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am i wrong
ok am i wrong to want the truth from people? for the last 4 months people have been weird to me. im kindof not hanging out with my friends as much and not talking to them as much and stuff like that but they dont say anything about it, when i can tell that they are talking about me behind my back. they look at me with that look like they are thinking "fuck you" in their head at me, but i wish they would just TELL ME HOW THEY REALLY FEEL. whenever i see them they just make awkward small talk with me and if i bring up something cool that happened to me or something they dont comment and they are just like "oh. wow i just love this weather." because god forbid they state their opinion.
my friends have this thought that basically telling the truth starts drama. when, in my opinion, telling lies and not telling the truth is what starts the real drama.
so, tell me your opinions on this and tell me if im wrong to think this please.
thanks
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You should just be strait up with them and ask them how they really feel. If they dont tell you then it can't be good. But if they are trating you so badly try and find some new friends. I went through the same things until one day I got tired of it and just walked away and still to this day I dont regret it. Sometimes you just need to break away from people you feel might not be good for you... I hope this helps :)
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I'm currently go through this at my school. I recently gave a talk on my column and there were a lot of questions at the end but the time ran out and that was that. But now, I've heard that nearly everybody is talking about it behind my back and it is frustrating. I mean, I sit with these guys and i know that there is something on their mind and they just can't ask me directly about the column. Plus, they seem to think that the answers which i give are funny when the situation is sensitive.
Plus, i now nearly always get the feeling that they're talking behind my back and it hurts. I just wish they would say the truth to me and say what they think because i'm open to that. But i know i can't force them to tell me the truth, it is their own decision.
Truth only starts drama if you turn the conversation into something that it is not. As long as you keep it controlled, you can have an in depth discusion where you hear what others think.
So in response to your question, it is fine to speak out the truth as long as you can control what happens later.
I hope this helped,
triquetra
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I agree with you! The best way to get over problems is to put it out in the open and discuss ways to solve it. Tell them you have no idea why they are being this way and to please tell you. If they don't then it seems like they don't care enough to even want you as a friend.
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A true friend never lies to you and would do anything for you. If you have suspicion that they are talking behind your back you are in the right if you want to know. The truth is lies start drama not the truth. My best friend told me that this one shirt I bought was hidious looking. Even though the truth kind of hurt, I am glad she said it to my face and not behind my back. A way to get them to talk is by saying when you see them just say I know you have been talking about me. They will start talking if you say stop the drama by talking behind my back and be woman/man enough to say it to my face. It worked for me when I was trying to figuare out which one of my friends was starting the drama. I used the same line on all of them and the one I had the suspicion about the most finally spilled the beans.
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