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~A little Advice for the broken hearts~
You are afraid and hurt and you dont know what to do. You feel empty and alone, like the whole world has just ended. You have a hole in your heart one that feels like it can never be repaired, but just know that in time that hole will be gone. Getting your heart broken is like getting a deep cut. It hurts really bad, and no matter what you do you cant stop thinking about it because you know its there and its hurting, but with a few stitches and a little tlc (friends and family helping you through) and some antibiotic ointment (ice cream) soon that cut will only be a scar (a memory) it will always be there but it wont hurt anymore, you are strong and you can make it through this!!

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I never had sex before but I was just so worried that I was pregnant that I took 2 at homebpewg tests like an hour apart each & they both came out negative. Do pregnacy tests HAVE to be taken first thing in the morning to be correct or is that just when they are most accurate? I've done sexual thing but NOT sex so idk why I'm worrying bec you have to have sex to be pregnant.,plus I've gotten all my periods regularly except 2 months agonies was just brown spotting (but I think that Was from stress)

Well you dont nessesarily have to actually have sex to get pregnant you just have to get sperm in that area. but no you do not HAVE to take a test only in the morning its just your first mornings urine will have the most pregnancy hormones but most likely since both test were negative and you never actually had sex youre not pregnant

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I normally only eat when I am hungry, which is usually once a day. I may snack but no actual meal until dinner time. Lately everything I eat makes me nauseous and I dont know why. Im fine whenever I snack but if its more than three or for bites i get nauseous. I know I need to eat more but with this problem i just dont have the desire to. Does anyone know what the problem could be or what could be causing it? Thank You In Advance :-) 26/f

Well I had this problem twice in my life... When I was pregnant with my son and with my daughter. Maybe thats the problem... Try taking a test good luck

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I really have a feeling that my step brother and his friend have hooked up a secret camera in my room. I know, it sounds crazy but you would have to know them to know why I feel like this. I feel like I have no privacy in my room. How can I know if there really is a camera in my room and what are the signs to look for in having one in your room? I want to confront my mom about it but I want to know for sure before I talk to anyone about it!

Look all around your room for something that is not usually there. maybe see if anything is moved. If you dont find anythin then maybe just go to your mom and tell her you are feeling like this anyway and have her get to the bottom of it good luck

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i've always wanted to get married in a beautiful cathedral. i found a great church, but i'm not catholic and neither is my fiance. my question is, are we allowed to get married in the catholic church anyway? i don't have to use the priest there, i can use my own pastor if that's the case. i just pretty much want to rent out the cathedral for the day, i'm not looking to have a sacramental catholic wedding. thanks!

I would go to the church you want to use and talk to the priest and ask him if you can use it. I wouldnt see the problem with doing it though and congrats on the wedding

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I'm 15 And Pregnant I Just Found Out And I'm 14 Weeks And My Mom Wants Me To Get An Abortion But Yes I Don't Want The Abortion But The Thing Is... I Haven't Told My Dad Cause He'll Kick Me And My Mom Out Of The House And We'll Have No Where To Go? No Family We Have Here Where We Live So It's Hard On Us She's Really Mad At Me And The Father And The Baby's Daddy Is Still In The Picture And Wants The Baby No Matter What But My Mom Wants To Put A Restraining Order Against Him Since He Is 17 We're 2 Years And 8 Months Apart And She Wants To Get Him For Rape Which Isn't True, But Me And The Father Want The Baby It's Just My Parents Opinion. And If He Gets Put Away Again It'll Be For 6 Years I Don't Want That For Our Baby And Not Have Our Baby Grow Up Without A Dad Or Aleast Knowing His/Her Daddy. What Can I Do??? :|

If you dont want an abortion dont get it. That is your baby and your choice. If you want to keep your baby also that is your baby and your choice. And tell your mother that. I find it wrong that she is trying to make you kill your baby. Yes you are only 15 and too young to have a baby, but you can do it. You are going to have to grow up real fast I was 16 when I got pregnant but I was also married. And I was 17 when I had my son it makes you grow up fast but if thisis what you want you will find a way to make it work out. Good luck and congrats on the baby

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My boyfriend is leaving for vacation, and because of that... My older sister told me to prepare for the worst. She said that a majority of the people she knows either cheated when they're on vacation, or the person at home ends up with someone else/cheats on someone else, she has experienced it herself too. She said that she's not saying the same thing will happen to us, but she just told me to prepare for the worst. I'm positive that it's not going to happen with me, because I already miss him when I don't see him for a day... But possibly 1 and a half weeks to 3 weeks?? Without seeing him and talking to him is really hard. So all that can happen, is me missing him more.

I tried defending him, but the more she said it... The more it got me paranoid. So I asked him about it. He said that it probably won't happen, probably. He said a majority of the times he goes, nothing happens so he thinks that nothing will happen this time. Single or not. He says he can't control a relationship from starting, but he can control actions. And honestly, that doesn't make me feel secure. He just actually admitted that there is a possible chance that something could happen, or he could end up liking another girl in a week and a half. I know that's not alot of time... But a lot of things can happen in a week and a half without seeing and talking to your significant other.

Many people told me that they'd be more worried about me than about him. Because he's very traditional and serious, so if he did something like that it would bring "shame to the family." But he does get influenced easily, so it kind of worries me.

One of the factors that really does worry me right now is also probably because he's been distant lately (he's been busy). He says that his main goal to go to vacation was the send his grandma back home, visit some friends he hasn't seen for a long time, and to look for inspiration to work harder for school. I texted him saying that he doesn't need to worry about me, because I will be waiting for him until he gets back and that I'll be thinking of him the whole time. And the only thing he said back was, "thanks."

How do I relieve this paranoia of mine??

He said himself that something may happen sounds to me like he is planning on it. and when he gets back he will say well i told you it might happen, or something along those lines. You dont trust him and he cant be faithful to you .. I say its time to move on and drop this guy and find someone who will treat you better good luck

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okay, so I just got engaged a few months ago to my boyfriend of now 7 years. A few days before we got engaged, Mike (my fiance) was on the road because of his job and I decided to surprise him for Valentine's day. I show up and find him passed out and half naked in bed at the hotel with some other half naked woman at the door. I find out he was drunk and never actually did anything.but after I found out and we talked about it, all was fine. Recently my best guy friend, Randy, told me that he has strong feels for me. He's always around when I need somebody and Mike is on the road and doesn't call much. Mike found out about Randy and I spending a lot of time together and got jealous. He then told me to choose between them. I got upset and walked off and disappeared for a week to clear my mind. in the heat of the moment I kissed Randy so now I'm really confused. When I was gone, only Randy called me and actually tried to find me while Mike hasn't done anything. He did and was as sweet as always and I'm starting to feel the same about him but still love Mike! I don't know what to do or who to choose! Mike is so sweet and romantic and everything I could ask for. Randy is sweet, sensitive and always there for me. Please help me. I'm getting Married in 2 months and need to figure out what to do!

Think of what really makes you happy. Sounds like this guy you are about to marry is a cheater. if this were me I would leave him and go with the one who is treating you right. You caught him half naked with another woman. Things are only going to get worse when you are married. Dont get yourself stuck in a relationship that is already going to hell. Good luck and best wishes

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im 16 and scared to death to open my mouth that i cut myself about 3 different times .. i still hav cuts on my wristbut there not that bad ... do i still have to tell them i havent did it in like 2 mouths but i think about it sometimes.. i still cry myself to sleep .. i took pills to try to goto sleep forever but they didnt work ... do i tell them or not .. i think im ok now tho

yes tell them they can help you through this. Dont worry its going to be okay

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where can i find jobs for 13 year olds?

You can get a paper route :)

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Ok so today I had a girls day with my sister in law. We're both 18 so she lives with her parents. Well we were doing our nails and I was the one putting stuff on the table and I tried to be sure that I didnt mess up the table. Well, it turns out something actually got on the table and it won't come off. Her mom and step dad were furious thinking it was her. She didnt tell them it was me, but they want her to pay for a whole new table. I want to confess but I don't want my new mother and father in law hating me already but I also feel like it's my responsibility to pay for a new table especially since isn't wasn't her fault! Do I just give her the money that I would owe or full out just tell her parents?

You need to tell them that you are the one who did it. She is getting in trouble for something she didnt do. They wont hate you for being honest. And if you pay for it everything should be okay. You can get nail polish remover too and try to get it off. Good luck.

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My bf and I were skyping, and he was able to see my screen without me sharing it on my laptop. I know he got a program where he could do that because I saw it, but when I asked him about it he said he deleted it. I don't believe it though, does anyone know what the program is? The name of it? And can he see my screen when I'm signed off of skype? I feel invaded. But I act like I have no clue. Thanks!

I agree with the others its time to drop the boy like a bad habit you deserve better than that and plus its creepy... go find yourdelf a good man who will treat you right

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To put it simply, I think I have a little bit of a broken heart. I don't want to talk about everything that happened, and I'm not really angry, I don't feel like it would be right to be angry. I'm just kind of disappointed in this person and I wish it could have been so much more. I just need advice of any sort. Thank you guys

I am posting my favorite advice that I give for anyone with a broken heart...

~A little Advice for the broken hearts~
You are afraid and hurt and you dont know what to do. You feel empty and alone, like the whole world has just ended. You have a hole in your heart one that feels like it can never be repaired, but just know that in time that hole will be gone. Getting your heart broken is like getting a deep cut. It hurts really bad, and no matter what you do you cant stop thinking about it because you know its there and its hurting, but with a few stitches and a little tlc (friends and family helping you through) and some antibiotic ointment (ice cream) soon that cut will only be a scar (a memory) it will always be there but it wont hurt anymore, you are strong and you can make it through this!
~Stephie~

good luck and best wishes

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what should i do if i like my friend who is dating someone else? He tells me he likes me and i like him. The only thing thats stopping us from dating is his girlfriend.

Step back. Out of respect for her you have to. How would you feel if you were dating someone and he was talking to another girl. That would crush you. If he really wants to be with you he would be. Also do you really think that it would work out I mean look what he is doing to this girl. He is with her and telling you he wants you. He is going to do the same thing when you are together. He will be with you and want someone else. Drop the boy like a bad habit and move on to someone who will treat you like the princess you are good luck anf best wishes

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My friend and I like eachother a little bit. We started texting two days ago. He asked for my number and I gave it to him. We exchanged numbers. And everyday after that we texted eachother. He has this girlfriend. While dating her, he has been flirting with me. He told me if things dont work out with his girlfriend he will date me. He also said i was cool and awesome. My bestfriend says he is lying about his girlfriend. We called him up on 3-way. I found out he likes to lie about topics. First he said it has been a month they were together, then later on he said it has been a year.I dont know whether to believe he likes me. Or to beleive him and whatever he says.Or if his girlfriend is real. When i get back to school, i would have to deal with all of this. I dont know what to do next?

Dont waste your time. He lies and you can never trust him. Not only that but if he does have a girlfriend that makes him a player. Dating her while flirting with you. When he is with you he will do the same date you and someone else. You dont want that. Drop the guy like a bad habit and move on to someone who will treat you like a princess just like you deserve

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i know that once i was happy and loved the air going into my lungs now.. i hate the air i wanna die.. i cut myself .. i wanna know why .. why mee ... me and my mom fight so much but thats not a reson for me to do this to myself ... i wanna stop and get hep yet i cant seem to open my mouth .. whyyy.. i wanna i really do.. but im to weak i cant tell no one.. i feel like cryin just thinking about it.. i cant stay strong anymore.. i wanna die i wanna go to sleep and not wake up ...

I know how you are feeling. I have been there. Wanting so bad for every breath to be my last, cutting to let out the pain, crying when no one is around, but smiling when they are so they wont know how hurt I am. Feeling like the world would be better off without you, but then in another sense you want to get help you want to be better and you want to feel that happiness you once felt. Its hard and its confusing. Like your own personal hell. I know how hard it is for everyone to find out. But honestly when they know it feels so much better because you are no longer alone in this. My husband (was just my boyfriend at the time) was the first to know about the cutting. I fell asleep in his bed while he was at work and when he came home he saw blood on my clothes. The look in his face just about killed me inside. He was so hurt and felt so bad and he cried and kissed my cuts. When I saw how much he cared I knew I had to stop. Your family and friends do not want you to go through this and they dont want you to be hurting. And I know you feel like everyone hates you but they dont, they love you and some day you are going to see it. Tell your mom what is going on before its too late before you hurt yourself bad and you do die. If you dont think that you can handle walking up to her.. Write her a letter, telling her everything. Tell her you want help. And you can get help. You can beat this! I did. Good luck

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26yr old female...involved for 6 months. Hes getting a divorce and my fiance passed away we dont want a relationship now. Ive known him forever. Lately hes been distant but every time I say we should stop talking he says he loves me, doesnt want to let me go and we should see where we end up...i know he cares about me but hes talking to 2 other girls and our relationship isnt realy progressing he has trust issues. I really care about him, when were together it great. Should I be patient or just let him go?

Be patient... you both have very big relationship problems he is getting divorced and you lost someone very special to you its going to take time. But I am sure it will be okay good luck

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Alright so I woke up at 9:30pm and I'm still awake. I'm so0o0o0o0o0o tired, but I don't wanna go to sleep! I'm trying to stay awake til like 8 or 10pm. I'm trying to get my sleeping schedual switched around. So what should I do to stay awake? HELP!

I just got over this problem. Stay up all day dont lay down or sit for too long. Take 5 hour energy keep active and the day will be over before you know it. Go to bed around 9 or 10 and youre all good :)

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OKay so I wont take long I am senior and in the 12th grade and there is this new admission in my school he is in the 11th grade
he is cute and i kinda want to get to know him
but the problem is i am a senior.. and it would be really weird just walking upto him and saying HIIII and conversing
that sort of stuff cant happen
i mean you know i am fairly popular in school and my friends notice. and i know the 11th grade people quite well
and i dont want stupid stuff going around school
but
this guy is really cute and i really think he might just turn out to be my type
but i dont know how i get to know him!!!!!!!

School for you is almost over. Forget what everyone else thinks and go for your happiness if you really like him then go upo and tell him. Good luck

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Okay so I'm a 15 year old girl. I am involved in many sports and I love being active! But within the past hm let's say, 2 or 3 months I have been extremelyyy paranoid & having anxiety beyond a normal point. The reason is because I met this boy this year & we started doing things (sexual things) that I do deeply regret..he wasn't the only one though.it was anothr boy also..I never ever ever had sex though!! He tried havin like Buttsex with me but it hurt so bad & it was in there for like not even a second & I told him no this isn't happeneing. (that was only with one of the boys) but since then I have gotten all of my periods except for 2months ago I jut had like brown spotting (I didn't do anythig b4that period tho bec I stopped talking to him) & then this month I got it normal but it was like 4 or 5 days late just as it Always is. I know u can't get pregant w/out having sex but I'm just so paranoid that I am pregant even tho I took 2 preg tests one night around 6. I'm just wing really paranid about it all. I used to do abb wrkouts all the time but I haver done them in like 3weeks ao now when I do like a backbend there's kinda a tiny tiny lump in between my uterus & belly button So I just don't know if it's fat (bec the lump is just soft skin) or something else!! Also, my period just ended about 5 days ago & I'm having mild pains in both of my ovaries. I am also hungry a lot bec I don't eat that much anymore bec I'm sonparand about my stomach getting bigger.. Any idea what's going on?

Well you took test and had your period so your not pregnant.. You are just freaking yourself out and most likely makin your body think its pregnant stop worrying. Those test are 99% accurate. Everything is ok :)Just next time you do anything use protection good luck

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Is it supposed to hurt when you press in you upper abdominal like where your actual stomach is?? What about If someone walks on it (like ur dogs or a little baby?) is it normal to hurt?

Well if you are pushing on it really hard yes... but maybe its just from being very active and exercising those muscles that is making them tender

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