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I regret doing sexual things
Okay so I'm a 15 year old girl. I am involved in many sports and I love being active! But within the past hm let's say, 2 or 3 months I have been extremelyyy paranoid & having anxiety beyond a normal point. The reason is because I met this boy this year & we started doing things (sexual things) that I do deeply regret..he wasn't the only one though.it was anothr boy also..I never ever ever had sex though!! He tried havin like Buttsex with me but it hurt so bad & it was in there for like not even a second & I told him no this isn't happeneing. (that was only with one of the boys) but since then I have gotten all of my periods except for 2months ago I jut had like brown spotting (I didn't do anythig b4that period tho bec I stopped talking to him) & then this month I got it normal but it was like 4 or 5 days late just as it Always is. I know u can't get pregant w/out having sex but I'm just so paranoid that I am pregant even tho I took 2 preg tests one night around 6. I'm just wing really paranid about it all. I used to do abb wrkouts all the time but I haver done them in like 3weeks ao now when I do like a backbend there's kinda a tiny tiny lump in between my uterus & belly button So I just don't know if it's fat (bec the lump is just soft skin) or something else!! Also, my period just ended about 5 days ago & I'm having mild pains in both of my ovaries. I am also hungry a lot bec I don't eat that much anymore bec I'm sonparand about my stomach getting bigger.. Any idea what's going on?
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DoktorTammy gave you a lot of good information. I would suggest you take her advice and stop your worries as I too believe your stressing is causing most of your problems.
Being 15 and having any type sex, with all the possible consequences is the major cause of your problem. Unless sperm somehow gets into your vagina there is no way you can get pregnant from anal sex, oral sex, masturbation, or kissing. I think that about covers all the myths.
I believe you know having sex at your age is wrong. You did so most likely to satisfy your boyfriends desire. Whether you where coerced or cojoled into doing so is wrong. You should never feel complelled or allow yourself to be forced to do anything you don't want to do; be it something sexual or anything else just to satisfy someone else.
There is nothing wrong with waiting until your older to have seual relations. Sexual relations is and are something that is very beautiful when it happens between two consenting adults. Today it is not just pregnancy that one must worry about when entering into a sexual relationship. There is a host of STDs that must be contended with as well.
The older you are the more knowledge you build and the better you are able to protect yourself. If you are going to enter into a sexual relationship with someone it is proper today for both of you to first be tested. While it is possible for someone your age to be tested it is harder to do so know then when your 18 or older.
Consider how worried you are today when you basicly you did nothing to cause a pregancy. Remeber this the next time you consider having sex; then deside if it is something you really want to do or if you are doing so only to keep the boy happy and keep him as a boyfriend. Then consider not having sex and waiting until your older.
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Dear "I regret doing sexual things",
No vaginal sex and two negative pregnancy tests is a pretty clear sign that you are not pregnant.
Having anal sex is an art, and unless the male is skilled, it will hurt. However, if done right, anal sex is just as good as vaginal and oral sex. The key is to start slow, continue very slow, and use tons of lubrication.
You should not regret the things you have done. They should be lessons learned, not regretful mistakes.
As for the 'lump'; hormones, not eating, and worrying a lot will increase belly fat. Your body is in a constant state of change. Your growing up, and out. Part of what you are experiencing is a growth spurt, with possible growing pains.
Your body will start storing fat because it thinks you are starving. Worrying increases your energy output by 10 fold, that is more than exercising. Your body is actually trying to compensate for no food, changing hormones, and increased energy output.
The mind has the amazing ability to bring to life the things you think about with high emotions. It is called 'the secret'. Here is the link to the site that explains it better.
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Here is a link that will help keep you form getting that belly lump when you worry, and discontinue your workouts. In fact, this information will tell if the workout you are doing is good for you or not.
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Your periods will be affected by this behavior as well. You can make yourself physically ill by just worrying about things. I have known women that were so paranoid about being pregnant, that they actually missed periods, without being pregnant. One women even had tender breasts, morning sickness, bloating, and weight gain for three months.
She convinced herself that she was pregnant and her body responded with physical symptoms of pregnancy. It was all in her mind.
My advice is to calm down about this, get back to your normal workout, and use protection when you have vaginal sex. Oh, never let a male put his penis in your vagina directly after anal sex. You can get bacterial infections from that. Make him wash after sex.
Sex is not something to be afraid of or worry about like this. My first and second experiences with anal sex were harsh and painful. Then I met a man who knew how to penetrate without pain. WOW!
I love it now. The point of my story is that you should not let one bad experience stop you from trying again. However, you must protect yourself too.
However, I do recommend seeing an OBGYN if the pain in your ovaries gets any worse. You may have a real condition.
Good Luck!
Doktor Tammy
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Well you took test and had your period so your not pregnant.. You are just freaking yourself out and most likely makin your body think its pregnant stop worrying. Those test are 99% accurate. Everything is ok :)Just next time you do anything use protection good luck
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