Hi, my names Melanie.
I'm fifteen years old.
I love fashion, hanging out with my friends,
and drawing and writing along with a bunch of other stuff.
I used to have an old account here that was quite known for awhile,
but I sort of just lost touch with it,
so I decided to make a new one.
I'll try and help you the best I can,
just hopefully I didn't lose touch with my good advice, haha.
And feel free to IM me with your problem too.
I also put my myspace in a link down below,
if you ever want to add me & talk.
But incase you don't see it or something, it's:
www.myspace.com/themelinat0r
Website: my myspace!
E-mail: melledisko@hotmail.com
Gender: Female
Location: Pittsburgh
Occupation: student.
Age: 15
AIM: mel le disko
Member Since: July 2, 2006
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Im 13/f
SO.. this girl in my school likes my boyfriend. Shes constantly hitting on him and flirting. So the other day i went up to her and told her to back off. Now she is hitting on him MORE just to get back at me. She is REALLy ugly and thinks he likes her, but he doesnt. How can i get her to stop hitting on my bf? Any advice it greatly appreciated!! (link)
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The most I would do is try to talk to her about it, and not in a really harsh tone, cause that might tick her off, and make things worse.
Just let her know he's your boyfriend, and you're sorry, but he doesn't like her, because if he did, he wouldn't be dating you, he'd be dating her. And just tell her to stop flirting with him because it's not working and it's not going to break the two of you up, it's actually making you two even a more stronger couple, so if she wants to keep you two together more, then by all means, she can go ahead and flirt. She's just making a fool out of herself. And ask her if SHE had a boyfriend, would she want some girl all over him and flirting with him? I think not.
And talk to your boyfriend too, just let him know you're worried about her flirting with him, and ask him maybe whenever she starts flirting, to ask her to stop or something. And just hang out around him alot, and if you notice her starting to come over, just sit there and link arms with him, or hug him or just show her that he's yours.
But I'm sure if you tell her that flirting with him makes him like you MORE and brings you two closer together as a couple, she'll want to stop.
I hope I helped.
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what is "the ATL"? where is it? (link)
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It's Atlanta, Georgia.
I hope I helped.
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my friends and family say im fat and they always tease me about it when im only 103 lbs and am 5'3. I dont think Im fat but everyone else does. What do I do? (link)
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everyone is probably joking around with to laugh, or they're jealous because you're skinny. you're actually underweight for your age.
so, just ignore them and laugh it off with them because all you need to know is that YOU'RE not fat, it doesn't matter what they think or say.
but, if it really starts to get to you, talk to them about it. let them know you're not fat, you're fine, and if it's supposed to be a joke, it's really getting old and bothering you and if they could please stop it.
i hope i helped.
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ok, well my mom MAKES me sign on to AIM. its super weird. she wants me to leave an away message and the first thing she does when she comes home is go on the computer, so i don't wanna keep my AIM opened because its just weird that she's reading my stuff. w/e it is, it's just awkward. so, i told her i didn't want to, and she still MAKES me. she tells me like a speech. i don't like to do that. i'll sign on at night and stuff but i don't like to have away messages on during the day and stuff so anyone that uses the computer could see everything. lol. so, what do i do? (link)
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I know she's your mother and she has a right to be concerned and everything, but a kid does need SOME privacy. I would just keep refusing to do it, or I would talk to her about it and ask her why she keeps making you, and you're not talking to like, predators or anything and assure her there's nothing to worry about.
Another thing is just let your friends know about it. Just tell them not to send anything real vulgar or rude or anything during the day because your mother might read it, so just save it for later whenever you're on.
Another thing you can also do is make 2 accounts and be on both at the same time. Just make a fake one, and then use your current one, so whenever your mother asks you to sign on, just sign onto the fake one and go on away and nobody'll obviously IM you [ fake friends too ] and then later whenever she's not there, just click on the screename you normally use and talk to your friends there. [ I hope that made sense, haha ]
I hope I helped.
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Ok, I know questions about hair cuts are asked alot, but....Does anyone know any sites with emo/punk hairstyles for girls? I searched on google and all I could find was guys..... (link)
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http://x04.xanga.com/14718b242725834311021/z23748147.jpg
http://viewmorepics.myspace.com/index.cfm?fuseaction=viewImage&friendID=57165749&imageID=1143139748&MyToken=c2375c1a-64ff-43d2-a84f-3f5106622a7d
http://viewmorepics.myspace.com/index.cfm?fuseaction=viewImage&friendID=29569374&imageID=1047223724&MyToken=b33a21c6-e13c-4ee2-b34c-2d2127b5d608
http://viewmorepics.myspace.com/index.cfm?fuseaction=user.viewPicture&friendID=9793790&MyToken=ab36cb3a-0c23-4ba2-b886-0686759f9f94
alot of "emo" girls just get short and choppy hair and dye it, or they just get long and choppy hair and dye it, haha.
i hope i helped.
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my mom gave me the option of not entering high school. i really want to do that because i dont think high school is for me. i dont want a GED either.
what do i tell my friends? what will i do until im old enough to do anything (work)? (link)
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I'm sorry, but dropping out of high school is probably the stupidest thing you could ever do. I know schools a drag, but if people can't even get a good job without a college education, how are you ever going to get one if you don't even have a HIGHSCHOOL education? Plus, it's a good opportunity to make more friends and social more, I mean, what would happen if the current friends you do have, find more in school, and you guys lose contact with eachother like what does happen between some friends? Then you'd have nobody else to really talk to, unless you decided to randomly make friends with someone at a store or something. Also, there's pretty much nothing to do until you're old enough to get a job except sit at home and wait till your friends come home from school to hang out with them. It'll basically be like summer vacation for 3 years, and I doubt you and your parents will go on a vacation every single month or something, so there's really nowhere to go.
But if you're serious about not going to high school, at least get homeschooled or go to cyber school, you really do need some sort of an education if you want to get SOMEWHERE in life, just not from the kitchen to the basement living in your parents house.
So, I say, stay in school. It's the smartest thing you could ever do.
I hope I helped.
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17 female I didn't brush my teeth alot when I was little like I was suppose to and now that iam older i've been brushing my teeth 3 times a day and they are like really yellow and there is a big brown stain on my teeth how do I get my teeth whiter besides brushing them? (link)
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There's alot of things you can do. Crest whitestrips, or other kinds of teeth whitening kits you can get at the drugstores, or you can buy Orbit whitening gum and chew a couple of pieces and a day, and after a week or so, you'll start noticing the difference. And of course, going to the dentist and they can really clean your teeth up good. I would also try maybe doing some chores around the house, saving up a bunch of money and going to the dentist to get your teeth whitened. I'm not sure how much it would cost you, so whenever you go to the dentist, ask them how much it costs at their place, or where you can go to get your teeth whitened more. I hope I helped.
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My best friend and I are kind of competing for this guy we both like but I had broken up with him so I liked him again and all the sudden she likes him too. Do you think it would be bad if I got with him again? I mean he was mine first & she had never been interested then all the sudden she is like 'hes so cute, hes so nice' its making me reallyyy jealous and annoyed. can anyone please help? thanks! (link)
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Well first of all, you got to think of the reason why you two broke up in the first place. Was it over another guy? Could you just as easily dump him again? Or, are you wanting to ask him out because your friend likes him now too and you sort of want to 'claim him as yours'? Just think about that, first of all.
I mean, if you really want to date him, and it'll make you happy, I say go for it. She should know that a best friend shouldn't date their best friend's ex, unless they're okay with it, which most girls usually aren't, and I doubt you'd be. Also, if she liked him before whenever you did, and you two went out, then I'm sure your friendship can withstand it again.
But the next time you start liking a guy, don't tell her, cause then she'll just repeat the same thing all over again, or direct her to another guy and make her think you like him.
I hope I helped.
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Okay so my boyfriend name is Patrick who i am in love with well yeah me and him are getting into fights about rediculous crap! and he lives like 45 mins away and yeah i wanna see him on weekends but i dont wanna loose my friends cause of it, cause when they say wanna hang out i have to say no cause i have to be with him and he'll get mad at me if i cancel and idk i just dont know what im suppose to do. i dont want my life revolving around him and i dont know what to say or do when he does it. (link)
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You just need to learn to balance your time between your boyfriend, and your friends. You just need to talk to him. Let him know that he can't just keep randomly making plans and expecting you to cancel on your friends, just like your friends don't expect you to just call and cancel on him. Let him know, you want to hang out with him and everything, he just needs to plan it a couple days or so beforehand so if your friends ask to hang out, you can tell them you already got plans. Maybe even dedicate a day to each. Like, fridays are for friends, saturdays are for boyfriends, sundays, either or. Or if you and friends wind up making plans on Saturday, you and your boyfriend can hang out Friday instead. I know it can probably be annoying, but he's probably just trying to spend as much time as he can with you because you two are so far away and he might be afraid you'll just move on or something or won't want to hang out with him and meet someone else who lives closer. Just talk to him, and try and work out a sort of schedule, maybe. I hope I helped.
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he took me to the dance last night and I just couldn't dance with him!!!!!! I told him that I was the chicken that's still in the egg and hasn't got the courage and will power to come out!!!(the chicken is refering to me!!!!) I hung out more with my friends than I did with him!!!! I feel like I'm the worst person in the world( which I know I'm not). we were supposed to go skating today around 1:00 and I told him to call but he hasn't and my nanna erased his number off of the phone and I can't find it in the phone book!!!!!!! help me please!!!!!!! I need some advice and I don't know what to do!!!!!!!
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Well, you can always just explain to him on Monday in school that you're sorry about the dance and that you would've called him, but you're nanna erased him number, so you couldn't. If you know any of his friends or if you know any of your friends who have his number, give them a call and ask them if they can give it to you. And whenever you do find it out, maybe ask a friend to write it down and keep a hold of it for you incase your nanna ever deletes it again. Also, you can just leave him a message on myspace or instant message him and tell him. I'm sure he doesn't mind, it's not that big of a deal. Alot of girlfriends and boyfriends split up for a little bit during the dance and just hang out with their friends and goof off and then dance together for a bit and talk and so on. I hope I helped.
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I really like this guy, we'll call him Billy and my friends are telling me to ask im to homecoming. I've known him for about 2 and a half weeks and we always have fun together in class and he makes me laugh and talks to me a lot, he will like playfully hit me once in a while.
Should I ask him to homecoming?
I just am really afraid he'll say no..
help = rating =] (link)
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well, every girl would be nervous about asking a guy to the homecoming, just like guys are nervous about asking girls. i mean, you should give it a shot! what's the worse that can happen? you don't ask, he doesn't go with you, OR you DO ask, he says no, you still have a great time with your friends and it at least won't be eating at you inside wonderign "what would he have said, what would he have said?!" OR.. you can ask, he says yes, and you guys have a great time! alot of guys like it whenever a girl asks them anyways, because it shows the girl has confidence. i would just ask him the next time you talk to him and be like,"hey, do you got a date to homecoming? we should go together, it'd be alot of fun!" so he can take it as either a friend invitation or a more-then-friends invitation. i hope i helped.
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first of all, i am 14, and my brother and his friend are 15
K well my brother and this kid named jon have been best friends for 5 years right... and ever since i first saw jon there was something there, sparks, firworks, love at first sight! what ever you feel like calling it... and well we both liked eachother from then on and then about 1 year ago we went out for 6 months, but it was a secret becuse i knew my brother wouldnt aprrovew, well then he found out and i jon and me ended up braking up (not because we didnt like eachother, but because of mybrother) see, jon is the kind of guy who wants his girlfriends parents to like him and aproove and all, and well to say the least, my parents did not like him. an dhim and my brother quite talking and practicaly hated eachother. And now, about 1 year after we broke up, we have been talking and he still likes me and i still like him! i guess my question is should i go with my love?? or should i respect my brother and not go out with jon? (link)
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well, you should respect your family, but you should also do what makes you happy and what you want to do, so i suggest talking to your brother. ask him what is it exactly about jon that he doesn't like, and try and sort it out. there might not even really be anythinga bout jon he doesn't like, it's just that you're his little sister and he has to look out for you and everything and be protective. but if he still doesn't like you going out with him, i think you should anyway. you should do what makes you happy, and hey, your brother isn't your parents so it's not like you HAVE to not date Jon. i hope i helped.
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18/F
I recently (two months ago) became friends with this group of girls after I broke off with my friends of four years. The prime group of girls consist of D, H and M. I've suffered from depression and having it out with my old friends really took a toll on me and my new friends have helped me through it. H has always made me feel better, D has always cheered me up and M listens to all my problems.
Last week we went to this party. I saw C, this really hot bad boy type from back in high school. I don't know but whenever I see this guy, I feel electricity. Like I get goosebumps. So I was sitting with D later on and I was being casually like, "C is kinda hot. You think i'd I try, he'll give me a go?". D was silent for a second and then she's like, "You can't do that" and when I asked her why she told me that M and C had this thing going on for the past five years where he used to like her and she rejected him because he was a loser and then she started to like him four years ago (this is all without saying a word to each other) and only recently she had started talking to him again and he was cool with talking to her too but apparently she's still obsessed but trying to get over him. But she hasn't seen him for three months because she wasn't at the party.
I was kind of mad after that though and now I'm wondering whether I should still go after him. He's one of the only people who make me feel that way and I think he's exactly my type whereas M is kind of a good girl. I don't even know if he likes me back but I think he might. I know if I start something in front of M, that'll be too insensitive. But maybe I can keep it under cover until she's over him? I feel kinda guilty but if she's trying to get over him, he should be fair game and she deserves someone better than him anyway. He's kind of a trouble maker.
Any help will be appreciated. I'll feedback. (link)
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Don't sneak around with him behind your friends back until she gets over it. Because, 1: what if she never gets over him? 2: you'd be lying to her for the longest time, and nobody should do that to a friend. 3: if she ever found out, which she wound sooner or later she'd get real upset that you're with the guy she really likes and that you've been lying to her after all that time. So, no good can come of that. I would just suggest talking to him for now and getting to know him better, but then if you really can't wait any longer to make a move on him, talk to her about it. Let her know since the party, you've been talking to him, and if she'd be fine if you two started dating. If she's not [ and if you want to be a good friend ] then wait until she's comfortable with it or over him. And if she's not fine with it at all, I wouldn't suggest going after him, because are you going to lose a great friend whose been there for you through tough times, over a guy you might be with for like, a month and then it's kaput? Plus, I'm sure if you two broke up and you need someone there for you, she wouldn't be. So, my advice..keep the friend, forget the guy. I hope I helped.
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i have a LITTLE fuzz between my eyebrows but you can still see it. The problem is my mom won't let me get rid of it. I don't understand why. She told me that she'll kill me if I do it. I asked her why she wouldn't let me do it but she didn't say anything. I want to get rid of it. Any ideas would be really helpful. Oh by the way i'm 14/f. (link)
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well, i'd really think about wether you really want to do it or not, because if you're mother says she's going to be upset if you do it, she'll probably notice if you remove it. so, just think about it. but if you really want to, just take a tweezer and pluck it. it might hurt, but its worth it. also, if you have a little shaver, you could also just shave it off real quick. i hope i helped.
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My boyfriend and I both have an account on this site. There are some questions I ask about him that I don't want him to see. Is there any way to block a user from seeing questions, without them knowing they've been blocked.
Thank you,
JM (link)
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If you really don't want your boyfriend to see, just don't post public questions. Just choose some advicenators that you know are good at answering questions, and keep them in mind for future questions you might have and send it to their inbox so it's private. Or, make a new account that's just for whenever you need to ask a question. Also, questions are always confidental. You never have to put your initals or name or anything, so there's no real way of finding out. Like, instead of your real name, your question name could be.. Alyssa, and your boyfriend could be.. Ronald. Plus, your boyfriend probably knows how many people go on this site, and how it could be about anybody, so I hardly suspect he'd think you. :) I hope I helped.
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there are these two cliches and i dont know which one i should be in. the one i want to be in is the preps and stuff;but i hang out with the other because i dont know how to fit in. should i move with the one i want to be in and see what happes? what if the other gets mad and stuff? help, i hate cliches (link)
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You shouldn't have to stick to just ONE clique. If you want to hang out with everybody, you can. That's what I do. I talk to all sorts of types of people, so I'm not categorized as just one thing, I'm friends with everybody. And the more the merrier, right? I don't think they'll get mad. If they do, they're pretty immature if they're not going to let you make other friends and socialize with other types of people. So just talk to everyone, make a bunch of different friends, and have fun. :] I hope I helped.
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I'm afraid Christina is telling Melanie bad stuff that I said about her, that really Christina said. I can't talk to Christina. Should I bring it up with Melanie? (link)
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Haha, my name's Melanie.
But, anyways, not the point.
Yes, I would bring it up with Melanie. Just let her know you're not trying to get start anything between her and Christina or you and Christina or anything, but you just wanted to let her know that you don't say anything bad about her, so whatever Christina says it's not true because you don't want her hearing it and getting upset because you wouldn't say bad things about her. You need to set the story straight, otherwise, if Melanie finds out, she'll get really upset with you. I hope I helped.
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okay heres the problem each year when I made a friend the next year that "friend" would not talk to me or anything we would "move on". so in 8th grade I became really good friends with this girl named renee and we were all cool and everything but when it hit summer i called her but the problem was she didn't call me back. How do I get over this? I feel hurt and I always well not always but I do think about the things we used to do etc etc. So what do I do? (link)
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Well, this is what happens over the summer, sadly. Some friends are too busy or you're too busy and keeping contact with eachother can be real hard sometimes. Everyone tends to lose a friend or two over the summer. This year in school if you see her, or if you have her screename or myspace, just talk to her. Sure, it might be a little random, but it's worth becoming good friends again, right? Just be like,"HEY! Jeez, it's been forever since I've seen you, we didn't get to talk at all during the summer! How've you been?!" [ well, that sounds a little TOO enthusiastic, but you catch my drift, haha ]. So try talking to her again and see what happens, and then possibly plan a soon get together with her to catch up. I hope I helped.
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I have this friend who i consider a best friend but sometimes she annoys me like really bad and i ask myself y im friends with this weirdo and there are other times when i want to hang out with her all the time. Oh and when im annoyed with her its not b/c its "that time of the month" so why do i do that? thanks (link)
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well, i used to sort of be like that with one of my old friends. if she's considered your best friend and you guys hang out all the time, you just might be annoyed by her. people can sometimes get annoying if you see them like, 24/7. try telling her you need some "you" time sometimes and put off hanging out for a couple of days, and see if you're in a better mood, cause everybody needs some "me" time. and just think about what's annoying about her, like i said, is it just the fact you hang around with her so much? or is it the way she talks, or gossips, or what. and whenever you figure it out, just try and figure out a way you don't have to hear it less or something, so it'll be less annoying. all friends have some sort of annoying trait to people. i hope i helped.
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my boyfriend is going to propose to me on christmas (i over heard...oops!) it will then be 7 months we have gone out. Is that bad? I mean it doesnt mean we are gonna get married... (link)
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Well, I find it IS a little early to make such a big commitment to someone, but love conquers all. You just have to think if you WANT to be married to him, cause you can always just tell him, you don't want to get married right this second, that it might be a little too soon, etc. Some couples get engaged, and then don't actually get married until like, 3 years later! So you guys could always get married whenever you both feel comfortable and wanting to do it. But like I said, just think if you really want to get married to this guy. I hope I helped.
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