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NEED WEDDING ADVICE!
Hello,
I am going to be getting married later on this year, but I'm having a few problems that I hoped someone can help me with. My fiance wants a VERY small wedding, if he had it his way, no one would be there except the preacher, him, and me. I have a large family that I know would get offended if I didn't invite them to the ceremony. I want a medium-size wedding, but I'm on an extrememly tight budget as I am still in college and he just got out of the Marines. Do you have any advice that you can help me with? I want to have a wonderful wedding that both of us will like and can afford. Thank you!
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Well, honestly that is exactly how my family is to and all i can tell you is Be "American" which means dont care about others feelings, or explain to your fionce that you have to invite them!
♥ Michelle
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well, tel you what i think that you should have a medium small wedding just to u know make him happy he says he wants a small wedding just give him a medium small wedding so you both can get what you want.
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Im also really young and i have a huge family. If i was in this position i would talk to my [future] husband about it because he should understand. Tell him that it would mean alot if you had your parents there and if he loves you the way you think he does then hell understand. good luck!!
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I also have a BIG family... actually its huge. But because im only 15 and i dont have this problem yet ;) lol. I am greek and italian... and if you know italians or greeks... or have seen any shows you know how big our families are. think my big fat greek family x10 LOL
but if i was in your postition id tell him flat out that you cant have such a small wedding. Try to avoid invitiing people you havent seen in a long time, make it so kids under a certain age cant go, invite all da old ppl (( ya dont know how long they'll be around... and theyve probably been waiting a while to see it lol )), and only invite a certain amount of friends. otherwise i cant help ya with the budget, my job is at McDonalds so by the time i get paid i spend it all in 1 store lol
hope i helped at least a little
<.::~*~ SuGa HiGh ~*~::.>
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Tell your family (and his)that due to extremely tight budget you cannot invite them all or any of them to your wedding instead have a huge reception for your families and celebrate there. (I'm only 14 so I really don't know. Congratulations!)
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your decision of having a medium sized wedding is very good , you should just invite the people that are related to you and some friends , you dont have to pick the most expensive place to have your reception after the wedding you could have your wedding reception in your backyard just decorate it in a nice and fancy way it will look so nice so no wedding planner is needed anymore , you dont have to get a photographer let a friend take the pictures, dont pick a large and expensive wedding cake and if any of your relatives is a good cook let him/her do the cake and the last thing your honeymoon just pick a local hotel and spend a couple of days at it.
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Congratulations! I totally understand except I am the small family and he is the large one. Here's what I think should happen. Make a "dream list" of everyone you would love to have at your wedding. Get him to do the same (guess that wouldn't be terribly difficult). Then see how many you have and get an estimate on what that would cost you. Then make a few cuts off the list if you need too. If anyone says anything about being offended, just tell them the truth.
We are getting married in Sept. 2006 because we are determined not to owe anyone. I am planning to make my own party favors (which I really think will be fun) and possibly my own invitations. There are a few must haves that we will have to pay for, but ask anyone you can for help either monetarily or just labor. I am planning on working for the florist this summer in trade for flowers. We have a wedding savings account set up.
If you need some ideas, here is where you can start www.weddingchannel.com. But beware that you can get things cheaper locally in some cases. Wal-mart and Hobby Lobby are going to be your friends. Especially if you are either crafty or have a crafty friend.
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Best wishes. Sorry so long, but this is my new favorite subject.
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As much as it might suck to do so, inform your family that it appears you might not be able to afford a larger wedding with many guests. Perhaps use that as leverage for getting your parents to help absorb some of the costs? My wife and I paid for the majority of our own wedding, but both our parents did a few little things here and there to help out (cake, photographer, church, and rehearsal dinner were paid for by them), and we took care of the rest.
While the marriage is a private affiar, I think it is fair to say that a wedding is not just for the couple to get married, but for friends and family to celebrate the new marriage. A lot of people seem to forget that.
Try to talk to your finace a bit, too, and get him to understand that your wedding is important to your family.
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Well marraige is all about comprimise. You need to find a middle ground that you are both happy with. If you have a big family, he has to realise that they will be part of your life. But you have to work with him, and not invite everyone and their brother. Invite only close family, not that cousin you meet twice.
For any wedding you need to start with a budget. From there you know what you can afford. There are lots of tricks to cutting your budget. For example for my wedding I pre-ordered all my flowers from Sams Club, a wholesale store and made the centerpices myself. I orderd my vail online for less then $40 and it was beautiful. I made my own headpiece. I didn't have live music at the cerermony, we used a tape player. I made my own invitaions. We didn't have a limo, we had a friend drive us. We had a closed bar. Think what is importaint to you and put your money towards that, and skimp on the simple things.
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