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Q: ohh gosh. i really need some help. i am in LOVE with this boyy. anyways i really think he likes me too. but hey im in middle school not much you can do. its not the romantic bond between us. i wouldnt want that anyways. but i really hope i
would go out with him soon. we kid around and stuff like that. im not ugly, fat, but i do have some break outs, but over all i am a pretty attractive person. i just need help

First of all, your looks should have nothing to do with it. Second, You need to know what you want before you can do anything about it. If you love this guy, you have to do something about it, unless he has some type of relationship with someone else... You need to get close to this guy before you do anything rash, so that you know the guy, and he knows you. You may like him, but if you do about it before you two know eachother it could make it a lot harder. Unless your parents or his have some problem with it, I see no problem with you two getting together. Middle school is a good time, for some people, to bond and get to know each other. It sounds like you and him have a good relationship going if you two joke around a lot. Just remember two things for me. 1-hiding your feelings from him could end up that you never get to know how he feels for you, and what would happen if he knew. 2-Telling him could change your and his relationship with each other, and you should be ready for that before you tell him. But also...you have to remember that this is your bussiness, not your friends'. Don't bring them into this unless they have to be, it could only make it worse. I hope i helped, and remember that my inbox is always open. Thanks for dropping me one, do it again anytime...tell me how it goes with this guy! good luck! hope it goes good~

Q: Well there's this guy I like and me and him talk alot, which I know is good and everything, but know we've talked so much there isn't too much to talk about anymore, and the conversation starts to die after awhile.

I mean we do the casual "how was your day? school? what'd you do?," and everything, but after that, it's hard to talk about anything else cause you've already talked about mostly everything.

Helpppp?

Okay...well, I have gone through this...it happens when you like the person. If you talk about everything at first then you run out. Try doing something with him...tell him it's not a date, but you two need something to talk about. Or, try meeting someone together. Find someone that neither one of you know and intriduce yourselves...if you're not good at the whole "making friends" thing. Then intriduce your friends to each other. have some people to hang out with together then other people can take over when the conversation is dying. Bring up a new subject. Think of something you heard on the news or you saw in a movie that you thought was really cool. Spice things up more. Change your daily schedual, that's why you guys are lagging in the conversation department. I hope I helped. And remember, my inbox is always open.You don't have to vote, but it would be nice if you did. Thanks!

Q:
this boy i'm friends with ... i like him sooooo much. i've liked him for 2 years but he didn't feel the same way until the end of last year and i'm pretty sure he still does.

i asked his best friend last week if he still likes me & he said yeah he does.

the thing is he kinda likes this other girl too. he asks her to hang out and stuff, but i know he cares about me more. he's so shy & weird. i don't understand why he doesn't ask me to hang out.

the other night he asked me if i had a boyfriend ... i said no & he asked me stuff about the other boy i recently liked ... like why dont i like him anymore and when i answered he said he had to go & he signed off.

i dont understand him. im gonna just tell him i like him flat out bc im sick of waiting. but after i tell him, will he STILL be too shy to make a move with me? i dont see how he could be, but what do you guys think? i dont wanna tell him i like him if its not even going to pay off.

I think that telling him will pay off...just because even if he is shy afterwards, he will know, and might be able to get enough corage to do something about it. Or, you could even ask him out, that is possible too. I understand him, I've been shy like that my whole life, I've actually never asked a guy out in my life. So give him some slack, he might pull himself together, you never know. Go for it, just this once!

Q: Well, here's the full story to it... About 3 years ago, I broke up with my girlfriend, and then found out I had to have surgery, because I had a Pilonidal Cyst... They healed it and they said it may never come back, but not 100% sure of that, well now... 3 years later, I had a real great person in my life, who gave me the strength to do anything, but things went one way and others the other way... and now after all of that, I now found out I have to have surgery again for the same thing... I don't know if I have the strength or energy or will power like I had during the last surgery, due to everything, and I am scared something will go wrong this time around... I wish I had something that could give me the strength or energy that I had last time, but this past month, there has been a lot that went on in my life that I don't know if I will have the will power to have a good surgery this time around... and I don't know, I just thought I would ask for some advice. Thank you.

*JB*

well..if you are still friends with them, then they can still help, and surgery is something that the doctors do every day...there is nothing to be worried about.Plus, when you think about it, you are the only one that can get yourself ready for this because you are the only one that is going to go through it. It is rough that you have to have that surgery again, ecpesialy after they told you it wouldn't come back. But you can make it through...and a big goodluck to you! Hope that I helped, and don't forget that my inbox is always open. You don't have to rate, but it would be nice. Thanks!

Q: hey im 13-f and i love my mom more than anything. shes older than most moms thi-shes about to turn 55.. i no most moms with 13 year old kids are lik in there 40's... my mom has great health.. she doesnt do drugs she excercises almost everyday and she eats right. im just scared of her getting older.. i just always want her to be young which i no isnt possible but i always want her to be able to have fun and be mobile and everything. i guess im just scared of death and her getting older.. just the thought of her being like 60 and me only being 18 scares me. cuz im scared that she wont be able to excercise as much.. i dont know.. and i always like do the math like ok when im 20 she already be like 62.. and shell be 80 when im only like 38 or somethin.. i just love her more than anything and i dont want anything to ever happen to her. i just need like a pep talk or somethin idk... just help me. please.. i just love her sooo much

well, you can guess that she is going to live for a while...she sounds really healthy. But there isn't much I can tell you about the subject. You can't just assume that she is going to get weak though. My grandma is like...in her 80's and she still is very active. Just believe in her, and make sure that you support her. No matter what you two will love eachother. It will all work out in the end. I know that I didn't do very well...but I hope that I helped just a little, and remember, my inbox is always open. You don't have to rate, but it would be nice. Thanks!

Q: i kinda want sex now but i want to wait till marige. and i want to not be a freakin virgin
should i have sex or wait till marrage?

This is a common arguement between people. Some believe that it is more mature to wait untill marrage, but some say that as long as it is safe, it is ok...others just don't care...but the point is, the only person who can tell you what to do is yourself. If you let others decide for you, then you won't know if you made the right choice. Here is the thing. You need to think about what you would tell the person that you marry in the future. If you have had sex with someone, what will they say about that? Will that person be angry, or understand? You have to think about what you are willing to do. I don't know if my answer made sence... all I was trying to say is only you can decide if you are ready, and how bad you want it, and what you are willing to risk. I hope that I helped, (at least a little)and remember, my inbox is always open. You don't have to rate, but it would be nice. Thanks!

Q: Ok, here is a little bit more detailed information... Well, I am 24 and she is 14, We met online, been talking for awhile and joked with eachother at first, like the 'cyber lovers' and more... but we was laughing, having a good time online, talking every night.... sharing details about eachother, well we decided to meet and see if we would like eachother still, she said her frend(s) and sister would love me, so we went to a movie, I first spotted them, so I went down and said Hi to all 3 of them, So, we went in, she said I had to pay for her friend, and she would pay for her and her sister, but I was going to pay for all of them, and get them some popcorn and a drink, but well, she goes 'So you picked a chick flick huh?' and only reason I chose it was because that's what I thought all of them would enjoy out of the list of movies, and I was trying to talk to her, but she would not even look at me or talk to me after that comment, so when we went to pay for the movie, I forgot to say I would pay for all then, and was kind of nervous, so she paid for her and her sister, and I paid for her friend, and after that, I was going to pay for the popcorn n drinks but she wasn't around, so I forgot about it, finally she came back and we went into the movies, she walked by her sister and her friend was by me somewhat after awhile she was infront of me so we go down the movies, her friend says me first then her, etc, etc. for seating, so I go in first sit down and then they do... she doesn't say a word to me, has her back towards me, and then her n her sister go to the bathroom, probably to talk about me, see what her sister says about me, after seeing me, so her friend is talking to me, then comes and sits next to me... and we talk somewhat, but I kept looking back to see if she is coming back, she finally comes back and tells her friend to move out of her seat, so she sits down along with her sister, and still.... avoids me and has her back towards me... and I am not about to talk to her when her back is towards me, while she is off laughing and talking with her sister, so then her and her friend go to the bathroom a few minutes later... so I ask myself, I wonder what they are talking about... so she comes back and she is laughing with her friend n sister... and then she says one thing to me... "Yeah, a couple guys was flirting with us' ... so yeah, that didn't make me any happier.. so again she is close to her sister and her sister I think says "hey, go lean over on the other side' and pushes her towards me, but she again goes closer to her sister or squints down in her chair... of course the movie sucked, and I wasn't really paying attention as I was having a lot of things on my mind going on, and don't know what to think or say, so the movie ends, and she gets up and like fast walks wayyyyy ahead of me, and again her friend is closer to me then she is, she is like 15 feet away from me, so we go out to the main lobby and she's all laughing and joking and playing with her sister n friend, again, nothing is even said to me, and now she went home, and she blocked me from online messenger, took me off her friend list on myspace, and says her sister told her not to talk to me ever, but I talked with her sister and she told me she was sorry and she says 'just don't break her heart' but I didn't break hers, but I felt mine was a bit broken, and I was so confused and stuff at that time, I had a major breakdown and she was gone for 2 weeks, I tried texting her, and nothing.. she didn't reply, and I was talking with someone and I think she don't want to be with me, don't want to talk or be friends .. don't want anything to do with me, so should I just stop talking to her, erase all the e-mails and text messages I keep reading each night, ... should I just stop thinking about her and just move on? and see down the line if we are both single to see what's up or should I wait around?

Thanks.

Wow...that was quite the heartbreaking night... so, she avoided you, she went to the bathroom a lot, and she wasn't around very much... Ok, so first I am going to go with what I said before... but I'm going to twist it just a little. I think that she sounds like she is a very outgoing person...and I think that the reason she was talking to her sister and friend becuase she was feeling the same way you were...she just had someone to talk to. Besides, girls have...I think that it is just to make it more complicated for guys. But one of the rules is that they go to the bathroom together...it's called the buddy system...I don't know...I guess so that they are together...I've never been able to understand it. I also think that her friend, I don't know if her friend knew you or not, but they sound like they were a lot more comfortable around you. Her sister sounds cool...when she was pushing your love closer to you, I think she was trying to get her to flirt with you...I just think that this girl has had something happen to her...I just can't think why she would be so outgoing in a public place, but be so shy around you, other than liking you...or something in the past with a guy. With that I am sticking with my original answer. It sounds like she was trying to conect with you...I don't think that it was only her that wasn't talking to the other...I think that you both had problems... When she came in saying that these guys were flirting with her...I think maybe she was trying to make you laugh. Becuase she could barily talk to you, then she comes in talking about some other guys? That sounds like a shy attempt at making someone laugh. I think that it is cool that she and her sister are so close, most sisters aren't. I'm wondering if she invited her friends so that she would have someone to lean on, if you know what I mean. Now, I don't know what to say about the whole, delete you and block you on everything. If you ask me...it sounds like she went or already was a little wacked when you met her...Kidding. She sounds like the kind of person that closes up around people, you know, hides her feelings. For most people it is different when meeting people, meeting people in person makes everything real. It is one thing to talk to someone you have never seen or talked to in person, then meet them...they turn into a real person. I know that I am not helping much, but I can relate to this. Guys and Gals are totally different. We think, act, mature, and cope different, and no one can help it. You just have to suck it up, and hope you don't make a fool of yourself.
Her sister telling you not to break her heart either means that she has had her heart broken many times before, or that she hasn't had it broken before, and she doesn't want it to happen any time soon. But you didn't even do anything to this girl, and she still freaked out, so I'm guessing something has happened to her before, and she is scared. My advice for that is just to be carefull.
I have a feeling that you shouldn't give up on her, but try to be careful...
I hope that I helped, and remember that my inbox is always open. You don't have to rate, but it would be nice. Thanks!

Q: Okay, I'm wanting to write an emotional song. I want it to have a lot of the stuff I went through in my life put into it, I just don't know how to start it or anything. And I've already been to the Robyn Kendrick website, so that didn't help either. I was sexually abused by my cousin from the time I was 5 to the time I was 11. Then, my mom and dad got divorced, and that's been really hard for me. Lastly, I have like an eating disorder now. My mom thinks I'm anorexic because I won't eat and I'm throwing up now. Now because of this, I've wanted to cut myself and express my feelings and emotions, but I'm thinking it'd be better to express it into a song instead of harming myself. So If anyone can help me on my song, it'd be highly appreciated! Thanks!

Eden, XxSeetherxAddictxX

well, you already sort of have the first step down, you know what you want to say... but you need to just...It's hard to explain...you have to feel what you want to say...don't just think about it, feel it again, and act like you are telling the story to someone...then, decide what you want for the chorus, it should tie the song together. The verses tell the story, the first verse is usually the begining of the story, and the last verse is about the ending, then sometimes they put the chorus after that, and it ties all of the verses, maybe it could say how you feel about it...I will give you an example from one of my songs:

verse 1
Is anybody listening to me, can anybody hear my crying pain? I am screaming, searching for life, am I invisable to you, do you even care. All you do is look away.

Chorus
My heart is broken, broken! I'm running out the door, quicker than before. My heart is broken, broken! I'm runnin' 'way from pain, I'm runnin' 'way from life. My heart is broken... You stabbed me in the heart with a knife.

Verse 2
I called you on the phone last night, you said you had to go. "it's all right" I am crying, hoping for love, I thought we'd be together for life, was I wrong to think? You ignore my every plead.

Chorus

verse 3
You told me you loved me, but did you really mean it. You gave me a kiss, but did you mean to say goodbye. Everything you do seems to be the opposite, but what you mean to say, so tell me the truth before I run away!

chorus
verse 4
some of my friends say, that you never loved me, some of them say that you still do. Don't you understand I need to hear it from you? So I'll give you a chance to tell me the truth, but I'm afraid that when I do...you'll just say no....That's why...

chorus x2

I know that that was long...you don't have to read the whole thing...I just wanted to show you that I(tried to at least)make the chorus, say how I felt about it...I know that I probably did a lowsy job at it, but I hope that I at least helped a little...remember that my inbox is always open. You don't have to rate, but it would be nice. Thanks!

Q: is it normal for people to cry over nothing? like seriously! i think something is wrong with me, maybe depression or something? but i can just sit here and start crying for hours. and so many things will just run throug my head.. do i need help?!

Actually, this is very normal. I actually think that you might have been holding in your emotions lately...or you have high stress...either way...a lot of the people I know, have had this happen to them offten...I have been through it too...do not worry. You are not going insane or something...when you cry, you think about things...it is a normal phsycological behavior...don't worry. I hope that I helped, and remember, my inbox is always open. You don't have to rate, but it would be nice. Thanks!

Q: ok well one of my best friends says i can't dump my boy friend and then my other best friend says i should do what i want and sometimes i want to dump cuz he can act really stupid but then he can be a real sweety what should i do

Don't listen to anything any of your friends say...they are smart, but you are the only one that knows your heart. Go with what your heart says...And here is a little more advice...some guys act sweety so that you won't dump them, or won't catch on to their stupidity....I have fallen for the sweety talk many times before...and only bad things have come from it...I'm not saying dump him, I'm just saying you should be cautious...hope I helped, and remember, my inbox is always open. You don't have to rate, but it would be nice. Thanks!

Q: Well, I was talking to this one person all the time, we talked all night sometimes, and I really like this person, I also fell in love with her, so we decided to go see a movie and she brought some friends, I was nervous a little because it was our first time meeting, but I knew it was going to be a fun time, well I saw her and her friends and I go to say Hi and stuff, well I saw her, the one I love, and I just was stunned at how beautiful she looked, that I just froze... I was even going to pay for her and her 2 friends (she first asked if I could pay for one, which I agreed on) but I was planning on paying for all of them, and even get them a drink n stuff, but I just I lost it... I couldn't talk, I couldn't tell her how I felt, I just kept looking at her and knowing how much I do love her, but after the movie, it was like she didn't want to be with me, even though I want to be with her, I know I was shy, but I was nervous and she is a great person, and I would die to be with her forever... I love her that much, but she hasn't responded to any of my messages or calls... I don't know what to do, any advice? :| I love her so much and miss her with all my heart.

Well...I don't know if she likes you, but it sounds like she got a little turned off by you being shy...or maybe her friends had something to do with it...but don't take what I say..I don't have her side of the story. I'm sorry that I can't tell you if she hates you or not. What I can tell you is that it is normal to freeze, it is normal to be shy around the person you love. I have even done it, I am not blaming her, but it sounds like she has an issue. Maybe her friends didn't like you and she pulled back, maybe she has had bad experiances. If that was the first time she had met you, maybe meeting you did something to her... A lot of girls are ruled by their emotions, so maybe in the past a boy has hurt her, or something has happened to her, and seeing you she thought that it might repeat. Another thing it could have been is what you two talked about...if you talked about something she doesn't usually talk about...maybe she felt imbarrased or a little confused after she met you...all of these are possible. But, I am not her, and every girl is different...so if you want me to help you more, you have to tell me a little more about her...if you are okay with doing that, then why don't you drop me anther 'question' in my inbox...I hope I at least helped a little. And good luck with talking to her... :)
my regards,
Deathwillcome

Q: Okay I like this guy and we've been going out and like he really really likes me too and my parents dont like him for some reason and i dont want to break up with him and my friends dont want me to go out with him anymore and want me to break up with him to but I rele dont want to what should I do ?

thanks

- xoxo Vanessa

this is a common problem, and a lot of people decide to take their family, or friend's side. But you should do what YOU want to do...it isn't their choice...it is your life...and your love...don't let them ruin it. If they can't support you, then why are you listening to them? Your friends should support you no matter what...if they don't...they aren't true friends. Your family...well, of coarse they are your family, but the job of your parents is to protect you, but to let you make your own mistakes. This is one of those times, wether it is a mistake or not, that they should just be supportive and go with the flow...whatever happens, happens...no one can change that. I hope that I helped, and remember that my inbox is always open. you don't have to rate, but it would be nice. Thanks!

Q: Hey, its me. I've asked my Mom this thousands of times but Im still unsure and skeptical.
My friend (Lets call her Lynn and the guy Taylor. I wont reveal their names.) Okay, Lynn and I both like Taylor. I have been getting a sneaking suspicion that he likes me too. The thing is, Ive been wondering on how to tell for sure. The problem: I and deathly shy. Sure he's my friend but I cant really ask him anything like that. In addition, if he were to ask me out or something, I wouldnt know what to do because Lynn likes him too. My Mom says to go for it. But I'd feel really bad. She has already called me a b**** and claimed Im acting like boys are my property. Im getting really pissed off and really confused. Please help me.
-Nyoko

hello, me...ha ha! I loved how you gave him the name Taylor..good name...anyway.
For one, "lynn" needs to understand that guys can't get in between your friendship or she is doomed, and so are you. If you loose a friends while getting a boy, then if you loose the boy, you don't have a friend to help you through... Secondly, maybe he does like you back, you never know, but don't make it uncomfortable by getting too close and scaring him off. This is the problem in love...many want to know the answers, but don't want to wait to get them...if you want to know now, ask him, but I would warn you, it could get ugly. So, you have 2 choices...either you get over your fears and ask him out, or you wait untill he asks you out. To me, having one of your friends ask "Taylor" if he likes you, is shallow, and weak, do it yourself if you need to know so bad.
Third, being shy...well, that, you should get over easily...just don't think about that...okay?
fourth,There is always a problem with the whole, liking a friend thing, it can become complicated..I'm sure you know the whole, if you go out with him, everything will change, and all of that...but you have to think about everything...not just that.
fifth, too bad if she likes him, she hasn't made the move, so you do it. She had her chance now it's yours. You snooz you loose...and if you really value your relationship with her more than this "Taylor" then don't, but personaly, she sounds like a pritty...angry..."friend"...which she isn't much of anyway...just forget about her, and think about the guy!!! "Lynn" will have to get over it!

Your mom is a very smart cookie! She is right, "Lynn" called you a b**** and all of that, she is turning out to be a rotten friend, don't feel bad, feel glad...that you have a chance with this guy..just don't wait too long, "Lynn" might get to him before too long.
Just remember, no matter what, your friends are important, but if they put your friendship 2nd...you put your friendship last..okay? Follow your heart, and no one can stop you. I hope that I helped, and remember, my inbox is always open. You don't have to rate, but it would be nice if you could.Thanks!!!

Q: i met a guy 4yrs back he was 2yrs senior 2 me nd ever since i like him.earlier he dnt show much intrest in me but recently he found out my id nd sent me a mail saying that he's been miserable without me .do u thnk he likes me?
i am from india

It sounds like hi is into you...but you could always ask him..ya know? anyway...I think that you should become his friends no matter what...becuase you never know what could happen! I hope that I helped, and remember that my inbox is always open. You don't have to rate, but it would be nice if you did. Thanks!

Q: How important do you think ratings are? I have asked questions, and try to go back and rate all the answers. However, I notice that a lot of people do not give ratings. It seems like it should be a common courtesy when someone gives a detailed well thought out answer.

Also have you noticed that the ratings now show up next to the answers? I haven't found this to be true of all my answers that were rated, but at least some of them.

Nallie

I think it is stupid when people don't rate. Some of them don't rate because it was a bad answer, but still, I think they should tell you what they think of the question so you can get better at it.
I'm not sure...It should..anyway...I think it does..I hope that I helped, and remember that my inbox is always open. You don't have to rate, but it would be nice. Thanks!
P.S.
notice what I put...I just put that hoping that people will want to rate...ha!

Q: So it's not so much a pickle of what to do, moreso this character needs a last name that isn't ordinary but not unheard of and unpronouncible.

Kathryn Jade

But I have the imagination for plot, not namesake.

well, you could always do something like keene (pronounced lik keen)or hughes(pronounced like hues)....or korhonen (pronounced the way it is spelt)...I don't know...do you want it to be weird?

Q: 15/f, i like this guy whos in 11th grade and hes on the track team with me. we're friends, and he always calls me his "bestest bud" and always hugs me when he sees me, and teases me, and well when im near him he always puts his arms around me, around my waist or shoulders. and when we are out like, eating at a restaurant with the team (team dinners) he always has me sit next to him, or just pays attention to me. well its obvious to you readers that i like him a little, it may just be a crush but hes sweet and hes nice and cares, we just talk and well i feel good when im with him. soo do you think he likes me, what should i do around him, because track season is almost over (this wed.) and we wont see eachother as much, maybe like 1 time a day for like 1 minute! soo i dont know what to do, hes just someone i want to stay in my life, even if its just as a friend! help, any advice??? I WILL RATE 5'S!!!!!!

Tell him that you don't want to loose touch. Right a note if you don't have time to talk to him about it, or something. If you like him, either tell him, or get to know him better so that you might have a chance of him liking you back. Either he likes you or really wants to hang with you. Obviously he feels really comfortable around you, and that is a good thing. Make sure that you feel the same way, and you might have something going there. When you are around him don't be too flurtatios, because then he might feel akward around you and will try to not hang as much. Have a time when you two can hang, you will get a lot closer to him. I hope that I helped, and remember that my inbox is always open. You don't have to rate, but it would be nice if you did. Thanks!

Q: Hello :)

Okay, so yesterday I saw one of my friends do something I've heard about for a long time, but never actually seen...lie. Yes, he lied. And it was pretty obvious, and also..pretty scary. You see, pretty much ALL YEAR I've heard one of my tightest friends talk about how he's changed, and lies, and so on..and ofcourse I belived her, but I guess it never really sunk in. Because when I actually experienced it for the first time (him lying straight to my face) it freaked me out. I was sp sworried for him, I wanted to cry. I was about to, but didn't. It hurts to see someone I've looked up to for such a long time lie. They're BIG lies too. And he should know that we can't possibly belive all this, it's crazy. And we basically have prrof that he's lying, but confronting him wont work, it's been tried already. And it didn't help, if anything..it made things worse, he had to lie even more to excuse his lies, and it was just..really bad. He was basically shaking when we were questioning, it's like he doesn't WANT to lie. But he still does it for some reason. I cant think of a reason WHY though, attention? I'm just really confused, you know. I really can't talk to him about this, and my friends have already tried. So what do I do? Just ignore it? Or stop ebing his friend? Tlak to his family about it? His other friends? Pleease help me, because I want to be able to help my friends (it's making them feel EVEN WORSE)

I don't know what you can do about him lieing, but I don't think there is much you can do. If he wants to ,or has to lie, then he will, you can't really stop him. Just ignore it and try to not hang out with him as much if it bothers you. About your friends, if they think that it is thier fault, then they are a little off. But if they are worried about them tell them that they can talk to his family. Talking to his family won't necacerally help, it depends on how is family is, but they might talk to him about it. Just make sure that he knows that if he ever needs to talk to you that he can. I can't help you much more than that because I don't know what kind of lies. So, I hope that I helped, and remember that my inbox is always open. You don't have to rate if you don't want to, but it would be nice if you did. Thanks!

Q: im 14/f and my boyfriend is 15/m (im almost 15 hes amlmost 16) and we have had sex.we have known eachother for 13 years and been going out for 3. and i really care about him but lately hes been..."aggresive" and he yelled at me a few times..he NEVER did this before and im scared there is somthing wrong..what should i do??!!
(should i break up with him)

Breaking up with him shouldn't be the first answer, unless he hurt you, then you should break up with him imediatly! What you should do is talk to him and tell him how you feel. The more you tell him and less you hide things the better your relationship will be. If you don't have comunication in your relationship, it will fail. Tell him that he is scaring you and that you want to know what is going on, and tell him that if he can't treat you better that you will break up with him. If he doesn't listen and continues to do it warn him one more time and then break it off. Don't let him take it to far, if he threatens you, tell an adult. I hope that I helped, and remember that my inbox is always open. You don't have to rate, but it would be nice. Thanks!

Q: i like this guy soooo much! hes really cute and soooo nice. we have so much in common. we talk online like everyday. but i dont think he likess me. my friend asked him and he said that he thought i was cute. then today i asked him if he liked anyone and he said "ehh idk, kinda but not really" i dont know what to do. what should i do?

He won't tell you if he likes someone or not, because then if he sais yes, you will ask who, and then he won't be able to tell you because you will be the person. If he told someone that he thought you were cute, then he was probably telling the truth...

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Ok, so I haven't been on in a while and I'm just starting to get back to where I can give advice again. I had a rough spot there and I just couldn't give advice without seeming rude, so I decided to take a break. My real name is Shannon and I live in Utah. I am 15 and I love animals and friends. I love to act and know a bit about those kinds of things. I would love to help you out and hope that I can. But there is one thing, you have to ask a question for me to answer! Just kidding. Hope you have a great day!