. You can re-assure your son, but really kids have to learn for themselves at this stage. He'll be nervous right up until a few weeks into his first year, but by then he'll know that it's alright and he doesn't have to worry about it. I hope your son is successful at high school.
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I like to eat the crumbs, and small ones first, even if I have to dig deep in the bag. Sometimes, I dump them out to get to the small ones. People think I'm weird. Am I? (link)
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Probably not weird. Perhaps just really hungry.
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Everytime someone says anything (even joking around) she will get all offended and go off in a strop. I told her that she takes things to seriously and she got im a mood with me. I really dont no wot 2 say 2 her now - any ideas?
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Maybe this girl has some problems that she's not telling anyone about at home or otherwise. If you want to know why she's reacting the way she is, ask her. Sit down and talk to her about it. If she says she doesn't want your help, pushes you away or gets in a mood, just back off and let her have her own space for a while. She'll come around :)
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me and my bf have been together for 2 months but we spent alot of time together, i know he still wants to be together but i think it just isnt working, i dont like him as much as he likes me. I want to break up but i dont want to hurt him, how should i do it - as nicly a poss?
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There isn't any way to break up with your boyfriend without hurting him- but the longer you leave it, the worse it will get. Just sit him down and tell him straight out how you feel. Don't be nasty or mean about it, but don't soften the blow either or he'll feel like you're patronising him. Just be honest. Hope all works out.
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I love someone very much. Everytime I see him I feel like I can fly. But he has a crush on my best friend. But she doesnt like him that way. I love him with all my heart. How can I let him know how I feel? I'm afraid if he doesn't feel the same way I'll lose our friendship... (link)
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Hey!
Aw hun, I've been in this situation and it's terrible. In fact, I really like someone whose been one of my best friends for years, but he's going away to university next year and I was in two minds as to whether to tell him or not.
Well, my advice to you is to sum up how much you value this guy's friendship, and how likely it is that he will react badly. You say he has a crush on your best friend, so maybe you could tell her how you feel about it. If this guy is genuine, you'll be able to sit him down and talk to him about this; but i think you really have to consider your friendship. I went out with a guy called Tony. We were really really close friends, but when we went out he cheated on me and things deteriorated and he never got my friendship back, and I never got his.
I know it's tough, but trust me, you're not the only one. I hope everything works out for you x
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