Ok, today I got my ears pierced and the woman the did it apparently wasn't trained well. She told me that I need to take them out every night and clean them. So I took them out and she hadn't evened the hole where you put the earring in. So I can't get either of my earrings in and my mom is now mad at me. I have worked with it for about 20 minutes and still can't get it in. Any Ideas?
Are you sure they're uneven? I know when mine were newly pierced, I had a hard time getting them back in because of swelling.
Try pressing a cold cloth or a cloth with some ice in it to your ears for a bit. Clean the earrings and try slipping them back in (don't pull on the earlobe. Just try slipping them in). It should fit if swelling was the only problem.
If they actually are uneven. Just stop messing with them. Let them grow back in and get them repierced and no matter what they tell you, do NOT take them out again. You'll have a hell of a time getting them back in.
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I am 17 years old and have never had a bf. People in my senior class make fun of me behind my back because of this. I even heard one rumour that I was a lesbian. I'm not a lesbian, I do like guys but I'm really shy and most of the guys in my class are really immature and just want sex, not a meaningful relationship. I've also made the decision not to have sex, or make love until I get married. Some of the girls in my class have slept with over 14 guys, and act like it's no big deal. Sometimes I get so depressed I feel like crying. The fact that tomorrows Valentines day is just going to make me feel worse. Do things ever get any easier for girls like me? Or does it just get worse when I go to college and into the work force? I'm beginning to feel like I'm the only person left with values.
Things will get easier. High school is an incredibly immature environment. The world completely changes when you leave it.
Hold on to your values. There is absolutely nothing wrong in waiting. Dating in high school, when you're so close to leaving for college is pointless anyway. You'll meet more mature, relationship minded guys in college. Just give it time.
For now, don't let what your peers are saying bother you too much. As soon as you graduate, they'll be gone and so will the rumors.
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where can i get the new timberlands the girl ones with the strap...thanx
I know Journeys sells Timberlands so you might want to check there. If you don't have one in your area you can always check the Journeys/Timberland websites and just order them online.
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hey i was just nairing my arms and i think i got a burn on them..is that even possible.
p,s= i only had it on my arms for like 4 minutes
The same thing happened to me when I used it on my legs.
You could either have had an allergic reaction to it or you used too much of it. Try it again with a spot test using less and see how that works out.
I've also learned that if I leave it on for a shorter amount of time on more sensitive areas, I don't have that reaction and it works the same (for me anyway)
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Do u think im too young for sex? I WANT TO SOOOOOO BADDDDDDDD! uhhhh..hes 17, but he promises me i wouldnt get pregnant if we used a condom in he took it out before he cummed in me..is that true?
You are much too young for sex. I understand the feelings you have but believe me when I say that your body grows faster than your mind. Enjoy being young. You have plenty of time to worry about sex later.
You ALWAYS run the risk of pregnancy anytime you have sex. ANYTIME. I cannot stress that enough. Especially when you both seem to be as uninformed are you are about your bodies and how they work.
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i'm a girl, and i'm 16 and i never used to masturbate but i recently discovered it.
however i feel that i'm the only girl that does it and i am embarassed by this fact. do a lot of girls do it? i know no-one will talk about it, and its probably not as common as with guys, but i'd like to think i'm not alone out there. :(
also -- i think i get close to orgasm, but i always stop myself because i'm afraid of making too much noise (i live with my parents) i start to shake and feel a bit "dizzy" does this mean i'm close? should i just go with the flow when this happens?
sorry for all the questions. thanks for all your help.
There is no reason to feel shy about it. Masturbation is completely normal and healthy.
If you're that worried about making noise, just go into the bathroom and turn the shower on while you do it. No biggie.
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This is very embarassing to ask, but im sure you`ve heard worse so bare with me here.
Awile ago I had sex for the first time.. and it was towards the END of my period....so there was no disgusting stuff or anything like that..
but anyways
he didnt wear a condom so i was afraid i would get pregnant.. but 4 days later i started taking the pill..(birth control not the day after pill)
which i THINK kills the sperm when you take it..
so there`s no chance i could be pregnant right?
I mean I was on my period, it was my first time, AND i started taking birth control 4 days later.
You ALWAYS run the risk of pregnancy when you have sex. Even on your period. Even if it's your first time. Even if you are on birth control (which by the way does NOT kill sperm).
The fact that you do not know this is really disturbing. You shouldn't be having sex unless you understand your body and how it works and you take every measure possible to prevent an accident.
Do not play with fire.
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okay, well i had sex with this guy about a month ago and the condom broke. i took ecp (emergency contriception pills) or day after pills,about 48-60 hours after we had sex. but yeah, i was supposed to get my period like a week and a half ago and i havent, i know this is a side effect of the pill, and i even took a pregnancy test and it came out negitive, but my boobs have been hurting and ive been having cramps at the top of my stomach and always having this fullness in my stomach? but yeah anyway, my question is how likely is it that i am? i know im being paranoid but i cant help it!
I highly doubt you're pregnant. The combination of taking the pill your stress is probably just causing a late period. Wait it out.
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La mort est secourable et la mort est tranquille. contre les douleurs il n'ya a pas d'autre asile.
what does this mean?
Death is rescue and death is peace. Against sorrow there is no other refuge
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I know I know your thinking not one of these vday questions!!! but its ergent
you see this is my first time actualy having a boyfriend on valintines day! And i have a really good one!
He spoils me all the time and I dont have any money to spend on him! WHAT DO I DOOO!? I wanted to get him something reallly nice like maybe a gold chain or something but I have no money..
what should i do!?
signed...
the hopeless
excited
vday lover
I highly doubt he's going to crushed because you can't afford anything. Don't feel bad about that.
Why don't you try making him something sweet like a card telling him how special he is or maybe a little scrapbook detailing your relationship. You could print out lyrics that describe your feelings, special memories, paste in pictures of you two, write him a poem or something like that, and put it all together for him. I did that for my boyfriend and he loved it.
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Help! Help! Help!
I used to have this boyfriend my parents hated to death. He moved all the way across the United States (I live in California) and emailed me his new phone number. While my parents were at a meeting, I called him and talked only like a minute since he had to go to a school event. Will his number show up on the phone bill? If so, my parents will see it and become suspicious, because we almost never call people out of state. I have a Panasonic phone with caller ID if it helps.
Can anyone give me any good excuses for when my parents round on me?
Yes it will show up.
My advice would be that you don't lie. My teenage years and come and gone and if I've learned anything, it's been that somehow, parents will always find out what you're up to and if you try to lie, it'll just make things that much worse when the truth finally comes to light.
Just remember, if you have to lie then you're doing something wrong and you know it. Point blank. Parents don't take well to that.
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Two or three years ago, I became very close with two people, we'll call them D, a female, and A, a male. They were very close to each other, and eventually I became very close to them, too.
A and I developed a stronger relationship, and we'd talk for hours on the phone. I... somewhat brought up taking our relationship further, however he didn't -seem- particularly interested in that, I wasn't exactly devastated, and we stayed on friendly terms, becoming perhaps even closer.
As time progressed, he introduced me to his oldest friend, E (male). Eventually, E, A and I were inseperable, and we spent a lot of time together. Eventually E and I found that we liked each other in a more than platonic way, and we started seeing each other, still going out with A very often.
I noticed that five or six months into E and my relationship, the relationship between me and A was quickly deteriorating, while he and R, a friend I introduced him to started treating me in horrible, horrible ways, with verbal and even often physical abuse. Eventually, R apologized, while A began ignoring me completely.
(R, D, and E have all commmented that perhaps A was not truthful earlier, and that he -did- have feelings for me.)
A is still very close with E & D. I've been with E for almost two years, and we're planning on moving in together soon. I spend almost every moment I'm not with E with D, and we work together, and we spend most meals together (with A there a majority of the time as well, still ignoring or being verbally hostile and passive/aggressive).
My questions, finally, are -
1) Why did A react that way, and can I salvage a relationship with him?
2) Should I demand/ask that E and D back me up more with A?
3) Should I ignore A if and when I am with D?, or
4) Should I stop spending time with D altogether, to avoid A?
I know it's a lot of questions, but I finally feel like I need guidance with this situation - from outsides eyes who are not directly involved in it. I just want to know what to do about this sticky, sticky situation.
(For clarification, I'm female.)
My questions, finally, are -
1) Why did A react that way, and can I salvage a relationship with him?
There's always the possibility that he did feel the same way but you brought up the fact that him and E were buds. I'm wondering if maybe he feels that you take some of his one on one time away from E?
Regardless of his reason, it's incredibly disrespectful to treat you this way. Friendship is about mutual respect. If he finds it so impossible to live by that, he isn't a very good friend.
2) Should I demand/ask that E and D back me up more with A?
Yes you should. I can understand D and E's loyalty to their friend. That maybe they feels stuck in the middle but you are important too and no one has the right to abuse you in any way no matter the reason. E might better be able to figure out what's going on since I get the impression that they go back quite awhile. Perhaps you could ask him to talk with A and see what's going on?
3) Should I ignore A if and when I am with D?, or
Do your best to be kind but if he wants to be nasty anyway, ignore him.
4) Should I stop spending time with D altogether, to avoid A?
No. Don't allow his nasty attitude to mess up any existing friendship you have. I'm sure there's a way to fix what's going on. Just don't do anything drastic in the meantime. You'll regret it.
But even if talking doesn't work out and A decides he still wants to be an asshole, then there is much that can be done about that until he decides to grow up.
Trust in the friendship you have with E and D and know that if it's real, they'll back you up. Surely, they'd be willing to hang with you and A at different times to avoid any tension.
That might be all it takes...a little time with you out of the picture for A and A out of the picture for you. After awhile, maybe you can all begin to ease back into hanging together.
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Before almost all things where i have to stand in front of people or just be with a lotta people (dances, parties, answering questions @ school, giving presentations at school...) i feel like im breathing harder than normal and sometimes i get a really upset stomach. i feel my face getting all hot, and even after the moment where everyone looks at me passes i still have to look down for fear someone is still looking at me. sometimes i feel that i would rather die than stand in front of everyone...is that normal? do i have like, social anxiety disorder or panic attacks??
This sounds normal to me. I've always felt the same way in those situations. Unless you find yourself going out of your way to avoid social situations, then I wouldn't worry too much.
But I'll tell you something..when giving presentations at school, I can guarantee you that everyone is just as nervous as you are. We're ALL insecure on some level around our peers. You know yourself that the first half of the presentations, before you give yours, you aren't really paying attention. You're just worrying about how yours will go. So is everyone else. So give your presentation first. The attention won't be so centered on you then. That's a trick I always used ;)
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So me and my boyfriend were making out and he was feeling me up and stuff, and we were obiously really close together. So while thats happening, I feel him start to vibrate. From his torso down I swear he was shaking or vibrating. My friend says he was getting off lol but wouldnt I have felt it since I was so close to him? it just seems kinda werid. I'll rate for decent advice
It just sounds to me like he was aroused. People tremble/shake when they are. Doesn't seem like much of a big deal.
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I'm 5"4' and 160 lbs. That doesn't sound that 'fat' but I'm also 13 years and my doctor thinks it's too fat and that was the cause of my 'monthly's' stopping for 4 months early last year! I really need an appropriate diet to lose some pounds because I feel fat and since I have to maintain school and homework, chores, etc. it's tough to not eat.
Recently I've been on a diet with food and water and no snacks but I did eat a few snacks and after 4 bottles of water...I felt reallly bloated! So How Do I use my water and food (lunch) diet without the snacks...the temptation of the snacks? Does anny one know how to avoid buyin em?
Honey you are never going to lose weight if you deny yourself of every pleasure. You know by example that you eventually give in and mess up.
You will lose weight if you make a change that you can live with. When it comes to snacks, you need them. We all do. Just be smarter about what you choose to snack on. Instead of eating candy or chips or cupcakes, try snacking on fruit, yogurt, string cheese, or veggies.
It's all about the choices you make. Don't try eating 1 meal a day or cutting everything you love from your diet. A cupcake is perfectly fine every once in awhile.
Just stick to eating healthier and in moderation (smaller portions).
You also need to work out. I'm sure, if you can't afford it, your parents would be willing to buy you some kind of cardio dvd to help.
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I'm an advicenator on here, but I really need help for this.
[TiNA_DUH]
K, I weigh 145 lbs & I'm 5'3" and I think I'm fat. Now, everyone tells me I'm not [especially guys] but, I feel like I am. I checked my BMI and it's 26 which is overweight. :( That made me feel really bad about myself. In November, I weigh 137. I gained 8 lbs in a little over 2 months. I really wanna lose weight, to weigh 105, so I'll be healthy again, but everytime I try to go on a diet or change my eating & exercise, I never do. I lack enthusiasm. It's either that, or I just never have time. I'm a freshman in highschool, and I'm piled with homework, so it takes me a while & sometimes I babysit, and then I have to do stuff around the house, and by time I'm done with all that & my shower - I don't have time! How do I manage my time so I can exercise and lose this weight. I hate being fat!
Please help me. My confidence is really going down because of it. I know I'm pretty - but I wish I had the body to go along with it.
&TiNA;
If you've no time after school, wake up an hour earlier in the morning and exercise then.
There are alot of dvd's available that are centered around 20 and 30 minute cardio (which you need to be doing in order to burn fat).
I would personally advise that you go out and buy the Yoga Now dvd series (mixes yoga and cardio). That's what I do every day. The whole set is about $40 (you can buy it online or at Target). You get a 30 min workout that you could easily do in the morning and a 50 minute workout that I'm sure you could fit into your weekend schedule. It also comes with a meal plan and alot of information on eating healty to lose weight.
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I am East India so my hair is very very dark. A few months ago, I streaked it copper. I want to try to temporarily change my hair colour (I'm partial to reds) but I'm not sure if it will show. I used a red Colourpulse last time but it tinted my -highlights- redder (just by a bit, though) and I want a more dramatic colour.
Usually, at the side of temporary colour boxes, there is a sample of before/after hair and the darkest shade sampled is "dark brown" which isn't really dark brown, it's more light brown if anything.
Is there a shade in Colourpulse, Colourflirt, or any other dye that washed out in 8-12 shampoos that I can use? Is there any technique that will make the shade deeper?
You'd have to bleach the sections of hair you want to dye first if you want the color to be really vibrant.
Go to a stylist to have that done though.
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i have expression lines between my eyes and ive been using cocoa butter lotion evryday to get them away. will that work and if not what can i sue or what else could help ne solutions to gettin rid of wrinkles???
P.S they arent like major wrinkles or nething just annoying since im young.
Do NOT use makeup. It'll only get into the creases and make them more noticeable.
Try using a cream with a collagen base. It'll seal in the creases. There are also alot of skin firming creams in the aisle's that carry acne products that you can try.
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Are their any clothing styles that make your breasts look bigger? Like bras and t-shirts and stuff. I heard V necks make an illusion of bigger boobs but i don't know. Please help me.
Anything form fitting or that hugs the breasts will make them appear larger.
Your best bet though to is go with a molded cup, padded or push up bra. It'll give you cleavage, make your breasts appear larger and rounder and the effect is noticeable in any type of shirt you wear.
Also, if you're wearing anything low cut, a bit of blush between your cleavage and some highlights on the swells of your breasts will add definition.
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hey i am 13/f and i'm trying to find a new hair color
i'm getting my hair cut like this picture:
http://imdb.com/gallery/granitz/3274/AshleeSimp_Pimen_5265256_400.jpg?path=pgallery&path_key=Simpson,%20Ashlee&seq=3
i have reddish hair and a pale skin tone. (this is a picture of my hair and skin color)
http://i36.photobucket.com/albums/e43/ooxSaRaBaRaxoo/screwup_jpg.jpg
i really want to change up my hair color and i'm not sure which way to go. i think i'm going to get some highlights but i'm not sure what shade and what color to make the base. any ideas? thanks a bunch! i rate
If I were you, I'd keep the same color as a base and add a few highlights and lowlights (2 to 3 shades lighter for the highlights and darker for the lowlights than your real color). It'll add alot of dimension to your hair without making it appear unnatural and it's pretty fool proof.
It would look amazing with that haircut too
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