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i have found the love of my life
hi im 14/f,
im sooooooo happy well ma parents noe dis boys parents for 28 years and there son n i have strong feelings n iwanna date him but ithink ma parents will take it the wrong way or they just will feel weird…………
wat should i do????
thanks
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He's NOT the love of your life...you've only been on Earth for 14 years...and of that time only about 9 years were you can actually formulate coherent thoughts. You have a crush...it's not "LOVE". EVERY young girl on the face of the planet has had a crush. Realize what it is, get your head out of the clouds, think CLEARLY, then come to a reasonable conclusion. In the end, boys will come and go for the rest of your life – BUT you only have ONE family. They're there for LIFE - whether you like it or not.
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Good news and bad news:
The good news is that if your two sets of parents have known each other for that long, there's a good chance that they're good friends, and that works in your favor. I, for one, would not stay close friends with a couple if I couldn't stand their kids (I'm 40 years old, by the way, so I'm speaking from the parents' perspective). So, there's a pretty good chance that they'll be OK with you two seeing each other. I don't think they will take it the wrong way unless they know something about this boy that you don't.
The bad news is that if something goes wrong with your relationship at some point in the future, it will be very awkward, because the parents will probably continue to see each other socially and you'll never really be able to get away from the boy. It will be awkward for the parents as well. You will need to keep in mind, if the two of you start dating, that it's not just your own relationship which could suffer if you have a falling out.
If I were your father, I would be in favor of you getting to know the boy and hanging around with him (assuming I liked him and knew him to be of good character); but I would say that 14 is too young to date, and that you would need to wait another year or two before going out as a couple. I would be fine with it if you went out with a group of friends together, though. However, this is just me giving you an idea of what to expect; ultimately, it is up to YOUR parents to decide when they are OK with you dating a guy, whoever it may be.
That brings back another "good news" point; even if they say you can't date, it's not like you won't get to see him. Presumably, your parents get together on occasion, and you'd be able to see him then. That's worth something!
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