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well i am moving to Colorado next year before school starts and like i am really outgoing and stuff and i play volleyball, and that starts before school so i can meet people by doing that to, but i am like really scared of the change and i dont know waht to do to make the move easier????
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Sometimes change can be the greatest thing to happen to us. It's a great way to learn and live a more exciting life. Just think of it as a new chapter or adventure in your life. Who knows you may meet people with the same interests as you. Stay out-going and positive and people will be drawn to you.
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I am a 17/m and i have problems talking to girls. There i admited it. Now i need help. Please give me some advice.
P.S. I will rate good for HELPFUL advice (link)
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Sometimes you have to get their attention where they become interested in talking to you. If it's a particular girl my advice to you is to find out what her interests are so you would have something to talk about. Now what i like to do to catch them off guard is make up something to where I am doing something like a survey and their opinion would be very important. Like for instance asking that girl what movies are good right now and even what is their favorite movie. Tell her your doing research and that you need a few girls opinion. This way she thinks your actually doing it when in fact you are learning more about her.
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several years ago, I was best friends with this girl , we were each others confidant, and could tell anything to each other. The rest of the crowd really didn't matter if we were together. It was after a year of knowing her that I realized that I was absolutely in love with her. I didn't do anything at that point because I was in the middle of applying for school.
It's been a couple of years now, and I'm still in love with her. She went off to college in another state, and our lives have gone off in different directions. Her life has changed (she's popular, beautiful etc. which she wasn't in high school), so i don't talk to her anymore, but I still can't get her out of my mind. I haven't been able to date or even be interested in another girl- because I know that she was the one for me. We both graduate next year, and I'm wondering if I should just lay it all on the line, and offer her my heart. WHat do you think? I rate well. -LloydDobbler-
P.S. This is a really complicated story and if you want to help me beyond this, i'd appreciate it. (link)
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Sometimes we hide our feelings because we are afraid of the answer. The first thing you need to do is start talking to her again. You have to re-establish the lines of communications. Then you work your way back into her life. So whwn this is done she will be able to confide in you again. Right now yoy are like a starnger to her because of the time frame. A couple of years can change someone, so you need to see if she is the same person you fell in love with. If she is great! If not at least you will know and be able to move on to find the right person.
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2 and a half weeks ago, my boyfriend broke up with me. I'm finding it really hard to get over him and today I found out that he has a new girlfriend. She's a girl who went to his primary school and he hasn't seen her for over two years. He says he likes her and all but I don't know if he's telling the truth or not. I spoke to her on MSN (I've never met her) and she seems nice, she said that if it was really bothering me then she would break up with my ex. I told her not to ruin things with him just because of me but I can't help feeling jealous. I love my ex and if his new girlfriend makes him happy then I hope they're happy together but it's still tearing me up inside. How do I deal with this? (link)
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Sometimes time is the best thing. Yet I can't help seeing why it only took two weeks for him. That would put the question in everyone's mind on how well you really knew him. But use your friends and family as a support system. Don't lose sight that you've got your whole life ahead of you. Don't let yourself think that this is it. You can talk and even date other people. Not to tell you to go off and fall in love quickly but you never know that Mr. Right could be waiting for you out there and your ex was just someone to start with so you can bring something better to a newer and better relationship.
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hi i have a slight problem.. i cant stop sleeping with guys 15 years older than me. My last boyfriend had 3 kids with me. How can i stop sleeping with all these guys? what should i do?
Please help me... I need help..
MOLARRY CURLLLY (link)
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Maybe you need to ask yourself why you feel the need to do this to yourself. Why not date boys closer to your age. Or if you need help contact an organization for situations like this. The problem here is that you need to be the one to make the change for yourself. the more you keep doing thsi to yourself the more you keep hurting yourself. It's time to take action but it's going to be up to you to lead this fight for your life. It will take more than this advice to help you. You need to talk to people who probabaly have if not the same something almost what your going through. It doesn't make you weak if you do this, it makes you better. Better to want to help yourself. Be proud of who you are so when your children get older they can be proud of you.
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hey...well i go out with this kid(Eric) and like i really do like hima real lot...we went out before but his so called "Best Friend"(Kevin) started spreading rumors and he kind of messed up our realationship...he wouldnt beleave me when i told him it wasnt true and he said he was going to beleave his best friend so i dumped him because i dont want to goout with someone who doesnt trust me...well i went out with him a while ago so i think he likes me still because if he doesnt then why would he start rumors to make us breake up? thats gay but o well it was his fault he cheated on me and then he goes and dumps me...anywayz after me and eric broke up we kind of started talking a lot more because likke before he never called me and everytime i called him he could only talk for about 10 mins and then he would be like i have to go...we never hang out either...so i guess he didnt really like him like he said...well teh other day i was walking after school with dome friends and we saw him so he came up to us and walked with us...my friend(Cesar) always walks homw with me so i dont have to walk alone but that day he stayed home because he was sick i think...so Eric walked me home and he hugged me before he left and stuff...pretty weird lol he never did before...anyways taht same day i went online and he asked me out and he said he was sorry for not believing me when he should have and that it wont happen again because now he trustes me...everything was going great until he went over Kevins house and he told him that we go out acyually it was yesterday well teh thing is i went online and he was away and rigth when i tried talking to him he signed off...and i dont know if he didnt on purpose because he had to go...theres thsi girl too she was like my sister...she doesnt live in town...but after me and eric broke up teh first time she all started flirting with him i mean what a friend who does that to a friend...i mean i love that girl to death but she is a slut seriously im srry but she is...she loves everyone and goes out with people she hasnt never seen before and i really think thats so fucked up but anywayz her life none of my business...wel when they were flirting i know he was too but his friends say he did flirt but he dont like her, HE DOESNT EVEN KNOW HER!...i kind of think he likes her he talked to her yesterday but no he wouldnt talk to me...i really dont know whatto do all i know is that i love him and dont want to lose him...but what if he did signed off on purpose and if he doe like her(even tho he sayd he doesnt)???...ugh!!...i hate this so thing called love lol is so complicated...I NEED HELP!!...lol...thanx for everything...much love... (link)
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First of all why go out with somebody who listens to their friends and can't make up their own mind. Second a rumor is just a rumor. If you want the truth than go to the source itself and get the truth. Your true friends will back you up. Everyone else won't because they think their "cool." If you love this boy, tell him. Stop playing games on both your ends. If it happens, it happens. If it doesn't, then move on and find somebody who can appreciate you. Stop putting yourself back to the same situation. Your going nowhere with it. If your smart you two won't let any friends dictate your relationship.
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Ok, yesterday I was on the phone with my boyfriend and he asked me what I want to do on Valentines Day. I'm 13 and he's 14. What should I do on V-Day with him and also------what is something that i should get as a gift 4 him????? Thanx---I rate high!!!!!! (link)
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Go out and have fun. Grab a bite to eat and either a movie or hang out. The special thing about that day more than anything is that your spending it together. A good gift would be gift certificate or if you know there is something he really likes when you two ever talk then surprise him.
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Ok i really want to go to the movies today with my friend today becasuse its a snowday for me and my mom was like no you cant i dont want someone else driving you that far! And then i got really mad cuz shes just an overprotective evil and i told her i hated her(i really do) and now its so annoying cuz she doesnt understand 1 thing.!
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You are angry right now. You will never hate your mom. You'll just say that to feel better but you won't. Talking to your mom would be a good thing. Letting her know that she can trust you and at the same time you can trust her to come to her with anything. Your mom like every other mom is always going to be overprotective of their child. You need to sell her on the fact why she can trust you and make her feel appreciated so she will allow you to do things with her consent. If it takes her dropping you off then why not let her. Appreciate the small things so you can be part of the bigger ones in life.
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My friend's mom works in school with her..and shes strict about guys with her. My friend isnt allowed to date african americans..but get this..her mom is married to man from afghanistan and her mom is white! So i think its really unfair that her mom is being racist while SHE married outside of her race. I feel really bad..is there anything i can do? (link)
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It's not about convincing her mom why she should be able to date African Americans but about dating guysin general. Family is very important but if your friend finds someone that she likes who is African american he better be someone with charm and manners that her mom would like and definetely approve of. The best bet is if she ends up liking someoene they had better go introduce themselves to her mom and make a great impression, so it won't mean they are sneaking around. That goes for all guys she wants to date. She should talk to her mom, but just her not you and build more trust with her mom that she is understanding to the fact that your friend wants to date guys.
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okay this is kinda hard, but i REALLY like this guy like ALOT and im not sure if he likes me. i have asked him out in the past but he has said no. im at a loss... i odnt know what to do anymore. i think hes shy around girls and he cares about what other people think too so0o.. i odnt know im just sooo confused. PLEASE HELP ME!
confused and distressed. (link)
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You need to be confident with yourself. If he doen't want you then in your mind it should be his loss. Now surrounding yourself around other friends is good but if you want to get his attention try dating other people. You never know he may not be Mr. Right. It could be another person you date.
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all right, I'm sure that i'm not the only one that has this problem. First of all, I'm male and straight. I have friends that are girls, who I become friends with, but then I might want to date later. I like being friends with a girl before I ask them out. I've dated girls before that I haven't really gotten to know before asking them out, and then we might last for a month or two. The girls I become friends with, I really like, but then they may say comments like " I wish I had a boyfriend that was like you." Here I am though? IF I bring it up about us going out, they say we're too good of friends to risk that. They ask me questions about guys and other stuff, but I'm starting to feel like I'm their best gay friend, but I'm not gay. What should I do if this happens again?
P.S. For you smart arses out there- I'm not effeminate either. I have a deep voice, drive a land rover, play football, hockey, and lacrosse, and dress in subdue clothes.
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First of all stop trying to explain yourself to people. If you are secure enough with your manhood then don't worry about what other people think. Second, the great thing about having friends as girls is that you meet other girls through them. If you see someone they know that you can show interest with then let them hook you up. Sometimes they themselves might get a little jealous because all of a sudden they may start to like you. But you have valuable resources when having girls as friends. They can make you look good to other girls. Use that to your advantage.
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My 2 best friends kelsie and allison and i always hang out. And they told me that they think i have a flirting problem...they told me people think i am easy but i have never done anything with a guy past making out...but i do flirt alot but i dont know how that makes me look easy...helP! i rate! (link)
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If you are comfortable with who you are than why worry about it. Flirting is one thing but acting on it is another. If they are truly your best friends then sit down to talk and let them know that this is who you are but yould never do anything to jeopardize yourself or your friendship with them.
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i have been friends with this guy lets call him john. and we have progressivly over a peroid of 8 months began to tlak more and goof around more. he's a very out going type and so am i. on AOL we talk alot and when we get together in public there is talking but not as much on AOL. and i am wondering is he justt alking to me to hummor me or is he intrested? he's kinda of a perverted kinda guy but has that sweet sensitive side to him! hes nice but can be a jerk but what guys can't be? he's been to my house and to all my parties and has offered to keep me company when ever i needed some. i dunno what to do what do u think?
thxs
*me* (link)
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The question is how do you feel about him? When you know the answer than you can talk to him and make the decision on where you to lie....just friends or maybe more?
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my friend is always bugging me she is so annoying (im not the only one who thinks so) but when its just me and her she is so great she is really sweet and all but if there is a guy around she goes into annoying mode when i try to explain it to her she gets mad and then if i hang out with anyone knew or have any other friends she gets mad at me and i dont know what to do? (link)
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So why not try talking to her and asking instead of trying to explain why she does the things she does?
It sounds like this girl may like you more than friends so you'd better confront and settle the issue to see where this friendship is going.
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I have my heart set on going to school in San Francisco. I'm not an excellent student, and I truly can't afford SFSU, which is where I want to go. I was wondering if anyone knew of colleges within a 15 mile radius of San Fran...a nice site would be great too. (link)
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If you give up on your dream then you are giving up on yourself. If you really want to go there figure out a way you can do it. Don't let yourself believe that you can't go there. What about financial aid like student loans or even grants. How about working part time and raising money while you go there. there are options open to you. just take advantage of an opportunity and reach for the stars.
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Me and my boyfriend have been dating for like 2 months,and he wants to kiss me, but I'm not sure if I should. My mom would freak out, but i really like him. What should I do? (link)
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If you feel it's right for you than why not do it. A kiss is just a kiss. What leads up to it is what your mom is really concerned about.
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I have more of a comment then a question right now...I look at this site as a great way to make new friends and to get helpful advice so i can see what im doing wrong in my life and how i can improve it....I love asking questions and getting feedback but what i dont like is opening up answers and seeing rude remarks and dumb comments....Thats really not helpful and in some cases it makes me feel lower then i was before i asked the question...Im sure im not the only one who feels this way but i think this needs to stop...If you think its funny to make fun of peoples personal problems then go make fun of your own because you obviously have them if you feel you can say some of the things that i have seen said to people....Im open for any feedback but please i ask that this comment not be deleted because im trying to get a message out about how i feel and if you delete this then you are just as bad as those who leave rude remarks...Thanks alot...Xo~CaReBeAr~oX (link)
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If you start to let those idiots bother you than they are winning the battle. Don't allow yourself to be manipulated by their comments. They are probabaly miserable people who need to bring others down with them. just concentrate on the positive feedback you get back and work on doing what's right for you.
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I have two friends, or I think they are my two friends.. they are always leaving me out.. like I'm just there for a good laugh or two everyonce in a while but they can cast me aside like an old toy that's lost it's shine. Everytime I make a friend I'm either left for someone else or end up giving up on the whole thing entirely. When they are around me they act like I am their sister or something.. but then they will go off to do things alone.. and they never invite me. I always invite my friends other friend, I always try and include them.. but no.. I'm the third wheel all the time.. v_v I need some help on what to do.. do I stay with my friends.. or should I try and find some new ones.. (link)
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Sometimes you need to talk with your friends and let them know how you feel. These two friends may feel that you don't like to do the things they are doing and are leaving you out because they don't want to burden you. If you talk to them and see, maybe you can do more things together that you all like.
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okay... well me and a few of my friends are starting a band, and allison wants to play guitar but she has no friggin clue what shes doing!(iv'e been playing guitar for a few years and she just started like last week) and she was going to be a singer in the first place, but i have no clue how to tell her that she doesn't know how to play guitar, and NO i can't just go up to her and say "you can't play guitar" or "you suck" because i'm not the kind of person that can do something like that. help please! (link)
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Sometimes you need to be honest without hurting the person. Tell her that they need her as the singer and use examples like Gwen Stefani or your girl from Evanescence who simply personify the band with their singing and the fact that the band is there to help them do so. This way you don't hurt her and that whoever you can get to play guitar will do so. Make her feel like a star and she'll do anything.
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me and ryan* have been dating for about 6 months now. these past two weeks, it seems like he's been hitting me a lot lately. i mean, half the time we're joking.. but he's been kicking me.. we were walking down the hallway and i said something to him, a joke.. and he kicked me in the back of the leg.. i couldn't walk right the rest of the day.. he kicked my other leg yesterday before algebra ended.. and today, my friend jacki was over and he kicked me in the hip (very bony) so i started to cry and all. is he considered abusive ? what do i do ? (link)
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You need to talk to him and let him know that what he is doing is hurting you. If he continues to do it walk way because you'll know then that he wasn't joking. Never put yourself in a dangerous place where you can get hurt both emotionally and physically.
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