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talking to popular people
sometimes like i know i'll get along with a lot of them but like i get nervous and sometimes say stupid things i didnt mean. idk why cause im ok being independent and stuff and i find its easier for me to be more like myself around people who are shyer than me a lot..or other outgoing people that ive known for a while. like its easy to be totally like myself with new people, but as time goes on like its hard to be all fresh like that and just start being myself after i start to like become shy.. when i hate being that way cause im usually not like that around family and close friends. like on myspace there are some cool new people i talk to sometimes and like.. ok first of all how can i just drop this whole thing of looking at people based ons stereotypes? i tend to be very judgy though i am against it myself.. i know its mean and stuff and want to stop since it just relects weakness from me like when i spread bad gossip or something. its just dumb. so that i could talk to people more easier and stop getting nervous of what? like rejection? i dont know.. maybe. like how can i just do it.. dont just say to take a deep breath and stuff. please take your time answering cause ive asked similar questions a while ago but nothing really helped me or i wouldnt be back again. :( thanks for the help btw. :)
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Funnily enough, i'm exactly like that. I say things which sound stupid and like to be by myself. Looking around at my classmates, i just feel as if i'm repressed and i don't know how to get out of it. At home, i'm more chatty and happy, but at school, it seems as if i take on a completly different identity to the one which i one to project, which is one of happyness and care. Not some anti-social reject who doesn't have a life, that really hurts me.
There is an excellent book called 'The Fine Art of Small Talk' by Debra Fine whick talks about how to create small talk in even the most sticky of situations and it allows you to bild your confidence around others and able to talk to them. Remember, being popular doesn't mean that they're a different class, we're all in the same boat, so to speak.
I hope this helped,
triquetra
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We tend to put the "popular" people on a pedestal even though they are not better than us.
If I were you just don't worry about even talking to them because it won't matter in the long run. I thought it was the best thing to be popular when I was younger but I just wasn't like them and now being out of school I realize that it doesn't matter if you are friends with them or not. Your good friends are the ones who have been with you through everything and the ones you are comfortable talking to you.
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