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I think its unfair..
My friend's mom works in school with her..and shes strict about guys with her. My friend isnt allowed to date african americans..but get this..her mom is married to man from afghanistan and her mom is white! So i think its really unfair that her mom is being racist while SHE married outside of her race. I feel really bad..is there anything i can do?
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That is a difficult subject to approach especially when it involves adults. Unfortunantely this is one of those family realted problems the ones where the actual daughter should talk about it with her mom. This is probably a predictable answer you were expecting but it's reality. I think the best you can do is support your friend through her hard times and urge her to confront the problem and stand strong. Just remember to let her know you will be there for her and assure her that she dosen't stand alone.
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There isn't really anything you can do. I know you want to help your friend, but this is between her and her mother. If your friend really likes an african american guy, she can bring him over for dinner or something, so her mom will get to know him and see that there's nothing wrong with it. It's all the stereo-typing these days that probably give african americans bad reps. So your friend's mom just has to get to know one, so she can see it for herself that not all black people are bad...*goodluck*
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It's not about convincing her mom why she should be able to date African Americans but about dating guysin general. Family is very important but if your friend finds someone that she likes who is African american he better be someone with charm and manners that her mom would like and definetely approve of. The best bet is if she ends up liking someoene they had better go introduce themselves to her mom and make a great impression, so it won't mean they are sneaking around. That goes for all guys she wants to date. She should talk to her mom, but just her not you and build more trust with her mom that she is understanding to the fact that your friend wants to date guys.
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i think maybe you should tell your friend the way you feel about this and who knows maybe she feels the same way and then tell your friend that she should talk to her mom about this and maybe her mom will come around
hope i helped
cAiT*
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Interracial couples are always a tough subject, especially when your parents are strict about htat.
If your friend already has her eye on a guy of another race, then it might be nice if the mom gets to meet the boy. It might be nice to have a good daughter and mother conversation about it and the issues that she has about it. She has to be calm and not whine about it. If stays calm and talks to her mom about it, her mom might reveal what the problem is. There are a lot of stereotypes about AA teens, which really isn't fair, but she'll have to show her mom that he doesn't fit into that stereotype. I know one of my best friends who is AA(top 10% of the med school class, graduated from Yale etc.) is dating and about to get engaged to his girlfriend who is caucasian.
I hope that helps a little bit. Its tough but just think I'm supposed to have an arranged marriage (how scary is that?)
Best of luck,
Arun
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