Hi, my names Melanie.
I'm fifteen years old.
I love fashion, hanging out with my friends,
and drawing and writing along with a bunch of other stuff.
I used to have an old account here that was quite known for awhile,
but I sort of just lost touch with it,
so I decided to make a new one.
I'll try and help you the best I can,
just hopefully I didn't lose touch with my good advice, haha.
And feel free to IM me with your problem too.
I also put my myspace in a link down below,
if you ever want to add me & talk.
But incase you don't see it or something, it's:
www.myspace.com/themelinat0r
Website: my myspace!
E-mail: melledisko@hotmail.com
Gender: Female
Location: Pittsburgh
Occupation: student.
Age: 15
AIM: mel le disko
Member Since: July 2, 2006
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Last night I cheated on my boyfriend.
I kissed another guy.
I feel really bad about it.
How can I clear my consience without telling him?
I really don't want to tell him.
What should I do? (link)
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I know you don't really want to tell him, but he deserves to know. Keeping it to yourself would only hurt the both of you more in the end. What if he had to find out his girlfriend cheated on him by rumor or a friend had to tell him? It would just be better if you pulled him over and explained to him what happened. That's the only way your relationship can possibly continue, if he decides to be forgiving. I'm sure he'd rather you be open and honest about it then hearing it from a friend in the hallway or in class. Telling him is also pretty much the only way you'll be able to clear your conscience.
Just explain to him what happened at that you're very sorry, and you feel absolutely horrible. And you know he probably doesn't want to talk to you right now and everything, so you'll just leave him alone for awhile to think about stuff and everything.
But, in the end, if he doesn't want to continue a relationship [ which I'm sorry, but if he was cheated on, I don't think he would unless he's REALLY forgiving ] then hopefully you can still shoot for being friends with him.
I hope I helped.
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i asked a boy out. and i was really scared to do it.. but i did ! anyway, he said maybe. MAYBE?! i was so scared, everyone said he would say yes.. even his best friend was like, no, he'll say yes. i swear. and im so scared.. but in your opinion, is maybe a good sign? or should i just not even think about it (link)
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I agree with everyone below, also. I would just move on. I mean, what guy tells you maybe? He's either into you, or he's not. He shouldn't keep a girl waiting wondering if he likes her or not. And I do agree, maybe is more on the side of rejection, because if he had wanted to go out with you, he would have just said yes.
But, if you still really want to go out with him, I suggest just try talking to him more, flirt, and show him what a great girl you are and how lucky he'd be to have you, and hopefully that maybe would fall into a "yes".
But, like I said before, I would just forget him and move on. A guy should either answer "yes" or "no". No "maybes".
I hope I helped.
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Just out of pure curiosity, if a girl is dating a guy and say she's 16 and he's 17. When the guy turns 18, legally do they have to break up?
Thanks, Female, 14. (link)
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If they're just dating, then no, they don't have to break up.
But if they're being sexually active, then it is against the law unless where you live 16 in the legal age of consent.
If you want to figure out what the age of consent is for your state, just go to Google and type "_____+ age of consent" or something similiar and see what comes up.
But like I said, if it's just dating, then no they don't have to break up at all.
I hope I helped.
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I asked a question about my friend, Mark, last Tuesday. The people who answered my question said that I should ask him why he won't talk to me. So, I left him a comment on myspace three days ago and I asked him why we don't talk to each other anymore. Today I looked at the last time he's logged on myspace and it was two days ago. He didn't respond or talk to me yet. It's really bothering me. All I have been thinking about for the past four weeks is if I did anything wrong. How can I get him to talk to me again? (link)
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I agree with below. A real friend wouldn't ignore you and hurt you.
But, if I were you, I'd give it one last chance, and if he stills insists on not answering, then my advice would be to just move on also.
Just message him one last time on myspace or call him, IM him, whatever. I would suggest calling him or IMing him more than messaging, because then that sort of [ not FORCES ] but gets him to talk to you, because you already know he's on, he's reading what you're saying, etc. And just ask him if you did anything wrong, because you really want to know why he won't talk to you anymore and it's hurting your feelings. If he'd just talk about it, you'd really like to try and fix things because you'd really like to be friends and talk to him.
But, like I said, if that doesn't work and he still doesn't talk, you'll just have to move on. Find better friends who actually want to talk to you, and not just sit there and try not to fix their friendships with people.
I hope I helped.
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Ok, so I'm a cheerleader. After my game I went to the other one and a kid purposely got nacho cheese all over me. Everyone was laughing at me. I slapped him. Also, I have to go back to get my pictures taken. What should I do? Ignore them? (link)
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Of course ignore them. Why would you need to talk to little immature idiots. I would just go there, bring an ipod or something to entertain yourself before the pictures get taken so you're not just standing there, not looking at everbody. And then whenever it's picture time, take it, and then leave. People seriously need to grow up, jeez. I hope I helped.
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Hi, does anyone know any stores that carry purses with Marilyn Monroe on them? I know there a tons of places to order from offline, but I'd much rather go to a store and pick one up. It doesn't matter what store, name anything. Thanks! (link)
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Like the advicenator said below, check out Hot Topic. I've seen blondie and Marilyn Monroe purses and shirts, etc. There so hopefully they might still be selling them wherever you live.
There's nowhere else I can really suggest. I tried Googling it on the internet, and no real stores came up. Just a bunch of interent places.
So I think if not at Hot Topic, ordering it off of the internet might be your best thing.
I hope I helped, though.
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There's the guy I like and he talks to me a lot. But there's also another girl at another school that he talks to alot. I'm not trying to sound rude, but she really isn't that attractive, cute at the most. I just don't understand why he talks to her so much, and it makes me jealous. She has the personality of a plank of wood. It gets me jealous because I'm just so outgoing & more attractive, honestly, but he still calls and talks to this girl too. What can I do to get over these issues? I cannot talk to him about it, I'm much too stubborn, so please don't suggest it. (link)
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Well, with some guys, guys aren't all about the looks. Some guys aren't that shallow. They don't need a girl to be smoking hot for them to like her, it might be their personality who wins them over. Have you ever really talked to her? Because I'm sure if he's talking to her alot, she doesn't have a personality of a "plank of wood".
But just because he's talking to her doesn't mean he likes her, you need to think about that. He just might be real good friends with her, or she might even be just his best friend. So whenever you start to feel yourself get jealous, just think,"It doesn't mean anything, it doesn't mean anything." And just take breaths and try to calm yourself. A better thing to do, is whenever you see them talk, try joining the conversation and get to know her, so maybe once you see what their friendship/relationship is really like, you won't be as jealous. Because looking at something from a distance can make things look worse then they appear.
And just start talking more to him. Sooner or later, maybe he'll start calling you alot more and talking to you alot more too.
But if he does like her, or winds up liking her, you're just going to have to learn how to deal with it. Guys come, and guys go. I mean sometimes a guy will like you, and you won't always feel the same way. You just got to learn how to live with it and move on.
But at least remain good friends with him, no matter what happens.
I hope I helped.
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does anyone know any sad, goodbye songs for when your best friend is moving away? (link)
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A really good one is "Graduation" by Vitamin C. The one part of the song goes "As we go on, we remember all the times we've spent together and as our lives change, from whatever, we will still be friends forever." So it basically shows two/more friends moving on but still being together.
There is also "Goodbye My Friend" from Yellowcard. I've never listened to the song, but I googled up "goodbye songs" and that one came up. I took a look at the lyrics, and it seems like something that would work.
I hope I helped.
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which one cleans my teeth more efficiently, flossing before or after brushing? (link)
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After, because when you brush, that helps get most of the stuff off of your teeth, and then flossing gets rid of the little bits stuck inbetween your teeth, or whatever else brushing might have missed. I hope I helped.
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okay, so there is this guy at my school and he randomly started talking to me one day and he sat with me on the bus and he asked me if i was going to this sleepout thing for school and said i wasnt going and then he was on the bus the next week and then he started messaging me on myspace and being like *hi your cute* and *you should come over we can go swimming* and all that crap and then he started iming me and asking me to homecoming and he put me as number 1 on his top 8 and he always talks to me in school.. he hunts me down if he sees me pass by and he puts up away messages directed towards me and like followed me at the football game the other day.. and i dont really know/like this guy very much and i dont know if this is like a joke or something..or if he really likes me.. so if you could tell me what you think that would be great and he is also known to be sort of a player so i dont know if hes just saying/doing this to get some.. because some things he says to me are sexual. thx for the help (link)
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I would say that he really does infact like you. But, I would be a little freaked out by everything, it seems a little on the stalkerish side to me. And if it is said that he is a player, then the reason he's probably so sort of, open, about it is because he's used to being this way with girls since he "gets so many". He could possibly be saying that stuff to get some, but I really can't tell, because even though he does say sexual things, all guys do to either just joke around or whatever. Girls do to. But I'm not sure exactly how sexual the things he's saying to you are, so if they're not just like, little sex jokes or something, then he might want something from you. My suggestion is to just let him know you don't like him like that ; only as a friend so maybe he'll ease up a bit and back off. I hope I helped.
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what does that quote mean i wear my heart on my sleeve i was just wondering b/c i could never figure out what that meant!!! (link)
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People who wear their "hearts on their sleeves" show their emotions freely and openly to everyone. They don't hold back their emotions, whatever the situation may be, good or bad. And the sleeve is sort of the area of the shirt where everyone can see it, so heart see it, sleeve see it, get it? I hope I helped.
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Just wondering - how flirtatious a gesture do you consider playfully slapping someone on the shoulder? (link)
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Well, that's a toughie, because a playful slap on the shoulder can be both taken as a friendly thing or a flirty thing. It just depends on how you do it, and what tones you are using and the way you say it. If you just slap them and are like "Haha, yeah." [or something like that whatever the situation is] then if it were me, I'd consider that just a friendly thing. But if you're sitting there and slap them on the shoulder and are like,"Hahhahah oh you!" and are sitting close to them, I would take it as a more flirty thing. If you're worried you're going to come off flirtatious to someone, just mix around with different gestures and signals, and then just make a note of what comes off flirty to certain people and what doesn't, so you know how to control your certain gestures. I hope I helped.
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I don't understand my bf. This is what happened. Well for the first two years of dating him I had been collecting a small disability pension for an old injury. My bf used to give me a hard time about me not working even though I was volunteering at two different places and wasnt just sitting around (and he never gave me credit for these either) I never asked him for any money and could afford to live on my own so I didnt know why if bothered him that I wasnt working. He was so mean about me not working that he made me cry in public once by cruelly saying I was just living off the system. Well about two months ago I got hired at a decent paying job. When I told him how happy I was and that I was meeting some nice people he sarcastically said "so it's working out for you". What in the world? First he's bullying me into finding work and then when I do he's even more unhappy. I know he makes tons of money at his job so I don't think it's jealousy (although he hates the long hours) Does anyone have any insight to this behavior? (link)
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Well, the most I can suggest here is to talk to him about it and ask if he's alright and ask what he's feeling about you getting a job now, and you thought he'd be happy for you.
But my real advice? I'd say dump him.
He should be happy for you and that you got a good job. And what kind of boyfriend sits there and rags on his girlfriend for not having a job while she's volunteering? It's not like you're sitting there on your butt all day getting money. And a boyfriend shouldn't make you cry ; especially in public. He just sounds like sort of a jerk to me.
But, if you want to stick with him, then talk to him about it and ask him what's going on.
But like I said, I think you should break up with him.
I hope I helped.
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i sent a message to someone by accident. is there a way to delete it before they can read it? thankss (link)
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Nope, there's no way to delete it once you sent it. You can only do that with picture comments and comments and such. If it was about them, the most you could do is just talk to them about it and apologize, but if it seriously was just an honest mistake and sent to the wrong person, you can just message them again letting them know you sent it to the wrong person, sorry. I hope I helped.
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one of my best guy friends in the world has been touchy-feely on me. i like it (i'm not afraid to admit that), but my two most best friends in the world that i tell everything to, they say i should be carful around him. they barely know him, and they are trying to talk me out of liking him. they say what he is doing is something a guy friend normally wouldn't do. (and i'm not going out with him. i was turned down by him again yesterday, but everything is cool between us now.) (what i mean by again, is
i asked him out last school year.)
i don't know who to choose.
the guy i have been friends with forever and i know if he acts strange or not. and what he is doing, i don't mind at all.
but should i trust my friends instead? (which is what i don't want to do.)
i'm really confused and not sure. what choice do you think i should make? (link)
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I would trust your friends, because you need to think about this guy. He wants to be all touchy-feely with you, but he doesn't want to go out with you. It just sounds like he wants to get some action. But, if you really don't mind it or anything and don't care, then go ahead. It's your choice, and just explain that to your friends, I'm sure they'll understand. They just don't really know him too well, and they're concerned. Maybe the next time you guys hang out, invite him along so they can get to know him and see that he's not such a bad guy. I hope I helped.
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Ok so i started back at college and i was in the common room and i saw a cute boy he was talking to all my friends and every so often he looked at me and we made eye contact and he smiled so i smiled back but hes not even said hello to me!!!!! he just kept looking at me and i looked back. So the question im asking is what shall i do now???i told my friend i liked him and he said talk to him but im too shy.??? im 18 female at college thanks for your help. (link)
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The next time him and your friends all get into a conversation, just stand close and listen, and sort of mesh yourself into the conversation. But try and make comments or connect with what he says, so it shows you're interested in what he has to say and you're listening to him and want to talk to him. [ but of course, focus on other people too so it's not like JUST him ]. That's what he might've not approached you is because he might've not thought you didn't want to talk to them all, or he just might be shy himself and didn't know how to approach you. And some point during the conversation just be like,"Oh, I forgot to tell you my name, haha. It's ____. What's yours? [ says his name ] ___? That's a really nice name, I like it." [ or something like that ]. And just keep blending yourself into further conversations, until you and him can start having your own! I hope I helped.
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I've just moved to a new school
i met this guy who i am now best friends with.
he asked me out but i turned him down, coz i don't like him in that way.
he understands completely, and we are still best friends.
I recently went to the movies with him, and he didn't tell me that there were two other guys there.
One of the guys i know, and i get along pretty well with him.
But the other guy i knew was in my science class, and I don't know him at all, apart from his name.
When we all gather around a desk to do an experiment or something, he always stands opposite me and looks at me and smiles.
I completely and utterly am in love with him!
So anyway, after the movie was over, we all went to the arcade.
I was just sitting on the bench while the other two guys played on the games, but this guy i like came and sat next to me.
We didn't say anything for awhile, but then he said, "Oh I think I'm in your science class." and I said "Yeah you are".
From then on we basically didn't stop talking!
We left the arcade and walked around the mall, and we were still talking.
Then it was time for me to go home.
My parents agreed to meet me at the front of the movies, but then the guy i like said that he would walk me home.
I looked at him and went "what?" and the other two guys looked at him and started laughing their heads off, and he looked a bit embarassed (awwww! haha) but we all agreed that i should stick to the plan that me and my parents agreed on at the start.
So we went up to to the movies, and my parents came and got me.
The next day, Monday, I saw him in science.
I smiled at him and he smiled back.
We started talking again, and he started talking about this girl he went to the mall with the other day, a girl called *sarah* (not me) and he was also talking about this other girl called *bianca* (also not me haha) and, well, i started to get a bit jealous. (thats not their real names by the way)
But it's just the way he looks at me, it's like he wants to know me, and I want to know him.
I just don't know how I can ask him for his email, or something like that, without seeming too desperate.
I have his friend's email???
please help! (link)
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It seems to me like he likes you back. Him talking to you about other girls could mean anything. They could just be his friends who he was talking about, crushes [ hopefully not! i don't think they are ], or he's probably just trying to get you jealous ; which worked. Just start talking to him alot more and in the middle of the conversation, or as you two are leaving class, just be like,"Hey, do you got a screename or email or anything?" and ask him if you can have it. You won't sound desperate at all. And if you want to get even closer to him, next time you ever have an assigment or project in science where you can buddy up, ask him to be your partner! That way you guys can work together alot and get even closer. I hope I helped.
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I like my friends Ex-boyfriend(Jake).Tracy and Jake were going out for nine months and then summer came . . . one day before summer was over I was thinking 'What if Jake doesnt come back?' I dont know why I thought that but it made me cry. Then I went to school and noticed that Jake was not there and when i got home I cried my eyes off. Then on the 2nd day I saw him and I got really happy. Then I started noticing that Jake and Tracy were not around eachother anymore. I asked my best friend (that is really close to Tracy) Beccy if they were still going out and she said that he broke up with her. I asked her why he did that and She said that it was because he was going to transfer schools. Now I think that i might have a chance but Jake might still have feelings for Tracy(I know she still has feelings for him), and that might affect the relationship that I have with Tracy. Me and him were friends but then we kind of lost touch so now we see eachother and its a simple 'hi'. Sometimes we dont even say anything to eachother It's like we get shy when we see eachother.
Rachel
15/female/U.S. (link)
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Well, the most advice I can give here is if you don't want to ruin the friendship you have with your friend Tracy, then I suggest not making any advances towards him. ESPECIALLY if she still likes him. I always say,"Chicks before dicks."
There is still a possibility the two of them will wind up together again if they're still liking eachother and didn't break up for any real reason like the relationship being bad.
What I suggest you do is just keep talking to him more and making him laugh and everything and just do what you do. And give it time. If him and Tracy don't talk that much anyways, after awhile she might get over him and start liking other guys, which then leaves him open for you. But if that does happen, I suggest going to her first and asking her if it's ok if you date him, because even though she's over him, she just might be uncomfortable with her friend dating her ex.
But, basic advice of this whole thing: If she likes him, don't go after him, cause it'll only mess up the friendship that you and Tracy have, and that's more important than any guy.
I hope I helped.
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there is this guy that i've known since kindergarten and we went out for 3 months last year...and i still really like him but he just wants to be friends right now. any ideas on what i should do?
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Well, there's really nothing you CAN do ; he's made his decision, and you can't really make someone change their mind. Just continue being friends with him for now and just try and flirt with him a little and show him you're a really great person, and hopefully his feelings'll return, and you two can discuss dating later on. I hope I helped.
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Lets say you are getting a tatoo with a sentence of Chinese symbols (about 5 of them). Is EACH symbol considered one tattoo or would you say all of those symbols together equal one tattoo? Thanks. (link)
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I think that if all the chinese symbols are to equal one thing, or one word, then yeah, it should be considered as one tattoo. But say you were going to get one symbol on the back of your neck, another one you wrist, another on your ankle ; then that would probably be one tattoo each. I hope I helped.
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