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Q: Okay so this guy i like at school well we are friends and he knows that i like him. He is so nice, funny, and he is HOT. LOL But i heard that he never likes girls that like him, but this also came from someone that also likes him....shes my friend but shes the type of person that i cant trust sometimes. Also there a few other girls that like him i dont know who but alot of girls like him. So i like him but i dont know if he likes me. Should i ask hes friends to see if he likes me or should i ask him, if i should what should i say???? NOTE: I dont want to sound hella stupid if talk to him, but yeah lol what should i do!! Im so confused.

Dont get friends to ask him. Ask him directly so he knows for sure that your intrested! All you need to say is..hey do you like me? I know it might be hard but if you want to make it easier on yourself, email or IM him. Or just do in person and wish for the best. Good luck!

Q: ok well i have been going out with my boyfriend 4 almost 6 months and i think he is the one. but sometimes i am like no he cant be the one and i just think and think about it and other times i am like i know he is the one. i love him 2 death and i know that will never change. but do think this relationship will last ?????? and is it right 2 think that your boyfriend is the one at a young age????? he is 14 turning 15 and i am 13 turnin 14
-confused

Well, think about it realisticly(sp?)...You are at a young age and will experience many different relationships. You can be in love more than once. And it doesnt hurt to think he is "the one" but you might be setting yourself up to get hurt. Things happen, people change, you might break up. So yes, you can think he is an awesome, great guy you want to spend the rest of your life with...but you are young, and things can happen in just weeks, months, years...so dont put it in your mind that he is "the one". Just have fun for now, and if something happens..it happens and you move on!

Q: so at my school if you dont live in greystone {The rich part} or wear abercrombi (which i think is pointless to pay 80 bucks for prefaded and pre riped jeans)any way if you arent privledged then ure pretty much the scum of the earth.All the punks have spiked or really long hair and wear black shirts and riped jeans. all the preps wear collerd shirts and north face jakets. any way they label the rich kids preps and the middle class to lower class punks. So punks hang out with punks and preps with preps but, this prep likes me and i like her and every one knows so we are both hated by our own soacial clases. so what should we do

Ahh! Screw them all and become friends! This just goes to show how stupid people are. So if punks can only hang out with punks..then white people can only hang out with white people. And black with only black people. See how stupid that is. So screw them all and if they talk crap explain to them that there are many different people in this world, and different skin types, and religions..but we should all accept eachother. Or maybe their just to immature/dumb to understand this. and I agree, 80 bucks for ripped jeans is totally retarded!

Q: does anyone know and good, depressing, sad songs? not that im sad or anything, but i love listening to them, like sad songs by evanescence. does anyone know any other good ones?

Okay I dont know what kinda music you like but Ashlee Simpson's "undiscovered" and Britney Spear's song "Everytime". Boulevard of Broken dreams by Green Day. Find some songs through Good charollete, and all those emo bands!!

Q: my best friend just called me 2 minutes ago. I was over her house earlier but her Dad said I couldnt stay for dinner which is weird because i do alot. Im practically part of their family. But anyways, my friend calls me and goes, "My mom has breast cancer." Then she had to go but she promise she`d call me back. PLEASE help! Anyone. I need something to say to her - Im crying because her mom is like so close to me and my family. I have never been through this and i dont know how to comfort her. ♥

Awww sweetie I am very sorry! I dont know if your religous but I am definatley going to pray for your friends family! Just tell her that you will be there for her no matter what. And that if she needs a shoulder to cry on or a hug..that you will be there! she needs to know she has support from loving friends and family! I know your falling apart but you need to be strong for your friend, her mom..and everyone else! Get support through eachother! If you need to talk about this I'm always here. Email me at vsgangstaboo420@yahoo.com or leave something in my inbox!

Q: I have a boyfriend that i like... his best friend likes me a lot but my b/f would like kick his ass if he found out.. then theres another guy that i like and i feel guilty likin this guy cuz i have a b/f and everything but i cant help it!!!! so yeah i have to many guys to choose from and im confused

Just choose whichever one you would see yourself most happy with! Try to hang out with all the guys and pick one. Pick one you feel will be a great boyfriend to you and that is the best person all around (Looks, personality, etc.)

Q: Im an alternate for cheering, which means i takes someones place in the competition if they get injured or cant participate. Everyone on the team is mad at me because i didnt go to the last two tornaments and i said i might quit, but im not quiting. They even took all my stuff out of the lockers and changed the locks. Theirs so mcuh drama on the team and no one knows how to put up with it. When i go to practice tomorrow how should i react to people not wanting to talk to me i cant help but to cry sometimes when most of my friends or teammates hate me. please help i rate 5s

Why would you go to competitions if your not going to be competeing? The team is really immature if their doing this to you. I think you should talk to the coach about it! The coach will definatley help you...and if the drama keeps on going..and theres no hope..quit the team..Theres other cheerleading gyms you can join right? Like all-stars or something..

Q: I'm 14 and I've never made out with a guy, but I think something might happen with this kid this weekend. I don't really know what I'm doing so does anyone have advice? Is it weird that I've never made out with anyone?

No its not weird. A lot of people are your age and older and havent made out yet. Dont worry! And if something does happen this weekend, just be calm and cool and have fun! If your scared about not knowing what to do..dont worry...you'll see that its easy and there are no tips anyone can give you. Just go with the flow ;) and have fun!

Q: ok i like this guy and we flirt a lot! he has a gf though. i think i've caught him staring at me and he always is sweet and nice. he is not the most popular boy in the class, but he is also the most sweetest boy. when we flirt people always point out to us that we are flirting and we both say" no we arn't" he is one of my friends too. my friend told him" dont cheat on prism(his gf) when we were talking and flirting. and he said " i wont" what does this mean? i mean i like him an lot, i had a dream that we kissed.

what does this mean?does he like me??

*confused grl*

Well he might like you, but he might still want to be with his girlfriend (who has the weirdest name ever lol). So I think for now just be friends with him and wait till they break up. Because eventually they will!

Q: ok i have this really big test tommorow and i havent been in school its for science and social studies. its on:

soical studies-the 1920's
science-molecules(sp)

please please help me!!dont delete

Just google it! Like go to google.com and search for molecules and search for history in the 1920's. There will be a lot of information so try to study hard. Oh and you dont have a book or anything? Good luck!

Q: im in love with this kid who ive lost my virginity to and i just started going out with him like 3 days ago and we got into a fight because my friend wanted them to leave her house so he went outside to sit so i followed him and he was really being mean and told me to leave and that he wasnt gonna come see me anymore (he lives in another town) so i went upstaries and started crying and my mom picked me up to take them home and i just got out of the car cuz i couldnt take it anymore. i love him so much and hes being so mean to me and i dont wanna call him and he hasnt called me, i dont know what to do. im so confused. i love him

i rate 5s

After 3 days, and then having sex with him. He doesnt like you, he doesnt love you...he justed wanted sex from you. So he got it, and now hes gone. Sorry but he doesnt care for you! Next time understand that guys who do you only after 3 days just want some pussy! So sorry sweetie, just move on..

Q: Okay, i've been dating this guy for like 2 months...and he's being really immature and he can't do things very often cuz his parents r really strict and he's been really busy. I want to wait for summer when he can do more stuff because i really like him....what should i do? dump or wait~*Kt*~

Well, maybe you should ask him about it and see what you guys can do together. So it wouldent be just you dumping him, you would both agree on it. Like both agreeing to see other people until the summer and you guys can hook up again. Try that!

Q: Alright, I was up at a skating rink I always go to and I was skating, I saw this guy who was skating backwards. Im one of those who just doesnt let a guy get to me. For some out of the blue reason, he started talkin to me. I was so stunned by him, thers no way anyone could understand how shocked I was to see him. I didnt even know him. So about a week later hes down here again at this rink. We talk and I find out hes from Brewton, AL. Its only about 50 min. away from Milton. Im a Sophmore and hes a Senior, theres something about him that strikes me (in a good way) We start goin out about half a month later, Things were so good between me and him for weeks and I liked him a lot, I even lost my virginity to him. I dont why but I coudlnt resist him. It felt like something told me it was okay, so weeks later Im starting to feel like he doesnt like me, because hes not comeing down to see me. (Plus he had a good reason he had wrecked his car a couple weeks back because he was driving home from my house at like 3 in the morning and hit a deer.) For three weeks I keep my calm, and listen to his reasons for not comeing.. Finally on the 4th week I call him for 3 days in a row.. not getting an answer, I finally leave a message. Saying that " We cant be together and I dont think its gonna work and that if he wants to talk give me a call" A week goes by and I decide to call him, We talk and I ask him why he never returned my call.. he says he was too mad that I had ended it. I asked him if thats the way he wanted things to be, he sed "No,not at the time, but it would have ended that way eventually" Thats about all was said.. So here it is a month later. And my friend sees him down at Opps Alley a place down here close to Milton, She talks to him about us breaking up, and if thats what he wants. He tells her no,but now it doesnt matter anymore. I really have feelings for this guy, and he doesnt know it. I know, that to call him wouldnt make a difference, because its just not gonna work. But I think about it and what if Im suppose to call him? If something wasnt meant for me and him at all..Why'd God put him there that one night at the skating rink,when he lives miles away? And why was it me he noticed, and what made me notice him ? You think theres was anything there..or am I just tryin to make myself believe something might actually be between us ? And before you answer I've had lots of quick relationships,except for 1 that lasted about 6 months. So Im not falling for him cause hes like my first boyfriend or nothing, I've had experience.

Okay I hope you dont get offended by me saying this. I think that he just tryed to hook up with you, and once he got sex he left. I mean, soon after you had sex he left. I dont know, maybe its true maybe its not. I cant really judge him if I dont know him. But I'm just saying, I think you should just give it up though...because 1) its long distance and 2) you had your fun with him and now its time to move on. I'm sure there are many guys out there and you will find one and be happy with him. Its time to move on sweetie! :)

Q: I rate high....

Well me and this guy are friends I like him and stuff well he wants to go to the movies this weekend but my mom said I cant date until im 17. I told her its just as friends but she still says no. Just because she iddnt start dating until she was 17 doesnt mean she had to do that to me. What should I do? I really realllly wanna go with him.

You can sneak out, but I dont reccomend it if you dont really know how to get away with it. How about asking your mom if it is okay to be a few friends a long? So its not really a date, its a group date..try that! And get some of your friends to come:)

Q: For once I dont have alot of hw but my little bro can't say the same. He has a month worths of hw (that is already overdue) to do in one night! He has to read 10 books and do 4 book reports! (Did I mention he's 6 and easily destracted!)I have until 8:00 and my dad says he'll take me to
the library. But he gets home at like 6:30!!!!!
HELP ME OUT HERE!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
I NEED ANSWERS FAST!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
I RATE YOU 5 AS LONG AS U GIVE ME USEFUL INFO!!

Well go to the library and have him pick out the books HE wants to read. What is he intrested in? Video games? Sports? He can get books about his favorite things, and he'll be actually intrested in reading them! And then he'll be intrested in writing about them too. Its nice that your helping your little brother, so yeah good luck and hope I helped!

Q: theres this kid i want to hook up with.. hes my friends cousin.. we havnt met yet but we probably will soon.. the thing is hes skater/punk and im like prep... i dont know how we will be able to go out together with eachothers friends if were so different.. my guy friends would probably make fun of him.. and i dont want that.. i just hope he likes me for me..

You shouldent care what your friends think. Just because hes a punk and your a prep doesnt mean you shouldent go out. Kinda like if someone was white, and their bf was black..it doesnt matter. If your friends have problems with it, then their not your true friends!!

Q: What stocks should I buy?

Before you buy any I think you should look up on google and get all the facts, chances your taking, etc. with buying stock! You should put stock into like big companys, my dad has stock in CocaCola. Which is pretty cool..just do whatever you feel will do good!

Q: how do i make it so that it shows the rating in my advice column?

Once you have been rated 5 times, it will show up on your front page. It might take more than 5 ratings though because my friend has been rated quite a bit and his average rating still doesnt show up. But dont worry, if people are curious about your advice they'll just look at the feeedback page and look at the numbers!

Q: alrigty then im hearing all these stories at school {not that i belive them} about how every one is having sex i personally dont belive it. god says not to have premarital relations plus you should want to wait until u are married to have sex. anyway every one talks about how all the popular kids are doing it im almost 15 i personallyam appaled and am wonering where all the desensy went in the world some one tell me.

Seriously. Your not "cool" if you have sex, your an easy whore if you have sex. The girls that you see that are popular are only popular because guys know they can get some sex. So they talk to the girls all the time. When I tell people I'm 15-f and a virgin they act like I'm so old to be a virgin! So yeah, this world is filled with sluts and whores..what are we gonna do about it? Laugh when their a teen and pregnant, or have some std!

Q: i got this friend right, he has such bad luck with girls and all he does is try to show off for them but nothin works and he just gets blown off all the time..... what should he do?

Stop worrying about showing off and he should try to build friendships with the girls he likes, so the girls like him for his personality..and then after a while he can ask the girl out on a date