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Me and my bestfriend have been fighting more recently and I feel that the friendship isn't even worth keeping. For example I went to the pool with her and took a wine cooler with me, and there was only one more left and I was planning on drinking it the next day, I told her she couldn't have it and she didn't make a big deal out of it at all, but when we had both parted ways after we left the pool she goes and tells her mother that I'm a rude and stingy person because I don't ask her if she wants a drink at the pool, as you can understand I had bought them for myself. Also she always makes me out to be a bad friend when we argue, like she is ungodly and has never done anything that I would consider 'rude' myself, and I have done literally everything for this girl, took her to Chicago and Flordia and didn't even have to pay for half of her trips . But yet she still feels I owe her something because I have 100 dollars in my wallet, to pretty much sum it up , do you feel this friendship is worth keeping ? Because I think having someone constantly get mad at you for little things just makes life stressful (link)
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From what you describe, it doesn't sound like a friendship worth keeping. But you don't mention any upside, only the bad things. Are there any positives in this friendship? If so, do they outweigh all these negatives?
It's good to stand by our friends through thick and thin, but there also comes a point where you must ask yourself: What's in this relationship for me? And there's nothing wrong with moving on if you decide there's just not enough there.
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I had a relationship with a married man with a daughter for a few months before we broke up. I totally regret about it now but i did not know on how to share about it with my current boyfriend. As far as i remember, there are 3 friends of mine who knew about this matter. At the same time, my group of friends are also my boyfriend's friends. i have lied to him that i had a relationship with a man who had registered marriage and had daughter later. I felt so guilty because i love my boyfriend so much. (link)
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Unless your relationship with your boyfriend is such that you are considering marriage, he doesn't need to know.
Perhaps you shouldn't have lied to him about it, because now if you eventually choose to tell him the truth, you'll have to apologize for that lie. But it seems to me that the lie is understandable to a certain extent; this is something that you're deeply ashamed of and you are probably just not willing to share it with anyone and everyone.
If you start talking marriage with your boyfriend, then it will be necessary for both of you to come clean about anything in your past which might come back to haunt you later. One way to put it is that you want to go into your marriage "blackmail-proof".
But if he's just a Boyfriend, and that's all he's ever going to be, then you're entitled to keep some things to yourself. He doesn't need to know.
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What does GOP mean? On the news they are always talking about what the GOP is going to do about this or that but I have no idea what they are talking about. thank you if you can help! (link)
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"Grand Old Party". It's another name for the Republican political party in the United States.
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I am 23 and 6 months pregnant. My boyfriend told me when I was a month pregnant he wants nothing to do with me or the baby, he added that the baby is not his. Well I have been working close to a year now and resently got permanent in the company.
No matter how stable my finances are I still feel he should be responsible for the up bringing of our unborn baby untill such age that is stated by the law. I am scared to tell them at work as I only got this permanent job 2 months ago.
My parents are very understanding of the situation but they dont really know how I feel. This is killing me inside.
Please advise on what to do or steps to take in this kind of situation. Thanking you in advance. (link)
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In order to make him legally responsible for the baby in any way, you will need to prove that it is his. I don't know if that can be safely done before the baby is born; that's something to ask your doctor about.
Since he's accused you of infidelity and walked away from the most important responsibility a person can have, I assume that he's not your boyfriend anymore (and if he is, then you might want to reconsider that relationship). You may want to consider whether it's worth it to you to have him part of your life any longer. Laws of custody very from state to state; you should consult a lawyer to see if he gets any sort of rights to see and visit with the child along with his financial responsibilities. Think about whether his money is worth that.
If you decide that it's not worth it, then you should make sure that he signs away any and all claim on the child to avoid having problems come up later. You don't want to have a situation where you have a happy kindergartner whose life is suddenly thrown into a turmoil because this guy shows up wanting to be "Dad". In a nutshell, if he's not ready to take responsibility now, he shouldn't get to show up later when it's convenient for him.
You're eventually going to need to inform your employer that you have a baby, if only to get him/her on your health insurance. You may as well tell them now so that you can arrange for some maternity leave. By law, they MUST grant you reasonable time off for birth & recovery and have your job available for you when you are ready to come back. They don't have to know the details about who the father is and such; that's not their business.
See a lawyer, and find out what the finer legal points are of all your options.
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hi im 14/f,
im sooooooo happy well ma parents noe dis boys parents for 28 years and there son n i have strong feelings n iwanna date him but ithink ma parents will take it the wrong way or they just will feel weird…………
wat should i do????
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Good news and bad news:
The good news is that if your two sets of parents have known each other for that long, there's a good chance that they're good friends, and that works in your favor. I, for one, would not stay close friends with a couple if I couldn't stand their kids (I'm 40 years old, by the way, so I'm speaking from the parents' perspective). So, there's a pretty good chance that they'll be OK with you two seeing each other. I don't think they will take it the wrong way unless they know something about this boy that you don't.
The bad news is that if something goes wrong with your relationship at some point in the future, it will be very awkward, because the parents will probably continue to see each other socially and you'll never really be able to get away from the boy. It will be awkward for the parents as well. You will need to keep in mind, if the two of you start dating, that it's not just your own relationship which could suffer if you have a falling out.
If I were your father, I would be in favor of you getting to know the boy and hanging around with him (assuming I liked him and knew him to be of good character); but I would say that 14 is too young to date, and that you would need to wait another year or two before going out as a couple. I would be fine with it if you went out with a group of friends together, though. However, this is just me giving you an idea of what to expect; ultimately, it is up to YOUR parents to decide when they are OK with you dating a guy, whoever it may be.
That brings back another "good news" point; even if they say you can't date, it's not like you won't get to see him. Presumably, your parents get together on occasion, and you'd be able to see him then. That's worth something!
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I don't enjoy sex cause my husband is always tired, what should I do?
And I am 23 years, should I give up? Cause its been a lot time.
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The problem needs to addressed now, because if it is not, it will only get worse. I speak from experience - my wife and I have had similar issues for the last 13 years of our marriage, and it's reached a point where I don't even want to try and fix it anymore.
Your husband needs to know that he is denying you something which is necessary to a happy marriage. He needs to figure out WHY he is always tired. There may be a problem with his health which needs to be addressed. I am not a doctor so I won't list blind guesses as to what it might be, but he should see someone who IS a doctor so he can find out. Presumably, he doesn't enjoy being frequently tired.
Whatever is causing the problem, get to the root of it as soon as you can. 23 is much too young to give up on having a decent sex life with your husband.
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I'm 15 and pregnant my mom wants to take me to have a abortion she said she would make me do it no matter what I'm stuch need help she does not like the farther of the baby because mostly because his a coloured and I'm white but its my choice not hers I see where she is comeing from and I reli know its hard and a lot of work but I realy want the baby my partners familie are exited for me and him but my familie will like kill me they are a very rastest familie I hate it I was never born to be like that but I realy need help please ! (link)
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The first responder is correct that no doctor would perform an abortion on someone who said she didn't want it done. Even though you're a minor, it is not up to your parents to force you to have an elective medical procedure. They could force you to have an appendectomy or other surgery to save your life, but not an abortion. The doctor could be charged with assault if he did an abortion on you against your will. No doctor, especially not an abortion doctor who knows that the anti-abortion crusaders would love to make a huge and public case out of something like that, would take that chance.
That solves the problem of you being forced to have an abortion. Unfortunately, it doesn't solve other problems.
You cannot just go live with your partner's family. At the age of fifteen, you would be considered a runaway. You would not be able to stay there against your parents' wishes; they could simply call the police and have you brought home.
I suggest that you inform your mother that you absolutely will not allow her to force you into an abortion; point out that all you have to do is tell the doctor that you don't want the procedure, and he won't do it, so there's no way she can make it happen. Once she knows that's off the table, she may be willing to discuss other options.
She may suggest that you put the baby up for adoption, and that is something to seriously consider. I'm not telling you that you should do that - that's your call. But here is something to keep firmly in mind: whatever you do, it should be what is best for the BABY. That is the responsibility of motherhood (and fatherhood) - you make sacrifices for your children. And sometimes, the thing you need to give up is motherhood itself.
If you intend to keep the baby, you WILL need a support system. You will not be able to raise and care for the baby entirely on your own. Babies require food, clothing, diapers, and other necessities which someone will have to provide, and unless you have a job where you make a lot more money than I did at 15, that "someone" isn't going to be you. But there are resources out there which you can use if your parents aren't going to be much help. Check with Planned Parenthood.
I'm afraid I don't have advice on how you can get your family behind you on this, or how you can make them see the error of their racist ideas. Try speaking to a counselor at school, who may be able to arrange for family counseling for all of you.
One more thing. If you choose to keep the baby, and if the father really does intend to be part of the baby's life and support that baby as a father, then he should make sure his name goes on the birth certificate. Otherwise, he will be able to walk away with few if any consequences. From the way you describe his family, that seems like an unlikely thing - but from the way you describe your family, they may be able to drive him to it.
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If I see a fish Drowning in the water how can I save him from drowning? (link)
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Fish don't drown, for the same reason they don't get broken legs. "Drowning" is water in the lungs, which fish do not have.
It is possible for a fish to SUFFOCATE if it's not absorbing enough oxygen through its gills. But unless you're an expert on fish, I don't think you'd be able to tell whether that was happening, and in any event there really wouldn't be anything you could do about it. Unless you have a bunch of special equipment and a canister of oxygen gas, you're not going to be able to put more oxygen in the water. And of course, pulling the fish out of the water will just make it die faster. It would be like "helping" a choking victim by pushing him face-down into a full bathtub.
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Hi!
I've had a problem with my left ear and when I went to the doctor he told me I had ear fluid and it was allergies. I've havent been taking the pills though and all of a sudden, both of my ears feel weird a few weeks later. I can hear fine when I test my ears but what is it and what can I do to get rid of it? (link)
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Take the pills.
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i'm 19/f
he's 22/f
strong christian, doesn't just lead girls on.
he asked me to coffee just to chat about life. we talked about EVERythiNG. why would he do this?! (link)
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Probably because he's interested in you. That's the usual reason why a guy might ask a girl out and talk to her about a bunch of stuff.
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Hi My name is Haley Im 13 and I've ALWAYS had this big dream of being on stage infront of a MILLION people and having fans and people cheering for me but I've also tried to ask my parents if I could be on shows like Americas Got Talent Or American Idol but my parents are not that big on traveling and stuff like that cause we had a little accident that happened to do with traveling but besides the point what could I possibly do to get noticed and to become a pro singer/actress. I can't post videos on Youtube either so thats another screw up there but just PLEASE help me in any way that u can. Thanks for taking your time and reading this.
~Haley W. (link)
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There are four things you will need:
(1) A certain amount of natural talent.
(2) A large amount of hard work and determination.
(3) A major stroke of luck, probably more than one.
(4) A backup plan.
At the age of 13 and without existing connections in the music industry, the best you can do is work hard at developing your talent, perform at whatever venues you can, and try to remain optimistic. You'll want to get involved in school productions and keep trying out for solo parts. Don't count on getting major exposure right away; that just doesn't happen for most people (and for many who DO get major exposure at the age of thirteen, things have a way of going badly later in their lives).
Youtube won't help you. Two words: Rebecca Black. Even if you can sing a lot better than her, the best you can hope for from Youtube is waves of insulting comments from people who think it's hilarious to tear you down. I guarantee that agents and recording studios are NOT scouring through Youtube videos looking for the next big thing.
In the end, there are a lot more people who want to make it big in music than people who actually do. That's not saying you won't be one of the fortunate ones; you just need to make sure you have something to fall back on if nothing breaks your way. It is possible to pour your entire heart and soul into your dream and still fail to achieve it; this is not to say that you shouldn't try (you should!), but you'll need to have some way to make a living if things don't work out. Make sure to develop your other skills too! Find some aspect of the music or film industry which interests you besides performing. The person behind the spotlight gets a much steadier paycheck than the person in front of it, and by working behind the scenes, you can make your contacts and be there when opportunity strikes.
Good luck!
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I have played field hockey since 2nd grade and I am now a junior and the starting varsity goalie since last year. I like the sport and I have worked really hard to have this position but its really stressful being the goalie and I dread going to practices and games, its not really fun anymore. I know I only have 2 more years and I feel like I should just finish it out and my coach is awesome and will make it very hard for me to quit. I don't want to quit and then miss playing and regret the decision. Please help! (link)
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Perhaps it would be less stressful playing another position? There might be someone else on the team who would really enjoy being the goalie. If that's the main reason why it has become stressful and not as much fun anymore, then ask your coach if you can play a different position for a while. Then, you can still have the option to quit if you continue to not enjoy it.
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I am 59 my mother died 20yrs ago my father remarried to someone we had know for years. TODAY i have received a nasty letter from father saying he doesn't want cards/phonecalls/visits, he is ashamed and disgusted with me and my sister because we never made and effort with his wife, when i lived local i would visit regular we even went to slimming club together yet he seems to have forgotten this. He has left orders that we are not to be contacted if he dies. His wife died Feb 2012 funeral was day before wedding anniversary, no one contacted us to let us know. DO I REPLY OR IGNORE HIS LETTER. (link)
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Is this sort of thing totally out of character for your father? If so, then he may be suffering from some form of dementia, in which case you and your sister should get together and make an effort to reach out to him and find out. If you're 59 years old, then I assume he must be around 80; that doesn't mean he MUST be losing his mental facilities, but it does make it a stronger possibility. Even if he is still fully sound in mind, it may be that grief is affecting him to the point where he is no longer thinking rationally.
I suggest that you and your sister make an attempt at reconciliation. It is more likely to succeed if you do it together, and you may need each other for support if it goes badly. If you can, try to contact someone who knows him well and see if that person can give you some insight on why your father may be acting this way. Don't bother replying by letter or phone; he'll probably throw out any letter he receives from you unopened, and he can just hang up the phone and refuse to answer it again. If you want to have any hope of restoring a relationship, you need to see him in person.
If you're going to do it, do it fairly soon; at his age, you may not have much time.
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I have a question regarding products that fix deep scratches or scratches in general on DVDs. I have an important DVD recorded at a family event 12 years ago. It's clearly seen better days and the DVD-RW that it's on is severely scratched.
I can play it but it locks up at certain points (FREEZES) and then skips to the next chapter if that. I know there's a lot of products to repair scratches out there but do any of them do it so you can watch the whole disc without skipping or locking up like that? And if this is your only copy could it possibly damage it if applied?
Please let me know what to get from Best Buy that hopefully is easy to use and fool proof. (link)
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If the scratch is deep enough that it goes through the plastic and hits the thin metal layer which actually holds the information, then there is nothing you will ever be able to do to get that data back.
However, scratches can be repaired if they are not too deep. Since this is a very important disc, though, I would not recommend using an over-the-counter product; they can work, but if they don't work then it may make it worse. Take the disc to a high-end camera store like Mike's or something similar, and see if they can send it out for professional repair. Even if they can't fix the scratch, they should be able to re-burn the disc and skip the few seconds of video which are damaged.
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Is is cheating if you watch porn only because you want to educate yourself (not trying to cheat)& when u watched it you were thinking if that was me giving my bf what he needs & wants for example how to give a blo job? I'm in my late teens and don't have a clue. I've read articles with mixed reviews which left me quite confused is it cheating or not?? Also if i wanted to cheat i would have gone out and psychically cheated. (link)
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For most people, watching porn isn't considered cheating. It's something that you need to define in your own relationship. However, one way to look at it is: would you be upset if your boyfriend were watching porn? If so, then it may not be cheating, but it IS hypocritical.
One important thing to bear in mind about watching porn for information about sex is that porn isn't really sex - it's a performance. It's about sex in the same way that Indiana Jones is about archaeology. It's idealized, choreographed, and in a word: fake. That doesn't mean that you can't get ANY useful information out of it, it just means that you should take whatever you get with a grain of salt.
Like lots of other things, sexual preferences are a matter of individual taste, and mutual communication is the best way to figure out what your boyfriend likes.
One piece of practical advice: Do not use your teeth unless you have a signed document from him saying that he likes it.
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okay. so me and my best friend are both bi. The last time we had a sleepover we ended up making out and feeling eachother up, I loved it, but the thing is is that that night she said, okay, never again. but then the next morning we were making out even more. I just want to know is what can I do/sat to get her to want to do it again. ps I DO NOT JUst like her for her body, i like her 1. because shes nice and funny and 2. shes one of the only lesbians I know.
we are both 14 but VERY mature for our age. Please answer soon as our sleepover will be in 1 or 2 days. Thank you for taking your time and reading this. other info if it helps- we are both white, petite, GIRLS :), im bi I think shes either bi or lesbian because she has a boyfriend. (link)
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Clearly, your friend is not entirely comfortable with what happened between you. It could be for any number of reasons - perhaps she doesn't think she should be attracted in this way to another girl, or she may feel that she's betraying her boyfriend, or she might not be as "mature for her age" as you believe she is.
She may also be scared of ruining your friendship, which could happen if you rush into things at this point. I suggest that you talk with her and figure out exactly where you both stand on this. Clearly, you want a physical relationship with her, but is that what she wants? Do you want the kind of relationship where you kiss and hold hands in public? Is she comfortable with being "out"? Are you? And specifically, why did she say that she didn't want to make out with you again, and then do it again the next day? SOMETHING was clearly bothering her about it, but then something else made her forget about that when the chips were down. It's important that you both figure out what's up with that, because that's the thing that will blow up on you if you don't defuse it.
Have this conversation in a semi-public place, like a park bench or something, so that you're essentially forced to talk about it instead of just saying, "screw this, let's just make out." There are a lot of questions that need answering between you, and if you ignore them, they'll eventually come back with a vengeance.
And you probably shouldn't have another sleepover, even though the temptation to do so is probably huge. Think about what it would be like if your parents walked in at the wrong moment!
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Does anyone know how to grill salmon without overcooking it? (link)
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I grill salmon frequently, and it almost always comes out good. Here's how I do it:
(1) Start with the salmon thawed, not frozen. If it has bones in it, pull them out with pliers before cooking (most salmon fillets are boneless).
(2) Create a shallow pan from aluminium foil by rolling up the sides. Make it large enough to fit the whole salmon fillet. Put a large cutting board or baking sheet under it to support it - use something flat without sides.
(3) Start the grill and crank it up to high.
(4) Lay the fillet out on the foil and season it to taste. I spread soft (almost melted) butter over the top of it and hit it up with garlic salt, fresh-grated Parmesan cheese, and bread crumbs; but there are many ways to do it and it depends entirely on what you like. Marinating it in teriyaki sauce also makes a delicious salmon, but this needs to be started at least an hour in advance.
(5) Once any leftover grease has burned off the grill, scrape it and then turn it down to its LOWEST setting.
(6) Slide the foil with the salmon off the board and onto the grill (this is why you want to use a board without sides).
(7) Close the grill and let it cook for about a half hour. You won't need to flip it or do anything else at all. One of the great things about grilling a salmon is that it doesn't need monitoring.
(8) After 30 minutes, it should be slightly charred on the very edges and near the tail, but pink and juicy everywhere else. Stick a fork into the thickest part and give it a twist to see inside; it should e a uniform pink throughout. If it's a darker, raw-looking pink inside, let it cook for another 10 minutes.
(9) At no time during the cooking should you attempt to flip it! It will not work and you will end up with a mess of fish down inside your grill.
(10) You should be able to use the same board to pull the foil back off the grill. The foil dissipates heat quickly, so even though it's been in a hot grill for half an hour, you can touch the rolled-up sides with bare fingers (make sure not to dip your fingers into the hot melted butter, though!) Just pull the foil and fish gently onto the board to carry it inside. The fillet will not slide off the foil, because the skin will stick to it.
(11) To serve, slide a large spatula between the fish and the skin; it should separate easily, leaving the skin stuck to the foil, which can be thrown out. Because the skin actually protects the fish from burning, you don't ever want to buy skinless fillets for grilling (they're more expensive anyway). NOTE - Teriyaki sauce will carbonize and leave the foil and skin looking totally black and burned, but the fish will still be good.
That should do it! The most important thing is to cook it for a long time at a low temperature, so it cooks through without burning.
I almost always use fillets, not steaks. Salmon steaks are delicious but often prohibitively expensive. A salmon steak can be grilled the same as above, but it can also be placed directly on the grill, without foil. I recommend using a flat grill basket to hold the fish if you do this, though; the steaks will tend to flake apart as they cook and you'll need something that holds them together as you flip them. or you risk losing it through the grate. Once again, cook on low temperature for a long time. Steaks are harder to grill than a fillet because they do require constant monitoring and flipping, and the grill can sometimes flare up if oil or butter drips down on the hot plate. I recommend cooking fillets until you get to know your grill, then try steaks when you feel like more of a challenge.
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I believe in an afterlfe. We are electro- biochemical beings and our "soul" exists after this hellish life(for the majority). I was fortunate enough to briefly encounter the other side and i truly believe it is there for all if they so will it. At this point I am willing to relinquish this biological life. Putting it bluntly...life on this fucking plane sucks....I'm outta here. Wheres the exit door and how hard is it to open it. (link)
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Death is the end of consciousness. If you "encountered the other side", and came back, then you weren't actually dead; you were in a state near death where the brain begins to misfire and cause hallucinations. All of the classic symptoms of Near-Death Experiences - tunnel of light, euphoria, a sense of existing outside one's own body - have real, physiological causes in the brain, and can even be induced by applying minute electrical charges to certain key areas of the brain which also show a surge in activity in patients who are dying. It is all an illusion.
Death is timeless oblivion. We should all know this because we have all been there before. It is what we experienced before we were born. The Universe existed for a long time before you were born - do you remember what you were doing all that time? I certainly don't. There is no reason to think that this won't be exactly what you experience after death as well: complete nothingness.
If you really want to exit this life, then surely you know how. Anyone who lives near an active railroad track or a ten-story building has a quick and easy way out. But remember that the door only swings one way; once you're out, there's no getting back in. If you're right, and there is an afterlife, then you have no idea what you're really getting into; even if what you experienced really is a glimpse of the other side, it is not necessarily all of it. It would be like a newborn baby deciding that the entire universe must be a hospital room because that's all he experiences in the first five minutes. No matter how you slice it, you just don't have enough information to make the most critical and final decision of your life.
And if I'm right, and there is no afterlife at all, then you'll be throwing away absolutely everything you have and ever will have in exchange for... nothing.
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Hi, I'm 19/f
my whole life, I have been to maybe 5 different churches, and for some reason, I just feel as if church isn't for me. I find it very boring.
I believe in God to the fullest, but sometimes I have my questions, and of course, everyone's answers are going to be different depending on their beliefs.
But within the 5 churches I have been too, I have got many different answers regarding the following question:
DO YOU HAVE TO BE BAPTISED TO GO TO HEAVEN?
I have heard, Yes, you do; and I have heard no you don't, as long as you believe you have a right into God's Kingdom.
Personally, I believe that IF God is as mightly and loving as others make him out to be, than shouldn't he know who believes in him, and who doesn't? Why does baptism give you the pass to Heaven? Why can't believing just be enough??
I have never been baptised, but I have been saved. I pray to God; not just when I want something, but to let him know that I appreciate the things he has given me, and letting me live another day.
Everyone tells me to 'read the bible' but personally, I don't want too. How did God write the bible when he didn't have anything to use? Idk where it came from, who really wrote it, or even if it is true.
Is it wrong for me to have all these questions and these doubts? Does that make me a non believer?
My father told me to talk to a priest, but honestly, I won't get a solid answer, and I feel as if I'll be wasting my time. No one knows the REAL truth about any of it.
Sometimes I question if there is a Heaven or a Hell. How do we really know if they are real; has anyone died and came back and said, 'Man, Heaven is amazing; or Hell is hot as fire!"
I feel so guilty questioning this- but I'm just curious.
SOrry for the length. (link)
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You say you're been to five churches, and gotten many different answers. Go to ten more churches, and you'll get ten more answers. Go to a hundred churches, and you'll get about eighty more answers (some of them will probably agree with each other just by coincidence).
The inescapable conclusion is that the churches have no idea what they are talking about.
The Bible won't be much help either; its lack of consistency and clarity is one of the reasons why there are so many different religious opinions on the matter, and they all can point to the Bible for justification.
You already have your answer, insofar as the Heaven/Hell question: No one knows the REAL truth about any of it.
The simple fact of the matter is that we have no idea what happens after we die. Those who say they do are basing their beliefs on nothing factual. It is nothing but pure speculation.
We have exactly one thing to go on when considering the question of what happens to us after we die, and that is to consider what it was like for us before we were born. For me, it was a timeless oblivion; I recall absolutely no sensations of any kind, no thought, no activity, no feelings, no existence of any kind. Before I was born, I experienced absolutely nothing. I suspect that the same is true for all of us, even those who claim otherwise. And therefore, the only fact-based conclusion we can draw is that it will be the same after we are dead: a total end to any and all consciousness.
But maybe there is something else. The important thing to remember is that those who say that they know what the "afterlife" is like are deluding themselves. They have NO IDEA what it is like. All they can do is make stuff up or repeat what others have made up. No one has ever come back from real death, and those who have "near death experiences" invariably report exactly what they expected to experience, depending on the belief system in which they were brought up.
The good news, if you can call it that, is that eventually we're all going to find out on our own.
Where does that leave us? Well, it strikes me that there is one way in which we live on after our deaths: in the memories of others, and in the words and deeds which we leave behind. So, we must all consider what we want the nature of those memories, words, and deeds to be, and strive to make them that way. For myself, I want the memories to be good, the words to be meaningful, and the deeds to be beneficial; and I think the world would be a better place if everyone made that a priority instead of performing meaningless rituals like splashing water on their heads and mumbling nonsense.
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how long should you wait to have sex after having a kidney or bladder infection? (link)
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Wait a few days after you've finished a full course of antibiotics, to make sure it doesn't flare up again. At that point, you're clean.
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