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Last night I cheated on my boyfriend.
I kissed another guy.
I feel really bad about it.
How can I clear my consience without telling him?
I really don't want to tell him.
What should I do?
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Since relationships are based on trust, I think you should tell him that you kissed another guy. Of course he is going to be hurt and he might leave you but you have to tell him. It wouldn't be right if you kept this inside and he would never know about it. He has the right to know, he is your boyfriend, hun. You should really tell him, even if you don't want to. It is the best thing to do. Wouldn't you like to know about this, if you were in his shoes? ♥
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yea you should deff tell him even if you don want to. What if your boyfriend kissed another girl and never told you? Yea you would feel like crap. What if you dont tell him and he ends up hearing it from someone else? yea thats pretty much the worst thing ever. You need to tell him what you did. If he cares about you alot he will forgive you.
kim:)
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I know you don't really want to tell him, but he deserves to know. Keeping it to yourself would only hurt the both of you more in the end. What if he had to find out his girlfriend cheated on him by rumor or a friend had to tell him? It would just be better if you pulled him over and explained to him what happened. That's the only way your relationship can possibly continue, if he decides to be forgiving. I'm sure he'd rather you be open and honest about it then hearing it from a friend in the hallway or in class. Telling him is also pretty much the only way you'll be able to clear your conscience.
Just explain to him what happened at that you're very sorry, and you feel absolutely horrible. And you know he probably doesn't want to talk to you right now and everything, so you'll just leave him alone for awhile to think about stuff and everything.
But, in the end, if he doesn't want to continue a relationship [ which I'm sorry, but if he was cheated on, I don't think he would unless he's REALLY forgiving ] then hopefully you can still shoot for being friends with him.
I hope I helped.
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I would say it depends on the reason for telling him. If it is because you feel it is something he should know for his own benefit, then tell him. If it is just to clear your conscience, so it is for your benefit, why should he, the innocent party, be made to shoulder the burden? In this instance, maybe it is something you have to deal with, and carry it around with you as part of your own personal baggage. You cannot offload your guilt onto someone else just to make yourself feel better. People make mistakes in life and have to live with the consequences.
This is probably not the answer you were looking for, but you need to think deeply about this and make a decision based on what is best for your boyfriend, not you. Then live with whatever choice you make. After all it was only a kiss, wasn't it?
Hope that helps and good luck.
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It's really not fair of you to not tell him. He deserves to know. How would you feel if he cheated on you and then didn't tell you? Relationships can't succeed without honesty. If you truly love, respect, and care for your boyfriend, you'll do the right thing and be honest with him.
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It's really wrong not to tell your boyfriend. It's unfair and when situations like these come up, you need to put yourself in his shoes and try picturing what he would want. And he would want to know upfront that you cheated.
You would too, right? Would you want to be cheated on and be unaware? No.
-TheTeenGirl
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Ummm.. You have to tell him.. Let's put it this way.. I thought I could clear my consience with praying.. but I had to tell my friend that I kinda did something with her bf. Tell him why you did it.. and say you will never do it again and that youre very sorry and didnt mean to hurt him.. seriously..It will take a burden off your shoulders.. if you dont tell him.. everytime he tells you he loves you. you'll feel really guilty.. give him time..if he doesnt want to be with you anymore.. then you guys obviously arent meant to be.. and then you'll be open for the one you're suppose to marry . (: goodluck dear.
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You need to tell him. Sure it sucks, but if you want the two of you to even have a chance, then you can't have something like this left in the dark. It will tear the two of you apart if left untold, but don't expect it to be easy for either of you to talk about.
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