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my brother disaprooves of my love
first of all, i am 14, and my brother and his friend are 15
K well my brother and this kid named jon have been best friends for 5 years right... and ever since i first saw jon there was something there, sparks, firworks, love at first sight! what ever you feel like calling it... and well we both liked eachother from then on and then about 1 year ago we went out for 6 months, but it was a secret becuse i knew my brother wouldnt aprrovew, well then he found out and i jon and me ended up braking up (not because we didnt like eachother, but because of mybrother) see, jon is the kind of guy who wants his girlfriends parents to like him and aproove and all, and well to say the least, my parents did not like him. an dhim and my brother quite talking and practicaly hated eachother. And now, about 1 year after we broke up, we have been talking and he still likes me and i still like him! i guess my question is should i go with my love?? or should i respect my brother and not go out with jon?
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If the dude is nice and respects you then go for it.
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Ok well if you know that its love, and you know something is there, go for it. If you love him, no one should stand in your way, not even ur brother. Your brother will grow to understand that love is love and that feeling never goes away. So if u love him like you say you do, go out with him, before some one else gets the chance to relize how amazing he is, and forgets you
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well, you should respect your family, but you should also do what makes you happy and what you want to do, so i suggest talking to your brother. ask him what is it exactly about jon that he doesn't like, and try and sort it out. there might not even really be anythinga bout jon he doesn't like, it's just that you're his little sister and he has to look out for you and everything and be protective. but if he still doesn't like you going out with him, i think you should anyway. you should do what makes you happy, and hey, your brother isn't your parents so it's not like you HAVE to not date Jon. i hope i helped.
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I can see where you are coming from, it's a tricky situation to be trying to please yourself and others at the same time. It's like, you want to make yourself happy and yet you can't disrespect your family by doing so.
But in all honesty, I would completely follow your heart. Have a conversation with your brother and tell him that you're sorry if he doesn't approve, but you cannot help the way that you feel and that you don't want to disrespect him but YOU want to be happy, and that means being with Jon. I'm sure that he won't be happy about it, but he will eventually get used to it.
I'm sure he's acting this way because you are his little sister and he feels that he has to be the over protective brother. In a way, I wish my brother were like that. My older brother does not give a damn about what I do, who I date, etc.
But if you find happiness with this boy, go for it. If it makes you happy then do it.
Your next issue is your parents... You can't disrespect your parents by dating him if they don't care for him. Maybe you should talk to them and tell them that if they really sat down and talked to him that they'd see he's a really great guy.
Best of luck to you and Jon.
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Hey....gurl what you should do is go with yor heart if you heart is telling you to be with the boy you like then go for it if your heart is telling you to forget about him and listen to your brother then do it.........Look is your life and he migt just be The "right guy".
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