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The girl who will never like me MORE than a friend
15m.
Ok, so. I like this girl, shes a year or so older than me, and we're insanely good friends. Like, we tell each other everything and we'll always be there for each other.
If she notices that I dont look "ok" (like if i look upset or mad, etc.) she'll call me after i get home and ask me whats wrong, and likewise with me. So one day I asked her if I was "Dateable" and she said "for me?" and i was like "no you're way to far outta my league" and she was like "ok, yeah in general you are, but not for me.." which basically crushed me... So i was like great..Now i know she wont ever like me.
And NOW, she has a boyfriend which i cant stand. I mean i really like her, but now im just thinking about giving up because she wont ever like me now..
what should i do..?
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I know that if you live in a sitcom, like in the show Friends, you can get drunk and somehow start a relationship because of a hook-up in London, but in reality you're never gonna be more than friends with this girl. Once you get to that "zone", its tough to get out of. I'd say just enjoy the fact you have a friend that close.
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I know this sounds bad to you, and you probably don't want to hear it, but as soon as you've reached the "Let's just be friends" territory in a relationship, it's incredibly hard to recover from.
It sounds like you two have known each other for a while, and judging from that, if you two haven't made any passes then chances are slim to nil it will happen any time soon.
It's tough, but you'll have to move on and find another soul mate. There's just a small gap in every blossoming relationship with a girl where you need to convey you have more intentions than "just friends" and it's right at the beginning when you're getting to know each other. You missed this, and that's how you ended up here.
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I understand how you feel because I'm 16/f and my best friend is 15/m. There's always going to be some form of attraction between girls and guys who are best friends. Always. So if she says that she's not attracted to you, she is lying through her teeth.
She obviously cares about you a lot if she notices when you're down.
So when you said "No, you're way too far outta my league" that was kind of sending her the signal that "we shouldn't date" which is probably why she said what she did (to make it seem as if she wasn't lusting after a lost cause). Also, there's an insanely high chance that she doesn't want to risk damaging the friendship.
Speaking of damaging the friendship, that is really something that you're going to have to think about if you want to bring up the fact that you really like her. DO NOT hint that you like her until after she and her boyfriend have broken up. You don't want to be the reason that there are problems between them, and truth be told, her boyfriend is probably not entirely okay with her hanging out with you all the time. Once again, there's always going to be attraction between girls and guys who are best friends.
Don't give up, and don't assume that she doesn't like you or that she never will. Things change, believe me.
My advice to you is to wait it out. Hopefully she and her boyfriend will call it quits and then you can eventually talk about it with her. Communication is key- since you're best friends, you need to be on the same page at least if you're going to pursue a relationship.
Don't give up! Good luck :)
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Well, i can safetly say that i won't be able to match the person below me!!
It would be best to just remain friends, even though it will be hard, due to the feelings which you've got for her. I've got one soild belief and it is in a saying:
"Everything which happens to us,
happens for a reason"
The reason for you loving her would be so that you experiance love for the next time you find somebody else, who will worthy of you (not saying that your friend wasn't).
Good luck with the future,
triquetra
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You are her type NOW. That does not mean later. If I were you just keep being her friend. Show her that you are always there for her. If the current bf breaks her heart be there for her to talk to. Try your best to stay her friend because it is not worth losing her, you will regret it.
Remember that if you were meant to be with her she will come back to you sooner or later.
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