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Hi everyone! My pen name is Hannah and I am a 17-year-old girl. I like languages, friends, cats, and many other things. I really love giving advice, and I am studying psychology now. My favorite questions have to do with mental health. As I said above, I am taking psychology classes now, but I also do a lot of outside research, so chances are that if you say something to me about a disorder or anything like that, I will know what you are talking about. Although I am not a licensed psychologist, I hope to someday be one and I would love to get some practice here.

Also, if you ever have a problem and you like my advice and would like to talk with me, I have many messenger services so I would be more than happy to set up a time to talk with you about whatever you need.

I hope to here from you soon!

advice

I just got braces 2 weeks ago and i ate macas (mcdonalds) yesterday, my friends who have braces say that eating macas isnt good for you if you have braces... is this true? i mean how does mcdonalds effect the braces?

All information given will be helpful thank you

I don't think that this is true about McDonalds. The foods you have to stay away from are sticky foods, popcorn, and foods that are hard to chew. As long as you stay away from foods that are like that, you should be fine, no matter where they are coming from. Also remember to eat less sweets, although you don't have to cut them completely out. This might have been why your friends were talking about McDonalds, but it doesn't matter. Just make sure you brush your teeth well and the sugar in foods shouldn't affect you much.

Good luck!
Hannah :)

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Okay, so theres this girl that ive known for a year. and shes likee the biggest drama queen. so about a week ago, she goes and takes something out of my bag after i got up to throw something out.
and i notice how shes trying to make a run for her seat since she was at my table. so i was like..why are you going through my stuff? do i have to put a lock on my bag so people dont take things? and shes like mimiking me the whole time and was likee "shut up. who cares" all that immature bullish.
so im likee okay whatever.
so then i hear her from across the room saying she wants to kick the sh*t out of me and i ignore it.
and for the past week shes been talking **** about me so i can hear her. shes sayin stuff like "shes so ugly and she has no friends" when its really the total opposite.
i dont know how to confront her or what to say to her when shes talking this crap. what would you say?
whats a really good thing to say that will make her not know what to say?

Thank you for your question. It seems like a really hard thing to deal with, and this girl seems really immature.

Whatever you do, don't retaliate by spreading rumors or talking badly about her. This will only make the problem worse. And ignoring the problem doesn't necessarily make the problem go away. Not to mention, people use it so much, that sometimes it doen't work anymore. She wants a reaction from you, and she wants to see that it bothers you.

You want me to tell you something that makes her not know what to say. I'm not sure what to tell you about that because even if you say a really witty comment, it is a reaction that she wants you to do. So I would try being very civil to her. Try and be nice, and pretend she is a friend. You don't have to go out of your way to be nice to her or invite her over. Just be nice. I know this doesn't make sense, but it confuses them. The next time she takes something out of your bag, tell her that you would rather she not take something, but if she asked to borrow your things, you would gladly loan them to her. Say this in a nice way, not a sarcastic tone. Is it necessary to bring your bag to class? Could you just bring your books and a pencil? It would be hard to take something if that is all you have.

Another trick is, if she says something mean to your face just laugh and say "Yeah, I really am a ......" It sounds dumb, but it confuses them and makes you less of a target.

A final suggestion: Does your school have a "bully box?" My school has this, and it is an anonymous box where you put the name of someone who is mean to you anonymously. Teachers will look into the person and watch for trouble. If they seem them doing anything, they will talk to them about it. It is great because you don't have to actually tell a teacher. If your school has it, I would highly suggest that you use it.

Good luck, and if you need anymore advice, don't hesitate to write back! :)

Best wishes,
Hannah

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ive been getting more acne everyday what do u think is making me brake out more

I don't know what gender you are, so if some of what I say doesn't apply to you, I apologize.

But anyway, if you are a girl, around the time that you get your period you will break out a lot more. This always happens to me, and there isn't really too much you can do about it besides what I explain later in the response.

But no matter if you are a girl or a boy, it could be just changes in hormones. When you are a teen, you have more oil on your face. Even though you may wash your face a lot, your skin is still oily. This gets trapped in your pores and causes acne. There are some medicines out there to help stop this. If it is really bothering you and over-the-counter things don't work, your doctor can probably get you a prescription.

Make sure you wash your face everyday, but be careful of scrubbing hard. Not only can it irritate your skin, but it actually makes acne worse by drying out the skin and causing it to produce more oil.

Try eating foods rich in Vitamins E and A as these promote health and elasticity of the skin.

Although some people say that junk food causes acne, the only thing related to that is eating greasy foods and then touching you face. It has nothing to do with the actual eating.

Good luck!
Hannah :)

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F/14 Guy I Like M/14
ALL OF THIS HAPPEND THIS LAST PAST WEEK..
-- Im Supper Srry if this is to long.
Okey so to start of my best friend lala was moveing [she already moved] so me and lala wanted to skipp school because it was her last day thursday so we skipped school; and hung out.
well my little sisster who is same age as us hung with us the whole night and so we wanted to have fun so yea we hung out with one of my best friends [Nat] and so he use to like befor but i never thought of him that way. anyways. we all hung out and lala was like i want to have FUN! because this will be our last day to hang out for like EVER! and my lil sis was like lets get drunnkk.. she was playing tho and everyone was like yea lets do it so we drunk like little drinnks that cant get you drunk soo. yeah me and lala was All playing around actin drunk and we wnet out side and i guess lala drunk the real kinda stuff so she was wasted.. but nat was like all over me and stuff my lil sis was like dont even try to mess with her thats wrng so after she said that was Backed off well like maybe three hours after that we got in chill mode and we didnt want to be at lalas house so we went to nats house.and hung out on his back yard. it was all cold and the skeeters was out and i was get bbit like a mother. on my legs so he rubbed them so thay would go way i was sleepy so i was wutever hey do what you do. &nd lala was like its cold so he wnet in side and got a blaanket and put it on me. or wutever.lala was like umm i cold :D. anyways. let me stop there cause want i want know know is does he like me?
or are we just really close friends?

im so lost with it'
anything you can do to help please do..
-- So Over it.

Hi, this is a really good question, and I think that you need to look at how he acts with other people. He seems to like you, but I can't be sure because I don't personally know him.

Anyway, he sounds like a really nice person, so does he do this to all his other friends too? If so, he is a super-sweet guy who might not like you as much as you wanted.

But if he seems to be paying special attention to you, then there is a good chance that he likes you.

If you want my personal opinion, I think that he likes you. You said he was all over you when you were at your friend's house. If he does other things like this, then there is a pretty good chance.

Good luck! :)

-Hannah

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Hello is it possible to find true love at a young age?

Thank you Betty.

Yes, I think it is possible to fall in love at a young age. I think that the reason why people say you can't is that so many people have lust or obsession with a person, and call it love. Love is a complex emotion that takes a long time to develop. It happens when you are happy with people's inside and outside, and you respect and trust them. You enjoy being with them, and you feel like you can tell them anything. If you have these feelings, then it could be love, no matter what age.

Just beware of thinking about them all the time. That is obsession, not love.

Good question. :)

Hannah

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Ok here's the deal, My friend and my bf can't stand eachother. Now my bf doesn't care if I hang out with my friend he just says while I'm with her he won't be around. My friend doesn't want me going out with him. She told me to dump him because she "Just doesn't like him." Should I try talking to her again or get rid of her or what? i've been friends with her for awhile but I don't know what to do.

Hi, good question. The answer has a lot of possibilities, so you will have to sort through them based on your relationships with your boyfriend and you friend and how they normally act.

If it is true that your friend really wants you to dumb your boyfriend because she just doesn't like him, then unless there is a problem between you and your boyfriend, you shouldn't dump him. She might just not get along with him, or she might be jealous. Either way, you are the one who has the boyfriend, so it isn't her business.

However, she could be saying this because she knows something you don't know about your boyfriend. Maybe he is cheating on you or is known to cheat on girls. Or maybe he is doing something else like that. Don't rule out the possiblility yet because a lot of times when we fall in love, it is harder to see the bad sides of people. Since your friend isn't in love with your boyfriend, she is able to see those things.

I don't think you should get rid of your friend or your boyfriend until you talk to both again, especially your friend. Tell her that you really need to know what is going on and why she doesn't like your boyfriend. There could be a deeper issue than you know. Tell her that you value her opinion and that you want her to tell you the truth.

Good luck with this, and if you need anymore help, feel free to write back. :)

Best wishes,
Hannah

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i got rubber bands today, the ones that correct overbites. Well, they hurt soooo much,...thats normal, right? Well, since u have to take them out and put new ones in everyday..will they hurt like this everyday? Or, will i get used to the pain?

please answer asap!

xoxo

Yes, the pain should go away. Even though you put new ones in everyday, your mouth will get used to having it in there after a few days. So don't worry about it.

However, if the pain doesn't go away after 4 or 5 days, go back to your orthodontist, because something could need adjustment.

For now, just eat soft foods and take pain medicine.

Good luck! :)

-Hannah

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i need a good website of piano sheets. printable ones and full versions .... can you please help me find some that works?

I found a website. I'm not sure how good it is because I don't play piano, but I hope this works for you. It is basically a site with links to different sites with sheet music. Some of them are free, some you have to download... you just have to take a look around.

http://www.findfreesheetmusic.com/pages/Piano/

Enjoy!

-Hannah

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I'm 15 years old and I can't swallow pills. :(
I can swallow pasta whole and recently I swallowed a vitamin that was coated in something that made it slippery so it was easier to swallow but not everything comes like that, of course. And I don't remember how I did that. It's really annoying because I just got these pills but I CANNOT swallow them. I've practiced with tic tacs but even they don't go down. I try putting it in my mouth then gulping water and tilting my head back but it doesn't work. What's wrong with meee?!

First you need to realize that it's okay that you aren't able to swallow pills yet, relax. This is a very common problem. I am 16 years old and some of my friends are in the same predicament.

I think that you should relax when you are trying to swallow them. I think that you are getting nervous about swalling them, so in your subconscious mind, you don't want to. This will prevent you from being able to swallow. But you are physically able, so all you have to do is relax.

Don't tip your head back, because that is harder. Take a few deep breaths until you feel you're ready. When you are comfortable enough, put the pill in your mouth and take a few small sips of water until it goes down. After you do this a few times, you should feel better about it and it won't take as long.

Maybe you could start up a little reward system. This has worked for me: Put a marble in a little jar after every time that you swallow a pill. When the jar is full, buy yourself a treat.

If all of this doesn't work, then is it possible to crush the pills and put it into applesauce or pudding? It isn't the best taste in the world, but if you really feel that you can't swallow, it isn't a bad alternative.

Good luck, and if you need anything else, don't hesitate to contact me. :)

Best wishes,
Hannah

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One night I was taking a bubble bath and as soon as I got out of the tub I got all dizy and almost fell over. Then as I was drying off I looked into the mirror and noticed I was really pale. I went to my bedroom and just sat on my bed since I wasn't feeling good. I started to not be able to breathe and my throat started to close up. I went to go look for my inhaler but couldn't find it. Luckily, my brother's girlfriend brought over hers so I could use it. Was this an asthma attack?

My Mom said to keep an eye on if it happens again, like maybe if I had a allergic reaction to something?

Please help, thanks! :]

Hey, thanks for your question. I'm not a doctor, but I will try to give the best advice that I can.

I have this same problem, and I don't have asthma. So I think that it is because the water is so hot. Do you take long hot showers and baths? If so, this could cause the problem. That happens to me a lot. I will also guess that perhaps having asthma makes you more prone to this. Although I am not sure because asthma is when your tubes in your lungs constrict. But if hot water and steam somehow affect this, then that could be why.

My advice to you is to keep an eye on this and if it gets worse, call your doctor. Also, try not to stay in the tub too long, or don't make the water as hot.

Good luck! :)

-Hannah

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Any fast acting scar removers? I have a pretty big sized scar on my leg and its embarrassing. Any at home remedies?

Thanks in advance!

Hi, thanks for your question. I have a scar on my lower leg. Here is something I have tried:

Vitamin E cream. People say that it helps to restore tissue that has been damaged. However, other people say that it did nothing for them. I think it is a good idea to try it, as it worked for some people. I don't think it will harm you, so there really is no harm in getting it. You can get it over-the-counter at many drug stores or other places. I got mine at Walgreens.

Also remember that scar removers such as these generally work best when you first get the scar. If you got the scar a year ago, it won't work as well.

If you have anymore questions, feel free to message me back. :)

Best wishes,
Hannah

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so my friend wants me to get help. i guess i may just need help. i just stopped cutting about a few weeks ago, because my mother found out. I have family issues, like my father. i used to hate the world. sometimes i feel all depressed because of my family.. i dont know, advice?

Hi, thanks for writing! Congrats on not cutting for a few weeks. That is a big step. Great job!

About your question, I also used to cut, so maybe I can help. If you feel the urge to cut, just think that it won't be worth the scars you have later. Because when the emotional pain is gone, your scars will still be there, reminding you of the pain. And they also aren't the most beautiful things to look at in the world, right? If you really feel like you need to hurt yourself, use an icecube. Take one and hold it in your hand until it melts. This provides pain without leaving a scar.

As far as professional help goes, since you were able to stop for a while now, I don't think it is needed unless the need to cut gets worse, or if you keep going back to cutting.

Good luck, and write any time. :)

~Hannah

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i got my first ever period yesterday and it was a 'regular' flow i guess, and when i went to bed last night i put on a pad just incase and when i checked this morning there was no blood. is this normal to only have your period for 1 day?

Hi, thanks for writing. Since it is your first ever period, it is normal, I think. My first one was also different than the others I had. As long as it doesn't continue like that the next time you have it, you should be fine. If it does, tell you mother or another guardian about it.

Remember that periods are sometimes irregular during the first two years that you get it.

Good luck,
Hannah :)

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okay, well i get like wicked mad over everything all the time. like if i drop something, i'll get wicked pissed and like flip out and start throwing stuff. and i'll get like wicked mad at something and then feel like crying. and then start laughing at nothing. ive noticed this a few times. is this different?

Thank you so much for writing. You seem like you are very in-touch with how you feel. That is a great quality to have. You should be proud of yourself for that, as many people struggle with this.

To answer your question, I think that it is normal. Chances are, you don't have any kind of mental disorder. I think that there is a deeper issue going on that make you upset over little things. Are you having any kind of family, friend, or other relationship problems? Are you struggling in school? Anything like this could make you feel this way.

Good luck with everything, and if you need anything else, feel free to write back. :)

Best wishes,
Hannah

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I auditioned for my school musical and got really sick after the audition. I had to stay home all week, but my friend Justin absolutely promised that he would email me the cast list as soon as it came out, regardless of whether I got the role or not.

While I was sick, my drama teacher emailed the cast list to me and I had not gotten the part I wanted. During the whole two weeks I was out of school, Will did not follow through with his promise and email the cast list like he promised. (and I know that he was in school because he got one of the lead roles in the musical and I know he didn't get sick).

I'm not sure how to feel about this. Should I be touched because Justin cares about me and he probably didn't send me the cast list because he didn't wan't me to be hurt, or should I be upset because he broke his promise? At the moment, I'm feeling really hurt because he didn't follow through.

I think that it is great that you have a caring friend who promised to do something nice for you while you were sick. I think this makes you very lucky. :)

Has Justin always been nice to you and has he always tried to keep his promises? If so, this is probably something very innocent. Things are always going wrong with e-mails. It might not have been sent correctly and you might not have gotten it. Like someone else who gave you advice said, he could have found out that your teacher was sending it to you. If he knew that, there wouldn't be a point to sending it to you.

I think that you should ask him about it. He seems like a nice friend who cares about your feelings, so I think this method would work.

If you have anymore questions, feel free to message me back. :)

Best of luck,
Hannah

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Ok so i am in 8th grade and i would like to be more outgoing, i flirt with the boys and everything but i'm still kind of shy in class.. What are some things that i can do to get rid of my shyness and actually take risks and be outgoing for once in my life?

I love your question because I am also shy. I know you want to change this, but know that it will take a while. Also, keep in mind that shy people are usually sensitive, which is good because they care about others. :)

I know this is hard, believe me I do, but you really have to force yourself. It is scary at first, but trust me, the beginning is hardest. Start very small. Smile at or talk to people who are nice first, so you know you will get treated nice back. This will make you more comfortable.

Also, start a little reward system. This is something that has worked for me. Everytime you do something hard for you, put one marble (or anything else like this) into a little jar. When the jar fills up, treat yourself to something you really want. It is best to make it something relatively big, because you had to work so hard to get it.

I hope these suggestions work for you, and if you need anything else, don't hesitate to write back! :)

Best of luck,
Hannah

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I dont know which religion to go with. I dont like christianity because alot of the people around here are fake and they just pretend like they are really good. I know some of you arent going to like me for saying that, but whatever. I dont believe in god. I mean, I believe that there was a man named Jesus and he was a great guy and everything, he helped the poor, and all that. But I dont believe he was sent down from god and all that magical stuff. I just think that the best thing is to love one another and be nice and kind and tolerant. I dont believe in heaven or hell, they were both made up to scare people. And i dont understand why people say god is so forgiving, he will forgive you of your sins and whatever, but then everyone says that bad people are sent to hell. Why doesn't god forgive them?!?! So those I believe were just made up to scare people, "you wont get into heaven if you do this, youll go to hell if you do that." So basically does anyone know of a religion or faith? I just want one that is tolerant of all other religions and one that focuses more on the future than on the past. Supports the wellness of the world and its people and one thats not based all on money. Preferrably one thats liberal, democratic. Oh yeah I have already seen Buddhism and thought about that one... so anything other than that would be great!!! thank you so much, sorry its long

You sound like a really nice person and I think that much of your confusion is rooted in the fact that you want the best for others. You should be proud of yourself; this is a great quality!

I have also had the same problem. My parents are Christians, and as a result I was raised that way. I questioned a lot of Christianity, and the best advice I can say is to do whatever you feel. No one can make you believe something.

I know of a few religions that I think you might like looking into. Pagan religions are often good. Wicca is a religion that is accepting in everything-- religion, gender, homosexuality, you name it, and they generally accept it. It is a nature-based religion that supports the earth and the well-being of all people. The belief in the afterlife varies from person to person, so some Wiccans believe in reincarnation, others believe there is nothing, others believe other things. You don't seem to like the idea of hell and the devil, do you? :) Well in Wicca there is no devil.

Good luck, and remember to look a the religion (Christianity) itself, and not the people who claim to be good Christians. If after you do this you find that it is not the path for you, then be proud that you cared to look at all of your options.

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