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Many of my friends say that I am a good listener and advice giver. Because I have experienced many good and bad situations, I know what it is like to feel down or confused. I am a mother, daughter, sister, girl friend, and friend. And if I can't figure out how to answer a question, I'm sure I know someone who can. And I've come to notice that most of the questions people ask they already know the answer to, they just need a little reassurance. But I will warn you that my policy is, if you ask a stupid question, you will get a stupid answer. But i will say that it is my joy to help anyone with a real problem, so ask away!




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My boy friend andi i have been going out for a little over a month now and i dont think we are quit on the same page i mean he s a complete punk and he is bbie polar im just kinda a different of personalities i want to be punk because i could just be my self and not worry what other people think but i dont want him to think imm turning punk to copie him what do i do?

Who cares what he thinks. He shouldn't judge you becasue you don't do it to him. Hope I helped! :)

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how do i get a guy to lay off my butt? he thinks hes slick and he can touch it whenever he wants. i've told him to stop and its not so serious to tell a teacher or w/e cus when i say stop hes like well i dont want u to file a sexual harrassment suit on me but the next day he does it again. what to do...

Tell him your serious about him toouching and you dont want him to do it anymore. Tell him you don't like it. Yell at him if you have to but get your point across. Good Luck! :)

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my friend (who is male) and i flirt a lot and i like him a lot but i dunno if he likes me. he has a girlfriend still i think. i really like him and i dunno wut to do. i am 13 and going to b a freshman if that matters. i dont care about not having a boyfriend but if he likes me i would defenitly go out with him.

Go ahead and tell him how you feel. The worst that could happen is he says no, right? Don't miss out on a good opportunity. Good Luck! :)

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is it bad to give some one you dont know your pick if your possotive that they are the same age as you and live in a different state?

I think its okay to exchange pictures. Just don't give out your phone number and definitely not your address and don't meet anyone anywhere. You never know who a person relly could be. Hope I helped. :)

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I have been feeling so horney latly and i cant go out and buy sex toys because i will get caght and my mom will freak out and i can ehave sex because im to young what do i do i ddont know how to finger or mastrabate or anything!

Atleast you are smart enough to know that you are too young for sex. Now all you have to do is find ways not think about it. Go hang out with friends or read a book or something. If you get caught doing something with yourself you are probably gonna get in trouble, so just stop thinking about it. Good Luck! :)

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I have been having these major break outs around my hairline and on my nose..I have tryed alot of stuff that just dont seem to work any ideas?

Okay, well I used to have a bad acne problem, and my friend intriduced me to this stuff called natures cure. It is a 2 part system; pills and an oil free sentless cream, that has about 5% benezol peroxide. You take one pill in the morning and one at night. The pills are tasteless and they help stop whatever hormonal imbablance is causing you to break out. The cream, which you apply only to the pimples, not the entire face,(and a little goes a long way), makes the outbreak that is there go away. Each box comes with a one month supply and cost $10. You can get it at any pharmacy.

I recomend that you do what I do before putting the cream on. Okay, when I wake up, I take my pill. Then I take a bowl fill it with water, and put it in the microwave to heat up until it gets steamy. Then you put a towel over your head and put your face over the bowl, so all the steam is in your face. do this for about 5 mins. the steam makes your pores open up so all the gunk in them can get out. After steaming your face, wash it with a very mild soap (no medicated stuff). After pat-drying your face, apply the cream. Yes its a bit of a process, but it really does work, and I think its worth it to keep a clear face. If it doesn't work though, then I suggest you see a dermatolagist. Good Luck!

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I HAVE THIS EX B/F...WE STILL TALK ON THE PHONE ALOT... AND WE FLIRT ALL THE TIME.. A PART OF ME WANTS TO DATE HIM AGAIN.. BUT THE OTHER PART DOESN'T.. SOME ONE PLEASE HELP ME!!

You need to think if being with this guy again is really worth it or will it end up the same. Once you can decide that you will now what to do. Good Luck! :)

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How do I get my best friend to talk to me and trust you, while he still has a girlfriend and all? His girlfriend is putting stuff in his head and how do I prove that also to him?

This girl seems like the type who will not be around for a while. Give your friend some space and eventually he will open his eyes and realize that this girl is not right for him, and when he sitches her you will be able to be there fro him. Hope I helped! :)

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I want to earn money and I'm really smart so I figured I would tutor people since my mom wouldnt let me babysit. Can anyone help me with tips on what I need to get started?

Put an add in alocal newspaper or pennypincher and ask permission to post flyers or an add in your local library and the school bulletin boards. Good Luck! :)

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Is she retarded?

If you told me a little bit more about your sister maybe I could help you, but there is not enough info to answer your question. :)

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I have another friend that needs help her name is chrystal and she is 17..she had liked this guy named Ken..since he was in the 7th grade and he graduated in 2002..and he say he think of her as a lil sister..and she dont think of him like that.Her uncle herb told her to keep trying and go after what she wants..and never give up on him..any ideas?
-Hal

If this guy says he looks at her as a little sis, than its probably true. yes it is good to go after what you want, but its kinda different when it comes to boyfriend/girlfriend its really noy the same, the guy is not a some type of job or goal or something, he is a person. Explain to your friend that she is young and it is no good to be spending your life chasing after a guy who is not interested in her. She should be out exploring her options, not drooling over some guy. Hope I helped. :)

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Okay my name is barb(ara)and im despratley in need of help.Last night i kried myself 2 sleep.I ussaly sleep at 11:00.its been one week now im sleepin at 1 a.m.Im soo mad like my mom and dad work even through summer and my dad works on saturdays and sundays soo like im always bymeslef stuck in my house doin nothing but x-box,tv,and computer.And my grandma is very cuatious bcuase she used 2 live in a huge city the 3rd biggest.So she wont even let me in our frontyard.I kno she kares but 2 much!I kant even watch bug juice becuase i hate seeing people hav fun while im not.And my friend kalled from summer camp n shes tottaly having fun i jus hung up on her!Please HELP BEFORE I BECOME TOTTALY SUMMERLESS AND I KRY 2 DEATH!

You need to find time to talk to your parents about having a chat with your grandma about letting you out. let your grandma know you are trustworthy, and yuo are going to be okay. Let them know you are miserable and that you've been crying, and you need to get out the house and have fun on your summer vacation because it is not fair that you are stuck in the house all day. If you don't get out soon you're going to fall into a block of depression, so go talk to them and make your point clear, don't give up untl some type of comprimise is made. Good Luck! :)

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i dont know what is wrong with me i can literally jsut finish a meal, and want to eat again.. i have been diagpnised with mild depression does that have anything to do with this? Please help me i think i am geting really... fat.. i weigh 135 pounds and i just hate how i look..

please lend me some friendly advice..

~*~cj~*~

It is true that when someone is depressed they tend to "eat" their problems away. Try talking to a councelor or someone about your problems. The less you are depressed the less you will feel you have to eat all the time. Good Luck! :)

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hey ok im 14 and um female... n e ways... my best friend and i have been friends since 1st grade and we have litterally been thro EVERYTHING together. im the type of person who will give u room to grow and branch out but be there for u when u decide to come back. and thats kinda how its been w/ me and her. no big right... well i am also very well known for my apt ability to give advice and stuff. i have helped my friend out of nearly every problem shes ever had and i have no problem w/ this but she freaks out and suspects things of me if i dont have the perfect advice right away. like if im dealing w/ something else and i come back to her she freaks or if i am shocked and momentarily dont know what to say she thinks i dont care... what do i do?!

Tell your friend you will be there to answer all of her questions as always but don't freak out when you don't have something to say immediately because you are not perfect. Hope I helped. :)

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ok i am in love im sure of it i can imagine getting married to this kid and stuff. but he completely screwed me over. we were going out for a month... i gave up everything for him too like my friends, family, the first guy to give a shit about me, and even skool a little... and then he moved in w/ a friend to go to this skool that would give him a chance. i was happy for him and he made me feel confident that things wouldnt change to much. but well... they did.. a lot. i proly talked to him 2 in 3 months after he moved and i heard all this shit about him cheating right... well i finally gave up and stuff. but i still cant stop wondering about him and the one time i saw him he was at the mall w/ his arms wrapped around another girl and he like ran from me (proly afraid id kick his ass) anyways... i still love him! i kno we could never be together now and that he is a total ass for abandoning me... but i cant help it!!

Gte over the guy! Find someone new! you were good to him and he blew it. Don't spend the rest of your life in love with him when you can do so much better. Good Luck! :)

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alright im a new frosh right, well i like 2 guys and i cant pick one, i wanna see what other people think...well lets call the first guy x now x is my age i have gona out wit him b4 and broke up wit him so i wouldnt get hurt but it ended up hurting me more, i know thats stupid know N im learning well we have been talking the last few 3 m. b4 school ended get even closer than we were when we were going out, well i like him alot and idk his friends say he likes me N he acts like it most the time, he told me to call him over the summer and we could hang out but idk maybe im to scared or w/e i dont wanna call...and then theres well lets call him o well he 16 and i like him too...he always is saying that hes almost inlove wit me but idk hes soo sweet and he understands me most the time...we are talking as much as we can at the moment and i think that maybe im not good enough for o cuz i mean he has goan throught some hard stuff wit his ex that i know abut because we have been friends erally good friends up untill some time after him N his gf were over...if anyone could try to help cuz i just dont know anymore..and the best friend i got right now my almost twin is helping out but i want an outsiders view!! thankx bye bye 14/f

First of all you should never feel like you are too good for someone. You should always feel equal to a guy. You choice seems like a difficult one. Try making a list if pros and cons about each guy to maybe see what it is exactly you like about the guys. If you can't make a dicision, then don't stress yourself. Wait for one of the guys to come around to you and try things out. Good Luck! :)

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ok there is this kid that like really really really likes me. like im not even joking. and we went out but i decided things had changed between us so we broke up. well he still wont leave me alone he always tells me he misses me and it kills him that he cant hold me and shit. and i dont know what to say i dont miss him liek that i dont feel that strongly about him and im starting to like another guy. so should i just deal w/ this kid or tell him to back off??

You have to tell this kid to back off. try to let him nicely. Let him know you are not feeling him the way he is feeling you and he needs to move on. If he still doesn't get the picture and starts driving you crazy, then it will probably make you feel bad but you will have to be a little mean with him and tell him off. Good Luck! :)

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Whats cotton mouth?

Its when you have a very dry mouth. :)

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What does it mean if you and your boyfriend are talking and you tell him you feel you dont meet up to his standards and he goes in otherwords you feel you arent good enough for me? so you say yeah your correct and he says if anything your to good for me... is that a bad or good thing? or does it just mean like dont let it get to you its not bad its not good its just a whatever thing.

First of all neither of you should be thinking either of you are too good for eachother. You should feel you are equals, but this isn't really something you should sweat. Hope I was helpful. :)

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How long does it take until i get people to ask me some questions?

Tyr answering the questions that are posted on the cite already, then if someone like your advice they will keep going to you. Good Luck! :)

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