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people say im skinny but when i run my butt hurts a lot! i can feel the jiggle to the point of pain.. so hence the question. also i have buffalo wings. which are fat by the armpits! ahh! (link)
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well...you aren't fat it's just the fat that you do have is going to those two places.
Lunges might help tone your but...and for your arms...invest in some dumb bells or something...
In the mean time try to get some underwear that helps support your butt while you are running. Like spandex or something...
I hope that helps you.
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my bf and i are best friends and i love him but we keep having problems. first things have been a little rocky because im moving faaar away in June. like a 2 day drive away. the problem now tho is that i went to where im gonna live soon to look at houses and schools and stuff with my parents for a week and his phone is broken (just broke last week a couple days before i left state) he called me on his friend's phone on friday and tried to get in touch through IM but i didnt have a computer. and he emailed Sunday but never replied to my email (i borrowed my friends computer) the last couple days i have tried really hard to get in touch and now it seems he doesnt care. he didnt email me or call on his brother's phone or his mom's or dad's. he had options and he didnt do anything. he is in school so during the day he couldnt do anything but w/e. idk why but he and i keep having problems! he keeps doing things like this that make it seem like he doesnt care. every other week i am upset because he acts like he doesnt care!!
i know i might seem a little extreme but we are in a serious relationship and the last time i talked to him for real was last Tuesday! he called on Friday but we only talked for like 5-10 minutes. we didnt even really talk either. he had opportunities and i tried very hard to get in touch. and Monday was our 3 month anniversary and he forgot. it just seems like i put out more effort than he does.
i have high expectations and im willing to wait for a guy who can reach those and i always thought he could but now idk.
i called him on his brothers phone finally today and he has a really hard test that he knows nothing about and he did reeeally bad on his last test in that class and he didnt study at all before tonight apprently so he was like i cant talk i will call you some time tomorrow. and im on break and we were supposed to hang out and i cant go see him if he doesnt call me until tomorrow because then its too late my mom needs more notice than that. and i am going through a REALLY hard time moving and everything and i need him to be here for me. im stressed out! i cant keep having these problems but i love him!
please help me! i dont know what to do. today when he was like i'll call you tom i was like fine and he said bye and then i hung up. then i cried. it hurts me when he acts like he doesnt care and i understand that he had a test but he couldnt even email me and we havent talked in forever and i always make time for him. he always says he cares but idc what he says i care about what he does. and right now he isnt showing it at all. he says he doesnt want a break and all this will make us stronger but its not normal for us to always have problems. we used to never have problems. i know hes a great guy and i really do love him but hes not giving me what i want and what i give him. please give me some advice and i need as much as i can get!
im sorry this is so long but im really upset and torn. thank you SO much! i will rate for all your help :) (link)
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ok...
In my experiance...men are very forgetful! It is hard to remember that stuff especially when you are far away.
You said that he tried to get ahold of you so you know he cares. I think since you couldn't talk to him he might think you are having to much fun with out him or that you are trying to move on and that he might have to do that too.
Long distance relationships are difficult especially when you have stuff to do. Work really hard to keep it going!! GOOD LUCK!!
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[wrong category..sorry]
16/f. i got a new boyfriend 2 months ago. after that, basically, i've completely lost all touch with my inner self. my grades went down. some friends turned their backs on me. my parents are giving up on me. i feel horrible. i've become an attention seeking whore. but i'm depressed (i've been diagnosed.)
all because of a boyfriend..? there must be something wrong. it's very pathetic to see myself like this. it's like a drug to me now, this male affection/attention. and it's not like i'm putting less effort into my schoolwork. the grades just decline..
i'm sure this is not normal. any advice would be very much appreciated. =| (link)
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I think you need to consentrate on yourself right now. You don't seem like you are in the greatest position to have a boyfriend, it isn't fair to you or him if you are depressed and can't exactly give him all of you. If I were you I would tell your parents how you are feeling and see if they can give you some advice because even if it seems like they have given up they probably haven't and they will see that you don't like what is going on either and will help in all the ways they can!
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How do I remove silly putty from a t-shirt. Its my favorite shirt and I need help now. (link)
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I also saw someone use whit vinegar.
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okay so im only 13 (f) but i really like, no, LOVE rap songs. not songs that like you cant make out the words and they sing really fast, but like the song "Low". Whenever my older brother plays his i pod i love to sing and dance to all of his kewl songs but he just calls me a dork. none of my other friends like the same kind of songs. Should i try to like the other songs or should i just listen to my songs when im alone? (link)
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never try to be someone you aren't. If you like to listen to rap you should and actually a lot of people I know like rap so you aren't that different. Besides you might have something in common with guys and get pretty good relationships with them.
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can anyone tell me how that application works? like do you choose whos on it? and do you choose the order?
j/w because i am on some peoples (link)
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I don't think you change the order but you can choose who is on it. If I were you, you should put all your friends on it for easy access. It is like top friends but they all can be on there.
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How do you know when you're in love? (link)
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Here are some pysical signs that I have found that show you, you may be in love.
You look at that person and your heart feels like it is litarily going to jump out of your chest.
You are thinking of that person almost constantly.
You can usually find little to no flaws in that person.
When you think of the person your heart and stomach go biserk.
Sometimes you feel like you can't eat or you will be sick.
Most people are different but this is how I felt. If you are in love hold on to that feeling...it is the best in the world!
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Well we have been dating for almost a year [ march it will be ] . & I love him VERY much , with all my heart and he says the same . Although i dont see it how i want i guess its true . Anyways , today he totally passed the line with me ... He said i was 0BSESSED over him ! and i guess he calls me that because i care about him WAYYYYYYY lot , and do every single thing for him & show i care so much . But thats what i want to change , maybe i am to attacted ; i feel i put my EVERYTHING , heart and soul in this relationship and all he does is lift a pink , ya know ? I just want the feelings to be EVEN with us not me more than him . But just help me i want to SHOW that boy im not obsessed , no one can tell me that . I need to pull my self away from him a little bit . (link)
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I can't believe your situation! I am going through the EXACT same thing right now.
You need to remember that caring is never a bad thing, but he also needs to do things for himself. Tell him your feelings and ask him how to change it. The only person that can really tell you how to change your relationship is the person you are in the relationship with!
Good luck...It will be hard...make sure he knows you are trying and show it!!
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I am so scared right now. Back on Dec 8th, i lost my virginity but it was more like a rape type thing. I didnt press charges or anything. He DID use protection. I still thought I was pregnant but my period was a few days late. So I took the test and it came out negative. So then on Christmas I got my period. I was happy as hell. On New Years Eve, I moved back home with my crazy mom who i still cant stand, i started school again, I was at the studio more, I changed my job site to a different school with bad kids and also a change in diet and exercise because i am obese and tryin to change my lifestyle. I havent got my period since Christmas. I took another test and it came out Negative again. I did NOT have any signs of spotting or nausea like some of the symptoms. dont have none of that. y breast arent larger just stomache pains when i think that i amp regnant. I asked my friends and 7 out of 8 said im not pregnant, that because of the activity my hormones changed because i had sex and that I am probably stressed. I use to be on birth control but stop Dec 2006. After that my period took it's own course like I had it vday 2007 but didnt get it again til end of April 2007. then it starts skippin weeks and months. Sometimes it just skips a month. But it just skipped 2 months.... I dont know what to think (link)
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Well sometimes periods are weird like that. You mentioned you changed your diet and exercise routines and that often changes how your period is. If I were you I would go back on birth control so you periods can be normal and then it would be easier to tell what the problem would be.
I worry all the time about me being pregnant but I am not. your period changes from multiple things so just breath and don't worry so much...lol.
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Hello I have a seriously confused question.
Alright my school is kinda cliqued. Everyone has their own groups they hang out in. I'm not really in one. I' m a short skinny girl, 14 years old, grade 9 4'9" and 80 pounds. Everyone sees me as the smart shy girl in my class, except the people that know me of course:) Anyways theres a guy in my class who has been nice and polite to me since the beginning of the year. The only thing is he is my complete opposite. Filed grade nine once, goof off in class, that kind of thing. But something made me send him a message on facebook a few months ago. Then we started talking on msn then we started going for walks together like every other day. He has never said it but he acts like he likes me saying things like "you bring out the best in me "your fun enough to hang out with". I kind of like him to. He's really nice as I said but I just don't know what to do, even if he asked me out i wouldn't know what to say. He acts completely different at school he told me because the people he hangs out with wouldn't like the nice version of him. Please help he try to understand what to do!! (link)
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wow that reminds me of the show One Tree Hill! Ask him if he really likes you to be nicer to you around his friends. That is the only thing you really can do.
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Hello, I am a 17-year old female. I weigh 118 lbs, I'm not fat but my stomach is a lil chubby. I'm going on a trip in 1 month, what are some things that I can do, so my stomach can get a lil' flatter in a months time. Something thats going to really work. I'll rate anything useful. thanks (link)
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do a shit load of situps everynight. Pull a britney spears and do 500 a night. If you do that every night I am sure you will be happy with your tummy.
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OMG i am freaking out right now. for the past few months i've been texting and calling my friend but not a lot. but everytime i call him he doesnt pick up, and this other person picks up cursing me off. but when my friend texts me, its him. i dont get it, and its the same number. and today he texted me and i answered him. he calls me and leaves me a voicemail, only its not him its the other person! he said idc who you are you better stop fcking calling this number. then he texts me and says yeah bitch found out all your info, pressing charges, enjoy! is that possible to find out someones info just by their cell phone number? i'm seriously really scared, someone please give me any advice! (link)
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take all those texts to the police. That is what I would do. If you aren't calling that much something is going on. I don't know why someone would do that unless you call the wrong number which doesn't make much sense.
just ask a police officer what to do because you don't feel like you are doing something wrong but obviously someone does. Keep the voice mail too.
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there's a taken guy(gabe)i've been talking to and he gives me the greatest feeling in the world.
but he asks me some personal stuff and i answer and i feel like we're friends and then i just think in the back of my mind that he's just using me. i've been going through something really hard and he said no matter what he'd be there and he's glad we started talking. and even one night he told me that i was a great girl and would make some really lucky guy really happy!
what the heeeck??
he says he'll never like another girl b/c of his girlfriend...i'm not sure i believe that..
he just.. gives me this feeling.
anything will do =) (link)
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He is not useing you. He probably wants to be good friends with you and the way he does that is to ask questions. He is telling you are great because you are. He is more than likely the sensitive type that really does care about people.
He might have said that about his gf but you never know what he is actually thinking. He is probably torn between his gf and you.
If it is meant to be it will work out.
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my bf is being weird!! up until very recently he was always talking to me and stuff but all of the sudden he isnt talking to me very much and doesnt seem interested. Sunday was only our 2nd month! we have been best friends for a couple yrs and liked each other on and off the whole time. we love each other very much but idk what to do about this. also i really need to talk to him! so what should i do?? thanks (link)
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Ask him. It might not be you. Say you are worried about him.
I understand the feeling of needing to talk to him.
If it is you and it isn't something you can fix then break it off sooner than later. If you end up breaking up later on it will hurt more than now. Believe me!
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Ok, so. I like this girl, shes a year or so older than me, and we're insanely good friends. Like, we tell each other everything and we'll always be there for each other.
If she notices that I dont look "ok" (like if i look upset or mad, etc.) she'll call me after i get home and ask me whats wrong, and likewise with me. So one day I asked her if I was "Dateable" and she said "for me?" and i was like "no you're way to far outta my league" and she was like "ok, yeah in general you are, but not for me.." which basically crushed me... So i was like great..Now i know she wont ever like me.
And NOW, she has a boyfriend which i cant stand. I mean i really like her, but now im just thinking about giving up because she wont ever like me now..
what should i do..? (link)
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You are her type NOW. That does not mean later. If I were you just keep being her friend. Show her that you are always there for her. If the current bf breaks her heart be there for her to talk to. Try your best to stay her friend because it is not worth losing her, you will regret it.
Remember that if you were meant to be with her she will come back to you sooner or later.
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ok am i wrong to want the truth from people? for the last 4 months people have been weird to me. im kindof not hanging out with my friends as much and not talking to them as much and stuff like that but they dont say anything about it, when i can tell that they are talking about me behind my back. they look at me with that look like they are thinking "fuck you" in their head at me, but i wish they would just TELL ME HOW THEY REALLY FEEL. whenever i see them they just make awkward small talk with me and if i bring up something cool that happened to me or something they dont comment and they are just like "oh. wow i just love this weather." because god forbid they state their opinion.
my friends have this thought that basically telling the truth starts drama. when, in my opinion, telling lies and not telling the truth is what starts the real drama.
so, tell me your opinions on this and tell me if im wrong to think this please.
thanks (link)
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I agree with you! The best way to get over problems is to put it out in the open and discuss ways to solve it. Tell them you have no idea why they are being this way and to please tell you. If they don't then it seems like they don't care enough to even want you as a friend.
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Well, I'm 5'6 1/2" and I weigh somewhere around 135-140. I was just wondering if that's average or overweight? A lot of people say,"Oh my gosh, you're a stick! You look like you weigh 110 pounds!" but I know that I'm not that skinny, I look like it, but I'm not. So, am I overweight for my height!? Thank you! (link)
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you are perfect! As long as you are happy and healthy you are fine. Yes I do think that is average weight for that height.
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sometimes like i know i'll get along with a lot of them but like i get nervous and sometimes say stupid things i didnt mean. idk why cause im ok being independent and stuff and i find its easier for me to be more like myself around people who are shyer than me a lot..or other outgoing people that ive known for a while. like its easy to be totally like myself with new people, but as time goes on like its hard to be all fresh like that and just start being myself after i start to like become shy.. when i hate being that way cause im usually not like that around family and close friends. like on myspace there are some cool new people i talk to sometimes and like.. ok first of all how can i just drop this whole thing of looking at people based ons stereotypes? i tend to be very judgy though i am against it myself.. i know its mean and stuff and want to stop since it just relects weakness from me like when i spread bad gossip or something. its just dumb. so that i could talk to people more easier and stop getting nervous of what? like rejection? i dont know.. maybe. like how can i just do it.. dont just say to take a deep breath and stuff. please take your time answering cause ive asked similar questions a while ago but nothing really helped me or i wouldnt be back again. :( thanks for the help btw. :) (link)
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We tend to put the "popular" people on a pedestal even though they are not better than us.
If I were you just don't worry about even talking to them because it won't matter in the long run. I thought it was the best thing to be popular when I was younger but I just wasn't like them and now being out of school I realize that it doesn't matter if you are friends with them or not. Your good friends are the ones who have been with you through everything and the ones you are comfortable talking to you.
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My friend (used to be best friend) that i've known since 6th grade, (in 11th now) just picked up smoking weed and thinks shes the coolest person in the world, but really she has no idea what shes doing.
and shes doing some pretty stupid crap. like driving while high, doing donuts and getting flat tires-- going to class high, growing it, and trying to get her friends who are starting to really dislike her into it. not to mention she doesnt know what kind shes smoking. what if its laced with iono salvia?
Shes hurting herself and her family and her friends. She got kicked out of the band program (which was her favorite but now weed is) and shes just going downhill. i wouldnt get so worried if it was someone who could control it, or do it socially once in a while- not smoking up every day by yourself like she does now.
I've been thinking about anonymously reporting her to the police. something needs to happen to let her know shes doing something thats just plain stupid- and dangerous, mentally and physically.normally i would never rat anyone out for this kind of stuff, but shes my friend and i worry about her.
should i report her to the police or not?
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If I were you I wouldn't tell anyone. Not yet. It is not your place to tell something like that. My friend did that to her bf and it was very nasty.
It is a very touchy subject because you are damned if you do and damned if you don't.
If it becomes really really bad...tell. Make sure that you are prepared for the consequences.
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what are some songs that have to do with the book Speak ? i need them for a project (link)
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Crazy by Simple Plan might work, umm... also maybe Welcome to my Life by simple plan (they have a lot of those songs. I can't think of many more...maybe songs by Aly and AJ
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