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My Friend and I Like the Same Guy
Hey, its me. I've asked my Mom this thousands of times but Im still unsure and skeptical.
My friend (Lets call her Lynn and the guy Taylor. I wont reveal their names.) Okay, Lynn and I both like Taylor. I have been getting a sneaking suspicion that he likes me too. The thing is, Ive been wondering on how to tell for sure. The problem: I and deathly shy. Sure he's my friend but I cant really ask him anything like that. In addition, if he were to ask me out or something, I wouldnt know what to do because Lynn likes him too. My Mom says to go for it. But I'd feel really bad. She has already called me a b**** and claimed Im acting like boys are my property. Im getting really pissed off and really confused. Please help me.
-Nyoko
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hello, me...ha ha! I loved how you gave him the name Taylor..good name...anyway.
For one, "lynn" needs to understand that guys can't get in between your friendship or she is doomed, and so are you. If you loose a friends while getting a boy, then if you loose the boy, you don't have a friend to help you through... Secondly, maybe he does like you back, you never know, but don't make it uncomfortable by getting too close and scaring him off. This is the problem in love...many want to know the answers, but don't want to wait to get them...if you want to know now, ask him, but I would warn you, it could get ugly. So, you have 2 choices...either you get over your fears and ask him out, or you wait untill he asks you out. To me, having one of your friends ask "Taylor" if he likes you, is shallow, and weak, do it yourself if you need to know so bad.
Third, being shy...well, that, you should get over easily...just don't think about that...okay?
fourth,There is always a problem with the whole, liking a friend thing, it can become complicated..I'm sure you know the whole, if you go out with him, everything will change, and all of that...but you have to think about everything...not just that.
fifth, too bad if she likes him, she hasn't made the move, so you do it. She had her chance now it's yours. You snooz you loose...and if you really value your relationship with her more than this "Taylor" then don't, but personaly, she sounds like a pritty...angry..."friend"...which she isn't much of anyway...just forget about her, and think about the guy!!! "Lynn" will have to get over it!
Your mom is a very smart cookie! She is right, "Lynn" called you a b**** and all of that, she is turning out to be a rotten friend, don't feel bad, feel glad...that you have a chance with this guy..just don't wait too long, "Lynn" might get to him before too long.
Just remember, no matter what, your friends are important, but if they put your friendship 2nd...you put your friendship last..okay? Follow your heart, and no one can stop you. I hope that I helped, and remember, my inbox is always open. You don't have to rate, but it would be nice if you could.Thanks!!!
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