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I came here to answer computer questions. (This used to say "...and nothing more.")


What I meant was, I don't know how much help I would be with other things... NOT that I would be upset if you asked a non computer question!


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Inside a computer running Windows, where is the Terminal font? I looked in the fonts folder, but it wasn't there. There were some other raster fonts there though. (link)
Hi there,

Here is a link to another question someone asked about finding a terminal.ttf true-type font download a while back:

http://www.advicenators.com/qview.php?q=574009

... And here is a terminal font that I use when I need one:

fixedsys.ttf download:

http://fixedsys.moviecorner.de/?p=start&l=1

Happy ASCII!


How do you get in contact with a columnist you like on this site, without it being against the rules?

Theres a person on here who i absolutely love there advice, and I want to tell them that, but I dont think its allowed for me to contact them, or is it? Im just not sure, but i would like to know if its possible....Any info would be great! (link)
Hi there,

Typically, if columnists want to be contacted, they will provide an e-mail address or IM contact info.

You CAN send them an inbox message with your contact info and ask them to contact you, but you should include a note asking them to reject the question after they have read it so that it doesn't count against either of you as just chatting.

Some columnists do not allow inbox questions, in which case it is pretty obvious they don't want to be contacted.

Happy contacting.


I just got an LG Vu plus for my birthday. I noticed at the top of the screen you can see that there's two circular lights. I don't know what they're for because I haven't seen them light up. My phone came with a tutorial CD not an intrustional pamphlet, and the CD won't work on my computer. So I was wandering if anyone knew what they were for..? (link)
Hi there,

As a note for the future: Just because the cd doesn't do anything automatically, doesn't mean that there is nothing on it or that it doesn't work. If you open "my computer" and click the cd/dvd drive you will be able to see what is on any disc that doesn't automatically launch.

Your user manual is probably right there waiting for you. :-)

As for the "lights" you mention, I had no idea. I read the user manual and still had no idea... so I found a diagram of the parts of the phone and sure enough, they aren't lights. They are the phone's proximity sensor. Here is an excerpt from the manual:

"Proximity sensor
When receiving, making and during calls, this sensor automatically turns the backlighting off and locks the touch keypad by sensing when the phone is near your face or ear.
This makes the battery life last longer and prevents the touch keypad from accidental keypresses during a call.
Users, therefore, do not have the inconvenience of having to lock and unlock the phone during calls."

Here is a link to the page with the user manual and such:

http://www.lg.com/us/mobile-phones/LG-GR700.jsp

The one listed as "Specifications" is actually the manual.

There is a lot of handy info about your new phone and all the ways you can use it. The user guide was also written in a very friendly style, and seems easy to read.

Looks like a really nice phone. I hope it serves you well.


This popped up on my desktop when my computer turned on (I print-screened it):

http://i143.photobucket.com/albums/r155/wind_miko/what.jpg

Linksys Wireless Network Monitor

Access violation at address 00426059 in module 'WMP54GSv1_1.exe'. Read of address 00000368.

What is this exactly and does that mean that someone was trying to hack onto my computer/internet? (link)
Hi there,

This could be caused by any number of things, including malicious software on your computer.

Usually, however, something you have installed is having a conflict with the Linksys network card's drivers or monitoring software.

The best first step is to check for updates to the software, and install the new version if there is one. If not, remove the one you have now, and re-install it.

It is also a great idea to make sure your computer is clean of viruses, spyware and other malware. Your anti-virus program should take care of the virus issue. If you don't have one, you need one.

The malware is better handled by other tools. May I suggest you download and run both of these:

SUPERAntiSpyware:

http://www.superantispyware.com/

... and:

MalwareBytes Anti-Malware:

http://www.malwarebytes.org/

Between those two, most everything will be found. There are exceptions, of course, but these would, for best results, require someone to look at your machine in a shop.



do eps repeat songs on studio albums? dont get it. and what about lps? (link)
The answer is yes... and no. It depends on the album in question and which studio it is from.


I want a bra if not exactly like this or somewhat like this, just give me store names or links please!:) Anything will help.
http://images.4chan.org/s/src/1285026395221.jpg
(my boyfriend suggested suggested this) (link)
Hi there,

The photo doesn't show up. The site you linked to doesn't allow remote linking.

You will have to download the photo and upload it someplace like tinypic.com, then ask this question again with a link to the new location.

Please get permission before using any copyrighted material.

Thank you.


I don't remember the song name and I'm trying to figure it out if anyone can help..
it's a female singer singing in a high registration::
the chorus is something like
"you are saved"

anyone know? (link)
Hi there,

Myself and several others have spent many combined hours searching for this with no luck.

Any chance you have heard it again and can provide a little more detail?

If so, please ask directly to my inbox and I will try again.

Thank you!



Can it is true that I can convert my Scanned Pages online With Conversion Sites?
Which is the best conversion site?
(link)
Please stop asking the same questions over and over again.

The top free document conversion site right now seems to be:

Zamzar.com:

http://www.zamzar.com/

... if they, and all the answers to your other questions cannot help you, then nobody here is able to help.

I am sorry. We have done all we can for you.


okay so I'm looking for a tumblr theme that's like a collage of all your posts, but still shows your about me and picture.
any links? (link)
I thought this would be an easy one, but with most of the theme sites being scams or virus infested I understand why you had such trouble.

I looked for quite a while, and I know that other people here did as well. Sorry that nobody has been able to find what you needed yet.

The only thing I can think of is this: Could you possibly find a tumblr user with a theme like you want, then ask them where they got it?

If you have never seen one like you want, then there may not be one yet. If you can find someone who is good with making layouts, perhaps they would do one up for you?

Search columnists here for a user named: "ThirdQED"

... He is SUPER at making layouts for other things... but I don't know if he would be interested in doing tumblr themes or not.

Worth a shot, right?


how much is mariokart because i brougt a steering weels for mario and they and i want to buy the sims 3 and i want to have fun befor my mum go to alice springs. (link)
Hi there,

I am sorry about this, but the prices we could give you would be in US dollars which probably wouldn't help you very much in Australia.

That, and we really need to know which games system you wish to buy MarioKart for, and which system you want to play Sims 3 on.

The best bet is to call the nearest game shop there and ask this question. If there isn't one near you and you plan to buy on the internet, then please provide the additional information we asked for and we will do our best for you.



you are fatastic and you give great advice :) (link)
I was hoping to be thintastic, but thank you for the compliment. ;-)


hey kels
my cock is so hard can you help me relieve it?
and what ways would you relieve it?
thanks soo much, hope your good at it.

love Bobbi Lite (link)
The young lady you wrote this too doesn't allow inbox questions, so this was sent to the site admin. Wonder why she doesn't allow inbox questions?


does anyone know where i can watch, download, rent, buy, etc the movie LOL laughing out loud? it's a french movie, so it has to have english subtitles but i really want to watch it, but cant find it anywhere!! (link)
Hi there,

Here is a link to the DVD at Amazon.com:

http://www.amazon.com/gp/product/B000RZIH3A?ie=UTF8&tag=kissinonthemo-20&linkCode=as2&camp=1789&creative=9325&creativeASIN=B000RZIH3A

Please go to the official LOL The Movie website:

http://www.lolthemovie.com/

... for more info about other ways to watch the film.

Enjoy!


Thank you for your advice. I understand completly what your saying. But i have tried everything. ive sent him so many texts trying to apoligize and telling him how i feel. He just doesnt want anything to do with me. I just wish i could rewind things. (link)
Hi there,

Please make sure you are logged in when you ask your questions.

The user that you wrote apparently doesn't accept inbox questions from unregistered users, so it defaulted to the admin's inbox.



what are the minerals needed by the plants and its corresponding function?


(link)
Hi there,

You will have to tell us more about the situation.

Which plant are we talking about? Not all plants have exactly the same needs.

If you would like to ask again, providing more information, that would be great. If you are trying to get us to do your homework, that is not great. ;-)


Where can I download video of we got married tv show from Korea? I want "sweet potato couple" show most of all please?

(link)
Hi there,

I LOVE sweet potato couple... This is our favorite also. :-)

Here is a link to a page that has episode 13 and others:

http://www.mysoju.com/we-got-married/

... it is in 6 parts, I believe, but it is the ONE place I know that has it with English subtitles.

Here is a list of all the "We Got Married" episodes that I know can be found here:

Episode 55
Episode 54
Episode 53
Episode 52
Episode 51
Episode 50
Episode 49
Episode 48
Episode 47
Episode 46
Episode 45
Episode 44
Episode 43
Episode 42
Episode 41
Episode 40
Episode 39
Episode 38
Episode 37
Episode 36
Episode 35
Episode 34
Episode 33
Episode 32
Episode 31
Episode 30
Episode 29
Episode 28
Episode 27
Episode 26
Episode 25
Episode 24
Episode 23
Episode 22
Episode 21
Episode 20
Episode 19
Episode 18
Episode 17
Episode 16
Episode 15
Episode 14
Episode 13 "Sweet Potato Couple"
Episode 12
Episode 11
Episode 10
Episode 9
Episode 8
Episode 7
Episode 6
Episode 5
Episode 4
Episode 3
Episode 2
Episode 1


hi i'm 17.i'm from Lebanon/Asia..i'm having a probleme with my boyfriend: i don't trust him and he doesn't trust me..i'm with him since 2006.we try a couple of times to breack up,but we can't becauze we love each other,he is so selfish.he wants me for him and no one else..he sheats on me onces and he told me that.he's so honest with me but i can't took this..plz help we love each other but we don't understand each other..thank u (link)
Hi there,

This is a situation where couples counseling would be a great idea.

Without trust you have nothing. If he has cheated on you, then trust will be hard to have. You said he is selfish because he wants you all to himself? Does that mean you cheated on him also? If not, then why doesn't he trust you?

Please talk to a counselor about this and maybe you two can work it out.

One last thing: Love isn't what you say, and it isn't what you FEEL... it is what you DO that shows if the love is real or fake.


why did'nt u answer my question?help (link)
Hi there,

You asked a question to ONE user. That user doesn't LIVE on the site. They have a life too.

Good answers take time.


where does chloe the movie with amanda seyfried and julianna moore take okace/filmed? (link)
Hi there,

The IMDB listing contains the following locations:


Allan Gardens Conservatory, Toronto, Ontario, Canada


Pinewood Toronto Studios, Port Lands, Toronto, Ontario, Canada
(studio)


Toronto, Ontario, Canada


Varsity Stadium, University of Toronto, Toronto, Ontario, Canada

... You can find out more about it by checking out the IMDB listing here:

http://www.imdb.com/title/tt1352824/locations


Okay. I'm 22/f, he's 28/m. No comments on the age difference, please; it's pretty irrelevant.

So, Joe and I have known each other for years. We dated for awhile last year, but I screwed up and broke it off to get back together with my evil ex. We got back together a couple of months ago, and I'm beyond grateful that he gave me a second chance.

Joe and I are incredibly close; he's my best friend, and I'm his. We're even talking about moving in together, which I've never even considered with a guy before. I'm a very closed-off person in general, I value honesty, and I don't get along well with my own gender.

Therein, though, lies the problem. Most of my close friends are guys I grew up with. Joe says he trusts me, and I believe him. He says the fact that I'm close with these guys makes him feel like he's not providing for me enough emotionally. He thinks when you're in a good relationship, your significant other becomes the one person you go to for emotional and physical fulfillment. The thing is, I really DO turn to Joe for everything. He's the first person I call when I'm upset, or happy, or anything; he completes me in ways I could never have imagined.

I have friends of all genders, ethnicities, sexual orientation, ages - everything. I tried to explain to him that the guys I talk to might as well be girls, because I treat all my friends equally, and in my mind they are all equal, but he disagreed.

Joe said he might feel better if he was involved in all the conversations with them, but that's just not physically possible. I'll chat with them for a couple of minutes on line, and I even show Joe the transcripts, but it's not enough.

I offered to arrange for him to meet them, but he doesn't even want to meet a couple of them, ever. One of them I posed nude for for a photography project, and obviously, Joe doesn't like that. I hate that I did it, and I never would now, and I expressed that to him...but I didn't hide it from him because I want him to know everything about me. He feels that this particular friend is immoral, and that what he asked me to do was degrading and insulting to me.

Anyway, these guy friends are like family to me, just like my few girl friends. I desperately don't want to lose them, or lose myself, but I also desperately don't want to lose Joe...I love him, and we're planning our future together.

I don't know what to do, or how to compromise on this. Is it appropriate for me to have close friends of the opposite sex? Am I wrong for wanting to keep them? Is Joe right in saying he should be the only one I turn to? Could this be because I left him before? Is he right in thinking my friends are immoral?

I'd really appreciate it if everyone, young and old, gay, straight, whatever, could answer. I feel like I don't know how to handle this at all, and I'd appreciate any and all opinions.

Thanks. (link)
You know, it can be really hard to put yourself in someone else's shoes. I have noticed that many people don't even try... they simply say what they would do in a given situation without any empathy for the other person's situation.

Here, I will try my best not to do that.

From his perspective:

You have a history of doing unpredictable things. After enough unpredictability, people learn to expect the unexpected.

You have already dumped this guy once. The fact that you broke his heart so that you could go back to someone you now claim to be over, and probably told him you were over right before you dumped him for the guy, means that he expects to be dumped at any second.

With that in mind, you are now telling him: "All these guys I used to have sex with and pose naked for... I am SO over them."

Under the VERY best circumstances, that is something just about any man worth having is going to have a very hard time dealing with.

What you have created here is NOT the very best circumstance.

You told him you were over someone, then you dumped him and went off to have sex with the person you said you were over.

Now, you are telling him you are over other people...

... can you see where this could make a guy a bit anxious about your sincerity in all this?

The other thing that has probably occurred to him here is that you have a career habit of doing that which is worst for yourself.

Example: Joe is a great guy, right? You want to plan the rest of your life with him, right?

So... the very best thing you could do for yourself was NOT permanently destroy Joe's trust in you by lying about being over someone that is horribly abusive... so you could be abused some more, right?

Yet, you did the most harmful thing for both yourself and Joe.

The business with the erotic photos... well, I read one of your other questions about this situation to gain better perspective, and the following things would make me, if I were Joe, have difficulty believing you:

The photos that the one person had... Joe asked to see them, and they were destroyed. This will forever make those photos worse than they were in Joe's mind.

You can't fix this. There is nothing you can do to undo that one. He will have to choose to overlook this or not.

The other thing about it is the line about the guy just wanting the photos for his portfolio... that is the oldest line there is.

Ever since Ogg invited Oggette over so he could expand the portfolio of naked cave paintings he was working on... well, nothing has changed. Ogg just wanted to see Oggette naked. No exceptions.

It was a con then, and it is a con now.

Interestingly enough, I am personally acquainted with a young woman who has done literally identical things to end up in a very similar position.

I had a chance to watch this unfold from a very unique perspective. Here is what I took away from it:

This woman, Melandria, has crushingly low self esteem coupled with the belief that her self esteem isn't as bad off as it is. This is a very dangerous combo.

She did some pretty self destructive things, including erotic modeling for a friend's "portfolio." She left a guy who was good for her, for a guy who did nothing but abuse and use her.

The fascinating thing in all this, is that she was never able to see it from a view of personal responsibility. Her view was:

"Why is all this happening to me?"

... rather than:

"I did x, y and z... and I perfectly understand why I am completely untrustworthy in the eyes of those around me."

I hope that that changed sometime after I left the picture, but here is the key:

Once you do something like this, you poison the very soul of the person you have harmed.

It doesn't EVER go away. Never. Trust can be earned, of course, but once damaged that badly, it will never be the same.

You take a one of a kind Chinese vase. Thousands of years old, and it has never suffered any harm.

Now this vase is in your custody. It is in your best interest to take care of it, right?

Well, you decide that the very best way to take care of said vase would be to throw it off a building, then run over the remnants with a steam roller.

I don't mean to overstate this, but having felt such a thing in my own life I can tell you that this is what that feels like. This is what you have done to his heart.

So, you, now in his mind being just as fickle as the wind, decide that you want your pristine vase back because NOW you finally see the value of it...

... Well, you can't have it back. You destroyed it. It can't be fixed.

Sure, you can glue the fragments back together, but it will never be the same.

Over time, the vase becomes a conversation piece and grows a character all completely unique to the new form it finds itself in. Perhaps, 10 or 20 years down the road you can even laugh about your folly, but the vase is still broken.

Metaphor aside, it is really simple:

He has every reason to believe that given two choices: One good for you, one bad, you will, without exception, make the choice that is bad for you.

You have given him good reasons for this position.

I guess what I am getting at is this: People will tell you that he needs to get over these things, and rightly so, IF... IF... you had given him any reason at all to believe that there was ZERO possibility of you doing anything self destructive in the future.

You haven't done this. The only way you can do this is to NOT do anything self destructive for say, I don't know, 5 years at a minimum.

You ever wonder why you would do some of these things?

I wouldn't presume to say for you, but for the other situation I mentioned it all comes down to self hatred and self harm.

Self harm is a funny thing in that, there are so VERY many ways to achieve it. For some people cut themselves, some starve themselves, some whore themselves out at every opportunity, while still others go out of their way to sabotage and destroy every good relationship they find themselves in. Some do a combination of many of these things.

Let me ask you this: How can you expect him to trust you, if you, yourself, know in your heart of hearts that you aren't truly trustworthy?

Think you are trustworthy? Did you think you were trustworthy before you broke his heart last time? You see where I am going with this?

I don't know if you will listen, but if you can find it in your heart to do something that isn't self destructive:

Do WHATEVER you have to do to find out why you harm yourself.

The problem in this situation isn't Joe. This isn't about Joe's insecurities. You manufactured those insecurities by your own actions.

The problem is in the way you do harm to yourself in so many ways.

This isn't a relationship issue so much as it might be a mental health issue.

Only a trained professional can help you sort through such things, but you have to be willing to try. If you can't be honest with yourself, your, say, cognitive behaviourist, and Joe, then you have no chance at making this work.

Joe obviously loves you. If you ever doubt that, then ask yourself this: Why would he be with you, when there are MANY women out there that he wouldn't have to expect to dump him at any second so that said woman could heap more abuse on herself? Only one reason I know of: Love.

This isn't hopeless, but if the fundamentals don't change, it is doomed along with every relationship you will ever have.

The thing that is broken, will break any relationship. Fix the broken thing, fix the relationship.

Don't fix the broken thing, don't fix the relationship.

Simple as that, really.

P.S. In case you feel I am picking on you in some way, please don't. These are hard situations and any attempt at molly-coddling gives the mind a way to avoid the uglyness of the reality of the situation. I believe you are a person with great merit, or I wouldn't have bothered writing any of this.





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