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Okay, so theres this girl that ive known for a year. and shes likee the biggest drama queen. so about a week ago, she goes and takes something out of my bag after i got up to throw something out.
and i notice how shes trying to make a run for her seat since she was at my table. so i was like..why are you going through my stuff? do i have to put a lock on my bag so people dont take things? and shes like mimiking me the whole time and was likee "shut up. who cares" all that immature bullish.
so im likee okay whatever.
so then i hear her from across the room saying she wants to kick the sh*t out of me and i ignore it.
and for the past week shes been talking **** about me so i can hear her. shes sayin stuff like "shes so ugly and she has no friends" when its really the total opposite.
i dont know how to confront her or what to say to her when shes talking this crap. what would you say?
whats a really good thing to say that will make her not know what to say?
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Hmm I'm not sure thats a difficult one, cos it sounds as though she's just jealous of you and of your things. If you're prettier than her, have a better social network/friends/boyfriend or nicer things than her, it could be why.
If you know that what she's saying isn't the case then that's all that matters really. Talk to your other friends for support.
I would probably stand up for myself, it's horrible when someone is being mean about you for no apparent reason. Also try get your friends to back you up and she'll hopefully back down. But don't let it get you or you'll be worried about it even more.
The same kinda thing happened to me a few years ago, but I totally ignored it 'cos I didn't have the courage to stand up for myself and eventually it stopped happening, but if I had had the courage that I have now, I'd have deffinately put a stop to it there and then.
Just don't let it go ignored!
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just tell her that she needs to get a life because it seems like she doesnt have one. and if shes gonna talk trash about you then forget about it and dont listen to her. my best friend is one of the most hated people i know -even though shes actually really nice- and she just ignores all the people that talk about her. if she says something so that ur hearing it you should talk to your friends while shes doing it as if she wasnt even there. trust me she'll get tired of playing stupid little b**** games soon enough. and if all else fails tell her that shes a whore haha.
SAM
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Wow, this girl sounds like a total douchebag. She goes through your stuff & then calls YOU immature? What the hell? She's fucking stupid -- make sure you let her know that.
If I were in this situation, I'd probably laugh at her. Honestly, I'm the type that doesn't care what people think & what they have to say. I ignore basically everything & I'm better off without them. If you really want to retaliate, then confront her. Ask her what the fuck the problem is and what she gets outta doing this. Tell her she's lame -- basically tell her what everyone else is scared to, and tell her what you really think about her. If you can, be as mean as possible. When she throws an insult at you, say "Thanks, I know." Not only does it stop them, but it makes them go "Wtf?"
Honestly she's dumb, and if some stupid scummy girl ever started this shit with me, I'd knock her on her ass. =) But I don't recommend you do that, haha.
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Ok there are two ways to approach this situation, one you could ignore her and just always have fun with your friends! and once she sees its not getting to you, she might stop!
How ever if she carries on, then it is always best to just (when she is saying something about you or doing something to you) come out and confront her, ask her 'what her problem is.' and i find it funny how after a year she just suddenly starts acting like this to you, did something else happen between you two to cause this?
And if she starts putting you down well you confront her, I suggest saying something like 'stop being such a drama queen', or 'grow up!'... it shocks people like her, trust me I know! i've been through it!
Just confront her take a deep breath and ask her what her problem is. Be brave! Dont be afraid to speak your mind (you'll probably find people agree with you)
Just the most important thing, is to not get angry or give her a reaction its what she wants!!!!!
I hope the confrontation goes well, just remember to straight out ask her what her problem is and say what you want to say.
I hope it goes well! I really wish you all the luck! I hope I helped!
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Drama Queens! I hate them :) She's really immature for even having the thought of fighting, it shows a huge sign of insecurity as if they have something to prove, and its immature. Not to mention, not even close to lady like!! It sounds like this girl is kinda messed up! How old are you guys? If your between 12-17 I can understnad, because girls are quite catty around that age. First off, if you do ocnfront her if she starts yelling, dont yell back.. she looks like the idiot while you sit back and relax talking calmy. I'd tell her she's wasting nothing but words because the things she's saying isn't affecting you, and its really getting quite old If she has to spread rumors to be.. "cool" then she's a total phony in my eyes. Anyways, if your not the only one to realize all this and that she is really a drama queen, get your friends that talk to her to say hey.. this is getting old and she's my friend.. how about you don't talk about her like that. Theres nothing you can say that for surely stop her from talking crap cuz if she wants to cont. she will. Just ignore her, she's the loser and your the winner.. think about it.
Hope that helped
Good luck,
P. Trixi
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Tell her that as soon as she wants to fight, you'll be there. If you want it to stop, you have to stand up for yourself. Everyone says that bullies are just looking for a reaction-- but when you don't give them the answer they want [acting like a scared little dog] then they sort of have to step back. One time this girl did the exact same thing to me, and I told her if a fight is what she wanted, then we'd fight.
...She ended up with a black eye and several bruises and we both got two days of OSS.
Now, I'm not saying that you should automatically try that-- but ignoring it doesn't always work either. Isn't school almost over for you? Most of the schools down here have like, three days left. If it's not that long, just ignore her until summer break and go on about your business.
Sorry if it wasn't much help.
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Thank you for your question. It seems like a really hard thing to deal with, and this girl seems really immature.
Whatever you do, don't retaliate by spreading rumors or talking badly about her. This will only make the problem worse. And ignoring the problem doesn't necessarily make the problem go away. Not to mention, people use it so much, that sometimes it doen't work anymore. She wants a reaction from you, and she wants to see that it bothers you.
You want me to tell you something that makes her not know what to say. I'm not sure what to tell you about that because even if you say a really witty comment, it is a reaction that she wants you to do. So I would try being very civil to her. Try and be nice, and pretend she is a friend. You don't have to go out of your way to be nice to her or invite her over. Just be nice. I know this doesn't make sense, but it confuses them. The next time she takes something out of your bag, tell her that you would rather she not take something, but if she asked to borrow your things, you would gladly loan them to her. Say this in a nice way, not a sarcastic tone. Is it necessary to bring your bag to class? Could you just bring your books and a pencil? It would be hard to take something if that is all you have.
Another trick is, if she says something mean to your face just laugh and say "Yeah, I really am a ......" It sounds dumb, but it confuses them and makes you less of a target.
A final suggestion: Does your school have a "bully box?" My school has this, and it is an anonymous box where you put the name of someone who is mean to you anonymously. Teachers will look into the person and watch for trouble. If they seem them doing anything, they will talk to them about it. It is great because you don't have to actually tell a teacher. If your school has it, I would highly suggest that you use it.
Good luck, and if you need anymore advice, don't hesitate to write back! :)
Best wishes,
Hannah
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Well, the first method you should try is ignoring itx If you're reacting now, try not reacting for a little while, and see if she stops. Sometimes people just enjoy pissing people off. Next time you catch her talking about you, just show yourself (not in the obvious "I'm here" way) and say something along the lines of "I'd appreciate it if you'd stop talking behind my back about me."
But that's the more Martin Luther King Jr. way of dealing with it. Me, if I'm dealing with somebody terrible, I'd find information to hit them wear it hurt. Sometimes you just have to show people that you're strong and can defend yourself. Just make sure you never, ever, make fun of their parent's divorce, or something as private as that.
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