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my family owes the bank alot of money and i wanna help them. i'm only 13 so what can i do to help them get money? please help, this is important (link)
As for helpin them out... i think thats really sweet. You could save up change you find ont he ground, or money you get for birthdays and stuff. You could hold a mini-garage sale and sell sum stuff you dont need anymore. You could also get a job. Theres not anything you can really do until you're 14 and get the special sheet ur parents and teacher or something has to sign. But you could baby sit. You need to take the course, which costs 15 dollars to do at a Red cross for a few hours on a Saturday, and then baby sit for sum good money. Or you could go to a Coconuts store and sell all your old CDs.


hope i helped ya out





whats a good name for a female chihuahua? I rate 5s for really cool and creative names :) (link)
i know its weird... but Tinkerbell IS a realy cute name for her. Or maybe you could stick with like a mexican theme.... Maria, Sasha, Baby, Dutchess, Tiny, Teenie.

i know its pathetic right? ;)






Alrighty. There's this guy Adam, and him and my friend Michael came up to me a few days ago, and Michael said Adam thought I was cute and he was going to ask me out. Adam ran away. Adam's getting closer and closer to asking me, but always chickens. I want him to ask me out...what do I do? (link)
If you know for a fact that he really DOES want to ask you out and they weren't playing a hurtful joke on you, and you like him to, ask him out yourself. Maybe he thinks you dont like him and you're goin to say no. Theres nothing wrong with YOU showing how you feel too.


hope it helps ya out





My Dad's soon to be ex-wife has been harrassing us and stalking the house. Today, she told the police that I have been slandering her name at my high school. I never talk about the woman. Why would I want to talk about someone who is making my life a living hell? When I am at school, it is my relief from all the stress of home and I try to enjoy the time with my boyfriend and my best friends. I have had four of my friends come up to me and tell me that she has come to her house and said a bunch of stuff to her parents about Dad and about me. This is four different people that their parents would rather them have nothing to do with me. Do you have any advice on how I can improve my name, or at least deal with the stress of someone trying to ruin my life? (Although she says that I am ruining hers. Yeah, funny how that works out...)
Thanks!
Stressed... (link)
hey Im gonna try the best I can ok?

I think if you know for a fact that none of these things she's saying is true, that you should have your dead talk to the police about it himself. As for clearing up your name its just like the rumor cycle. Talk to your friends parents about it and tell them whats going on, it may not be there buissness whats goin on in ur private life, but if they dont want your friends chillin wit ya ya gotta do sumtin. As for the police thing, if the police dont find anything, and after talkin to teachers or principals or whatever, they'll realize that she was lying, and she'll get in big trouble.

Try talking to your guidance counseler too


hope it helps :D







whats the point of the shards stuff (link)
lol. i dont really know what the point is. I think it was a campaign for a joke. Or it was against smoking or some type of drug. I actually just heard about it last week in school. sorry i couldnt help more






Hello,
I am going to be getting married later on this year, but I'm having a few problems that I hoped someone can help me with. My fiance wants a VERY small wedding, if he had it his way, no one would be there except the preacher, him, and me. I have a large family that I know would get offended if I didn't invite them to the ceremony. I want a medium-size wedding, but I'm on an extrememly tight budget as I am still in college and he just got out of the Marines. Do you have any advice that you can help me with? I want to have a wonderful wedding that both of us will like and can afford. Thank you! (link)
I also have a BIG family... actually its huge. But because im only 15 and i dont have this problem yet ;) lol. I am greek and italian... and if you know italians or greeks... or have seen any shows you know how big our families are. think my big fat greek family x10 LOL

but if i was in your postition id tell him flat out that you cant have such a small wedding. Try to avoid invitiing people you havent seen in a long time, make it so kids under a certain age cant go, invite all da old ppl (( ya dont know how long they'll be around... and theyve probably been waiting a while to see it lol )), and only invite a certain amount of friends. otherwise i cant help ya with the budget, my job is at McDonalds so by the time i get paid i spend it all in 1 store lol

hope i helped at least a little






Okay.. let's see- I have been with my boyfriend for 8 months now. We are both around 16. Hes not to desperate to do anymore than we have.. He's went down my pants but thats the furthest we've got. We both talked about doing more, and we both want to. The only thing is i'm kind of nervous. Like everyone says giving handjobs/blowjobs come natural how to do it. but i dont think it's going to for me. or like him eating me out? Won't that just be weird. will i just lay there? I'm really ready to do this, but i just want to make sure i do everything right for him...


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yeah this IS cute lol... ummm but its kinda gross to explain LOL. Im 15 and havent done anything yet but as far as i know you just lay there. if you guys want to have sex, but you're bervous about doing anything else just tell him. You guys sound really close, and he should understand. hope it helps


ya be SAFE, and i guess have fun lol




I saw this advertisement and it was for shards glass freeze pops and i dont know what is it so if someone could explain to me what it is and what it does and why it is so addictive that would be great (link)
sum ppl say that its made with alcohol... but its really a campaign


tomorrow at my school is senior skip day and i know it may sound funny but what exactly is senior skip day?? cuz i know alot of ppl that are doing that and i don't know exactly what is (link)
It's when seniors skip school or a class


So on AIM you can send IM crushes through this IM robot named Cupid. And I did that, and I sent it to this guy I like and well...now hes going to know! So when he asks me about it..what do I say? I kinda regret it...and I'm scared hes just going to laugh and totally be like "ew". He said I was pretty but hes so hott and theres too many girls that like him. So, is my friendship ruined with him or what...ahh im scared! I wish we could un-do the IM crushes (link)
ya i agree, if he didnt like you even a LITTLE bit then he wouldnt of said you were pretty. Whats happened has happened. I got tagged, and figured it out, and the guy was SOOO scared. But its ok, at least ya got guts ;)


hope it helps...






Hiya,
I've had three boyfriends, all of whom were MAJOR crushes of mine. I was mad about them for ages (months and sometimes years) and took all my courage, told them how I felt and asked them out (one at a time obviously!). They all liked me back which was great but...once we started dating, with every single one of them, I just lost all feelings towards them and felt trapped. What do you think is going on? Am I in love with the idea of unrequited love? Or am I just not ready for a relationship...or what?
Ta! (link)
ok this ones gonna be long...

OK, maybe you're just basing how much you "love" them on their looks. If thats the case when you say crush, you need to get to know what they look like inside, and not out.

If the above isnt the case, try getting to know a bunch of different guys and decide what your "type" is. Or maybe just experiment... go to a club and get sum numbers or talk to some guys. Dont be too picky, but have some limits.

I know that I am in love with being in love. I go all out with my guy, and thats ok. But if you decide that you dont like them at all anymore in the relationship, then maybe you just want to FEEL loved by a guy, or to have a guy around you. If thats it then... i dont know, work on it?


hope it helps







PS thanx for sayin im an angel ;)


hi...sorry if this is long.
well ages ago i met a guy and fell instantly in love with him. he liked me 2 but i didnt have the courage to tell me and now hes moved on. were like best friends now; we bonded alot when i was living back at home in america. i never got on with my mom and he understood that an kinda helped me through it.
my mom hated me a lot and blamed me for her and my dads divorce. we argued too much and she was always tellin me she wishes i was dead. this guy, lets call him adrian, helped me thru it and always made me feel lots better.
i moved to england to be with him (as a friend) and now my mom is ill and wants me to go back to america to look after her. i realy resent her and dont think i could look after her properly. im also scared that if i go, 'adrian' will meet someone while im away and fall in love...and i will never have a chance to tell him how i feel.
what should i do?
btw i had planned on tellin him how i feel just as i left on the plane...but that would be mean although it would give him time to think bout everythin. what do you think?
rose, 18 (link)
ummm.... this is a hard one. Your mom actually sounds like a hypocrite. And if she's not deadly ill maybe you shouldnt go and tell 'Adrian' how you feel. Then you guys will be able to talk about it. I dont think that if you go tellin him before you go on the plane is good. That might make him feel like you'll never come back. Try tellin him a couple weeks before you leave, even if its hard for you... otherwise im not quite sure. Sorry about your mother, even if she does sound like a... nvm :D






Theres this guy Steve who asked me out.. 2 years ago.. and I was a dumbass and I said no. And I know that Steve wants a relationship, because he sometimes talks about how he wants a girlfriend. And he's not the type to just want a fling.. he's not your typical, hott, popular guy.. he's not even that great-looking, he's not popular but he's still cool, and he's caring and easy to talk to. And when I said he flirts with other girls, he doesn't exactly FLIRT with them. He just TALKS to them and becomes friends with them. I donno, I guess I get jelous sometimes and assume that he's flirting. And I'm not really sure, but sometimes he hints around that he kinda likes me. But how do i tell the difference form when hes flirting and when hes just being friendly?? Idk what to do.. help!! (link)
He may still like you. And if you like him you should ask him out. If he wants a girlfriend, and you want a boyfriend, and your both attracted to each other it may work out. And if you're jealous when hes around other girls you should totally go for it.


hope it helps!






Does anyone know any great sites where I can find very very very very funny jokes or comics so I can get a good laugh? (link)
Try typing 'funny' or 'comics' in google.






Okay, all day..randomly I start sweating, and my bra gets soaked, so the bottom of my boobs stink..and the whole day it's wet there, and it raelly gets annoying. I've tried bringing two bras to school, and it doesn't really help. I use deodarant, everything. Please help me?

P.S. I'm wayy overweight, so my boobs are the size of china. I know this is part of the effect, but I don't sweat on my face or anything..just my chest and armpits. Help? (link)
omg dont listen to the mean people who "gave you advice"

I think you should bring perfume with you and use a LOT of deodorant. If that doesnt work try wearing loose clothes, or short sleevs, and dont get too phisical and avoid other things that make you sweat.


hope it helps!





i have to memorize a sonnet for my english class and i am having a horrible time. i've tried making flash cards, recording it and listening to it, but nothing i'm doing seems to work. do y'all have any advice on how to memorize (if you need to see it, it's shakespeare's sonnet #148). thanks so much!! (link)
I had to do the same thing when I was in 5th grade. My only advice is to just read it OVER AND OVER AND OVER again. maybe you could likesing the words to help memorize it. It depends how much time you have... sorry i cudnt help more




Can you skip your period and not be pregnant? In other words, if you miss a period, is the only explanation pregnancy?
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no thats not the only explanation. Sometimes people have irregular periods where they skip a month or it comes a little late. Dont get too scared. If you arent sexually active you might not have anyting to worry about. Talk to your doctor or get a pregnancy test just to make sure and watch for signs.

hope i helped





ive been dating my boyfriend for 6 months.. considering valentines day is today, i got my boyfriend the video game that he wanted. he came over to my house after school and all he did was sit and talk about his game. and he left me on valentine's day to play his game.. would he be considered a shitty b/f? (link)
ummm... its hard to say... has he treated you like this before? Maybe hes just sooo happy and excited about the game he couldnt wait to play. IN that way i guess id be happy... maybe you should call him and drop a few hints. sorry i cant help more :D



My boyfriend & I have been trying to have a baby for the past 4 months, but I can not get pregnant! We already know his sperm is good because he has 2 kids from a previous relationship. Could having a disease cause someone not to get pregnant? What kind of disease? How do you know if you are in-fertile? Why would I be in-fertile? WHY CAN'T I GET PREGNANT!?!? :0( (link)
ummm im only 15, and still a virgin, but I may be able to help.

My mom was not supposed to have kids (( even though she got EXTREMELY lucky ;) )) because of a disease. There are a lot of different diseases that could have this happen so its hard to say exactly you know? But there are ways for people who are in-fertile to get pregnat. in vitro is one of those ways. They are little shots you take for a while to help you fertilize

i saw a show on cindy margolis on VH1 about it lol

sorry ic ant help more... no experience





I am 15 and have been going out with the same guy for 4 years. I lost my virginity 2 him when I was 14. He is starting to act way to controlling and we have gotten into several fist fights and he forces me to have sex with him sometimes. I met a guy on the internet that lives 1700 miles away. We have been talking for a while and I think I am in love with him. Is it possible to love someone that far away? He also says he loves me back, and wants to meet. Thanks (link)
Yes it is possible to fall in love over the internet. My aint did and they have been hapilly married for 10 years. But this advice has many parts to it.

As for the guy on the internet. PROMISE me you'll be careful! Many girls fall victim to rape and murder because of guys they've met over the internet. Even though he says wut he looks like or how old he is, he could be lying to you so you will fall for his trick. Also, if you DO plan on meeting him make sure you're parents know about it. And one of them comes along. If not have a friend, or better yet, a group of friends go with you.

As for your current boyfriend. You REALLY need to dump him. IM sorry, and I know you probably love him, but hes abusing you. And forcing you to have sex is wrong. We'll still young and the fact that he took something so great from you, and is now taking you for granted, is DISGUSTING! If he has hurt you in the past its a sign of only worse to come. He's going to get jealous and constantly ask you questions about who you're with and who you're talking to, causing more fights and bruises. Talk to a friend, parent, or counseler about it ok? I dont want anyone to get hurt. Love hurts enough as it is ;) Im 15 too, and as a girl myself you REALLY need to ditch him. I know someone who got shot because her abusive boyfriend got too controlling and jealous.

dont wanna scare you, and i hope it helps








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