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Many of my friends say that I am a good listener and advice giver. Because I have experienced many good and bad situations, I know what it is like to feel down or confused. I am a mother, daughter, sister, girl friend, and friend. And if I can't figure out how to answer a question, I'm sure I know someone who can. And I've come to notice that most of the questions people ask they already know the answer to, they just need a little reassurance. But I will warn you that my policy is, if you ask a stupid question, you will get a stupid answer. But i will say that it is my joy to help anyone with a real problem, so ask away!




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Ok, so yesterday, I was at a babyshower and I met this guy who is 2 years younger than I am(hes 10) and hes soo nice and hes soooo cute! He even brought me food(i didnt ask him for it though!) and now I think im in love with him, but i didnt get his number or anything all i know is his name and i want to see him again, but i dont know how, so can somebody plzzzzz tell me how i can get us together at least one more time so that i can get his number?

Ask someone else who was at the party if they know who the kid is... if they ask why? Say you have a friend who would really like him and you want to hook them up or something like that. Good luck! :)

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My best friends name is blair and she was soo nice to me when we were in school and now since its summer ...she acts all braggy and talks about all her other friends in Wisconsin..and me and her live in the south..She always acts like shes better than me..and it really gets on my nerves but shes like the only one that really gets me..SHe did this last summer too. What should I do?

Maybe she doesn't know that she acts this way. Maybe she doesn't see she is bragging, and just thinks she is telling you about stuff. Explain to her how its making you feel, I'm sure the 2 of you will come to some type of comprimise. Good Luck! :)

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my ex boyfriend broke up with my a few weeks ago but asked me out again and i told him no because i always screw things up but i still like him and he still likes me he just met this girl who i dont like because shes a total hoe and thats all shes good for and last nite when i saw him at the mall he was there w/ his arm around her and i got really mad because you know i still like him later on that nite he got on the computer and was like if you fucking like me so much why the hell wont you go back out with me and all this other stuff then signed off with out giving me a chance to explain do you think i should go back out w/ him or just try to stay friends w/ him?

What you have to do is ask yourself, why do you think you always mess up? Once you can figure that tou, you will know whether or not you should be with him. Personally, I think you should stop putting yourself down, and you should give this guy another chance because he seems to really like you and you know you like him, so if there were any problems they probably could get worked through. Good Luck! :)

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im a 16/m and i have never really done anything with a girl besides making out idk if i should shave or not i have a few times be4 but im the only 1 that even saw anything so it was pointless its just a pain in the ass and i dont wanna have 2 do it all the time but wut if im not shaved and a girl goes down on me will they be grossed out and not do anything im really worried this will happen or they might start spreading rumors that i dont shave and no1 will ever go down on me again.

Don't shave until a girl does decide to go down on you. And then ask her, would you prefer if i shave? If she says yes, then do it for her out of respect, but you don't have to do it all the time, just when she wants to do that. And don't worry cuz not all girls mind as long as you are clean adn don't smell all sweaty down there. Good Lcuk! :)

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My mom and dad are jewish. my parents want me to be like them and do what they do. my best friend is christian and she took me to church with her once and i recieved Jesus into my life. i really want to be like my friend and be christian but my parents wont accept it! what do i say to them? i am my own person right?

You're right! You are your own person. Parents are thick headed sometimes. If you feel as though you want to be Christian, that is up to you and no one else. Your parents will just have to accept it. Good Luck! :)

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Im a lesbian and my girlfriend and i reallyy really really want to have sex because we love each other and i dont know where to buy condoms for girls. we just want to be safe. otherwise we are gunna have sex without one. helP!

You can purchase them at any pharmacy or drugstore. they sell them in alot of places. Or the 2 of you can just both get tested and if both of you are clean and JUST WITH EACHOTHER, then it would okay to not use anything. Good Luck! :)

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ok i am 16/m and i am really horny i have never done anything with a girl besides making out and feeling up how do i get a girl to do something with me i mean i have a huge respect for girls and i dont like to pressure them into things this is why i never asked a girl to do something like that i dont have a gf right now and i know some people might say to drink with them but i dont want to take advantage and is 16 to young to have sex?

Its good to nkow you have such a huge respect for women.Girls really like that. Sex is a big step. There is no age to when you should do it, but you should make sure you are truelly ready and its with someone who means something more than just getting off. And of course always use protection. If you know this is something you want to do when you do find a girlfriend, do so, but take it slowly. There are other ways to make eachother feel good without having sex, and once the 2 of you have gone far enough you both will probably want to do it. And if she still hasn't mentioned anything, then let her know "there is no pressure, but I am ready for sex, and when you are can you please let me know, and again no pressure" make sure she knows NO PRESSURE. The last thing a girl wants to feel is pressured, because she will either end up doing it jsut because you want to and then regretting it, ot it could make her lose interest and she will just leave you. Good Luck! :)

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Well I'm single right now and have been for a few weeks. There really isn't anyone that I wanna talk to right now that I think could be a potential g/f, cause I just don't have that feeling about them. I've just been talking to my ex lately (who I still have feelings for), but it ain't exactly the same on the other side with her. I mean she likes me, but I don't think it's gonna be enough that she'll want to get back together, even if I did have the last thing that would complete her "perfect guy" list, and we've talked about all of this too. Anybody got any solutions to what I should do? There isn't anything I can really do to get back with her, it's all her decision.

Well it looks like you've answered that one for yourself but just didn't know it. There is nothing you can do about it, it is her decision. You can't make someone want you. And as far as being single, its good to be signle for a while after getting over a relationship, it gives you time to get over old things and explore new things. There is no specific time limit to star seeing someone new after a breakup, its all up to the person. Good Luck! :)

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This is the worst thing that has ever happened to me, my best friend that I've known since I was 2, died. She was in a car with her boyfriend and two other friends when a drunk driver crashed into them, killing everyone. I was supposed to go with Kelsie, my best friend, but I'm not allowed to go to parties that she was coming home from. I feel guilty and so depressed shes gone. What do I do to get over my best friends death?! Thank you

Getting over a death of a very important loved one can be pretty hard. You will probably be sad for a long time, but you need to know that your friend is in a better place now and she is watching over you. She wouldn't want you to spend the rest of your life down and uot because she is gone. And she wouldn't want you to feel guilty, there was nothing that you could do about it. And don't think its not okay to think about the good old times because it is, even if it brings a tear in your eye it is still good. You have to be strong it may be hard but you will see you will get better with time. Good Luck! :)

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What is black soap?

Black soap can be found at the pharmacy where your soaps, lotions and moisturizers are. It is the color black and the only brand I know of is OPAL. Sometimes it is not sold in all states.

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me and my friend amanda got really close. we even kissed. but a few days ago we got into an arguement and she decided that the best thing would b to block me and never speak to me again. i begged her not to do this but she said goodbye and blocked me and i havent talked to her since. i love this girl. i really do. i dont kno if i should try to get her back or if i should just let her go. i dont wanna let her go but i also want her to b happy. please tell me what i should do.

Just give her time. She will come back around, and if she doens't maybe you can find another way to contact her. But if she doesn't get back to then it just means she was not the one. rejection sucks, this I know, but all you can do is find ways to forget her. i hope I helped, and Good Luck! :)

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I met this guy and he says he likes me alot but the other day my friend said he never talks about me. I know he's a guy...but shouldn't he say something about me?

Not all guys talk about who they like because sometimes guys don't like when people are all in there business. Just as long as you know how he really feels is all that matters. But if you really need some assurance, then talk to him about it and ask him how no one knows about the two of you. Good Luck! :)

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Hey!!!
Today my friend and I were talking and she got mad at me and then she started cussing at me!!!
Heres wat she said "You are a piece of white trash...(the rest was cussing so yea)!!!!!!
Should I take this seriously or do u think that she was just mad and it came out?!?!!?
PLZ HELP!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

Thanx,
Confused

Well it would help me to answer your question better if you told me what the argument was about. But it is messed up that she called you that. You should tell her how you feel about what she said and if she understands and apologizes then just accept it, because she probably didn't mean to say it, she was just mad and people say mean things when they are pissed off. Hope I helped! :)

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hey my boy friend cheated on me and now he wont leave me alone!!hes begging 4 me to go back out with him but....he cheated on me n boy do i hate cheaters!! idk if i love him or like him or any thing!!!plez help!!!
signed~
~~confused!!!!

If he cheated on you then you have evry right to not like him. And you shouldn't have to take him back. If he is bothering you then tell him to leave you the heck alone because you don't want nothing to do with him anymore. try to be nice about it at first but make your point clear to him. if he doesn't get it then it sucks but you will have to get mean. Sometimes guys really don't get it til they see you pissed off. Good Luck! :)

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if im 13, gunna be 14 in 4 months, and i still haven't gotten my period, is that abnormal or sumthin, all of my friends have already started, and sum people i kno who are younger then me have started, my mom started when she was 11, my sister started when she was going into 7th grade, and im entering 9th, and still haven't started,is there sumthin wrong wit me??

Everyone's body works differently. Every girl has her own time. So, NO. There is nothing wrong with you. You should stop worrying though, becuause stress makes it take longer to come. Hope i helped! :)

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lately i been having troubles with friends. and it has upsetted me pretty bad. im the type of person that things bother more then most people. its just who i am. but ever since i started having problems with my friend (its been 1 or 2 weeks now) i have totally just cut down eating. like i didnt even notice it until i realized i lost 10 pounds in this short amount of time. i cant really help it i just been kinda upset and i cant really change my situation with my friends for a while. we just have things we have to figure out and everything! i dont know what i could really do to eat more and not lose weight. i have tried to eat a little more then i have been these past couple weeks but if i do i just throw up. its like my body rejects food. what should i do?

Because you are so down, your body is reacting to it, and that is why you can't keep anything down and are not eating. If you can't find a way to make up with your friends than you need to find a way to bring your spirits up, like hang out with a good guy friend or go somewhere with your family or another friend. Find fun things to do to get your mind off of things and then you will be able to eat. Goood Luck! :)

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Does anyone know of anything that can help get rid of or hide stretch marks that I have aquired from the ten pounds that I randomly gain and lose?

Try cocoa butter or black soap. laying out in sun is goood for getting rid of stretch marks too. Hope I was helpful. :)

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ok ive only had sex with 2 guys but im always doin stuff with guys. like with the guys that havnt gotten hand jobs or fingered girls, stuff like that. ive only done this like with 6 or 7 guys.. am i a slut?

how old are you? Anyways... I don't think you are a slut, but i do think you should calm down. There are all types of diseases out there, and you just don't get them from sex, you can get them from oral sex too, just in case you didn't know that. Atleast you are not having sex with all these people, but justcase remember to always have protection. And its also importan to respect your body. If you feel you really need to get off find one person to mess around with don't mess with a bunch of guys. Hope I helped. :)

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well everyday or so i go to my bestfriends house an theres always her guy neighbors over therre an there is this one that i really like! his name is jay an hes just a year older than me an he is always grabbin on my ass an saying funny stuff to me... like to day he wuz like "miss do u know were anyone can gimmi a lap dance?? do u by any chance?" i think he was kidding but like ive only known him for like a month or so an i REALLY REALLY like him an all my other friends ask like "do you like michelle" an he "smiles" den my friends ask like "would u go out with michelle?" an jay goes "only if she would go out with me" I DUNNO IF I LIKE HIM OR IF I SHOULD MAKE A MOVE OR WHATS GOING TO HAPPEN I REALLY NEED HELP IM REALLY CONFUSED!! plz answer asap i gota go soon an im going to my friends (yes that friend) house tommorrow!!! xoo michelle

It seems to me like this guy likes you so go for it and make a move before it is too late! Good Luck! :)

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Me and this guy dated for like a year, we're still friends and still likes him. Well, since he's a year older than me he went to high school first, and my friend had some of his clases or something and now they like eachother. I'm really hurt but I don't want to lose him as a friend. What do I do?

Tell him how you feel. And do it soon. If you really care about him, you should say something before you loose him. Good Luck! :)

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